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OK, I started it.  It's been awhile since I started one, and it's so early, I hope the subject line is alright with everyone.

Netta, I totally agree with Queen, he's using again.  That's why he didn't show back up at his job, why the servers can't find him to give him the divorce papers etc.   I hope things turn out good, and pretty damn soon, so you can relax a bit.

Cin, so good to hear from you!  Wow, it sounds like you're doing fantastic on the new diet/exercise program.  How do you know how to keep track of things like carbs, fiber etc. in that food diary?  I mean, how did you learn about that, is it part of the weight loss program?  Good for you.  I'm going to do that one day.......

Queen, have fun visiting your son, sister and bff.  I'm so glad things are going in a good direction.

My daughter is having such a time in Washington with that damn baby's daddy.  He's causing so much grief, threatening her with this and that.  He even kicked her dog, which I absolutely detest.  She's going to be going to the courthouse at some point, to try to file for custody, and to see if she can take the baby on the upcoming trip.  He's told her she can't legally take the baby out of state.  We'll see.  I'm hoping for peace for her, and that the father will quit acting like a 5-year old.  He's 36, but is very immature.  Ugh.     

Other than that, yesterday went well.  I went to a friend's house for a cookout.  Afterwards it started raining pretty heavily.  This upcoming weekend, my grandson has a t-ball game, and my granddaughter has a softball game.  She's the catcher on the team, and does a pretty good job.  Hopefully the forecasted rain will hold off.  You all have a good one.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2010, 07:34:33 AM »
Happy post holiday-

It's good to hear from a lot  of you girls. 

Cin-  You sound like you're doing so great.  I have always been a huge advocate for exercise.  In almost a year of not exercising I feel awful.  Though I just started with weights for physical therapy  :-\ And yes, I have to start this week for the wedding.  I have 10 pounds!
I know how much you miss Cheech.  Dogs are such amazing creatures that come into our lives and bring us such joy.  I'm so glad you have a lot of media memories with Ice's help.

BT-  Party sounded nice.  Central Jersey got hit with some late day thunderstorms.  It was pretty torrential. 
I am so sorry to hear about all the drama in your daughter's life.  It's bad enough that he's giving her a real problem but to kick the dog?  I would need to be restrained  if anyone kicked my dog.  I will definitely pray for peace in her life and a good outcome.  Great title btw. :)

Queen-  Great that you are settled in your apartment.  It should be nice to see your son and friends, especially to know that your finally set up at your new place.  I completely relate to your dislike of flying  lately.  I did not like flying this past trip to Captiva.  I don't know why, I've never had a problem with flying but I really hated it, maybe because it is on high alert.


Have to run, it's early and I have a lot to do.  I did nothing but stay on the couch yesterday.  Feeling better today thankfully.

Have a great day :D

Camms


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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #2 on: June 02, 2010, 05:33:09 AM »
Well, what I feared was going to happen, happened.  My daughter's ex got an order that prevents my daughter from taking the baby out of state, so she can't bring her here.  And, she won't be able to come either, because she has to be in court on dates that she was supposed to be here.  I can't tell you all how pissed off I am, and how helpless I feel.  I don't know what to do.  I want to fix this, but of course can't, and that's a horrible feeling.  I am so pissed off at this man, I'd love to smash him right in his face.  I don't know how things are going to turn out, but for now, they have shared custody of the grandbaby.  This is not good, and I am not happy. >:(
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #3 on: June 02, 2010, 01:01:47 PM »
 :'( Betty- So sorry to hear this news! What about his violent temper? that has to account for something on her side, the past is the past! that should not be brought up in court!
I hope things turn around, for her good. I am angry just knowing he would take a baby from its mother!
I know how you feel, being helpless and wanting to do something. I feel that way about my divorce, What was so simple turniing out to be complicated and take much longer. Well I know for sure I will get the divorce, just when? takes time to put ad in paper and then wait. I will call my lawyer this week. I am mad that it took the courts so long to seek him at his job, he was there the last few months. It took them over a month to serve him there!!! nothing I could do about it. just hang in there and not to worry too much.

hope everyone is having a blessed day. when will we be able to post pics again????
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #4 on: June 02, 2010, 02:15:46 PM »
Hey Ladies---

I made it back home. The flying part of the trip was nice. I just didn't like the search part. Having to take off my shoes but I understand the reasons for it. I took pics of the clouds in the plane. It was real pretty. Once I got to my sister's, I started taking pics of my family. I am going to try to post the cloud pics later.

Betty--- Sorry that your daughter is going through that, custody battles can be so nasty. I hope she will be able to get custody or even joint custody. The baby daddy sounds like a real asshole.

Netta--- Girl, I would be pissed to about the situation. But he is definitely getting high again, you can tell just by the crap he is doing.

Well, I need to run to the store...I'll check back
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #5 on: June 02, 2010, 11:06:25 PM »
Hey Ladies

Long time no hear right?

Nothing much is really going on. I found out I am 8weeks  5days preggo :-\. Hubby is really excited, I am kinda of nervous and scared. I have my OB appointment tomorrow, so I hope all goes well. I still in school working on my Masters in Education. I will be through next year Fall.


Just wanted to stop in and tell you guys my news.

Hey BT, Queen (I texted you the other week), Snow, Netta, Has anyone heard from VIV yet? Hello to everyone I forgot and welcome to our new comers

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #6 on: June 03, 2010, 08:50:57 AM »
Hey good morning-

BT I'm so sorry your daughter is in this horrible situation.  It's frustrating that these people hire these slick lawyers and the people who can't afford lawyers get screwed.  It's not fair.   

Queen glad you made it home.  How was the actual visit?

Netta-  Sorry that your soon to be ex is MiA?  It must be so frustrating.  I feel for you and Betty.  This seems to be a lot of rain according to the title of the thread.

 Yesterday was bad day physically.  My hand felt alien to me.  I was having a pity party yesterday and it was a day that I just crashed and burned.  I felt better around 6 mentally. I did finally finish the invites.  And I working on the wedding favors last night.

Bills today and client work is my schedule today.  Today will be a better day :)  I sending out good vibes to you all too.

Hugs,

Camms


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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #7 on: June 03, 2010, 01:30:03 PM »
Hey Gfs,
Sorry I have not been around. I had surgery on my knee and I am slowly re-couperating. At least I am up walking on it now.  My honey came and spent the weekend with me and took care of me (he is so sweet.)  I don't know what I would have done without him, OMG the pain was so bad.
I will be starting Pt on Monday and going back to work too. Glad to hear everyone is doing well. 

Gotta run, will check back in later.
~M
ps. love the new thread!

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #8 on: June 03, 2010, 05:21:03 PM »
Netta, sorry about your ex.  I hope they find him soon, or he contacts the courts. 

Queen, that's great you got to go back home.  And yeah, the baby daddy is an asshole.  Anyway, did you get to visit with your son?

Keeping-congrats on the master's program.

Camms, I hope you're feeling better.  Just take things slow with making all the wedding stuff.  It does suck that everything's about the almighty dollar.  Even dishonest shit.

Mary, sorry about your knee, but you just reaffirm me not wanting to have a knee replacement.  But, do you feel better?  Are you getting around better?

Nothing much has changed.  I've been talking to my daughter.  She says that the baby daddy is supposedly willing to sit down and talk some time next week.  I don't trust him personally.  Not at all.  I hope my daughter doesn't get screwed worse.  I tried to tell her, but she likes to think the best of people.  Nothing really other than that.  I hope you all have a good weekend.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #9 on: June 03, 2010, 09:27:43 PM »
Yeah, it has been nice being back so far but I miss NY already. My son has come to see me every day since I have been here. My gay friend stopped by to see me but I haven't seen my bff. I did call her but she is pissed because I didn't feel like coming to see her today. I would have but after being out in the heat with my sister at Walmart, I just didn't have the energy. But she will be alright. I did invite my one sister I don't care for to come see me. She called and said she would come after work but she never showed up...Oh well.....I would write more but I am drained.
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #10 on: June 04, 2010, 09:56:38 AM »
Hmm, since it will be back to back posts, does this mean I am talking to myself? *LOL* I catch myself doing that around the house. I guess everyone is busy doing their thing. I remember when this thread first got started. You'd have to check in at least twice a day. I often think about some of the ladies that use to be here. Remember Christy? I wonder how she is doing. And Drag......*sighs*

Not much going on. I think it is going to be cooler today. I am still deciding if I am going to go over to see the bff. I think the only reason she got pissed is because she wanted me to come over to her house so I would buy her some beer. And in the past, I have done that, prolly would've done it last night. But I just did not feel like going anywhere yesterday. But I feel she owes me an apology.

Anyone keeping up with the basketball playoffs? It's the Lakers vs the Celtics. Game 1 was last night. The Celtics lost. I am going with the Celtics. I use to like the Lakers back in the day when Magic was playing but I just don't care for Kobe Bryant.


Well TGIF......
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #11 on: June 05, 2010, 06:33:56 AM »
Queen, I talk to myself as well when I'm here alone (which is most of the time).  So, don't feel bad.  Yeah, I wonder what happened to the ladies that used to be regular posters.  I have Cristy's number somewhere.  Drag quit posting when she got married.  I do miss them.

I'm really unsure what is going on with my daughter right now.  She seemed a little better last time we talked.  I'm trying not to be totally taken up with the situation, because there are other things going on here I need to also focus on.  It's hard, because she's my kid, and I hate it when she hurts.

Today, if it doesn't rain, my grandson has a t-ball game, and the granddaughter here has a softball game.  It's looking like it's going to rain any minute, but I hope it holds off until this afternoon.  Nothing much other than that.  My cursor keeps freezing up while I'm typing, then when it unfreezes, it types everything I typed while it was frozen.  I don't like it, and wish it would quit.   Does anyone else ever have trouble with that?
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #12 on: June 05, 2010, 09:33:52 AM »
Good Saturday-

Keeping-  Great to hear about the masters degree.  That's great news that you are working towards such a fantastic goal such as education.

BT-  I talk to Wendy every so often on Facebook, so  I know she's doing ok.  I think focusing on other things make sense.  Unfortunately, you can't do anything right now, even if you were in the same town.  Did you get to see the tball/ softball games?  As far as the typing, that usually happens to me if I need to reboot my computer. 

Well, have to run, lots to do today.   

Netta, Queen, and all the other ladies, have a really great weekend.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #13 on: June 06, 2010, 02:03:00 PM »
HIn GF"S All is well as can be. Cooking a soul food dinner today, turkey wings, cabbabge, dressing, corn on cob.! How is everyone!!!
Keeping- congrats on the pregnancy, this makes baby # ???? God don't make no mistakes! Congrats on your Masters study.
Queen, My facebook name is Vannetta Ferguson. and for anyone that wants to know.
Glad you had a safe trip,and things have gotten better! how is your son? great that he's home !!!
Betty- still praying for you and dd. hope things get better soon.
Camms- take care of yourself !!!!
Missy- glad youare back take care!
To all our other sisters  out there, take care and HOLLA at us sometimes!!!
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #14 on: June 06, 2010, 09:11:42 PM »
Just dropping by. I did go see my bff. I jumped the gun and thought she was mad at me. All is well there. My son still comes to see me everyday, I love that. But I am ready to go home. There has been 2 shootings close to my sister's house since I have been here. One was just around the corner from here. I also miss my apartment...lol

Netta, I will add you on my Facebook. I updated my page. I also Twitter but not everyone does that. Keeping--Congrats on the baby. I didn't get your text but I have also changed my number. I'm not sure if I gave it to you. PM me.

One more day......
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #15 on: June 07, 2010, 04:32:58 AM »
Camms, hope you got everything done you were going to do.

