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Author Topic: Wedding and School Reunion Season  (Read 1231 times)

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Offline mecch

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Wedding and School Reunion Season
« on: May 22, 2010, 07:21:14 AM »
Please share your thoughts and stories about weddings and school reunions. 

You see people you don't see that often but still have lifelong connection - family, friends, enemies, hehehe.

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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #1 on: May 22, 2010, 07:46:24 AM »
The first one I want to share is about weddings, renunions and "radiance", for lack of better word.

In high school and college we used to gossip about when people "peaked".  Peaking could be beauty or social status or appeal, or some combination.  For instance I had buddies who were just brilliant at 13 or 14 and by senior year seemed uninteresting, maybe on the wrong path. (As if there is a right path!)  Or there were those vivacious girls, the nice ones and with big boobs, who were the cats meow in junior high, then faded from the radar. Or the reverse.  Suddenly the frog turns into a prince.  This one shy chinese boy was suddenly big and bold and going to Harvard.  Some people don't change much and some do.  Some people stay appealing forever.  Or always kinda bleh, or so on, or worse.

My goldenboy cousin was the star quarterback and he was gorgeous and funny and fun and kind.  He had beautiful curly hair.  In all the right places!  His brother was smarter and became a stud in college, then a successful doctor.  The quarterback was washed up by 35 with troubles, bad marriage, drinking, injuries. He disappeared from family events.  But then last year he was back and in form again, it made me so happy.

I went to a pretty small high school so we all knew each other.  I mention that because it seems how much we notice people goes in waves.  You have a relationship for a moment, a time, and then you maybe stop looking and appreciating people for who they are in the new moment and then something goes pop and realise that time has passed - and you look again and the person is the same, or really not the same at all!  

Doesn't this happen to you, in your work, family, old friends?  Oh my, mom is an old lady!  Your cousins married with children in college.  Your best friend from 10 years old, who you didn't like so much at 16, contacts you on Facebook and seems like such a cool guy. Oh, there he is, Scotty or Jimmy or Bobby, but with a middle-aged face and doughy body!  

« Last Edit: May 22, 2010, 08:03:08 AM by mecch »
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #2 on: May 22, 2010, 08:00:51 AM »
Another one - first time I took a boy friend to a family wedding.

I was in my early 30's. I came out to my folks in my late 20's and then the boyfriends and the weddings never really coincided or seemed like a good idea.  Well, once it did, but my bf was just too bizarre, I thought, but maybe I wasn't ready.

So finally the big day arrives and it was just a gorgeous wedding and everyone was so nice to me and my bf.  (Well he was a "prize", too - a handsome charming young doctor - what is it about families and doctors - everyone is so happy when you have a doctor bf!)  

Had to wonder why 10 years before I worried about such things.  But I rethought and maybe I was just waiting to be sure of myself, and it didn't have much at all to do with family.

However, this was also the first time in all my big extended family history, anyone had brought an announced, same sex partner to a wedding or family party of some sort.

I have heard such horror stories and should just thank my family for being both nice and finally blase about it.

(Now, I'll have to go to my grave wondering how my clearly transvestite boyfriend would have gone over.)   ::) ??? :o
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #3 on: May 22, 2010, 10:25:33 AM »
I don't think my boyfriend would appreciate the homophobia and name calling that occurs at my family gatherings.  As for people peaking...I really don't think about people in terms of their success but more their accumulated wisdom.  Some people never seem to learn anything, this inevitably leads to them repeating the same mistakes over and over again instead of finding some sort of bliss in their all too short lives.

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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #4 on: May 22, 2010, 11:28:02 AM »
Hell, is the family homophobic to your face, knowing you are gay? Or they don't know? Curious.
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #5 on: May 22, 2010, 11:41:40 AM »
Janis Joplin at her 10th high-school reunion!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8mOP8ucVAD0

Justin/Austin dance at Hilda's Wedding, Ugly Betty

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oda0TjDV1cM
« Last Edit: May 22, 2010, 11:55:41 AM by mecch »
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #6 on: May 22, 2010, 07:24:35 PM »
Hell, is the family homophobic to your face, knowing you are gay? Or they don't know? Curious.
I'm a confirmed bachelor.  I'm sure at the age of 28 and being unmarried and not dating they either assume I'm really weird or gay (I don't really question or care).  I'm not out to my extended family however.

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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #7 on: May 22, 2010, 07:54:59 PM »
School reunions suck. Ive never been to one. I dont want to see all the now fat, bald football players that were once the "apple of my eye". It only reinforeces the fact that im getting old.

Weddings, on the other hand, are delighful! I cant wait for mine!

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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #8 on: May 22, 2010, 08:24:28 PM »
Weddings, on the other hand, are delightful!
I missed my mom's 2nd marriage and both my brother's weddings because I was living over 500 miles away. One ex-roommate (the RN that was also sick when I was sick with pneumonia and no help at all LOL) snuck off and got married by the justice of the peace at 4:45 on a friday afternoon and then she didn't tell me for three days. So I've only attend the one wedding of a very close friend. (I also did photography for her ceremony too) But since her and hubby divorced 9 months later, I haven't attended any others.  ::)   :D

As far as reunions, even though I wasn't able to attend any reunions here in NC while I was living in OH, now that I'm back, I'm really anxious for a reunion. A lot has changed in 30 yrs (but not my weight LOL) and I'd love to see those people from my Baptist high school and freak them out :o with my tales of being gay, having AIDS, drugs, sex and rock-n-roll.  ;D
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #9 on: May 23, 2010, 01:18:52 AM »
School reunions suck. Ive never been to one.

Now you're just talkin' shit

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=39kgDpFVLws
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #10 on: May 23, 2010, 02:28:46 AM »
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G8wQppcVkUQ&feature=related

Edit:  Miss P I love you a little bit more for linking that by the way.

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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2010, 02:29:42 AM »
It should go without saying that I can watch that film over and over.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iJatHPrvCiU&NR
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2010, 05:51:02 AM »

Davy - the only gay in the village - goes to a wedding:

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/52119/gay_at_the_wedding/

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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #13 on: May 23, 2010, 06:05:29 PM »
At 45 all my friends are now married off or never will be.  Remarriages after divorce don't seem to be celebrated with the same public display.

Never been to a high school reunion, and now that HIV has wrecked my skin I doubt I ever will, don't want to deal with the questions.
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Re: Wedding and School Reunion Season
« Reply #14 on: May 23, 2010, 10:54:00 PM »


 Right After the LAS VEGAS  Gathering I am heading to Connecticut !

  A class Reunion !  I LOVE CLASS REUINONS !

  I may not be the youngest looking . But I have a ball when I go !

 Yes some look   awful !  fat , bald , just icky !

 Who cares ?

 The fun is just seeing people  I have liked for   over 50 years  :o

 I shall always make time for a reunion of any kind !

 My family reunions are like a bad " B "   movie ,at some point there IS ALWAYS   a fight   ::)

 last July bob and I got Married IT WAS FABULOUS !

Maybe I can get the wedding licence this year  ???

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