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Offline lds199525

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sex with HIV positive
« on: February 16, 2010, 01:56:45 PM »

I have been living in relationship with HIV partner. His viral load is undetectable. We are both gay. We are always extremely careful as far as sex. However, few days ago a small thing happened that made me worry about my health status. I know that fingering is not considered as risky activity and there were no cuts on his fingers or any other bleeding but...after fingering me for about 10 minutes (not deep) my partner cum and I found a part of his cum on the entry to my anus. There was no penis penetration and thus he didnt cum inside of me. I have cleaned myself with hot water and soap. Could this be a risk or is it possible for the virus to enter my body in this situation?

Thank you for your answer!

Offline RapidRod

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Re: sex with HIV positive
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2010, 03:19:09 PM »
Fingering is not a risk of contracting HIV.

Offline lds199525

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Re: sex with HIV positive
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2010, 03:22:26 PM »
Hi RapidRod,

thank you for ur reply...I understand that fingering is not hiv risk but what about part of his cum around the entry to my anus...? Could that be dangerous?

Thank you,


Offline Andy Velez

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Re: sex with HIV positive
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2010, 03:28:37 PM »
Dear J,

I agree with Rod that this incident was not a risk for HIV transmission. HIV is a fragile virus. In order to possible succeed in transmission it needs the kind of receptive setting provided by unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse.

Having your partner's cum touching your anus is NOT that kind of a setting, however much I do understand why the anxious thought could come to your mind about it. Fingering of any sort is not a risk for HIV.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern on your part.

Andy Velez

Offline lds199525

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Re: sex with HIV positive
« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2010, 03:30:41 PM »
Thank you Andy. Really thank you:)


Offline Andy Velez

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Re: sex with HIV positive
« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2010, 04:09:38 PM »
You're welcome. Now get on with your life and just make sure you and your partner always without exception use condoms for intercourse if you get into that.

Andy Velez


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