Netta, that dinner sounds good.

Queen, I know what you mean about going places, and being ready to go home.  I'm the same way.  That's cool you got to see your son so much. 

The grandkid's baseball games got rained out Saturday.  This weekend was non-eventful, and quiet.  I did make some brownies (just what I need, with the extra weight and diabetes).  I didn't talk to my daughter yesterday, but probably will today, because it's her birthday.  I can't believe she's 26.  I've made so many mistakes parenting.  I keep telling myself, about the situation she's in, that if only I wasn't strung out on those pills for so long, my life would've been together, and I could afford a lawyer for her, and more.  I hate the fact that it's taken me so long in life to get clean (I did a couple times before, but it didn't last).  I look at my best friend, how she's a successful therapist, and a recovering addict.  I met her in about 1990 in NA (Narcotic Anonymous).  But, she stayed clean, and I continued to fuck up.  Sometimes I get so sad, I actually do cry.  I'm trying not to think about it too much lately, because it makes me so sad.

Another week starts.  I hope you all have a good one.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #16 on: June 08, 2010, 10:47:02 AM »
Hey Ladies---

I am at the airport, its still about 45 minutes before my plane leaves. I have a 2 hour delay in Philly then it's an hour before I get back to NY. It was a nice trip overall. I enjoyed seeing my friends and spending time with my son and sister. My sister started bawling which made me want to cry but I didn't. It has really gotten bad here crime wise. It'll prolly be a few years before I come back to visit.

I hope everyone is having a good week. Mum, you are still in my thoughts and prayers. You too, Betty with the situation with your daughter. I know how that feels. I'll prolly check back in when I get back home. I don't think Philly airport has wi-fi.
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5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #17 on: June 09, 2010, 04:31:45 AM »
Queen, I hope your flights went well, and that you're back home safe and sound.  I'm glad you got to see your friends and family, especially your son, but I totally understand why you don't want to go back there if it's turned into a bad war zone, crime wise I mean.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #18 on: June 10, 2010, 02:18:51 PM »
Betty-- Yeah war zone is the right word for it. There has been 20 shootings already this year and 5 of them are homicides. Now remember I haven't been in NY a year yet. It made me see that I left right on time. I worry for my son though because most of the shootings were done by teens. My son knew a couple of them. One of his friends is in a wheelchair now behind getting shot.

Just got my internet hooked up here and my cable on the 3rd. Now I feel like I am finally getting settled. I still have to do a little more food shopping but I am being lazy today. I am tired since I have been up since 8:30 this morning. My Hasa worker was suppose to have shown up at 10...no call, no show. But atleast the cable guy was on time.. :D

Off to play Warcraft, have a good one.
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5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #19 on: June 10, 2010, 10:26:17 PM »
Thank you for inviting me Betty!
Its seems like this might be home with all the dysfunctional behaviors ( as society calls it).  Right up my alley. Lots of rain is falling in my life know and its kind of scary.
But first Hi lady's my name is Susan.I have been positive since 97 and recently started to get ill. I have 2 grown children and a grandson.A husband of 10 years who is not positive and I'm a Counselor who is in desperate need of Counseling as you suggested Betty.Ive been hospitalized 3 times this year and I still feel horrible. I share in all of y'all everyday grief because I'm struggling with some of the same issues y'all are faced with.I was a crack addict for  6 years it seemed so much longer. I know that sad feeling you feel when you blame yourself for everything that goes wrong in your children's life.Thank god I had a very close knit family and my children were able to be speared some heart ache but not all. Happy to be here. I feel terrible today the diarrhea is sucking me dry.
My most trying matter is that I have never told my son who is 23 my status.My daughter keeps threatening me she will because she doesn't want him to feel she betrayed him if something happens to me. I'm stuck

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #20 on: June 11, 2010, 05:11:04 AM »
Queen, it's always good when the cable guy is on time. :)  That's great you're getting all settled in.  New York really seems to have good programs there.  If your situation happened in my area, you'd probably still be in a shelter.  Last year section 8 opened up, and in 2 weeks time, they had over 2,000 applicants.  So, it's closed for at least another 2 years.  I realize, though, that people at shelters can pull some strings.  There's a girl who's volunteering where I work, who lives with two of her kids, in a local shelter.  She said she has to be out by next April, and that probably one of the counselors there would be able to get her into one of the housing authority's apartment places.  Anyway, I'm going on a rant.  I'm just so happy you got your own place.  How's it going with learning to get around where you're living at now?  I'm not too good with learning new places at first, until I've been around a few times.

Summayya, welcome to our ladie's family.  I'm a recovering addict.  The first time I got clean, back when I was 17 1/2, it was from heroin.  Then, when I was 24, I went into treatment for alcohol.  And this last time, it was pills (Morphine, ES Vicodin, Xanax, Valium, and Dextroamphetamine).  It's been almost 5 years, and I'm hoping this last time will be the last time I'll have to worry about it.  I don't know if you do NA or AA meetings, but as they say, it's just taking things one step at a time, and trying not to get overwhelmed.  It seems the first thing in your situation that's needed, is for you to be able to get your health straight.  I remember from your thread in the LTS'ers part of the forum, that you go on and off your meds.  If I were you, I'd probably try to figure out why this is.  Surely you want to be around for your grandkids?  Your failing health this year, as I'm sure you figured out, is proof that you're not going to be healthy off the meds.  About telling your son....well, I'm guessing, since you mentioned your daughter threatening to tell him, that the rest of your family knows?  Or is it just your daughter?  I can understand her feelings.  I told my family, and close friends, right away, because I didn't want them finding out if something happened to me.  By the way, I tested poz in 1989.  So, as you know, back then, it was hit and miss with health.  I feel extremely fortunate to be alive and as healthy as I am.  I went through some things, though, and know I don't want to go through them again (wasting, hardly any t-cells etc.).  And like I said in your other thread, even counselors sometimes need counselors.  Don't feel bad about that either.  Feel free to say anything to us here, ask questions, or whatever.  We're a good group, and love to have new people join us.

Not much going on.  Tomorrow my grandson has a t-ball game that I'm hoping doesn't get rained out.  My granddaughter's softball team is in tournaments right now, and they've been at all these different parks, so I haven't been able to see any of those games yet.

As for my daughter's situation.....today her and the father are going to court to, as I understand it, drop the restraining orders they have on each other.  Then Monday, I think they're going to court regarding the custody.  It makes me very nervous to think about it a lot.  I just don't want anything else to happen to my daughter.  I don't know if she could take it.  The father is pulling some dirty tricks on her, and I keep telling her not to be so trusting.  She always looks for the best in people, and sometimes that hurts more than helps.                          Ok ladies, you all have a good one.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #21 on: June 11, 2010, 09:37:28 PM »
Well I have 5 brothers and none know I'm positive.I only told Mom and Dad.My daughter found out because she looked up one of my meds on line.lol. She never said a word.When I decided to tell her and I began to cry struggling to get the words out she just looked at me.I said I'm HIV positive and she said"I know". We both laughed and I felt so dumb. I'm guessing my son may know because my ex brother in law decided to tell the world my status when i helped my sister get out of their abusive relationship. my nieces,nephews and my son never asked but always joked about how much he must hate me to have said such a thing. I always change the subject.
My son has begun to demand answers when I'm sick.He lives in Phoenix so its easy because he hasn't seen me in 4 months.The last time he came I weighed 150.I'm down to 130 I wonder what his reaction will be when he comes.
I'm feeling a lot better today . Diarrhea has gone for a while.I'm preparing to go visit my nephew who's in jail tomorrow. All the way upstate NY.My grandson has been at my sisters house all week upstate so I cant wait to get there to see him and bring him home.
My daughter hurt me so bad last night.I asked her to pick me up because I didn't feel well and she said no.All that Ive done for her.The part that made me mad was that she came in my room and kissed me before she went to work.I asked her not to because she didn't care.I guess guilt must have killed her.I posted something on facebook that must have made her think twice.Still cant believe she said no.My husband is furious with her.He wont be rude to her but he wont talk to her for a while.
Ill see what tomorrow has in store should be exciting.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #22 on: June 12, 2010, 06:38:33 AM »
Summayya, I guess I'm not understanding.  You asked your daughter to pick you, up, but she was there to give you a kiss on your head?  Did she drive over to give you the kiss?  What I'm not understanding is, you wanted her to pick you up, but she was there? (do you see what I mean).  Anyway, have fun with your grandson.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #23 on: June 12, 2010, 08:01:25 AM »
She lives with me. After she had the baby she came back home.I come in at midnight so when she woke up she came to my room. 

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #24 on: June 12, 2010, 10:50:37 AM »
She lives with me. After she had the baby she came back home.I come in at midnight so when she woke up she came to my room. 

Ok, so what do you mean you wanted her to pick you up?  Pick you up from where and take you to where?
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #25 on: June 12, 2010, 12:44:35 PM »
Afternoon Ladies---

First, let say welcome to the ladies thread to Summayya. As Betty said, we're a great bunch of ladies here. I am sorry you are going through so much. I can relate to some of what you are going through. I have been poz since '97. I have been off and on meds too. I am off of them right now because I have recently moved to NY and have not found an HIV doctor yet. I recently just moved into my own place from being in a shelter. I also know how you feel when it comes to someone putting your status out there. My own sisters did that to me. I have forgiven one of my sisters but not the other one. I know that my one sister if given the oppertunity would do it to me again. And because of her, my whole family knows my status. I was angry about it for a long time but decided to let it go and move on with my life.

Not much planned for me today. I straightened up a lil bit, never much to do there since I keep my place clean. I am going to spend the night at my friend's house til Monday. We do that, he'll spend a few days with me and vice versa.

Betty- I hope your grandson's game does not get rained out. How is your knee feeling?
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11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #26 on: June 12, 2010, 07:34:46 PM »
Queen, my knee's feeling pretty good, thanks.  The  Cortisone shot works wonders.  I'm going back to see the doctor either Tuesday or Wednesday, and I'm going to ask for a shot in the other knee. 

My grandson's t-ball game slipped by the rain.  It's fun watching t-ball, because there's no pressure.  Each team goes through the batting order; there's no "outs," and everyone gets to run the bases. 

I ate at a Greek restaurant this evening with a friend.  It was alright.  Nothing much other than that.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #27 on: June 13, 2010, 05:17:14 PM »
Not much going on with me today. I wanted to go to the Puerto Rican Parade today but didn't since it was suppose to rain. I'll catch it next year. I still got caught in the rain when I went out grocery shopping. Thank the Goddess they deliver. Other than that I am just waiting on my shows to come on, True Blood and The Tudors. There is only 2 episodes left of The Tudors then it is over and True Blood is just picking up from last season. I just love Lafayette, he makes the show to me. So, that's the plan and I am sticking to it. I better get a few hours of Warcraft in. I hope everyone had a good weekend...
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6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #28 on: June 14, 2010, 11:19:29 PM »
Hey Queen-  Let me know if you are going to go next year.  My son was going to march in the parade with his troop but I didn't end up sending him because he has been sick and....it was supposed to rain. :)

Welcome Summayya!

BT- How did things go with your daughter?

