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Offline john33

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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #50 on: August 10, 2010, 06:02:56 AM »
yeah keep at it Mecch

and hanging onto a pairs of jeans is a good idea, a goal sort of.

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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #51 on: August 10, 2010, 08:25:22 AM »
Well Mecch, I have a confession to make - and I never thought I'd say this, but - I empathise with you very much on this. I'm a bit of a hoarder too; I think it stems from a time in my life when I had pretty much nothing.

The trouble is, I have to move temporarily some time in 2011. I live in a council house and the houses on my estate are due for an upgrade - new wiring, new kitchens and bathrooms, new mains-wired smoke alarms and things like that. It means I have to move out, lock, stock and two smoking barrels, into a transit house, then move back in two to three months when the work is complete. That's two moves with a helluva lot of crap to shift.

I have the option to stay in the transit house, but that means I have to arrange the move myself and pay for things like new carpet and the cost of decorating in the transit house. If I don't want to stay in the transit house, they pay professional movers and my house would also be completely freshly painted, free of charge. I really can't afford to stay in the transit house, which will be a bit of a wrench if I get one in an area of town I like better than where I am.

I'm going to have to start whittling my possessions down, whichever way I go on this. For example, I've got well over 1,000 books. Maybe if I get busy and start selling some of this stuff on Ebay I might be able to afford to stay in the transit house. I'm going to have to raise some money somehow anyway, because even if I stay in the house I'm currently in, I'll probably have to replace the living room carpet and the lino in the kitchen. I just don't have that kind of dosh.

And the kicker? Last time I had to move, my daughter was away at university and I had to do the move all on my own. She's been back home living with me for the past year, but when this move-to-a-transit-house thing comes up, probably in February, she'll be at the University of East Anglia in Norwich studying for her teaching certificate. Not fair!
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #52 on: August 10, 2010, 08:29:02 AM »
Well Mecch, I have a confession to make - and I never thought I'd say this, but - I empathise with you very much on this. I'm a bit of a hoarder too; I think it stems from a time in my life when I had pretty much nothing.

The trouble is, I have to move temporarily some time in 2011. I live in a council house and the houses on my estate are due for an upgrade - new wiring, new kitchens and bathrooms, new mains-wired smoke alarms and things like that. It means I have to move out, lock, stock and two smoking barrels, into a transit house, then move back in two to three months when the work is complete. That's two moves with a helluva lot of crap to shift.

I have the option to stay in the transit house, but that means I have to arrange the move myself and pay for things like new carpet and the cost of decorating in the transit house. If I don't want to stay in the transit house, they pay professional movers and my house would also be completely freshly painted, free of charge. I really can't afford to stay in the transit house, which will be a bit of a wrench if I get one in an area of town I like better than where I am.

I'm going to have to start whittling my possessions down, whichever way I go on this. For example, I've got well over 1,000 books. Maybe if I get busy and start selling some of this stuff on Ebay I might be able to afford to stay in the transit house. I'm going to have to raise some money somehow anyway, because even if I stay in the house I'm currently in, I'll probably have to replace the living room carpet and the lino in the kitchen. I just don't have that kind of dosh.

And the kicker? Last time I had to move, my daughter was away at university and I had to do the move all on my own. She's been back home living with me for the past year, but when this move-to-a-transit-house thing comes up, probably in February, she'll be at the University of East Anglia in Norwich studying for her teaching certificate. Not fair!
I feel for you Ann. I hate moving.

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« Reply #53 on: August 10, 2010, 02:07:13 PM »
I feel for you Ann. I hate moving.

Oh man, I hate it too. I hate to complain though, because I'll be getting new kitchen cupboards, sink and worktops as well as a new bathroom suite. All of the existing is pretty old and has been used by countless other tenants. (these houses were built in the 1960s) My bathtub has loads of ciggy burns in it from the last tenant. How on earth they got there, well, I'm not sure I want to know. They're not on the edge, which I could understand, they're inside the tub. Too weird.

I've seen other houses they've refurbed and they do a good job. It's almost like moving into a brand-new house. The transit houses are all refurbed before they go on the transit list, so it would be the same thing if I kept the transit.

