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Offline villainboy

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Starting to worry...
« on: October 19, 2010, 06:20:00 PM »
Hello everyone! Deep down I know I'm being completely irrational but I guess I just needed a place to talk to and hear others thoughts. I've been seeing a neighbor on and off for the past two years now and we actually play very safe. He's older and I'm younger, we live out that older daddy/boy next door fantasy. Anyway, we only did anal penetration once (I was the receptive partner, protected and very quick as he didn't ejaculate). Orally, he always does the sucking and he swallowed my cum once. I can't get myself to suck just yet so I've never orally pleasured him. Most of the time its mutual masturbation, frottage and deep kissing. We've probably only had a total of six encounters. He lives with his uber-conservative brother and he travels for work on cruise ships (which he admits to having various sexual encounters).

Anyway, a few nights ago we had an encounter (he sucked me with no ejaculation in mouth, mutual masturbation with ejaculation, deep kissing and frottage, no anal). Afterwards he tells me that he just got diagnosed HIV+. I have to admit I was shocked, but I think I handled it well. He said that he didn't put me at risk ever (which makes sense I guess, since we've been very safe) and when I spoke to my doctor, he didn't feel this particular situation warranted an HIV test or PEP, but did suggest I do an STD test right away. He did say that I should take the HIV test three months from now to calm my fears and since I'm a sexual active, bisexual man in my late 20's, it's always a good idea to do so, but STI/STD test stat, the doctor ordered.

I'm worrying like crazy now because he revealed his HIV status to me, which in all reality makes no sense as to why I'm reacting this way. My past sexual encounters have been mostly getting sucked (receptive oral?), insertive vaginal, receptive anal (protected ALL the time) and mutual masturbation. I guess I just need to hear from others as well, to assure myself that it's all okay.

I will take an HIV test at the 3 month mark, as it's been over two years since my last HIV test, and will take an STD test soon.

Sorry for being so irrational, but I was surprised at my response as well, and didn't know where to go or who to talk to.

Offline numbersguy82

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Re: Starting to worry...
« Reply #1 on: October 19, 2010, 06:35:38 PM »
Welcome Villainboy-

Don't worry I thnk someone will be along to provide you some solid answers and reassurance.

- Sorry mods I'm deleting my original response after I was advised the forum rules on this. :)
« Last Edit: October 19, 2010, 06:48:13 PM by numbersguy82 »
8/10- 73 cd4, 7%, and 300k VL *First Labs*
9/10- Started Norvir, Prezista, and Truvada
10/10- 511 cd4, 22%, and 886 VL
12/10- 498 cd4, 22%, and 106 VL
3/11- 529 cd4, 29%, and 101 VL
8/11- 620 cd4, 30%, and 74 VL- Switched to Atripla
10/11- 580 ce4, 30%, and 62 VL
12/11- 684 cd4, 31%, and FINALLY *UD*

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Starting to worry...
« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2010, 07:48:33 PM »
villainboy, you were never at risk of contracting HIV. Your doctor was correct in the need for STD testing.

Offline villainboy

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Re: Starting to worry...
« Reply #3 on: October 19, 2010, 09:06:34 PM »
Thanks. I know that. Deep down I know that. Now all of a sudden my mind is just racing and retracing everything I've ever done with him.

Late last August I had a quick bout of shingles that lasted a week and got worried since I know that shingles (according to some sites out there) might be early signs of HIV. Then again, I was just laid off, super stressed out with job interviews, lack of sleep, etc., which I know weakens your immune system--all the stressing out. That's nothing to be worried about, right? I mean, shingles happens to a lot of people regardless of their HIV status . . . see? I'm worrying again. **sigh**

I'm trying to calm myself down and this site is very helpful. Thanks so much. I apologize for being such a mess. I'm usually not like this. I think it's because I know for sure that I was involved with someone who's confirmed to be HIV+ now and I'm trying to find ways to deal with it.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Starting to worry...
« Reply #4 on: October 19, 2010, 09:28:29 PM »
Thanks. I know that. Deep down I know that. Now all of a sudden my mind is just racing and retracing everything I've ever done with him.

Late last August I had a quick bout of shingles that lasted a week and got worried since I know that shingles (according to some sites out there) might be early signs of HIV. Then again, I was just laid off, super stressed out with job interviews, lack of sleep, etc., which I know weakens your immune system--all the stressing out. That's nothing to be worried about, right? I mean, shingles happens to a lot of people regardless of their HIV status . . . see? I'm worrying again. **sigh**

I'm trying to calm myself down and this site is very helpful. Thanks so much. I apologize for being such a mess. I'm usually not like this. I think it's because I know for sure that I was involved with someone who's confirmed to be HIV+ now and I'm trying to find ways to deal with it.

Kid,

Kissing, getting a hummer, mutual wanking and frottage are not going to give you HIV. It doesn't matter that the fellow you got off with is HIV positive, you were not at risk of being infected.

HIV is a fussy, fragile virus. It has to be transmitted inside the body. Since you didn't have unprotected anal with this chap you were not at risk of being infected.

This is a no risk situation, buddy. OK? :)

MtD

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Starting to worry...
« Reply #5 on: October 20, 2010, 07:10:00 AM »
Shingles is not an HIV-specific occurence. Anyone who has had chicken pox can get shingles. Stress is often credited as being related to getting shingles.

As Matty has said, nothing you are reporting of your activities has put you at risk for HIV.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern. Use condoms consistently for anal intercourse (and vaginal) and you won't have any problem with the sexual transmission of HIV. It is really just that simple.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

Offline villainboy

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Re: Starting to worry...
« Reply #6 on: October 20, 2010, 02:54:23 PM »
Thanks you guys. You're all awesome.

 


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