Netta....HOLLA!!!  ;D

I have been crazy busy with the kids and thier school.  Thurs. is thier last day. I went on a field trip with the 5th grade on Friday.  It was pretty good and thankfully the rain held out.  The place we went is set up like a village was back in the 1800's and you can go in see what people did, it's interactive, the people dress and talk like they used to.  We went into the bank and it was just the 2 guys working there and me and 2 of the students, a boy and a girl.  So the people that were working were great, they answered all the kids questions, were very informative.  The kids were asking good questions and while the girl was talking to the guy, they boy went and talked to the guy that was standing in the corner.  So I say, "OK guys its time to go see where the rest of the group is." So as we are walking down the "street" to the next building I hear the kids talking to each other.  Went a little like this. :)

Boy:(with a look of total confusion on his face)  That guy's name was Dick?
Girl: (with a look of total confusion and shock) WHAT?
Boy: His name was Dick!!
Girl: DICK??
Boy: DICK!!
So I am trying not to laugh and I say" Guys, Dick is short for Richard"
They both look at me even more confused and say "WHY???"
I said, " I have no idea, I always thought it would be Rick?"
So then they had to go tell the other kids, lol, it was funny.

I hope everyone is doing well. 
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #29 on: June 15, 2010, 03:24:13 PM »
Snow-- I bet that dialogue was funny as hell. I have been wondering how you've been doing. I know I can text you but I feel like I am interrupting you. If that makes sense?

Betty- I understand what you mean about your daughter being too trusting when it comes to the baby's daddy. I am going through the same thing with bf's daughter. She says he won't let her see the baby. He tells us she doesn't come to see the baby. We keep telling her to go to the courthouse......

As always, not much going on with me, I consider that a good thing, ya know. I watched Season 3 of True Blood on Sunday. I also watched the Tudors but there is only one episode left. I am going to miss that show. I'm going to have to try to buy the dvd. I love shows like that. I have the Rome dvd. And is Spartacus over? Isn't it on Showtime? I hope so because I have it for a year free. Oh dear, here I am rambling.


I hope everyone has a nice day....
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #30 on: June 15, 2010, 06:36:48 PM »
Hi ladies and thank you all for the warm welcomes!I was busy all weekend driving up and down Upstate NY.I did get to see my nephew on the second try we got there to late the first day.He looks fine but hes only 17 in jail SMH.Life  is real strange I don't wanna go through this but I refuse to abandon him and my sister in their time of need. Anyway
Betty I asked my daughter to pick me up from work and take me home that night.Its  about a 20 minute drive from my house to Manhattan.If I take the train its an hour ride and then wait for the bus. So she had to leave our house to get me.Maybe I was being selfish asking her to leave her bed for little old me.I got over it like everything else.

Queen welcome to NY!I was born here and its the city that never sleeps.If you want I can give you a few #'s (when your ready) although I'm not taking meds now I do have one of the best HIV Dr's in NY.I still don't understand why I struggle to take my meds.I'm real good when I'm on undetectable in one month always. I cant imagine what i would have done if my sister had done that to me.Hopefully you ll be able to forgive the other sister as well.I was angry at my sister for telling her husband too.He would have never known if she didn't.

So funny Snow.Kids are a riot.
I'm feeling really good today although I think I lost a pound or two in the past week.I'm making plans and choosing my attractions for Lake George next weekend with my husband.Cant wait to get there and unwind.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #31 on: June 15, 2010, 10:28:37 PM »
Queen- I've been good, really busy with the kids school.  You can text me whenever you want, I might not get back to you immediately.  I try not to text when I am in the car and if I am at school I leave the phone in my bag under a desk.

Summayya- Have fun at Lake George, I have never been but I hear that it is beautiful.  I hope you have good weather.

My throat is killing me, I really hope I don't have strep thoat again.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #32 on: June 16, 2010, 04:36:23 AM »
OK, I hope I don't lose this post.  Yesterday, I got that funny message on the screen that's posted about in "off topic."  And this morning, the screen keeps freezing up.  Only on this site.  And last night, I was reading about one of the university's chancellor's webpage being hacked with (no shit) a Viagara ad (remember when that was being talked about here).  So, it must be something going around.  Hackers, I mean.

Queen, I'd love to try to get a deal on HBO so I could watch True Blood. I've always liked vampire things.  No deals right now, in this part of the the world anyway.  And, even if they did offer a deal, the ones they have here are for like 6 months.  I'd probably forget at the end of the 6 months to cancel it.  My neighbor likes True Blood; but she works for Comcast, so I'm thinking all her shit is free. 

Summayya, sorry, I didn't know you had a job.  I guess I thought you were on disability, since mentioning all the troubles you've had, and being that you're a LTS'er.  I've been on disability since 1994, originally for wasting, and low CD4 cells.  About why you don't stay on meds...again, I think the only way you'll find answers to that is to see a trained therapist, who has worked with HIV+ people.  It could be you don't think you deserve to stay healthy, of course that's just an uneducated guess.  Anyway, I hope you have fun at Lake George.

Snow, it's always good to hear from you.  I hope you don't have strep throat as well. 

I've been having problems with insomnia.  But, it's been almost 4 days without a cigarette.  Here in Hoosierville, they have the Indiana Quit Line.  And if you call them, and express your strong desire to quit smoking, they'll send you two weeks worth of either patches, or gum or lozenges for free.  So, I'm wearing a patch.  But, since I quit this time, I either can't sleep, or it's all I want to do.  I know this will pass, but damn, hurry up!

I talked to my daughter yesterday.  I guess court went alright Monday.  She said she and the baby daddy already had a plan, so next Monday they meet with an official from the court to make it, well, "official."  I don't know what the final decision is going to be about her being able to bring the baby to see us, hopefully in August, but she said she thinks the father may let her come.

Yesterday I went back to see the bone doctor.  He gave me a Cortisone shot in my right knee.  He looked at that one with the x-ray machine, and said were that one to be replaced, it would take a lot more scraping, and cementing than normal.  He didn't look happy about it either.  Then he looked again at the left one, and said "oh, this is the bad one.  The top bone is pushing into the bottom bone."  This is nothing new to me.  Anyway, he said as long as I don't get more than 1-2 shots a year, I can do Cortisone forever.  He seems a bit more cautious now about a knee replacement than he originally was.  And you know, yesterday I was reading an article in this AARP magazine about a lady who had a knee replacement, and ended up getting her leg amputated from infection.  No, she isn't HIV+, but it made me think of what the first orthopod said about people who are HIV+ being at a greater risk of infection, with a possibility of amputation; plus the diabetes, which regular people heal slower from.  So now I'm conflicted again.

Ok, I know I rambled there a bit.  You all have a good one.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #33 on: June 16, 2010, 05:40:19 PM »
Hey Hey Everyone---

Just sitting here tripping on I Love the 80's on VH1. I was into so much of that stuff from the 80's but when you think about it, a lot of stuff we have today wouldn't have been created if it wasn't for the 80's. For example, Dungeons and Dragons basically evolved into today's World of Warcraft. Though I never played D&D. But it does bring back memories.

Summayya---That would be great if you could PM me the name and number of the HIV doctor. I want to find one who treats me like a person and not an insurance number, ya know. I know how it is catching a train in Manhattan, it was always crowded, especially the 6 train. And now that they are doing cuts now, there is no longer a V train but now a M train. I am getting the hang of the trains so I don't get lost as much. What area are you in if you don't mind me asking? I am in Queens.

Betty--I can understand you being conflicted about getting the surgery. Have you gotten a second opinion? But then if the shots are working for you, no need to go the extreme. Girl, I love just about anything to do with vampires. I just can't get into the "teen vamp" thing like Twillight or The Vampire Diaries. Now another Twillight movie comes out on the 30th, vamps vs wolves. Not seeing how it is going to be all that though I did love the Underworld trilogy. Have you tried Tylenol PM to try to help ypu sleep?
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2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #34 on: June 16, 2010, 06:20:33 PM »
hey ladies I hope everyones OK.

Queen I sure will PM you.If you want a real doctor hes the one.Straight talk and laughter is what hell give you. I live in  Brooklyn on the 3 and 4 lines and work on the 4 and 6 lines in Manhattan.Trains aren't that bad but I get off so late and they start running local.
Betty I know I need help badly.I think joining this forum is the first of many steps that I will take towards helping myself.I remember when I visited my Dr. last month he asked me if I wanted him to recommend a good Psychiatrist so that I could get some psychotropic meds. I laughed at him and declined.I asked him if he thought I was crazy and he said not crazy but depressed.I had suffered from depression when I was first diagnosed it was awful.I used to walk down the street with my head down because I was afraid people would know my status if they looked at me long enough.Thank GOD that's over.I was on disability for about 2 years and I couldn't take it anymore.I had to return to work because I was losing my sanity in the house.I think about going on disability now more than ever.
I have recently began smoking again after 2 years I could punch my self in the face for picking up that cigarette.I have been able to stop cold turkey 2 times before.I hope you get a good nights sleep soon
Thanks Snow Im praying for good weather too in Lake George.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #35 on: June 17, 2010, 04:35:25 AM »
Queen, I've seen that "I Love the 80's" on VH1.  I really enjoy watching that little series.  Believe me, I remember most things about the 80's, other than the times I was too f** up to remember.    I love vampire stuff also, but like you, don't care for the things the teens are going crazy over.  My favorite vampire movie is "Brahm Stoker's Dracula."  Mostly because it's a love story, besides being a cool dracula flick.  I think it was very well done. I remember when I was about 5, my parents let me stay up with my older brother on a Saturday night, when Creature Feature was coming on.  They showed the first "Dracula" movie with Bella Lugosi.  I was terrified.  My mom had to lay by me until I went to sleep.  And when my daughter was little, and I would watch a scarey movie, she always tried to sneak out of her room to watch it.  Of course, I always caught her.  She didn't seem to react with too much fear when she would see something scarey, like I did when I was a kid.  Oh, thanks for the suggestion about the Tylenol PM, but I'm on a pretty hefty dose of Motrin during the day, and I can't mix the two.  Last night I was actually able to get a pretty good sleep.

Summayya, don't beat yourself up over smoking again.  Did you know that smoking releases dopamine in the brain, which, as you probably already know, is the main "feel good" chemical the brain releases?  And, that's one reason why so many people who are on psychotropics smoke like fiends.  Psychotropics actually suppress dopamine.  But, your doctor may have a good suggestion, though if you're not having serious problems (or are you), maybe he could try an antidepressant without you having to go to a pscyhiatrist, if you don't want to.  I'm on Welbutrin, so don't feel like you're out of place if you need some medicinal help with the depression.  I have bad anxiety also (passed out once because of it), but I don't take tranquilizers for it.  I take this medication called Zyprexa.  It was originally made for schizophrenia, but docs use it for a mood stabilizer, and for extreme anxiety.  And it's a psychotropic.  Anyway, I don't mean to go on about my medical problems.  Just don't feel bad.      I work part-time, even though I'm on disability.  I know you don't know my history, but up until almost 5 years ago, I was pretty heavily strung out on pills (Xanax, Valium, Morphine, ES Vicodin, and Dextroamphetamine, plus large doses of hormones and thyroid).  When I quit those, after being clean for about a year, I went back to school.  I only got a bachelor's, in psychology.  I work for a church now.  And it's not that I'm a born-again Christian.  I work for this church who does work with the homeless, and street people, drug addicts, etc.   We offer them free breakfast, showers, laundry, clothing Monday through Thursday, and we also have a food pantry.  And as you can gather, most of the people who come there always need help with something (referral to doctor etc.), so I try to help them with that.  Sometimes they just need an ear to listen to them.  Anyway, so yeah, I'm on disability, but work part-time.  Of course, if you want to get "back" on disability, I wouldn't have a job when applying.  But you probably already know that.