I spoke about my misgivings to the housing officer, who also happens to be a friend. He said, "Well, it will give you the chance for a clear-out" as he eyed the three-deep, ten-to-fifteen-high, nine-long stack of paperbacks in front of one of my over-flowing bookcases. And he didn't even look in the under-stair closet off my kitchen. :o I wish I had a magic wand.
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #54 on: August 10, 2010, 02:21:13 PM »
Ugh, I hate the mere thought of moving. I'm glad I won't have to do that again for a good while. Way too many books, clothes, CDs, movies, and 12" records to put in boxes.

I guess most people (if not all) are boarders of some type.

But will it make you happy?
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #55 on: August 10, 2010, 02:56:22 PM »
Council contractors - refurb it in 2-3 months my eye! Don't believe any of that crap!

Joking aside, when they are done it should be like moving into a completely new house. How invigorating.

I have to admit, I am the complete opposite to you hoarders - if I haven't used it or touched it in the past couple of weeks its gone - with the exception of my books.

 I'll pop over and give you a hand to shift if you like.

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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #56 on: August 10, 2010, 05:47:01 PM »
Council contractors - refurb it in 2-3 months my eye! Don't believe any of that crap!

Actually, they're pretty good. They've done other houses in town and they've never taken more than three months and all these houses are exactly the same cookie-cutter type places.


 I'll pop over and give you a hand to shift if you like.

I'll take  you up on that! Since my daughter will be away at uni, you can have her room. And you can take some books home with you! :)
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« Reply #57 on: August 10, 2010, 07:49:01 PM »
Good luck Anne,

I moved a month ago and had to have a major clear-out.

The biggest surprise, apart from how much crap I'd accumulated (never have been able keep to the not-touched rule) was how i managed to fit it all in my old place, it was only 22m˛ and badly designed to boot.

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« Reply #58 on: August 10, 2010, 11:05:01 PM »
I think it's great that you have been able to write about and express something so personal and private with such lucidity and conviction. I have no doubt that your 'after' photos will do your journey credit.

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« Reply #59 on: August 11, 2010, 08:28:43 PM »


   I get worried about Mecch when he ain't around for a day...... especially since he's tackling this all by himself.  Does anyone have his number?   I keep having visions of him trapped between a reproduction Picasso and a Renaissance era chandalier, all the while not being able to get to his pillbox.
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« Reply #60 on: August 11, 2010, 10:02:31 PM »
LOL.  
When it gets really dreary, I just give up and leave the apartment for the day.  
Today was pretty good. Though i felt weary and depressed in the afternoon when I was getting moving.  
Tomorrow I'm doing a run with the car to get rid of some piles I made in each room.
Its hard to resist the temptation to move things from one room to another and not get anywhere, but I am on top of my pesky hoarder devil spirit and try to overcome!

Oh by the way, there are NO paintings in my apartment, so certainly not any reproduction Picassos!

I hope the kitchen hall and office are clear so I can still have my voodoo cocktail on Friday. Mess or no mess in the other rooms.  

I invited some weekend guests in September so it really has to come together.  My best friend hasn't visited in a year because of this disaster in the apartment.

And I still didn't get a bed.  Won't get it until I have a place all clear to put it!
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #61 on: August 12, 2010, 12:28:13 AM »
I'm a hoarder..

me and the hubs live in a 3 bedroom house. and two of the rooms are used mainly just for piling stuff up in. My husband is a hoarder too and he hordes like computer stuff we have just tons and tons of computer units and monitors lieing everywhere three big 52 inch T.v's that dont work.  Not to mention my hundreds and hundreds of barbie dolls, craft items, vhs movie collection and my movies.  It's sad when its just us with so much junk.  We've even got a 50 gallon fishtank I got off of craigslist that we have never used. It just sits in the laundry room.

