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Author Topic: "Newbie" Thread #1  (Read 20037 times)

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Offline anniebc

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #100 on: December 06, 2010, 03:50:13 AM »

Thanks Edfu..still don't see how this thread is helping them though, all seems rather foolish if you ask me.

They have their own "I just tested Poz" forum so I guess they can post about whatever gets then through the day...but all this "Newbie" V "The rest of us" is just ridiculous.

If I'm not getting this I'm sure someone will put me right... ;)

"Newbie" Thread #1 worries me ..does that mean there is more to come!!!

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Jan :-*

« Last Edit: December 06, 2010, 03:53:46 AM by anniebc »
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Offline Hellraiser

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #101 on: December 06, 2010, 03:55:03 AM »
Thanks Edfu..still don't see how this thread is helping them though, all seems rather foolish if you ask me.

They have their own "I just tested Poz" forum so I guess they can post about whatever gets then throught the day...but all this "Newbie" V "The rest of us" is just ridiculas.

If I'm not getting this I'm sure someone will put me right... ;)

Hugs
Jan :-*

I dunno, I see the value in being able to commiserate with your own ilk.  The same as the LTS, Poz women, etc. forums.  Although I do have to wonder exactly where some of us fit into that scheme.  I'm just over a year diagnosed, but I'm pretty well educated on the matter so I don't felt particularly newbish.  I dunno I've never been big on labels for the most part.  In my experience nothing is as black and white as people try to paint it.

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #102 on: December 06, 2010, 05:13:18 AM »
I dunno, I see the value in being able to commiserate with your own ilk.  The same as the LTS, Poz women, etc. forums.  Although I do have to wonder exactly where some of us fit into that scheme.  I'm just over a year diagnosed, but I'm pretty well educated on the matter so I don't felt particularly newbish.  I dunno I've never been big on labels for the most part.  In my experience nothing is as black and white as people try to paint it.

Exactly. The LTS forum exists so that people who have that experience can talk with others who have been/are going through that situation. Those who have not been LTS' cannot possibly offer real understanding of that situation.

The Women's Forum is set up because women face some situations that only other women, who have gone/are going through similar circumstances can empathize. Only women are allowed to participate, because they need a safe place to discuss issues that frankly, men cannot totally understand.

And the Newbie forum would be so that... Well, apparently so that newly diagnosed persons would not have the burden of HIV information or the experience of those diagnosed longer than a year or so ago to complicate their process.

Because experience and knowledge and information are so not what AM is about.

Ironically, the threads that caused this flare-up were not even posted in Just tested Poz, but in Living With.  But hey, if the mods and Tim want to change the Just Tested Forum to read "for newly diagnosed persons and perhaps a select group of expert mods only" then I would surely not darken this particular forum again.

I do think it is absolutely contrary to what Aidsmeds is about, however.

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Offline RapidRod

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #103 on: December 06, 2010, 05:44:09 AM »
Exactly. The LTS forum exists so that people who have that experience can talk with others who have been/are going through that situation. Those who have not been LTS' cannot possibly offer real understanding of that situation.

The Women's Forum is set up because women face some situations that only other women, who have gone/are going through similar circumstances can empathize. Only women are allowed to participate, because they need a safe place to discuss issues that frankly, men cannot totally understand.

And the Newbie forum would be so that... Well, apparently so that newly diagnosed persons would not have the burden of HIV information or the experience of those diagnosed longer than a year or so ago to complicate their process.

Because experience and knowledge and information are so not what AM is about.

Ironically, the threads that caused this flare-up were not even posted in Just tested Poz, but in Living With.  But hey, if the mods and Tim want to change the Just Tested Forum to read "for newly diagnosed persons and perhaps a select group of expert mods only" then I would surely not darken this particular forum again.

I do think it is absolutely contrary to what Aidsmeds is about, however.


Isn't it what this forum was for before being taken over by a few?

Offline numbersguy82

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #104 on: December 06, 2010, 09:13:00 PM »
I'll be in Ft Laud in Januray, let's have a mini gathering!

Hmmmm you're coming to FLL??? Interesting ;)
8/10- 73 cd4, 7%, and 300k VL *First Labs*
9/10- Started Norvir, Prezista, and Truvada
10/10- 511 cd4, 22%, and 886 VL
12/10- 498 cd4, 22%, and 106 VL
3/11- 529 cd4, 29%, and 101 VL
8/11- 620 cd4, 30%, and 74 VL- Switched to Atripla
10/11- 580 ce4, 30%, and 62 VL
12/11- 684 cd4, 31%, and FINALLY *UD*

Offline hellrider

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #105 on: December 07, 2010, 07:55:04 AM »
Actually being able to laugh at you guys also helps. Laughter is the best medicine. So I am a newbie big deal I can still learn how to deal with this thing and do you guys still go out and have fun, I haven't mustered up the idea of going out and meeting people. So can a straight guy post here too. :)
Life's a hell of a ride and I still have some ridin to do.

