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Offline thcml

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SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« on: June 29, 2010, 01:16:44 AM »
hello!!
12weeks ago  I  had fingerd and deep kissed a girl.23days  after this exposure  I had a serious skin rash  all over my bodys.It's just like the ARS rash. And i had sore throat , low fever and diarrhea .I was so scard!!!!  I am still anxious about hiv now!!! I am going to crazy!!! help me!!!

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #1 on: June 29, 2010, 01:31:51 AM »
th,

You have not had a risk for hiv infection. Fingering is not a risk. Kissing is not a risk. Not one person has ever been infected through either activity and you won't be the first.

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. Whatever is going on has nothing to do with hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
« Last Edit: June 29, 2010, 01:34:00 AM by Ann »
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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #2 on: June 29, 2010, 01:39:29 AM »
thank you  ann! so you  mean  I can't  get hiv frme this  exposure?? AND  my worries is  not necessary?But  I  can't understand why  many symptoms   appeared  in the time .Was it just  a coincidence or may  caused by my anxiety. sorry  my  english  is  poor.

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #3 on: June 29, 2010, 01:51:27 AM »
th,

No, you absolutely cannot become infected with hiv through fingering or kissing.

Yes, you're worrying unnecessarily.

Yes, your symptoms were either coincidence or stress.

You have not had a risk and you do not need to test.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #4 on: June 29, 2010, 02:08:17 AM »
thanks again ann!! so I can  relax and  sex with my girl friend with no fear? 

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #5 on: June 29, 2010, 07:23:06 AM »
Yes, that's right. You can't pass a virus you don't have.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #6 on: June 29, 2010, 07:42:22 AM »
thank you sir! But the symptoms  really scared me ! Were  it  nothing to do with HIV.I haven't sex with girl friend for 2 months.

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #7 on: June 29, 2010, 07:54:44 AM »
th,

Your symptoms had nothing to do with hiv.

You did not have a risk for hiv infection.

If you're worried about your illness, see a doctor. While we cannot diagnose you over the internet, we CAN tell you that it wasn't hiv causing the problem.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.


Please consider yourself warned!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #8 on: July 06, 2010, 11:11:11 AM »
Sorry Ann.I am a fragile mind boy.I am still scared.I can't sleep well these days .What can I do and  how  can I  do .please  advice me  thank you !

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #9 on: July 06, 2010, 11:32:25 AM »
th,

I've already told you what to do. See your doctor.

You might also want to ask him or her for a referral to a mental health therapist to help you get your fears and emotions under control. We cannot help you with that here.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #10 on: July 06, 2010, 11:39:16 AM »
Thanks Ann!  The last  question.So you think .I can't  get hiv  from this exposure and  I can come back to my life with no fear for hiv right? whatever the symptoms I had experienced  had  nothing to do with hiv ?All my problem is my anxiety right?

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #11 on: July 06, 2010, 11:47:49 AM »
th,

Why don't you just re-read your thread? I'm not here to hold your hand, but I'll answer you ONE last time - any more questions about your NO RISK situation and you'll be given that time out I warned you about.

NO you cannot get hiv from fingering or kissing. It wasn't an exposure because you couldn't have been exposed through fingering or kissing.

Yes, get on with your life.

Your symptoms had nothing to do with hiv. They could have been caused by anxiety, or something else. We cannot tell you why you were ill, but we CAN tell you it wasn't hiv.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: SCARD!!HELP ME!!!!
« Reply #12 on: July 06, 2010, 05:03:38 PM »
If I may butt in....

Ann, I am SO HAPPY (Delighted, esctatic, exhilerated, blown away, psyched) to have found this site, and this board.

I have been living as an HIV Poz man for two years now.  I can not TELL you how many guys I have run across who actually believe that I can "Spread the Bug" by kissing, by sharing utensils, by sneezing on them, and by other no- or low-risk sexual activity.  I am thoroughly convinced that Pozophobes are a bigger danger to the gay community than Homophobes.  It absolutely blows my mind that so many people know so little about one of the most important health issues of our time....

...Reading through the forums, I must note that your advice is non-hysterical, factual, objective, and right on-target.  It's a breath of fresh air....Keep up the GREAT work!

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« Reply #13 on: July 06, 2010, 05:09:37 PM »
Steaknale,

Thank you for your compliments, but I'm afraid you shouldn't be posting in the Am I Infected forum. The guidelines for this particular sub-forum are in this forum's Welcome Thread

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Only those Moderators and members who are authorized to answer questions in the Am I Infected? forum are permitted do so. Unauthorized responses may be deleted without permission of the poster. Repeatedly posting replies of this nature may result in a Time Out or permanent ban, at the discretion of the Moderator Team.


BTW, a few of the sub-forums have Welcome threads - you should read them. The one in Living gives the general guidelines and the others give additional guidelines for that particular forum.

Thank you for your cooperation!

Ann

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« Last Edit: July 06, 2010, 05:14:55 PM by Ann »
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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