Ok, I've gone on and on again.  Sorry.  My daughter called me last night to say she and the baby daddy were going to spend the night together.  Ugh.  I told her she just has to weigh the good against the bad, and decide which she would rather have.  She said she's not going to get deeply involved with anyone for a year.  Yeah, right.                         Ok ladies, you all have a good one.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #36 on: June 17, 2010, 01:38:59 PM »
Well here I go....
Good afternoon all, I am brand new to this site and I have not done this before.
I hope this is the right way to start. Any and all suggestions are very welcome.
I'm nervous and I dont know why, I was diagnosed in 1997 however I became very ill
(a bout of PCP phenomena) and ended up w/my CD4 count down to 7 and viral load in the millions.
I'm MUCH better now CD4 up to 156 VL around 75,000.
Thanks for providing a safe place to talk.

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« Reply #37 on: June 17, 2010, 04:55:41 PM »
Welcome.I'm new to this site as well and this forum is a great way I have found to deal with my feelings.
The women in this particular post have made me feel welcome and have already been helping with words of assurance and positive thoughts.I was diagnosed in the same year as you and only had 13
Cells. Don't be nervous we all have so many similar issues. My name is Susan and I'm from Brooklyn.

Betty-I wont knock myself too bad for smoking I just bought another pack on Newports! SMDH.You said you only got a bachelors in Psychology. I'm super proud of you after all you've been through. I'm currently looking to further my education and get my Masters in Social Work. The work that we do is so meaningful and powerful. I too work with men who were previously homeless and suffer from mental disorders.My heart is in Outreach but the more you move up the chain the further you get from Outreach in this field.And your right they always need someone to talk to. Anyway I'm so excited I have training tomorrow for my job and I will be off super early.I'm up for promotion next month I got my fingers crossed. As for your daughter we can never tell them what we  really feel it always backfires.Shell find her way through if you continue to pray for her.

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« Reply #38 on: June 18, 2010, 05:01:52 AM »
Welcome, Blair.  Feel free to talk about anything you feel like unloading. 

Summayya, good luck getting into the MSW program.  I've been accepted into a master's level certificate in alcohol and drug counseling.  I'm supposed to get into it in the fall.  Hopefully I can make it through.  It makes me very nervous.  I'm always scared of failure.
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« Reply #39 on: June 18, 2010, 09:57:18 AM »
BT: Regarding your insomnia. My younger sister had problems getting to sleep and her doctor advised her to take one Benadryl (OTC) before going to bed. She does that 1/2 hour before she intends to go to sleep. It's very successful for her AND she's been doing it for many years now. Em

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« Reply #40 on: June 18, 2010, 11:06:23 PM »
Hi Ladies,well I did my training today on Cultural Awareness and Identity.It was powerful.Not feeling so good diarrhea is acting up again.I came to the conclusion that I'm probably killing myself quicker by being non compliant with my meds and started taking them. I have so much to live for and a lot of living to do.Wish me luck I got the Isentress down and I'm ready.

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« Reply #41 on: June 19, 2010, 05:54:54 AM »
Em, thanks for the suggestion.  Yeah, I've heard of using Benadryl.  And doctors also recommend that for addicts.  I don't know yet if I'm going to try it; I think the insomnia is caused by the not smoking, and I can usually get pretty good sleep.

Summayya, I'm on Insentress and Truvada,is that what you're on?  Good luck.  I'm sure you'll be fine.

It stormed here pretty bad last night.  A house had the roof torn off, and there's electric out all over.  It was hot yesterday, in the 90's, and I guess that added fuel to the storm.  Nothing much else going on.  I believe we're in for more storms today.  I've got to get a different color on my hair.  I tried one yesterday, that was supposed to be just a highlighter, and now most of my hair is very light blonde.  That's what I used to have, and I want it a bit darker.  Light blonde is too hard to keep up, and I'm getting too old for this shit.                      Have a good one ladies.
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« Reply #42 on: June 19, 2010, 10:03:03 AM »
I'm on Truvada,Isentress andReyataz. On my way to the Mermaid Parade in Coney Island with my grandson.Should be fun.I hope everything alright after the storm Betty.I too want a new color n my hair.I often use extension when I want a new look.I wear lots of wigs as well.Good luck finding the right look. Well I'm off to takes my drugs.Later

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« Reply #43 on: June 20, 2010, 05:34:28 PM »
Hi GFs~

Firstly, welcome to Summayya and Blair.  I have been posting here since late 2007 when our long lost friend Cristy (cjc) started this thread.  I still think of her, Drag and Wendy.....  Glad to have Camms back!

I am exhausted today.  I told Ice I am sick of all of the clutter in the house, lol.  There's nowhere to put anything.  We had the ankle biters this weekend but they should be leaving soon.

I have lost 12 pounds since May 17th with the first Biggest Loser weigh-in.  I have only had one piece of chocolate and one piece of cake (Ice's 22yrs in AA), and no junk.  I have maybe 2 Diet Cokes a week now.  I use www.livestrong.com and www.caloriegallery.com to look up every damn thing I eat.  I'm a numbers nerd so I have kept Excel spreadsheets for each day since 5/17.  

I weigh in again tomorrow morning and I have done really well this past week, my weight FINALLY dropped into the 160's YAY!  I haven't been in the 160's since early 2008.  I am 5'5-1/2" tall.  Right now I am washing all of my capris in warm bec they are too big now, so after 5 weeks, the gut has decided to shrink some!

I have had a sore throat on and off for a week but it may be pollen overload.  Our AC system went on the fritz last Sunday and we bought a window unit on Monday for the bedroom.  The house was stifling for a few days but we replaced the entire AC and furnace on Thursday.  So much for paying off credit card debt.  The unit in our house was too small to cool it down and the AC just gave up.  A few neighbors on the street have gone thru the same thing.  The builder did a shit job 6 years ago and has since gone bankrupt!

Betty, hang in there with all that's gone on with your daughter and with your knee.  I feel so bad about all of the crap you have to deal with.  

Queen, I miss you bunches and hope you are staying cool this weekend.  Its hot as balls outside and I got heat exhaustion yesterday at the mall.

Ice has a red carpet event for us to go to for his bosses daughter on 6/26.  I had to shop for a dress and was trying on long gowns.  Nipped that in the bud and got a cocktail dress with some hoochie-mama shoes.  Its too hot to wear floor-length, not like I go anywhere that special all the time, lmao.  I would rather stay the hell home!  

Its Sunday and I feel like I need my weekend, I haven't rested yet!  I go to my dentist and endocrinologist tomorrow, so its a half day, just remembered, so maybe work won't be so bad!

More soon GFs, I miss Cheech like hell.

~ Cindy
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« Reply #44 on: June 21, 2010, 04:33:06 AM »
Summayya, I hope you had fun at the parade.

Cin, good to hear from you.  I couldn't imagine being without air during these past few weeks of skin-dampening humidity.  Glad you guys were able to get it fixed.  You know, I said I couldn't imagine it, but when I was growing up, we never had air, and somehow I survived.  I think back then I didn't notice it as much.   And congrats on the weight loss!  That's wonderful.  One of the hardest things, to me, is sticking to a diet.  Especially since I quit smoking (again).  Were you able to just dive right in, or was it hard at first for you?

Another week.  We should probably know by the end of this week, (maybe), if the place I'm working at is going to make it.  I know I've posted about it closing before, but last Thursday, the financial secretary said she had to look at the bank numbers, to make sure the church could make payroll this week.  She said hopefully the church would take in a good offering Sunday so she could.  That's not good.  I was talking to one of my sisters yesterday, and she mentioned me finding another job.  She doesn't understand that it's very hard for me to find one, because of my record.  I told her the only reason I got this job is because the pastor knew me, and didn't require a background check.  But, almost everything I see in the paper requires one, and I've never gotten a job where they've required one.  Hopefully, by the end of the year, I maybe can start the process on getting this taken care of.  Hopefully.           Alright, that's it for me.  You all have a good one.
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« Reply #45 on: June 23, 2010, 05:12:33 PM »
Hey ladies, it's been a little while.  I had been feeling depressed because of the physical stuff I was dealing with.  I just read that Moffie passed away.  I'm sad and confused.  I had been reading when he first got sick.  He had fevers and was checking in the doctors quite a bit. 

Anyway, don't have much to say right now...hope you ladies are hanging in there.

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« Reply #46 on: June 23, 2010, 07:48:56 PM »
Hey Ladies---

Sorry I haven't really been commenting lately. I have been going through some personal issues which has left me a bit depressed. But I keep telling myself that this too shall pass and just trying to ride out the emotions I am feeling. And with Moffie passing, I have been nothing but tears and crying. I chalk it up to the bs I am going through but Moffie will be missed no doubt. If I could be half as brave as he was when it comes to this virus, I would be happy.

Cindy, It is always great to hear from you, gf. I am glad you are still losing weight. I have been too but it is because I drink a lot of grapefruit juice. I have found out from the diet thread in Off Topic that grapefruit juice does not mix well with hiv meds so I am guessing you don't drink it. I am still not on meds yet but like you, a lot of my clothes have gotten a little big.

Betty--- So, you're going to lose your job due to not enough funding? I swear I didn't see you post that but then everything has kinda been a blur with me lately.


I would write more but I am not really up for it about now.... :'(
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« Reply #47 on: June 24, 2010, 04:30:17 AM »
Camms, I hope you get to feeling better soon.  Physical stuff, especially if it's pain, is hard to go through.

Queen, sorry to hear you're depressed.  PM me if you want to.  Maybe I can brighten your day a bit? ;D  I truly do hope you start feeling better soon.  And yeah, things do pass, but it's up until they pass that's hard to get through.   Yeah, where I work they're losing money fast.  It takes over $10,000/month to run the place, and they probably at the most, bring in $2000.  I work for a church, who does work with street people (I don't know if you knew that or not, sorry).  So, of course the street people don't have any money.  And there's only like 45 people who come to church there on Sundays, so that doesn't generate a lot of income.  I only know that, because I do their bulletin every week and put the #'s in there.  The boss just did an article in the paper, mostly for our food pantry, which hardly has any food in it right now.  It's gotten some interest, but mostly food, which doesn't pay the bills.  We also have breakfast Monday through Thursday (free breakfast), and people can take showers, do laundry, and we have a "clothes closet" from which people get gently used, clean clothes (for free).  I talk to many of them that are having problems with substance dependence, or mental health issues, both of which are extremely common in street people.                      Wow, sorry for the rant.

I also was very saddened to read about Moffie.  I talked to him about a year and 1/2 ago, when I was in Arizona.  He was a very nice man, and I know I'm going to miss him.  I've cried a couple times.  And I know he'll be missed around here.  He's like an icon now.                       Alright ladies, have a good one.
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« Reply #48 on: June 26, 2010, 12:36:34 PM »
Just checking in with you ladies. I am feeling better and just wanted to tell you so guys wouldn't be worried. And I am trying to reach Lvl 80 in Warcraft. I am so close to getting there too. I know you ladies have no clue what I am talking about so just nod ya head and act like ya do... ;D
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« Reply #49 on: June 27, 2010, 08:35:29 AM »
Good morning ladies-

Queen - ha ha, I don't play anymore but when I got Resident Evil I played 15 hours to finish the game.  I bought the ps2 for my ex husband and found myself completely engaged.

Betty-  Thanks, I'm starting to suspect that  vicodin was making me feel worse after a while.  I figured I stopped  vicodin and try another pain relief or method.  I read on another post you take advil which I started and I never had a problem previously (I had been taking it until I read posts about how bad it was with Truvada). Stopping it really made me feel good.   Well, I had my wisdom teeth pulled and the docs gave make 7.5 of vicodin which is very strong.  I cut them in half, and I woke up this morning feeling like I was a 75 year old.  My foks are almost 70 and I can guarantee they felt better than me.  I did start lifting when I switched pain relievers and started a cardio program, and it made a difference.  Today is the last day I'll be on this junk.