Make matters worse I'm a survivalist so I get really finicky about throwing things away because I stick to if the world goes to hell one day we may need some of the stuff...for trade, or barter or to live off of.
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #62 on: August 12, 2010, 12:51:27 AM »
Mecch,

Being an ex-hoarder myself, I can empathize with what you are going through and how difficult it can be. The reason that I stopped hoarding is that I no longer wanted my possessions to control me. Stephen and I have been down sizing, since we moved from Florida and we have gotten rid of about 75% of what we owned. The liberation that came, by only keeping those items, of real value, we find ourselves with a manageable household. In a way, I see hoarding as another form of addiction, to material things. For me, when a facet of my life begins to overpower my life, I will do whatever I need to regain my piece of mind. I say, if you want to change, take your time and do it however is easiest for you. You should be proud of yourself for wanting this change and I would not worry what others think of your actions. You do not need the approval of anyone, to do what is right for you. Good luck.

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« Reply #63 on: August 12, 2010, 03:16:28 PM »
Two years ago I went through a rough time,  and started acquiring stuff as a distraction. It piled up, and moved with me into my current house. I did get rid of some, but most got stuffed into all the closets in the house, where it has stayed until last week.  I started a full-scale, get-rid-of-shit mission, and have taken three car loads to Goodwill so far. Sorting through it is relieving but also disturbing,  because it makes me re-live the emotional crap that caused me to collect it all.

Hang in there, it sounds like you are steadily working through it. That's really the best way to do it!

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« Reply #64 on: August 13, 2010, 03:19:30 PM »


  Hey  mecch ,
                        I'm in Connecticut !

     Fab  antique stores !

    I have taken some great photos  of  hanging  Chandler   YOU  WOULD LOVE !

    I'll have to post !

    My Twin has what my Mother would have called  a    " STUNDEAN "   hanging from the second

    floor mezzanine   in his   FOY AY  :)

                     Be well   my Friend , I'll be  in  Huntington

       And then off  to P-Town , Cape Cod   for a birthday with my twin  :D

                                                           Carl

PS : yes HOARDING !

        BOB JUST CALLED AND SAID  A HUGE BOX CAME FROM   LAS VEGAS

        I HAVE MY HOARDING IN CONTROL .

       IT IS BOB THAT HAS THE  " WHOME IS GOING TO DUST THIS CRAP "  SYNDROME !

       ROTFLMAO ! 

    I SHALL COLLECT TILL THE COW COMES  HOME  :o


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« Reply #65 on: August 13, 2010, 06:26:40 PM »
    I have taken some great photos  of  hanging  Chandler   YOU  WOULD LOVE !

 

  I know it's not porn, but the moderators might take exception if you post photos of some dead guy named Chandler hanging.
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« Reply #66 on: August 13, 2010, 09:58:42 PM »
If I move again it's adding eight wheels bolt in the tongue and hook a truck to it and down the road it goes. The only things that need picked up is the skirting and the concrete blocks.  ;)

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« Reply #67 on: August 27, 2010, 05:51:18 PM »
Still chugging along.  A friend is coming to visit for next weekend and I got a bed for him and room that won't make him faint. I still don't have space for my bed, however.  Almost. Hopefully this weekend, with another truck rented on Monday for a run to the dump.

Would the people who happen to read this, and continue to make cracks about my hoarding as somehow worthy of dismissive comedy, please stop.  If you can't wrap your minds around the fact that hoarding and hoarders are real, and a painful challenge to solve, have the decency to me, personally, to stop being cavalier.

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« Reply #68 on: August 27, 2010, 07:57:26 PM »
Mecch, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but when you post on a public website, you gotta take what you get. If you don't want unsupportive responses, don't post. It really is that simple. It's the internet, not your bedroom. Duh.
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« Reply #69 on: August 27, 2010, 07:59:30 PM »
with another truck rented on Monday for a run to the dump.
to get anything accomplished it takes hard work and patience. It sounds like you're still chugging along - and moving forward. WooHoo! ;D Keep at it.  ;) Just keep in mind how neat, clean, and healthy your place with be without the clutter, and dust-collecting items.
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« Reply #70 on: August 27, 2010, 08:31:55 PM »
Mecch, I hate to be the one to break it to you, but when you post on a public website, you gotta take what you get. If you don't want unsupportive responses, don't post. It really is that simple. It's the internet, not your bedroom. Duh.

You're wrong. I have to listen to what I get, but I don't have to "take it." Its mean.

Because I said I have a real problem to deal with. And when people doubted that, I clarified and restated that it is quite serious and also asked people to be kind. 

