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Offline wimble

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genuine HIV worries....please help.
« on: February 04, 2010, 12:37:15 PM »
Hi, i would like to thank people in advance for reading...Any advice and thoughts would be much appreciated.

Ok, so about 2 months ago i had unprotected sex while drunk (stupid i know....i will live to regret my mistake for sure!) About a week later i experienced an itchy/burning sensation around the tip of my penis, especially while urinating.......i straight away got checked for chlamydia and gonnoreah, everything was fine there. This problem diminished over time for whatever reason.

A couple of weeks after i developed shingles.....this was worrying because i consider myself to be a relatively healthy young person. The doctor assured me not to worry about hiv. However, it is since she said this that i did infact begin to worry.....u know you're not supposed to search the internet endlessly looking for 'answers' but what can you do when the issue of hiv drives you mental.....

Shingles is the only symptom ive had since my sexual encounter.....no flu like symptoms were or are present apart from some headaches here and there for a week or so......I read that shingles can be the first symptom of hiv infection...how much truth is there in this? I have thought your immune system would have to be worn down quite a bit before shingles reactivates itself.....

I know i should get tested but im so freakin scared its untrue and i think its 90% certain i have caught the infection...I feel like God has punished me serverly for my mistake and is now laughing at me becuse i have recently met a really nice girl who i would love sto start a relationship with. Obviously if i turn out to be positive all this will be taken away from me...surely i don't deserve this type of misfortune. If god gives me another chance I will never put myslef at risk again and will live my life to his intentions. Funnily enough i dont consider myself to be religious but right now I am praying for forgiveness. Again, thankyou for taking the time to read.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: genuine HIV worries....please help.
« Reply #1 on: February 04, 2010, 12:58:33 PM »
Shingles is not HIV specific and God doesn't give anyone HIV. Nothing you have stated is in anyway indictative of HIV. Your symptoms came on to quick to even be related to ARS.  You can cut the rest of the drama. You were old enough to have unprotected sex so you don't need any hand holding to test for HIV.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: genuine HIV worries....please help.
« Reply #2 on: February 04, 2010, 01:00:32 PM »
First all, NO ONE DESERVES HIV. It's a virus and some people get it.

Now, if I am understanding you correctly you had unprotected intercourse. If that is so then you do need to get tested. That should be done at 13 weeks past the most recent such incident.

As for your symptoms, there is absolutely nothing HIV specific about them. And no, shingles is not an HIV-specific occurence. Nor is it the first symptom of HIV infection. Nothing you are reporting symptomatically is HIV specific.

HiV is harder to transmit from female to male than the other way round. Given that you had a single unprotected incident, the odds are in your favor against HIV transmission having occured. So when you test I do expect you will get a negative result. But HIV status is not something to guess about so do get tested.

Mixing excessive drinking and casual sex is a dangerous combination. Have intercourse with anyone you want to, but do it the safer way. That means being sober and always wearing a condom for vaginal and anal intercourse. No exceptions.

Good luck with your test and keep us posted.
Andy Velez

Offline wimble

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Re: genuine HIV worries....please help.
« Reply #3 on: February 04, 2010, 01:28:40 PM »
I apologise if I sounded in any way naive when putting my message across...i fully intend to get tested and not guess my status...My drama wasn't put there to gain sympathy votes, i'm sorry. Thank you for the advice and I will indeed keep you posted.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: genuine HIV worries....please help.
« Reply #4 on: February 04, 2010, 03:35:58 PM »
OK. Thanks for that clarification. Good luck with your test.
Andy Velez

Offline wimble

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knowing the person...
« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2010, 04:06:09 PM »
My results come back in about a week and I'm pretty sure i am infected...
I've gone through a lot of emotions this past 3 months, tending to jump between severe sadness to absolute rage. It is my fault i am in this situation, however its hard not blame someone else, especially when you know this person.

I don't know what I will do if it comes back positive, to be quite honest i would love to smash her face in for ruining my life by not telling me she had the virus before we had sex....sure i should have used a condom, but it is also her obligation to tell me so that i can decide whether or not to put myself in that situation....for the record i don't intend to 'smash her face in,' it might make me feel better for an hour or so but it won't change anything....however, she has potentially damaged a lot of things in my life, including social interaction (I'm withdrawing from interaction)........i guess my question to everyone on the forum would be, what would you do if you knew or indeed know the person that has given you hiv?

Thanks a lot.

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: knowing the person...
« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2010, 04:17:40 PM »
Errr you've got some nerve Wimble. Go back to the Am I Infected forum, where you're required to stay.

MtD

Offline J.R.E.

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Re: knowing the person...
« Reply #7 on: February 20, 2010, 04:18:47 PM »
i guess my question to everyone on the forum would be, what would you do if you knew or indeed know the person that has given you hiv?

Thanks a lot.
I knew the person, who transmitted this virus to me in 1985, and so did my partner. Of course i was angry at him, But I was more angry at myself. I visited him when he was in the hospital.

The guy that transmitted this virus to me, died in June 19th, 1986. His mother asked me, if I would be pallbearer for his funeral. I accepted. Ed ( my partner) also attended the funeral with me.


Ray
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 In October of 2003, My t-cell count was 16, Viral load was over 500,000, Percentage at that time was 5%. I started my first  HAART regimen  on October 24th,03.

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Offline wimble

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Re: knowing the person...
« Reply #8 on: February 20, 2010, 04:27:00 PM »
The guy that transmitted this virus to me, died in June 19th, 1986. His mother asked me, if I would be pallbearer for his funeral. I accepted. Ed ( my partner) also attended the funeral with me.

Wow, Ray...I admire you and your partner. That must have taken a lot of courage and forgiveness.

Sorry MtD, I wasn't assuming that I am 'living with HIV', thats would be very disrespectful. Of course i belong to the 'am i infected?' forum. I merely thought this post would be more suited to people living with the virus so that you could share experiences. No offence was intended.
« Last Edit: February 20, 2010, 04:32:41 PM by wimble »

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: knowing the person...
« Reply #9 on: February 20, 2010, 04:34:02 PM »
Wim,

Unless you've tested positive (ELISA + WB confirmation) you've gotta keep all your stuff in your thread in AMI.

MtD

Offline wimble

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Re: knowing the person...
« Reply #10 on: February 20, 2010, 04:42:56 PM »
Ahh i see its a requirement, my bad...kind of a 'no i.d no entry' sort of thing (bad joke).
Thanks for informing me Matt and sorry to be a nuisance by replying...perhaps see you back here soon (fingers crossed not of course).

All the best to all you brave people.

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Re: genuine HIV worries....please help.
« Reply #11 on: February 20, 2010, 07:39:07 PM »
Wimble,

I removed the thread you created in the Living forum and merged it with your thread here in Am I, which is the ONLY place you should be posting. Make sure you read and understand our posting guidelines found in the Welcome Thread  that you should have read before posting.




You've already been told that you are highly unlikely to become infected from this one time insertive vaginal incident, so get a grip already.

You won't get any sympathy here - you as the man in a man-woman sexual situation have the power over condom usage. Grow a set and start using condoms no matter who you're with until such time as you're in a monogamous relationship where you have tested for hiv TOGETHER. It's your responsibility for your own sexual health and no one else's.

Ann
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