As for your church, I didn't  realize the extensiveness of the outreach program.  Such a shame.  Sounds like a great program with a bad budget  with little income. Or maybe a great budget, but if you don't have the income it's all for naught.  You mentioned that your job is on the fence.  Is that inevitable in the near future?  You waited so long to find a job and now it's time so step back and think about a new job search.   It must be frustrating.  I've been  there.....well, actually I'm kinda of there now.  ???

Well hope you enjoy this hot, sauna hot sunday.

Hugs to you,

Camms
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« Reply #50 on: June 27, 2010, 12:01:48 PM »
Camms-- Now I know me and you would get along...That is my fave game. I have a Ps3 but I really don't like it because they don't make games I like for it. It seems like the Wii has all the Resident Evil games now. I have Umbrella Chronicles which is for the Wii. Yeah, I bought the Wii. Gonna go to Gamestop and trade the PS3 in for the Wii Fitness. Also, if you're into the Resident Evil movies, the next one comes out in September.
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« Reply #51 on: June 27, 2010, 05:37:39 PM »
Camms, I take Ibuprofen, 600 mgs up to 3 times a day.  I'm also on Truvada, and have had no ill effects.  I know all about ES Vicodin.  I used to be on that, besides Morphine, Xanax, Valium and an amphetamine, just to keep my eyes open a few hours each day. :D  But, that's been almost 5 years ago.

I've heard Ibuprofen shouldn't be mixed with Truvada; but, as I've said, I've been on both for awhile; Ibuprofen for years and years, and Truvada since last October or November.  Nothing bad happening.
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« Reply #52 on: June 27, 2010, 08:12:51 PM »
HI GF"S Its been a while I  know just took a break from posting. I see we have new members, Shoutout and welcome!!!
Hope all is well. I have been busy, church, choir- they finally let me lead a song, interssory prayer group, vacation bible school- taught arts and crafts, sisterhood teen overnite!!!
How about I gave my testimony in front of the whole church???!!!!! thats 2,000 active members. the subject was healing and I said I have aids and I don't care who don't like me !!
Well I made myself sort of a celebrity after that ,cause everyones been kissing and huggging up your girl and made a lot of new friends! Poweful testimony!!! my pastor said. Then I got to lead a song Fathers's Day and I got a lot of thank you's, you really bless me!
WElll hope all is well, Watching Bet Awards, later
ps when will be able to post pics?? BTW Lucy says HI, shes 10 month old and sleeping with her mama, spoiled!!!
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« Reply #53 on: June 28, 2010, 04:23:16 AM »
Netta, that's wonderful!  Congrats, and I sure would love to hear you sing sometime.  I think I've still got your number-maybe sometime I can call and you can sing over the phone.    Great news!
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« Reply #54 on: June 28, 2010, 09:41:30 PM »
Good Monday Evening Ladies---

I guess I will just comment on what is being said here because I really don't have much to talk about. I have decided that sometime in the near future, maybe by the end of summer, I am going to get a little dog. But I can't decide if I want a chihauhua or a Yorkie. I was watching Dogs101 on the animal channel. I am leaning more towards the chihuahua because it is low maintenance. I'll keep ya posted on that.

Netta--- I am glad you are feeling much better and doing all those things.
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« Reply #55 on: June 29, 2010, 09:01:15 AM »
Good Morning-

Queen-  Resident Evil films I've actually seen in the movies.  I'm a real film snob, but I have a weakness for apocalyptic zombie/horror films. It's shameful some of the films I've watched...Zombie Nazis takes the cake :D. Silent Hill was another game I played for hours...incredibly creepy.

Betty-  Wow that's a lot of pills. Were you taking them all everyday or just whatever you could can your hands on. You've beaten so many addictions. Did you have to go to rehab for the pills?   Whatever you did It's incredibly admirable.  What worries me is that I'm on Ativan and I know the benzo's are the worst to stop. I have really bad tinnitus, but I hate taking this stuff.  I've already started tapering off and yes,  I know it will take a long time.

Netta- That sounds like an incredible moment at the church.  I remember when a great man came out and told his story.  The reaction was similar.  What he didn't know is that I was sitting in the audience, newly dx'd. He made me feel that I wasn't so  alone.  You probably did the same thing.  You never know who you affected that day.  It also took a lot of courage :)

Well, have to take my dog to the vet.  Oh yes, Queen, go with the chihuahua.  I hear some yorkies can be yappers.

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« Reply #56 on: June 29, 2010, 09:38:38 AM »
Good Mornting, How is everyone??fine I hope. Yes, ladies I forgot to mention, a well dressed young man came up to me after church that day and told me he was positive! He was very encouraged and we hugged.
A kodak moment.
Ladies has anyone been able to post any pics yet??? I miss looking at your pic avatars!
I am going to play around and try. I have been obsessed with learning about growing my natural hair! I am not going to loc, just want to be able to wear different styles. My hair is very thick and I have been using homemade products I learned from the internet.
Anyone watch the BET awards ??? Prince really shocked me! I am curious to know if he is hiv+ , not my business, but some things he said made me think....Oh he didn't sing. He looked very fragile, big as my arm,serious, either he is anorexic or something, about 100lbs if that . he was balding on side of his hair, he looked bad, lots of makeup  and high heels, I really love him but I am worried about him, This is what he said when he recived the life time acheivement award, "I was wild back in the day, you don't have to make the same mistakes I made" Then he said he would treasure the award for the rest of his life. hummmmm??????He seemed sad. What do you all think???
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« Reply #57 on: June 29, 2010, 01:29:18 PM »
Netta-

Regarding Prince, he a jehovah's witness now which he continually reflects on his sinful past with shame.  He takes it very seriously.  However, I think his choice of clothing was his real problem... the little version of himself (little prince) on his shirt was a bit odd.  He's had some health issues with his hips, but because of his spiritual beliefs he isn't addressing them currently.   I'm sure that's why he may not be looking all that great.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prince_%28musician%29
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« Reply #58 on: June 29, 2010, 02:13:19 PM »
Netta, there is a thread stickied at the top of the Off Topic forum - it's currently second from the top - that tells you how to post photos. You can no longer add them as attachments, you have to do them inline (that means in the body of the post) now.

If you need more help than that thread offers, PM me with your specific question or problem and I'll see if I can't help you out.

And way to go with the talk - and getting solos too! I remember ages ago when some woman at your church was somehow blocking you from doing solos. You rock, girl!
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« Reply #59 on: June 29, 2010, 05:43:17 PM »
Ok, now I am really going to have to watch the BET Awards. From what I read, it was off the hook. Chris Brown did a dedication to Michael and there was not a dry eye in the house. It sounds to me like he is slowly being forgiven for his past transgressions. I wanted to watch it because Prince got the Lifetime Achievement Award. Someone in Off Topic posted the pic of him on the latest cover of Ebony magazine. He looks good for his age just all those splits caught up with him. That is how he messed it up in the first place.

Camms---Yes, I use to play Silent Hill too. And I have quite the movie collection with some zombie movies in there such as all the Resident Evil movies, Day of the Dead, and Land of the Dead. I want to get the original Night of the Living Dead. I just love George Romero. And is likely how Resident Evil video games got started no doubt. I just went out earlier today and bought the Wii Fitness.

Yeah, I almost forgot to mention that. I have heard nothing but good things about it. I am still a little shy about working out in the gym. It has a BMI thingy on it, that measures fat loss doesn't it? Plus I can exercise at my own rate. For now I will leave Bally's for my bf. It has Yoga, aerobics and a few other things on it I can't wait to try.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #60 on: June 29, 2010, 05:56:18 PM »
Camms, I quit all the pills at once, cold turkey.  It's not something I recommend.  I was in a mental health facility when I did it, and was pretty freaked out.  Actually, the pills had me so far down (plus the doctor also had me on large doses of estrogen and Provera), I ended up in a nursing home.  I acted so bizarre that they court-ordered me into the mental health place.  And that's when I stopped everything.  It was an extremely difficult withdrawal. I was in bed for three days (and I mean, I didn't get out).  Then, a couple nurses rolled me into the showers, and gave me, well, a shower.  Then I went into an intensive outpatient program that dealt with addictions when I got out.  Funny, I quit heroin when I found out I was pregnant, booze when I was 24, but the pills were the hardest things to deal with (or not deal with since I don't take that mix anymore).  Like I said, I don't recommend cold turkey'ing from benzos, narcotics and amphetamines.  People can end up in serious medical trouble (seizures can happen).  I'm assuming the medical staff was monitoring me those 3 days; I was so out of it, I don't remember too much.  And it took a bit over a year to get my head completely straight.  Example:  I went into the outpatient treatment probably 2 weeks after I got out of the mental health facility.  I used to wear things like sweat pants with shorts over them (my favorite were Korn shorts).  In other words, I wasn't thinking clearly.  I'm extremely grateful I can still think some, you know, that my brain still works a little bit. 

Queen, let me know how you like the Wii program you got.

Netta, I didn't see the BET awards.  I've always loved Prince though.  I used to dance a lot of numbers to his songs.

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« Reply #61 on: June 30, 2010, 09:36:54 AM »
Good morning-

Betty-

That sounds really intense.  We're you conscious enough to know "I don't want to be here" in the nursing home or you were just so zonked it didn't matter?  The amount of ativan I take is about 1-2 mg.  I finished the pain killers for my tooth so that's a done deal.  I started tapering yesterday and I know it will be a long road.  I don't have any personality changes, like gym shorts over my pants or anything else I can think of.  Like I said in my earlier post, kudos to you.  Those are all serious addictions and each one you nailed.  You're a tough woman.  I bet you would make a great counselor.

Queen-  How's the Wii so far?  I love Romero.  I met him and Clive Barker (weird dude) at film school.  My teacher (roy frumkes) was best friends with him and he was a zombie in dawn of the dead ha ha.  Land of the Dead was on last night and G asked "this is right up your alley" and I replied "Saw it!".   There is a funny mockumentary about filmmakers who start filming "the living dead".  The living dead are trying to make it back into a civilized culture...returning to the things they love.  They talk and behave normally.  I have to find out the name ....you'll get a kick out of it.

Work today on my portfolio.  Take the doggie out first before she starts shoving her head between my arm  while on the computer.


Have a good one.

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« Reply #62 on: June 30, 2010, 05:54:27 PM »
Camms, I was pretty much wasted, so while being in the nursing home wasn't fun, I don't think at that time there was any other alternative.  It's hard to explain.  You would have actually had to have seen me, and how I was acting to know what I mean.  I was not fun to either look at nor be around.  I was hearing voices through the walls plotting against me, and seeing people come into my room after me.  That all stopped once I was off the mix of pills.  Believe me, I learned my lesson.  And it was one psychiatrist prescribing all that (plus a sedative).  I don't believe he still practices.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #63 on: June 30, 2010, 10:34:21 PM »
Queen-  How's the Wii so far?  I love Romero.  I met him and Clive Barker (weird dude) at film school.  My teacher (roy frumkes) was best friends with him and he was a zombie in dawn of the dead ha ha.  Land of the Dead was on last night and G asked "this is right up your alley" and I replied "Saw it!".   There is a funny mockumentary about filmmakers who start filming "the living dead".  The living dead are trying to make it back into a civilized culture...returning to the things they love.  They talk and behave normally.  I have to find out the name ....you'll get a kick out of it.

