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Offline WillyWump

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #50 on: November 28, 2010, 05:36:39 PM »
So just an update. My crush came over for Thanksgiving dinner which was awesome. Well this weekend has been the playoffs for his team so I went out this evening to watch his game. We hung out before the game and he mentioned that he hoped the concession stand was still open when his game was done because he could go for a beer.

Ok so as I sat in the stands I was beside an annoying Twinky couple. Well low and behold they were all about my guy. Tallking about how hot he was and cheeering him on. OK so no problem so what if he has a few fans. No biggie...

Then the last inning came and I prepared to head to the concession stand to buy him a beer. Then I hear from the annoying twink beside me "Should I buy him a beer you know he will want one, he's so hot he deserves a beer". Hmmmmm curious I'm thinking now but it couldn't possibly be the same person we are talking about.

Ironically I am behind him in line... the view was not any better from back there I assure you. As I buy my beer I decide to sit further down in a now empty seat.  Second beer beside me. The last play happens and its over. Now I see my guy walking.... and he's walking right up to the twinky couple. Low and behold they hand him the beer. Now panic mode sets in. I can't possibly be seen here by him with a second beer for him which he clearly doesn't need. I dialed my best friend to weigh my options. Stay and endure possible humiliation or should I just flee and keep what little self dignity I still had intact? I chose to flee quickly high tailing it to the Audi which was conveniently parked only spaces down from his SUV.

So he text me a few seconds later apologizing that he didn't see me before I left. To which I responded it was probably best anyways :(

Ok seriously this is weirder than any tale of fiction. I have no idea how I get myself into these messes, but alas I currently don't have the usual self confidence to see the silver lining in this. For now all I know is the guy I have put all of my energies into is obviously not interested :(


This ball game fiasco should be in a TV script somewhere on LOGO. Yikes, in reading it I felt so bad for you.

Observations:

Since yall hung out before the game it's obvious he knew you were there. Secondly, since originally you were sitting next to the twinks I'm sure he saw you. From this I would deduce that he is either not interested or he is a jerk, or obsessed with twinks. He should have made a B line to you not them.

Since you have been dating him casually for a few weeks, and he has been to your place for Tgiving, it seems he should 'know' something is in the air. Carrying this further, It seems like he would be super excited to have you at the game watching him, and it seems he would be checking the stands and making eye contact or something to show his interest....and it seems the FIRST place he should of gone too was you after the game.

The only way I would let this slide with him is if he didnt see you move down to the other seat, then and only then would he be excused from not coming to you first. Although, something about that sits wrong with me also.. " Well Numbers left so I'll go flirt with the Twinks and see if I can work a 3 way".

Conclusion: You're wayy too good for him.

\-W
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Offline Hoover

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #51 on: November 28, 2010, 06:03:52 PM »
Dumping a beer down the offending twink's pants would have been a fun twist.
Apologies, sometimes I can be hateful.

Forget that idiot, he just sounds like trouble.

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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #52 on: November 28, 2010, 06:25:31 PM »

Miss P... will you be my gay life coach??? I assure you the task will be neither easy nor quick however good fun should be had by all!!!

I thought Wumpy was mentoring you.  Obviously a wretchedly bad decision on your part, but I could have told you that.
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline WillyWump

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #53 on: November 28, 2010, 07:58:45 PM »
I thought Wumpy was mentoring you.  Obviously a wretchedly bad decision on your part, but I could have told you that.

Numbers, I have to advise you that you do not want MissP as your mentor. Sure he looks all hot and sultry in his leather, but is that really what you want in a mentor? A sheep in Wolf's clothing, (err, leather)?

-Will
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Last Labs-
6/3/14 CD4- 736, UD 34%
6/25/13 CD4- 1036, UD,
2/4/13, CD4 - 489, UD, 28%

Current Meds: Prezista/Epzicom/ Norvir
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #54 on: November 28, 2010, 08:06:47 PM »
Numbers, I have to advise you that you do not want MissP as your mentor. Sure he looks all hot and sultry in his leather, but is that really what you want in a mentor? A sheep in Wolf's clothing, (err, leather)?

-Will

Please.  I teach children how to swim with sharks and live to tell about it later.  Yours just end up as road kill in five seconds.
"Iíve slept with enough men to know that Iím not gay"

Offline WillyWump

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #55 on: November 28, 2010, 09:05:07 PM »
Please.  I teach children how to swim with sharks and live to tell about it later.  Yours just end up as road kill in five seconds.

tl:dr


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Last Labs-
6/3/14 CD4- 736, UD 34%
6/25/13 CD4- 1036, UD,
2/4/13, CD4 - 489, UD, 28%

Current Meds: Prezista/Epzicom/ Norvir
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Offline Hellraiser

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #56 on: November 29, 2010, 01:24:28 AM »
The obvious choice for mentor here is Matty...speaking of, where the hell has Matty been?

Offline jkinatl2

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #57 on: November 29, 2010, 01:41:52 AM »
The obvious choice for mentor here is Matty...speaking of, where the hell has Matty been?

Matty is doing important political stuff in some country where otters have duck bills and lay eggs and have poison talons. I know right?

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Offline Ann

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Re: My first disclosure is imminent
« Reply #58 on: November 29, 2010, 08:42:00 AM »
He'd doing political stuff all right, but important?  Pul-leeeeeeze!!!
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