12/8/2010 CD4 693   VL 192,000

Offline woodshere

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #106 on: December 07, 2010, 08:33:57 AM »
Of course a straight guy can post here, just be careful you know how we gay guys try to recruit...especially the hot ones.  And yes you will go out again...as a matter of fact some of my best laughs have come from the poz group I used to be a part of.  Good Luck
"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it."   Nelson Mandela

Offline hellrider

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #107 on: December 07, 2010, 08:52:11 AM »
Of course a straight guy can post here, just be careful you know how we gay guys try to recruit...especially the hot ones.  And yes you will go out again...as a matter of fact some of my best laughs have come from the poz group I used to be a part of.  Good Luck
OK! I will keep my eyes opened but I am kind of dumb when it comes to being hit on I can't tell these things. Before the infection hit me I used to karaoke one or 2 nights a week, then after the infection showed up I don't feel like going out and doing anything. I just sit at home and watch TV, I think its one or two things. A: I am not working or have money coming in.
B: I am wallowing in self pity.
C: ok 3 things. Its A and B.
Life's a hell of a ride and I still have some ridin to do.

12/8/2010 CD4 693   VL 192,000

Offline woodshere

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #108 on: December 07, 2010, 09:46:52 AM »
OK! I will keep my eyes opened but I am kind of dumb when it comes to being hit on I can't tell these things. Before the infection hit me I used to karaoke one or 2 nights a week, then after the infection showed up I don't feel like going out and doing anything. I just sit at home and watch TV, I think its one or two things. A: I am not working or have money coming in.
B: I am wallowing in self pity.
C: ok 3 things. Its A and B.

Yeah I wallow in self pity occasionally, seldom involves HIV, but understand it very well.  Even though I do work, understand the lack of funds.  I notice you have been poz since Oct.  Doubt if there is any authority out there that says how long a person should take to get to a place of acceptance and somewhat back in the old routine.  Maybe you should seek some help on this, absolutely nothing wrong with that!!!  Then maybe you should just try or force youself to go to karaoke, what's the worse that can happen, you get there and realize you're not ready.  Sometimes making ourselves do something we don't want to has surprisingly good results.
"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it."   Nelson Mandela

Offline sam66

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #109 on: December 07, 2010, 10:29:42 AM »
                 ElZorro, I'm with you
 
                         Here's to  Positive Positives , lets keep hope alive,

                         Be happy and play safe
                             
                         
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Offline hellrider

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #110 on: December 07, 2010, 10:27:41 PM »
Woodshere!


 I do have alot of issues with this damned thing, I went to where I work and told all my managers that I am HIV poz and said I understand if they want to let me go I wont hold a grudge because this thing is going to be time consuming plus I will have to adhere to strict regimin if I want to stay healthy, I also told them I cant deal with their stress I need a positive atmosphere which working in a casino racetrack has its stressors. I am positive I can beat this thing. Plus I am beginning to see humor in some of it. I have HIV-2 which is the kinder and more gentler strain of HIV ;D
Life's a hell of a ride and I still have some ridin to do.

12/8/2010 CD4 693   VL 192,000

Offline woodshere

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #111 on: December 08, 2010, 07:06:35 PM »
I do have alot of issues with this damned thing, I went to where I work and told all my managers that I am HIV poz and said I understand if they want to let me go I wont hold a grudge because this thing is going to be time consuming plus I will have to adhere to strict regimin if I want to stay healthy, I also told them I cant deal with their stress I need a positive atmosphere which working in a casino racetrack has its stressors. I am positive I can beat this thing. Plus I am beginning to see humor in some of it. I have HIV-2 which is the kinder and more gentler strain of HIV ;D

Please understand that I am not being critical of the decision of telling your employer because you have already done that.  I only say this for anyone else that is newly positive.  I had a situation at work the first year i was diagnosed dealing with insurance and had a question that I sought advice for from the HIV office of Legal Aid.  They told me under no circumstances should you disclose to your employer that you are HIV+.  Sure there are anti-discrimation laws dealing with HIV, however anyone that deals in the firing of employees can find ways around that.
"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it."   Nelson Mandela

Offline hellrider

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #112 on: December 13, 2010, 03:42:48 PM »
Woodshere

 I do understand what you have said I don't take it as an attack, I did what I did because the job I have is very stressful at times. Fortunately for me I have a manager that has dealt with people with HIV and aids and another manager who is gay so there is understanding there. The first question was when am I coming back to work.If it comes to insurance I am not worried I am fortunate I served in the military 15 years so I have the VA which I decided to use the system. ;). Heres to you and hopefully we can form a friendship. BTW the VA doc didn't put me on meds. said my cd4 count was good.
Life's a hell of a ride and I still have some ridin to do.

12/8/2010 CD4 693   VL 192,000

Offline woodshere

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #113 on: December 13, 2010, 04:10:00 PM »
Woodshere

  Fortunately for me I have a manager that has dealt with people with HIV and aids and another manager who is gay so there is understanding there.

That is very helpful!!!
"Let us give pubicity to HV/AIDS and not hide it..." "One of the things destroying people with AIDS is the stigma we attach to it."   Nelson Mandela

Offline hellrider

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Re: "Newbie" Thread #1
« Reply #114 on: December 13, 2010, 05:21:06 PM »
Yes it is.
Life's a hell of a ride and I still have some ridin to do.

12/8/2010 CD4 693   VL 192,000

 


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