I am loving the Wii Fitness. It has a lot of things on it like Yoga which helps with breathing, posture, and stretching. Then you have the option of working on target areas. For me this is my stomach. There is also a hoola hoop game, that is my favorite so far. It has the BMI thing which shows you what normal is and mine is. It says normal is 22, mine is 26. And for my height I should weigh 125, I think that is a little too skinny for me. It weighs you too, I am at 150 right now but it showed me how much weight I lost with changing my diet. I lost 12 pounds just doing that so I know if I stay motivated and work at my own pace I should be able to get down to 135. Thats where I want to be.
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« Reply #64 on: July 01, 2010, 09:28:13 AM »
Betty-  That sounds really terrifying. Once voice, my own is enough to listen too, but when audible hallucinations occur that's enough to make me just feel like curling up.   I seriously hope that doctor is long gone because if he was doing it to you, I'm afraid to think if other people were affected by  his pill generosity.  The altered states that you've experienced is really unbelievable.  When you look back at the situation do you think "wow that was some scary  effed up stuff, or does it feel like another lifetime?  How is the job at this point? 

Queen- I started exercising about a week ago.  But yesterday I had a chance to realize that I was in need of cardio.  I've been thinking about the Wii.  I was walking my dog with another person and her dog.  She stepped on a yelllow jacket nest and screamed run.   I was booking through the woods so fast....full sprint for a half a mile.  Her back yard rests on the woods so we run directly  into the house. She is stung all over.  I didn't get one sting. She smokes 2 packs and was able to keep up with me and  I was running out of breathe.  I collapsed on the couch and thought I was gonna die right there.  I said, 'more cardio is needed in my life'.
Have you tried the yoga programs at all?

Film school memories were both an time of learning /art genius and pretentious a holes.  I went to SVA in NYC which is a 4 year art school.  I met some amazing people some famous some not.  I saw a film everyday for a year and sometimes two.  I worked in the film business for a couple of years after graduating.  But, I'm  not cut out for the film business. Lots of sleeziness and back stabbing.  You gain relationships with you really come to love and repsect, and then some of these people would take you down just to make themselves feel better about their crappy lives.   I know a lot of business have that in general but it's predominant in the film world.

Well have a great day.  Hope it's sunny by you Betty.  I know us tristate folks are enjoying fall like weather.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #65 on: July 01, 2010, 01:30:05 PM »
Queen- I started exercising about a week ago.  But yesterday I had a chance to realize that I was in need of cardio.  I've been thinking about the Wii.  I was walking my dog with another person and her dog.  She stepped on a yelllow jacket nest and screamed run.   I was booking through the woods so fast....full sprint for a half a mile.  Her back yard rests on the woods so we run directly  into the house. She is stung all over.  I didn't get one sting. She smokes 2 packs and was able to keep up with me and  I was running out of breathe.  I collapsed on the couch and thought I was gonna die right there.  I said, 'more cardio is needed in my life'.
Have you tried the yoga programs at all?

It is day 2 for me on exercising. Yes, I start out with the Yoga for warm up and stretching. It also helps with your balance. Then I usually play the Hoola Hoop game it has which helps with my tummy area. But it is fun too. It has basic workouts you can do until you can do the advance workouts. I do the aerobics and running for cardio. I started yesterday working out for 30 minutes. Today I worked out for an hour. I like how it keeps track of your BMI and weight. Do you have a Wii already? If not, it costs 199. The Wii fitness board and workout game costs 100 bucks,they come together. But if you have an old system or games, you can trade it in for store credit at GameStop. That's what I did. I traded in my ps3 and got 200 buck store credit. I was able to get the Wii fitness and board, my bf got the psp.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #66 on: July 01, 2010, 05:47:46 PM »
Camms, looking back on that period of time, reminds me of how awful addiction can be in my life.  There were scarey periods when I shot heroin, and got drunk almost every day, but I never hallucinated.  That was some scarey shit.    The job is stll here for now.  The treasurer's husband was in today, and was looking at what we owe, compared to what we have, and he told the pastor, if there's anyone she can tap for money, to do it.  The pastor is pretty lame; I hate to say it, but she is.  She lies, and she's a horrible gossip.  I know pastors are human, but when people take certain careers, there are certain expectations.  So anyway, I'm still employed, but no one knows for how long.  It's pretty tense with the few of us who are employed there.   The weather the past 4 days has been just lovely.  Right now, it's only 76, and hardly any humidity at all.          I'm sure in film business there's a lot of back stabbing.  How are things with you job wise?     This fall, I'm enrolled in a state university (Indiana State,  South Bend), to take a Master's Certificate in Alcohol & Drug Counseling.  I hope I can make it through that. 

Queen, that Wii sounds pretty cool.  I've thought before about getting one.  The only problem I have, as I know you know, is wth my knees.  I can't do any exercise that involves any jumping or running.  Is there other stuff you think I may be able to do?  All I'm doing right now is working on my arms, and gut.

My sister from Arizona, and niece from Baltimore should be here by the 4th.  We're supposed to have a cookout at my sister's in Michigan's (I live about 20 minutes from the stateline).  I've also taken Tuesday off, and as you all probably know, the church is always closed on Friday.  And they'll be closed on Monday, for the 4th holiday.  So, I've got 6 days off.  I'd love to do a dance, but I would look ridiculous.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #67 on: July 02, 2010, 09:56:01 AM »
Queen, that Wii sounds pretty cool.  I've thought before about getting one.  The only problem I have, as I know you know, is wth my knees.  I can't do any exercise that involves any jumping or running.  Is there other stuff you think I may be able to do?  All I'm doing right now is working on my arms, and gut.

They have other things you can do besides the game for running. There is a hoola hoop game, my fave where you move your hips like you were working a real hoola hoop. And you have to stand on the fitness board to play it. There is also Yoga to help you stretch and breathe.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #68 on: July 02, 2010, 12:22:35 PM »
Hello GF's Everyone ok ?
Camms- I went to School of Visual Arts also! but had to drop out when I got pregnant. I always wanted t o go back for Art Therapy but never did.

Queen, my grands have a Wii that I helped buy last year. I have been meaning to get the fitness one you have , maybe now I will, just have to get the funds.
Betty - glad you have a nice weekend planned !!
Hope everyone has a nice weekend. My oldest grand will be 13,on Monday! I am also invited to a cookout an water gun fight by my godson, in the park. I might go, the kids will be at there other grandma and father. My daughter will be with her boyfriend. So that leaves me and Lucy! Btw Lucy was shedding and getting matted so she had to have all her hair cut, she looks like a poodle!! lol she looks cute actually. Thanks Ann /
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« Reply #69 on: July 03, 2010, 03:40:37 PM »
Netta-  Wow, what years?  I went from 1987 to 1991.  That's really cool.  I wonder if we had the same teachers since the first year we have required classes not necessarily relating to our majors.

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« Reply #70 on: July 04, 2010, 01:29:00 PM »
I hope everyone is enjoying their day today with loved ones and friends. I had plans to go to Coney Island today but changed my mind. It's just too hot, it's in the 90's. I got an outfit, hair done and everything. But I still have a BBq I have to go to this weekend so I'll just wear it then. But going to cook some grilled steak, corn on the cob and potato salad..Yum
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« Reply #71 on: July 04, 2010, 02:48:12 PM »
sounds good Queen, wish I was there! going to a cookout at  the park for a while, just to get out. I am perfectly happy here watching movies! Queen you think its hot there !!!!
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #72 on: July 05, 2010, 07:55:02 PM »
Hey ladies--

Just briefly checking in. It was hot today, it was 97 degrees out. Thank Goodness I have an ac in my room, the rest of the apartment was hot until around 5. I had to wait for it to cool down in order to cook.

My sister has been keeping me updated on my son. He finally did find a job through a temp agency. But he is upset that the halfway house takes 10 percent for him staying there. And another 10 percent in like a savings for him so that when he leaves he will have a piece of change. He has already missed curfew once, they took away his priviledges for a day. But already his temper is starting to get the best of him. He says he doesn't like the way people talk to him at the halfway house. He had the same problem when he was in bootcamp. I talked to him about this before. And oh yeah, he may have some girl pregnant. She is not sure yet. She has made an appointment with a doctor. Once again, I had this talk with him when I went back home. I am praying it is a false alarm. I am disappointed and frustrated with him. It's like everything I told him went in one ear and out the other.

I told my sister I refuse to let the situation stress me out. Or anyone else in the family. My son is grown. He will learn from his mistakes, I hope. I hate to sound selfish but my only concern is me. There are still some things I need to be doing to be stressed about my son's life. He has already asked to come visit. Though he knows he is still on paper. I was shocked he even asked but I told him not while he was still on paper. My sister I don't get along with is a hater, if she knew he left town to see me she would call his probation officer. But I am thinking why wasn't he thinking like I was? I am also thinking that my son is going to slide back into his old ways. I truly hope not but with this current news, I have to wonder.

Just a small note: I am hooked on the games on Facebook. If I send an invite to you please accept it and just start the game. Even if you just play it for 5 minutes. I will need to add you as a neighbor in 3 games, that is it. So, please can you help a sister out? Tyvm... ;)
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« Reply #73 on: July 06, 2010, 07:44:52 AM »
Hey Netta, how was the cookout at the park?

Queen, I'm sorry for what your son's going through (and putting you through).  I know you say your only concern is you, but I can tell from your post that you're still a bit stressed about it.  And who can blame you?  My daughter causes me concern all the time.  I know I made a ton of mistakes growing up, so I'm sure my mom used to stress about me also.  But, we learned from our mistakes, and sometimes it seems our kids don't (learn).  I hope the girl's pregnancy test is negative, and I hope your son's situation at the half-way house improves.  It's hard being in a place where you have to listen to someone else's rules.  This last time I got clean, and was in the mental health facility, I just wanted to be out, to have my own place etc.   But, that's the price I had to pay.  I'll be thinking of ya, girl, and pulling for your son.  And oh, I'm not on facebook.  Several people have told me I should join, but I just don't like spending that much time on the computer.  Maybe some day.

Yesterday I went to Detroit to see my mom's only living sibling (aunt) and some of my cousins.  I went with my sister from Arizona, and niece from Baltimore, and sister and brother-in-law from Michigan.  It was a one day thing, and boy, is that a long time to be in the car for a day.  Luckily I didn't have to drive.  But, it was a good day.  My aunt is 86, and still gets around.  She drove us to this restaurant where we met some of our cousins.  We had a great visit.  I'm so glad I went.  I was debating on it before, and one of my friends said it's better to go, than not to, and regret it later.  I took today off work.  My sister and niece, who are in town, were supposed to be coming over here today, which is another reason I took today off.  My niece told me yesterday she has to do all this paperwork to get into this graduate (master's) program.  So, my sister is supposed to be over sometime, hopefully.  Then tonight, we're all supposed to go out to eat.  Then my sister (from AZ) and niece are leaving tomorrow. 

