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Author Topic: My former husband on the down low  (Read 1774 times)

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Offline dodo

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My former husband on the down low
« on: October 07, 2010, 10:54:54 PM »
I loved him and suspected that he might be bi, but asked him and he said no. I trusted him but when we divorced, I found pesonal papers that he had questions about his sexuallity.  Also, I think that he may have had a relationship with a man down the road.  He works in dialysis, so is tested every year for hepatiitis C and HIV, but I don't reallly trust him, because he denied being bi when we married and now don't communitcate., we were together for 6 years and I am to afraid of getting tested and am freaking out. Please help? Sorry about the spelling, my daughter is here and I have to type vey fast.  PS I am too stressed to get tested

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Re: My former husband on the down low
« Reply #1 on: October 07, 2010, 11:02:53 PM »

The only way you're going to know your HIV status is to get tested. The window period for HIV testing is 13 weeks meaning you need to be tested 13 weeks from last time you had unprotected anal or vaginal sex with your ex-husband.

I know you say you're too stressed to be tested but there's no way around it. If you're concerned that you may have been exposed to HIV, testing is the only way to find out.

You might also wish to be tested for other sexually transmitted diseases such as gonorrhoea and chlamydia. These are much more common and easier to transmit than HIV.

Good luck.


Offline dodo

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Re: My former husband on the down low
« Reply #2 on: October 07, 2010, 11:45:50 PM »
Are you Alex from The Clock Work Orange?
Hate that movie now,
Liked it when I was 19

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: My former husband on the down low
« Reply #3 on: October 08, 2010, 07:43:09 AM »
Of course I totally agree with Matty's assessment of your situation. Whenever there is cause for serious doubt about one's HIV status, the only sure way to know is by getting tested at 13 weeks past the most recent unprotected incident.

Despite your concerns about your husband's history, you may very well be worrying needlessly but only the test result will tell you for sure.

Your second comment is confusing. Please clarify.
Andy Velez

Offline dodo

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was Matty's avatar.  The man in it looks like Alex in that movie.  Sorry.  I'm not the brightest bulb in the pack.


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