If I came on here and said I was a drug addict and was detoxing and it is difficult, would you feel the same?

Members of this forum have an obligation to not bully, am I correct?

Fun and joshing where it belongs.  Not when someone cries uncle. 

Surely you are aware of that Ann. If you are not, I'll send you some literature.

So be mean if you want, anyone, but that's all it is, and I don't have to "take it".
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« Reply #71 on: August 27, 2010, 08:37:01 PM »
Hang in there Mech ... I have a buddy that is dealing with his hoarding issues . It takes time but you can get there . It took me three years just to get Tim to throw away a few bags of stuff so I think you are on the right path .

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« Reply #72 on: August 27, 2010, 08:46:56 PM »
You're wrong. I have to listen to what I get, but I don't have to "take it." Its mean.

Because I said I have a real problem to deal with. And when people doubted that, I clarified and restated that it is quite serious and also asked people to be kind. 

If I came on here and said I was a drug addict and was detoxing and it is difficult, would you feel the same?

Members of this forum have an obligation to not bully, am I correct?

Fun and joshing where it belongs.  Not when someone cries uncle. 

Surely you are aware of that Ann. If you are not, I'll send you some literature.

So be mean if you want, anyone, but that's all it is, and I don't have to "take it".

Mecch, you were not around during my first year here.  I did share about my constant going in and out of hospitals and having to give up a very good paying job.  It was during this time that I fell behind in child support and my mortgage.  I was an open book..... about pretty much everything.  Some of my brothers and sisters here were extremely supportive during this time, especially one named Matty.

But.. every so often I would get the sarcastic comment of "Oh hey Mr. Father of the year", or "you're a loser of the worst kind".  I admit I took that shit hard, but like Ann said I shared it and if someone does not want to understand the plight of trying to regain ones health back, well what was I suppose to do?

I didn't pussyfoot around about it.  When they came at me I spoke my mind, but I didn't sit here and rant like you are now.  

Plus I would like to add, weren't you the same person who was jibing on people's - spelling, grammar, and sentence structure just a few weeks ago?  Get over yourself dude and work on your issues.  Take pride when you accomplish what you want and quit bitching about it.  It makes you stronger...trust me on this.

And no... I didn't proof read this at all homie. :-*
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« Reply #73 on: August 27, 2010, 08:50:43 PM »
But.. every so often I would get the sarcastic comment of "Oh hey Mr. Father of the year", or "you're a loser of the worst kind".  I admit I took that shit hard, but like Ann said I shared it and if someone does not want to understand the plight of trying to regain ones health back, well what was I suppose to do?

I didn't pussyfoot around about it.  When they came at me I spoke my mind, but I didn't sit here and rant like you are now.

I am not ranting. I am doing just what you said. The shit hits hard and I reminding the people who keep doing it that its out of line. E.g. Speaking my mind. Amen.
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« Reply #74 on: August 27, 2010, 08:53:50 PM »
You might want to ask for this thread to be moved to the mental health forum. In off topic your just asking for trouble. Hoarding would be categorized as a sign of other "issues " anyways

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« Reply #75 on: August 27, 2010, 09:02:20 PM »
The "poor me y'all are so mean" routine Meech is handing out is (whilst par for the course) getting a bit sickly.

So we're a bunch of evil mean fuckers who live only to beat up on him. If this is so and he finds it so traumatic why on earth would he start a thread like this one?

How can he condemn a goodly number of us as bullies of the worst stripe and yet present us with his soft, white belly? I mean that's what this rather gormless thread seems to be.

And yes his kvetching, pissing and moaning about how horrid some folks are predates this cringeworthy thread.

Resolve this small conumdrum and I think we'll all have a better understanding of the complex little poppet who calls himself meech.

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« Reply #76 on: August 27, 2010, 09:03:14 PM »
I am not ranting. I am doing just what you said. The shit hits hard and I reminding the people who keep doing it that its out of line. E.g. Speaking my mind. Amen.

Good for you.  Always remember you get what you put in and... If I may add, keep in mind, you tend to be very critical of others.  When doing this and opening up about yourself you could be inviting the unwanted responses you don't desire.