So, I've been off work since last Friday.  And time flew by way too quickly.  Tomorrow it's back to normal, whatever that is.             Have a good one.
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« Reply #74 on: July 08, 2010, 08:29:51 PM »
Glad everone had a good weekend! the park was nice. plenty of food, but I wasn't hungry!! lol We stayed till evening and watched the fire works. Monday I cooked on my grill for my grandaughters birthday. she turned 13.
Queen- don't get stressed about your son, and NO he cannot come to visit yo uwhile he is on paper !!!!!! dON'T GIVE IN! Don't help him get himself in any more trouble!!
You have your own life to live, just pray for him. He has to learn to eat humvle pie till he can do better!!! Glad he found a job!
BTW the lawyer called and said I have to wait till end of August to get court date. :'( oh well! and BTW2- Lucy has gone into heat ! help! she started her period! help lol help!!! I can't wait till nex month to get her spaded! I bought her baby diapers but she tears them off, help !!! the pet store diapers were too exspensive but I guess I'll have to get them anyhow/ help !!!!! lol
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« Reply #75 on: July 09, 2010, 08:22:54 AM »
hi ladies

been a loooong time!

netta - dogs menstruate? funny i didnt know that...wonder if they have doggy-tampons.. ha ha.  great to hear about your testimony at church, im sure you touched a lot of hearts and lives

your majesty - im happy to hear u're all set up in your new apartment. sorry about the trouble with your son. you're right though. he is grown and should be responsible for his own actions. but as a mother you probly cant help but worry huh

BT- yay you! good for you going to college again. 

life here is same ol' same ol'.  EVERYBODY is telling me im getting fat and i hate it.  im trying to diet but its hopeless. guess i have to drag my fat ass to the gym coz that may be the only way i may lose the extra fat. i blame the meds. yeah thats it.

looking forward to sunday for the world cup final! my boyfriend picked netherlands to win.  i was so sure Germany would win but thats out the window now. so now i have to support spain to win. and also becoz Paul the Octopus say so..

catch u later.. have a great weekend y'all

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« Reply #76 on: July 09, 2010, 02:51:25 PM »
Hi Ladies,

I'm finally caught up on this tread. Good to see people coming back and posting.

Netta, lol, my Lab Lucy came out of heat a few weeks ago and it's no fun as you know. All in all it takes about three weeks to be over with. Take my advice and buy the special panties. They are adjustable and just buy cheap pads from a drug store (or panty liners). Don't let the pet store talk you into buying the special doggy pads. I had to change Lucy's pads after several hours. Change regulary or they may try to eat the pad! I know this is gross but I have gone through 3 heats with her. At one point I had to stop putting pads in the panties (just wash the panties and dry on low) because the pads kept disappearing and of course she had eaten parts of them. That can't be good, so just keep an eye on her. Anyway, good luck, LOL!!!

I may post more late, just kind of tired now, but you ladies have me looking at my Wii that has been sitting untouched for quite some time. Time to break out the Wii Fit again I guess!
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #77 on: July 10, 2010, 12:57:01 PM »
Hey Gang--

Haven't been posting due to the heat really. Not much going on here. I am still working out though I had to take a break when the heatwave came through last week. But I have been using my bf's AB-rocker since I have been over his house. When I go back home tomorrow, I will get back to the Wii Fit. Too bad we can't work out together, Holly on our Wiis.I have also decided to cut back on toking the good green. I realized I have been smoking too much and I also have quit smoking. It has only been 2 days on the smoking but I am going to try to stick with it this time. I don't have anything stressing me out so I should be able to do it.

I knew dogs got periods cause my bff's cat has them when she goes into heat. And the sounds she makes can drive you crazy. My bff sticks her cat in the basement when she starts making the noises. Then all the boy cats would mark her porch. That's why when I get animals, I get males.

Good to hear from you, Tendai. I am not into soccer like that but it amazes me how people have gotten into it. I went to Burger King the other day and they had it on in there. I was more interested in where Lebron James was going in basketball. And I predicted it would be with the Miami Heat. So basketball season is going to be looking good. I get bored when the same team wins every year.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #78 on: July 10, 2010, 06:20:23 PM »
Tendai, so good to hear from you!  I hope your team wins in the Cup.

Queen, congrats on the smoking!  Tomorrow will be one month for me (though when I was smoking this last time, it was only 7 cigs a day).  And about the cat/female animal thing.... I get my animals fixed, or make sure they've been fixed when I adopt them (male or female).  I couldn't stand to listen to female cats in heat.  I have one kitty, a female, but she was spayed a long time ago.

Nothing going on here, really.  It's been awfully hot, but that's most of the country right now.  I hope everyone has a good weekend.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #79 on: July 12, 2010, 02:33:08 PM »
Good Monday Ladies---

I hope all is well with you all. I woke up today on the right side of the bed...lol..I feel really good today for some reason. Not that I am complaining but I kinda feel at peace. Goddess knows I haven't felt like this for awhile. I am just gonna roll with it. Maybe I have a little extra energy due to working out, Idk.

Just sitting here watching the soaps, listening to music on my ipod, and posting here. I spent the last few days over my bf's house. We go to both our places but he likes me to be at his house so I can save on my electric bill. He doesn't have to pay utilities. It wasn't but 46 bucks last month which I was surprised considering that I run an ac when I am there.

Betty, I stopped smoking Newports but from time to time now I will go to the store and buy a Black n Mild when I get the urge for a cigarette. Not because I am stressed now but simply out of habit. I notice I want to smoke when I get up in the morning and after I eat dinner. And I just found out cigs went up again, now they are like 11 bucks a pack. It's definitely time to stop.


Well, I am going to keep riding out on this good vibe I am feeling. Have a good day ladies
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #80 on: July 13, 2010, 05:35:09 PM »
Queen, wow, you took me back with the mention of a Black & Mild.  A friend of mine and myself used to smoke those when we would play cards.  I haven't had one in awhile.    And yeah, I notice wanting a cigarette mostly in the morning, when I have coffee.  Sometimes after meals, but more in the morning.  Hang in there!  I agree, they're way too expensive.  And you pay more than I would here in Hoosierville.

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #81 on: July 14, 2010, 11:22:40 AM »
HI GF'S how is everyone? fine I hope. Nothing much here but heat and rain! last nite was a bad storm, lightining, thunder, rain. we had all the candles ready, lights went on an off and of course the youngest grand is scared!!!
Tendai Glad to hear from you!
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #82 on: July 19, 2010, 11:45:10 PM »
Wow, I see it has been majorly slow up in here. I haven't been posting much because I have been on Facebook a whole lot lately. And I usually chat with a few of you ladies there. I hope everyone is doing ok.

The heat has been hell over here too. I went to a BBQ over the weekend and thouight I was going to faint. But I ended up having fun. Has anyone experienced heat bumps, I guess that is what they are, where the bumps seem to get big and fill up with a lot of blood? I have been experiencing this a lot and they are very painful. I seem to get them in the worst places, the latest being towards the back of my va-jay jay. If anyone can help me out with this problem I would appreciate it.

Now to change the subject, has anyone been peeping RuPaul's Drag U on Logo? Tonight was the first episode. I sooooooo want to be on that show. What can I say, I am a fag hag if you didn't know by now.

Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #83 on: July 20, 2010, 10:28:49 AM »
Queen, you're scaring me. Heat bumps don't fill with blood and they don't usually happen in the area of your va-jay-jay. Get to a doctor!!! Please!!!

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/understanding-heat-rash-basics

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #84 on: July 20, 2010, 08:37:00 PM »
Thanks Ann for the link. I talked to my oldest sister about it. She seemed to know what I was talking about and gave me the medical name for it. I can't remember what she said it was called but it is common in diabetics. She told me it was a good thing that the "bump or boil" burst. She said if I had gone to a doctor that they would have cut it open so that it would drain. It is still draining but I still feel some hardness around the area where it burst at.

My sister has a hard time with Facebook too though I do not understand why. It seems quite simple to me. Since being on there I have found a few old friends and a lot of family on there. But I like playing the games too. You have to be patient like I told my sister and just mess around on it.
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #85 on: July 22, 2010, 08:41:53 PM »
Hi Ladies...... :)

How is everyone doing?  Trying to survive the summer, I guess.

I have just been hanging out with the kids and trying to get stuff done around the house.  We had a big tree fall in our yard from our neighbors house, we are waiting for them to come home from vacation so they can see it and see if thier insurance will cover the whole thing or  ifwe will have to take care of the tree in our yard.  I really don't have the 500 to cover the deductible to replace the fence.


I hope everyone is staying cool and having a nice summer!

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #86 on: July 22, 2010, 09:05:35 PM »
Hey gfs
Just driving bye and thought I would stop and say hi to everyone. Trying to stay cool in all of this heat  I am still with my guy, things are going good for us.  Will stop back when i have some time to write.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #87 on: July 23, 2010, 02:54:04 PM »
Queen, I'm hoping those bumps aren't anything serious.  You don't seem to think so, so I'm hoping not.

Snow, I hope you don't have to pay for the clean-up of the tree.  I read in some other thread, where you posted about dancing.  That's funny, because last year, I used to do that sometimes.  It was a way to exercise, that wasn't boring and repetitive. 

Mary, glad you and your man are doing alright.

It's been steamy here, just like it has every place else.  Work is, as usual, unstable, but whatever.  I get tired of worrying about it. 

I got a bit bold today and made this chicken recipe I saw on t.v.   It's boneless, skinless chicken breasts, stuffed with pecans, blue cheese crumbles, and green onions, and wrapped in bacon.  I won't know how they are until tomorrow, since I've already eaten today.  I got them from a show on the Food network.  I hope they're good.

Ann, I'm sending you a pm about posting avatars now.  I can't figure it out, and am not techy in the least.                                       Hope everyone has a good weekend!
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #88 on: July 24, 2010, 07:48:23 AM »
Good Morning My Ladies---

No, I am not just getting up. I have not been to sleep yet. I just couldn't go to sleep for some reason. Maybe it's because of the date I went out on last night, Idk. Yes, I went out on a date to Times Square with someone I met off of the personals. I had fun even though we got caught in the rain. And I can actually say I forgot what it's like to have fun. We made plans to go to the movies next week. I am not sure what we are going to see yet. He is going to surprise me. I feel giddy as hell, it's been a long time since I felt this way. Not to worry, I am not rushing into anything, neither one of us is and I think that is the beauty of the thing. Usually after a break up I get all depressed and shit but not this time. I have not shed a tear and I am proud of myself for that. I am not bitter but I consider it another one of life's lessons. All I can do is learn from it and move the hell on. I even wish my ex the best even though he has some demons. Maybe the next woman he gets with can help him with that, more power to her if she can because she is going to have her work cut out for her. That's for sure. I know he likes to jump on here and read my posts. So let me say THANK YOU for DUMPING ME, you did me a favor!!!!! I am single again,drama free, and happy as can be.

Well, it's going on 8am. I am going to try once again to go to sleep. My new avy is one of the pics I took while in Times Square......Have a good one, ladies!!!! I know I will.... ;)
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10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #89 on: July 29, 2010, 12:34:03 AM »
Wow, I can't believe how quiet it has been in here. I guess everyone is just that busy. Let me say that the tears finally did come, I guess they needed to. And the guy I went out with to Times Square, I had to kick to the curb. And then another date cancelled out on me. Why? Because I would not sleep with him on the first date. I was truly like WTF? Don't men have any morals anymore or is all about a quick hump? If that is the case, I guess I am going to be alone for a long time. I have never been one to sleep with someone on the first date and I don't plan on doing it now. Even if I am feeling a little bit lonely.

I am thinking maybe I need to take this time to do some other things I need to do. I mean I was single and independent before I had got with my ex. But at the same time I can't help but miss him. I think maybe I am going about this the wrong way. In order to get over him I don't need to get with someone else but then too much time to think about shit can be a dangerous thing for someone like me. But I truly am all alone and feel that way more than ever.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #90 on: July 29, 2010, 07:02:41 AM »
Queen, it's always been hard for me to get used to being alone when I ended relationships.  It takes (unfortunately) time, that's all.  Getting with someone else won't truly help you get over your ex, if you miss him that much.  At least for me, only time will.  I remember when I used to split frequently with my first husband, and went with other men.  I still missed him. 

It must also be hard for you, because of being in a city you're not totally used to.  Do you have any other friends there you can hang out with?  Have you contacted an ASO, and maybe see if there's any support groups.  You're in New York, I'm sure there are lots of support groups.  I'm not saying you have to go and pour your heart out; but it may be a place to make new friends.  Just a suggestion, I'm not, of course, saying you have to do it. 

