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Author Topic: Oral sex risk - member here says infection from receiving oral sex  (Read 2197 times)

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Can anyone comment on this? The site says there are no cases of getting hiv from receiving oral sex, but this seems to be a case. Ann?  Thomas you are sure your risk was only oral?

Quote from: ThomasHopper on November 19, 2009, 11:15:12 pm
While I don't agree with the angry tone of the original poster, one thing he/she is saying is definitely true:  HIV can be passed by oral sex and unfortunately I'm living proof of it.  I've never had anal sex, ever.  Never used drugs or needles, never even have given oral sex.  The only sexual activity I've done is receive oral and I found out in late September that I'm positive.  Obviously I was shocked and surprised.

My doc, who is an HIV expert in our area, explained in detail how the virus can be transferred from simple, "safe" oral sex.  All it takes is a tiny micro bit of blood and a microscopic break in the mucous membrane of the head of the penis for the virus to transmit.  Alot of documentation says HIV is very difficuilt to transmit, but in reality it's very easy to transmit in oral sex even if there is an unoticeable break or tear.  And according to the doc, it's especially easy to transmit if there is alot of up and down motion inside the giver's mouth.

Just some food for thought.  I wouldn't have in a million years thought I could be positive based on my limited sexual history of "low risk" messing around, but here I am.  I hope anyone who is positive thinks about this before not disclosing your status to someone because it's "only" oral sex.  

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Re: Oral sex risk - member here says infection from receiving oral sex
« Reply #1 on: January 19, 2010, 02:44:14 PM »

Thank you for cooperating and posting in the correct forum. I have deleted your post in the other forum. Do not post there again - and make sure you read the entire Welcome Thread  so you know our rules.

There have  been plenty of people who claim to have been infected through all sorts of impossible routes. Getting a blowjob is one of them. Just because someone makes that claim doesn't make it true. Some people are too ashamed to admit to unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse and some people forget what they've done while under the influence of drink and/or drugs. Some people will not admit to intravenous drug use. People are like that.

There have been long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. Not all of the positive partners were on meds with undetectable viral loads either.

There has never been a documented case of transmission where someone claimed to have been infected through getting blown. Documented means the acquired virus matched the person who allegedly gave the blowjob. There have been plenty of opportunities over the years, yet not one proven case.

Here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative: You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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