You don't bend at all, but you want everyone else to.
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #77 on: August 27, 2010, 09:17:35 PM »
The "poor me y'all are so mean" routine Meech is handing out is (whilst par for the course) getting a bit sickly.

So we're a bunch of evil mean fuckers who live only to beat up on him. If this is so and he finds it so traumatic why on earth would he start a thread like this one?

How can he condemn a goodly number of us as bullies of the worst stripe and yet present us with his soft, white belly? I mean that's what this rather gormless thread seems to be.

And yes his kvetching, pissing and moaning about how horrid some folks are predates this cringeworthy thread.

Resolve this small conumdrum and I think we'll all have a better understanding of the complex little poppet who calls himself meech.

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And there it is. Pretty isn't it. You are bullying me MTD.

And move the thread to mental health, that's totally valid, given the shrink and pills I have to take this summer to get through this passage.  My mom lost this battle and its tragic. I won't. You could learn about it or you could be mean. 
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #78 on: August 27, 2010, 09:34:29 PM »
And there it is. Pretty isn't it. You are bullying me MTD.

And move the thread to mental health, that's totally valid, given the shrink and pills I have to take this summer to get through this passage.  My mom lost this battle and its tragic. I won't. You could learn about it or you could be mean. 

Well, whatever Meechie. ::)

This is all getting a bit too creepy for my tastes.

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« Reply #79 on: August 27, 2010, 09:42:21 PM »
Then lay off, you big bully.  I don't claim you bully everyone, but you have a foul mouth and you do bully me.
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #80 on: August 27, 2010, 09:51:24 PM »
Then lay off, you big bully.  I don't claim you bully everyone, but you have a foul mouth and you do bully me.

Foul mouthed I'll cop to. No fucking doubt about that. My profanity is fucking legendary. The Right Wing of my Party refer to me as "Pol Potty Mouth."

But the bully stuff is utter bullshit and I won't wear that tag. As others have noted in other threads you appear to have a growing persecution complex thing happening.

Get some professional help, dollface.

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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #81 on: August 28, 2010, 01:52:42 AM »
a thicker skin may be needed here

 especially to survive with this disease.

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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #82 on: August 28, 2010, 05:12:40 AM »
Mecch, I don't understand why you don't put Matty on ignore if he causes you such stress.  Don't you advise others the same? 

Listen, I've had people come after me with curt (SP) responses.  You have to learn to let things slide.  I agree with the Sweet D.O.,  (Matty), you seem to be getting a huge persecution complex.  Maybe you want people to feel sorry for you?  Maybe you're looking just for sympathy responses? 

Matty pretty much tells it like it is.  He's not afraid of that, and that's one of the reasons I love him so much.  He's even done that with yours truly.  Did I take offense?  No, not at all.  It actually helps to take a closer look at the issue at hand.  I would never say Matty is a bully.  He's a dear friend, and I don't like to see him getting insulted, at all.  It's not justified, and it's not right.
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #83 on: August 28, 2010, 09:31:21 AM »
Mecch and Matty, you've both made your opinions and feelings clear. There's no need to expend further energy in repeating same.

Please resist having further exchanges about this as I expect that would likely only escalate matters to no good purpose.

Thanks for your cooperation.

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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #84 on: April 14, 2012, 05:31:51 PM »

Zombie thread.

Just saw this video.  Was gonna post it in the "YT links of the day", but figured it made more sense to include it here instead.  Disclosure: this is not meant to offend or hurt the OP in any way.  It is just for S&G.

http://youtu.be/0lFuoOuK5Ok

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« Reply #85 on: April 14, 2012, 07:05:13 PM »


   I can tell that I had some good smoke in August of 2010......  ahhh the good ole days.  Hey Meccula, you never did post those before and after photos you promised.

   
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #86 on: April 14, 2012, 09:34:43 PM »
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #87 on: April 15, 2012, 07:14:06 AM »
Moonie dearest, have you been hoarding this thread?
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Re: Sharing something incredibly private - hoarding!
« Reply #88 on: April 15, 2012, 10:11:13 AM »
Moonie dearest, have you been hoarding this thread?


Yessum.  I had kept it in a plastic container along with threads about poor grammar.   I also have a bazillion boxes full of disclosure threads.  I may donate them to Goodwill at some point. 
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