Have you found a doctor yet for the HIV and the diabetes?  That would take up some time also. 

I hope you get to feeling happier.  I'm thinking about you, as always. :-*
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #91 on: July 29, 2010, 01:57:28 PM »
Thanks Betty. I appreciate the advice. I really don't like doing groups, I am more of a one on one person. I have been thinking about seeing a therapist, maybe the one I saw when I was in the shelter. I have her card somewhere, I am going to have to try to find it somewhere. I liked her and she explained to me once why I have the problems I have with men. Last night was a rough night for me, indeed. I have been chatting with a few guys on Yahoo or on my phone. But I have been keeping it real with them, explaining that I am not trying to be in a relationship. Some people feel it is alright to rebound but I just can't do it because I don't feel it is right.

No, I have not found any doctors yet. A friend told me about one in Manhattan. He said when I was ready to go that he would take me. It's where he goes and he says the doctor is good. Thanks for the support, I really appreciate it... :-*
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #92 on: July 30, 2010, 12:21:30 PM »
HELLO LADIES! , I'm still breathing in this 100.degree weather, lol. been keeping busy, mostly the pc and keeping cool staying in. I went to my ID doc Tuesday. Had to get blood work, since its been a whille. I was told I have a fatty liver and should watch my diet ! ok I am happily 140lbs ! the nutritionist  said to lose 10lbs! NO way!!! it took me long enough to get here! lol,Remember I was losing weight and muscle mass when I was going thru with the husband, and I was down to 127 lbs ???? I  looked wasted, everone was concerned. Oh thy put me on colestoral meds also, which I have yet to take, been taking omega fish oil and flaxseed oil.
Grands are gettin ready to go back to school next week !!! August 3rd. WOW time goes fast.
I am in a new gospel singing group that my girlfreind started and it is awesome! just rehearsing so far. I am also in the intercessory prayer ministry and starting a gospel mime ministry with the teens at church. Once my background check has been approved. I am so excited about it. If you've never seen gospel mimes got to you tube and type in gospel mimes, you will be in for a treat. I had to write a proposal and meet with youth pastor, who is also excited. My grandaughter did a gospel mime t her camp awards cerimony last week.

Queen- you need to go back to therapy, believe me it works !!! Knowing you are not sleeping tells me you are not taking your antidepressants! which is bad. Please know you can't stop and start them, because the side effects will mess you up !!! you will be on an emotional rollercoaster!!!!! There are many differnt ones so if one you don't like, tell your doc and theywill try another. I take Zoloff and have for years. If I try to stop on my own, it would be like witdrawing from herione !!!! Yes its nothing to play with. I am happy tobe on them have drastic mood swings and anxiety attacks anymore. I still get anxious somtimes but not to the pointI can't breath. When I broke up with my last husband, I signed up or therapy at mental health, I am still waitin for them to  call me, lol itsbeen six months ! But I am fine, did self help. I hop everyone has a nice blessed weekend.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #93 on: July 30, 2010, 01:52:19 PM »
Wow today has been a helluva day. I still have not gone to sleep but to get out the house, I went and tried to take care of some business at the Social Security office. To no avail since I needed a copy of my lease which I didn't have because my Hasa worker took it when I first moved into my apartment. But I did get in some heavy duty walking which was exercise enough for me.

I did take all my Remeron which my psychiatrist at the shelter prescribed for me. I even took it a step further and emailed her hoping that she could see as a patient since leaving the shelter. But she can't, she can only see people who are in the shelter. Bummer!! Her and my social worker from the shelter suggested I go to the Emergency Room but I do not want to go there. I don't want to go because I think they would try to admit me. I have a few nice things in my place and though I live in a nice quiet neighborhood, I just don't trust it. You never know who is paying attention on the block and may notice that I have been gone.

This is all very frustrating to me because due to me not being able to hear on the phone, I am unable to make any kind of doctor's appointment. And I need 3 doctors---hiv,primary, hearing, and gyn, make that 4 doctors. It is very frustrating and upsetting. I didn't have this problem back home because I had a friend who would take me to my appointments and be my ears. I have no problem being independent, it's just that the people here in NY is quite rude even when I tell them that I am hearing impaired. This shit really sucks, majorly!!! And I am at a loss of what to do about it....*Sighs and smh* I try to take one step forward and gets pushed 10 steps back!!!!
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #94 on: July 31, 2010, 06:45:43 AM »
Queen, I'm so sorry all this shit is happening to you right now.  You certainly don't need that.  So, you have a social worker?  If so, does she know your need to see doctors, especially regarding the HIV?  It just seems like she would help you, unless she's lazy.  I don't blame you for not wanting to go to the ER.  I wouldn't even venture a guess as to whether they would admit you or not, but I guess I would feel as you do-that I wouldn't want to take the chance.  But, if the situation gets desperate enough, I sure would go.  What I mean is, if I felt like there was no other way for me to get help, I would try in any way possible to get it.  Does that make any sense? 

I wish the people where you live were more friendly.  You sure could use a friend there right now.  Could you possibly find out where the nearest ASO is, and go in and talk to them?   A lot of times, they can hook a person up with good doctors.  That's just a possibility.  And they can help with other things also, like benefits, etc.

As usual, I'm thinking about you, and pulling for ya.  Please take care of yourself, as best you can. :-*
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #95 on: July 31, 2010, 01:27:09 PM »
Well, I finally got some good sleep last night, with the help of some good green. I do admit that I do feel better today. When I was feeling down yesterday, Netta was there to hold me up. Thanks a bunch, I love you for that. Also, I have someone who is going to make the call to Mt. Sinai so I get another hearing test done.

No, I don't have a case worker anymore since I left the DV shelter. She wrote me because I had written the therapist at the shelter, telling her how I was feeling and if she took patients out of the shelter. And she doesn't, so I have to find someone else. I thought my Hasa worker would help but she just gave me numbers to hospitals. I did notice that there is a medical clinic close by me too.

I have been trying not to mope too much because I notice that I start thinking too much. I met up with someone off of the personals last night. I don't know how I was able to pull that off with no sleep but I did. It was nice. Neither one of us are looking for relationships right now. We just want to find someone to hang out with. So, that is cool with me. I also had another date scheduled that I totally forgot about. So, I had to cancel that one but he knew I had no sleep.

Sp, I am taking the weeknd up til Monday to just relax. I have already washed my clothes and cleaned the house. I have a steak sauteeing right now. I would write more but this screen is jumping around. I don't know why I clicked on the Compatibility thing. Ohe well.....
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #96 on: August 04, 2010, 04:20:56 PM »
Well, I finally got all of my doctor appointments made, a friend made the calls for me. I really appreciated that and it made me feel a little better. Now I have to go to the social security office once my landlord brings me the lease. My benefits are suppose to go up, that's what the agent said on the 800 number. I hope they do cause I can really use it.

I have been getting out the house a little bit more. I met up with a friend and we went to Harlem. It was a nice get away from the house type of thing. Of course, I forgot my camera but it was a long train ride for me. And riding the train for long period of time makes me sleepy but for the life of me, I can't fall asleep on the train. I would miss my stop but I see people doing it all the time.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #97 on: August 04, 2010, 10:58:52 PM »
Yeah, Queen!  That is great news, I hope you like your doctors and you get more money.  I doubt I could fall asleep on a train either, I don't trust people enough to do that.  I can't even sleep in the car, I always feel like I have to keep the driver entertained so they don't fall asleep.  LOL, he probably wishes I would go to sleep, I ramble on and on about shit that he has no interest in, like what I saw on Oprah.

I went last week and got my numbers back.  It seems I might be having another blip, I wasn't undetectable. They drew again and told me to call back in a week but neglected to mention they were on vacation. LOL, just my luck.  Hopefully, I haven't built up a resistance to the Atripla, around the time I got my Aids diagnosis they were concerned there was nothing left for me to take cuz I had built up a resistance to everything out at the time.  I did lose 8 lbs,so that was good.

Other than that, trying to survive this heat and the summer. Everyone take care!
Has anyone heard on Mum and Mini are doing? or any of the other MIA women?
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #98 on: August 05, 2010, 01:23:14 AM »
I know I haven't heard anything from Mum lately. I often wonder how the other ladies are doing too..Ms. Newlywed, Cindy over there....Drag got married then disappeared, I hope she is doing well. Then there is Wishful who peeks in from time to time. Just so many. I remember when this the women's forums got started, now you're lucky to get a peep. I almost feel like people are leaving the nest. But it is good it is here, I'd be lost without you gals.
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #99 on: August 05, 2010, 03:46:48 AM »
Queen, that's great about getting your doctor's appointments.  I hope you get more cash.  That's always nice.

Snow, good to hear from you.  Like you and Queen, I don't know if I could fall asleep on a train.  But, now that I'm getting older and older, I probably could.  I almost fell asleep in the landermat yesterday.

Not much going on, except the heat that seems to have gripped most of the country.  I hope everyone's alright.
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #100 on: August 05, 2010, 06:23:16 PM »
Yep, I melted out there in that sun. But I had to go to the 99 cent store to get a few things for the apartment. I still need to find some blinds for my livingroom, right now I have towels hanging in the windows. That is just so ghetto to me but I couldn't find those at the store. At the moment, I am waiting on my landlord to come get his rent money. I can barely get a response out of him for some things but he knows how to text me when he wants his money. I have to get all the food out the cabinets because an exterminator is coming Saturday morning. I mean he does things but it takes me asking a few times before it gets done.

No plans for the weekend so it will be me time. Do little things for myself and just enjoy the peace and quiet of my apartment. I am still contemplating getting a kitty, maybe by the end of summer. I need something here to keep me company. The dating thing is starting to wear on my nerves just a bit. I keep getting these guys who start out cool but then they messed it all up by asking to go to bed with me. It's annoying because I explain my situation from the door...That being that I am newly out of a relationship, some I give details to but the important thing, that I still have feelings for him. That it is going to take time for me to do this but they still try to talk their way into trying to get in my panties!!! WTF? I have never been that easy. I am at the point that I don't think I am ready to date anyone. True, I still have feelings for the ex but the type of men that I am running into just turns me off. I am considering pulling all my ads/profiles. If a man can't respect me for not going to bed with him on the first date then fuck it.

I think I am just going to concentrate on me for awhile. Do the things I use to do when I was back home. Get my house in order so to speak. Now where can I find an altar at? ;D
« Last Edit: August 05, 2010, 06:25:27 PM by Queen Tokelove »
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #101 on: August 07, 2010, 01:08:01 AM »
Ok ladies, it is time for another thread. Hopefully Ann will lock this one. And someone can start another one. I would but it would be some mushy kind of title due to the way I am feeling. I don't want to put you guys thru that. So SOMEONE please step up to the plate and start one.....
Started Atripla/Ziagen on 9/13/07.
10/31/07 CD4-265 VL- undetectable
2/6/08 CD4- 401 VL- undetectable
5/7/08 CD4- 705 VL- undetectable
6/4/08 CD4- 775 VL- undetectable
8/6/08 CD4- 805 VL- undetectable
11/13/08 CD4- 774 VL--undetectable
2/4/09  CD4- 484  VL- 18,000 (2 months off meds)
3/3/09---Starting Back on Meds---
4/27/09 CD4- 664 VL-- undetectable
6/17/09 CD4- 438 VL- 439
8/09 CD4- 404 VL- 1,600
01-22-10-- CD4- 525 VL- 59,000
Cherish the simple things life has to offer

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Re: Ladie's Thread #71-Into Every Life, a Little Rain Must Fall
« Reply #102 on: August 10, 2010, 05:41:04 PM »
I started this one, so someone else's turn.
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