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Author Topic: Advice for living alone with HIV?  (Read 7937 times)

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Offline Life

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Re: Advice for living alone with HIV?
« Reply #50 on: January 26, 2010, 11:46:53 PM »
Wow1969, for what its worth.... Maybe give you some perspective on things.  

I lost my husband twice... He left and 3 months later died.   I am living alone with HIV and that is the absolute least of my worry.  I have friends and family who love me and I am sure you have the same.   Others will come into your life in time as they will for me as well.   Count your blessings that you can still pickup the phone and talk with your x.  I wish I was given the opportunity to correct somethings in our lives.   I wish I could have helped William as he helped me through the meds phase of his disease.   I just was not given the opportunity.   You still have opportunities.  Things are constantly in flux and always changing in relationships... Remember tho, the only person you can change is yourself.   You have no way of changing someone else..  None whatsoever... 

Keep you head up, otherwise you might miss that opportunity..

Hugs,

Eric
« Last Edit: January 27, 2010, 12:21:52 AM by Life »

Offline wow1969

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Re: Advice for living alone with HIV?
« Reply #51 on: January 27, 2010, 03:04:53 PM »
Wow1969, for what its worth.... Maybe give you some perspective on things.  

I lost my husband twice... He left and 3 months later died.   I am living alone with HIV and that is the absolute least of my worry.  I have friends and family who love me and I am sure you have the same.   Others will come into your life in time as they will for me as well.   Count your blessings that you can still pickup the phone and talk with your x.  I wish I was given the opportunity to correct somethings in our lives.   I wish I could have helped William as he helped me through the meds phase of his disease.   I just was not given the opportunity.   You still have opportunities.  Things are constantly in flux and always changing in relationships... Remember tho, the only person you can change is yourself.   You have no way of changing someone else..  None whatsoever... 

Keep you head up, otherwise you might miss that opportunity..

Hugs,

Eric

Thanks ... when my ex and broke up it was UGLY ... I never thought this would be the person who was the voice of reason in my current relationship ... Not only the voice of reason, but a healing voice as well ... I have realized that I have carried alot of animosity toward my ex .. It's time to forgive and truly heal from that time ... I think she may have changed as much as I have and we have both changed for the better ...

Right now, my partner and I are talking about our issues .. Turns out this has been a HUGE wake up call for both of us ... I was looking at the whole thing focusing on my partners actions and completely ignoring my own ... I"m very much to blame for the current mess ...

So we are talking, and getting along and ok .. technically, we are still not together... and it could remain that way .. if it does, I will be fine ...I understand what has happened and I can live with it .. regardless, now that things are calm, I realize that I truly love him and that won't change

To those who posted informtion about living alone with HIV, thank you .. I realize that this thread ended up being about a relationship, and that was actually not the intent ... i was just so nervous about living alone with HIV ... I'm still nervous but I dno't think it will be as bad and I was envision ... I love the analogy about life being like playing a piano, that you don't just take lessons and then one day you play the piano, you learn to play the piano by doing it ... LOVE IT!!!

As I said, we are figuring stuff out ... no decisions yet, just figuring ... we'll make decisions in the next few weeks once we get it all sorted out ... I'm so glad to be in this position ...

LIFE I am so sorry for what you went through .. what a way to lose someone .... it provides no closure so I bet you have lots of unaddressed questions, issues and possibly some guilt ... my heart goes out to you ..

 


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