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Author Topic: Getting loose in the rear??  (Read 2186 times)

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Offline aferstilo

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Getting loose in the rear??
« on: October 04, 2010, 09:56:53 AM »
Hey guys... im not sure if im posting under the right section but i had a major concern....
Last night while me and my hubby where having sex and i was bottomin.. he stopped right in the middle and asked " Have you been having sex with someone else are you cheating"  so it comes out to that he says my anus felt like i just got done being fucked previously to us having sex... what is occuring? i havent had sex with anyone and i had not bottomed for 2 weeks... he said the time previous to this one was the same but he did not say anything... what should i do....
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Offline wtfimpoz

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #1 on: October 04, 2010, 10:43:02 AM »
Your partner told you that you're getting "loose" and you're afraid that you are?  In my bedroom, the automatic reply would be "no you're just getting smaller"
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Offline Miss Philicia

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2010, 11:36:18 AM »
lol... welcome to my life honey.  My ex used to routinely tell me my ass felt like it had just had 11 guys up it.
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Offline mecch

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #3 on: October 04, 2010, 01:36:15 PM »
You gotta unpack more than a "loose ass" situation from this.
If you are in a faithful couple, your bf doesn't trust you, if that's the first thing out of his mouth. Particularly in a moment of heated coupling.
If you are in an open couple, and you aren't cheating, I might almost venture that he might be, and he's projecting. Projection is far more common than people want to admit.

Oh, and did he say he liked it, or not? Wouldnt that be more interesting, whether he likes your new loose ass or not, rather than paranoid worries about fidelity?



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Offline phildinftlaudy

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2010, 01:38:31 PM »
lol... welcome to my life honey.  My ex used to routinely tell me my ass felt like it had just had 11 guys up it.
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Offline OneTampa

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #5 on: October 04, 2010, 04:22:18 PM »
Knock!  Knock!

Who is it?

Deja vu... :D
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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #6 on: October 04, 2010, 04:50:11 PM »
Despite the obvious humor in this, was your partner kidding?  If not, then fidelity (yours, his, whatever) is the least of your worries.

If my boyfriend ever said that, and meant it, then I would turn on the lights, give him exactly one sock and his keys/wallet, and promise to mail the rest of his things to him at a later date. Postage due, of course. There are things with which one should simply not put.

If he was kidding though, I'd be all like "Hot dog, meet hallway. Hallway; hot dog." And maybe later search Amazon.com for a ball gag.
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Offline aferstilo

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #7 on: October 04, 2010, 07:08:03 PM »
he deff wasnt kidding but i also dont think he was trying to hurt my feelings even tho he is currently questioning my fedility.. all i could after the question came was cry well right after the shock went away... he did explain today that im usually as tight as they come and is just feels completly different then his used to so im worried that it might be something deeper then it looks no pon intended...and i mean i felt no pain and he did stick it right in which was wierd.. and not like his small his 9.5in...  im just worried that he might really start believin that im cheating because being totally honest if i did him and it felt way loose i would ask questions as well... btw im 21
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #8 on: October 04, 2010, 07:43:44 PM »
he deff wasnt kidding but i also dont think he was trying to hurt my feelings even tho he is currently questioning my fedility.. all i could after the question came was cry well right after the shock went away... he did explain today that im usually as tight as they come and is just feels completly different then his used to so im worried that it might be something deeper then it looks no pon intended...and i mean i felt no pain and he did stick it right in which was wierd.. and not like his small his 9.5in...  im just worried that he might really start believin that im cheating because being totally honest if i did him and it felt way loose i would ask questions as well... btw im 21

Have it out with him. Pin him down, look him in his beady fucking eye and ask him if he thinks you've been cheating.

If you have been cheating, well there you go. If not you proceed to ask him why he thinks you've been cheating from there you talk the fucking thing out between yourselves.

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Offline Ann

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #9 on: October 04, 2010, 07:50:11 PM »
You're only 21 and one can only assume that you've not been having anal for all that long (in the greater scheme of things says this old lady) and maybe you've just gone to the next level when it comes to relaxing and enjoying the experience.
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Offline Robert

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #10 on: October 04, 2010, 08:01:49 PM »
hi ric

is this the same guy you've been trying to break up with for the last 4 years?  The one who has physically and verbally abused you?   The one who exposed you to the virus in the first place? 

I thought you told the guy to take a hike. This is more verbal abuse and it's got to stop before it gets any worse.  This guy has you twisted around his finger and he knows it.  Walk away from this guy now before he starts breaking every bone in your body.

If it's a different guy, then do like matty says and ask him to explain himself and then leave him and start hanging out with different crowd. You deserve better.   
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Offline jkinatl2

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #11 on: October 04, 2010, 08:03:20 PM »
Barring repeated traumatic experiences, there is no way to tell if someone has fucked one person or ten thousand. It's an insulting question to ask, and seeing as how this is not how you guys normally kid around, I would do exactly as Matty suggested.

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Offline mecch

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #12 on: October 04, 2010, 08:04:28 PM »
You're only 21 and one can only assume that you've not been having anal for all that long (in the greater scheme of things says this old lady) and maybe you've just gone to the next level when it comes to relaxing and enjoying the experience.

here here I agree
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Offline jkinatl2

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #13 on: October 04, 2010, 08:05:17 PM »
After reading Robert's commentary and going back to your earlier postings, I sure hope it isn't the same guy. If it is, then I urge you to seek counseling and extricate yourself from that awfulness.

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Offline Ann

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #14 on: October 04, 2010, 08:07:22 PM »
Same here, Rico. I should have read your posting history first.

I hope it's not the same guy too. If it is, this is just more abuse. RUN, don't walk away. RUN.
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Offline tednlou2

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #15 on: October 05, 2010, 12:40:28 AM »
It only makes sense that the more you take a nearly 10 inch cock you are going to get looser.  However, some are able to stay tight--they must be doing their exercises.  This is why so many bottoms who take huge ones have accidents.  I use to have them, but now I only have cobwebs back there.  Some here will say 9 inches is tiny...  ;)

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #16 on: October 05, 2010, 12:59:07 AM »
Seriously, dude. Having posted this without referencing your horrific past with this person is alarming. It is as though you were looking to have the situation diminished. I feel kind of had, here.

For all I know, your partner made you post this to "shame" you.

I sincerely hope you seek the help you need, and the courage to leave. I recuse myself from this conversation, and leave you in the capable hands of those better qualified than I to sort out this sad situation. I really hope you make it out alive. Many do not.

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Offline WillyWump

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Re: Getting loose in the rear??
« Reply #17 on: October 05, 2010, 09:54:11 AM »
You need to be doing your Kegel Exercises.

But more importantly you need to move on from this guy due to your history with him.

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