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Offline worried614

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Was I at Risk????
« on: January 13, 2010, 10:43:16 AM »
I've been married for almost three years. Was a virgin before I met my wife who has tested negative for HIV through out our 9 year relationship. Before we started dating I did purchase and use several sex toys but never engaged in unprotected intercourse with anybody. Over the past few years, starting back in 2006, I have received unprotected oral from 2 female friends of mine  on several occasions. Both claim that they are HIV negative. I don't know for sure. I went to the doctor at the end of November 09 and was told that my White Blood Cell count was low (3.3). Went back at the end of December 09 and was told that it's still low (3.7). Now the doctor wants to refer me to a Hematologist. I have also had several medical test done like a colonoscopy, root canals, dental work, an ERCP due to moderate Liver Enzyme elevations that come and go. I have tested negative for Viral Hepatitis. Could I have contracted HIV from the Sex Toys, unprotected oral sex or any of the medical procedures? Thanks for your comments and advice.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Concerned about WBC
« Reply #1 on: January 13, 2010, 11:41:46 AM »
No. You had no risk of contracting HIV.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Concerned about WBC
« Reply #2 on: January 13, 2010, 12:46:01 PM »
HIV is a fragile virus and is not passed from environmental surfaces including sex toys.

As for getting oral from someone, there's never been a confirmed case of transmission to a guy getting done. It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first to be infected that way.

You are worrying needlessly about HIV. Get on with your life.

Other STDs are easier to acquire so if you are having sex outside of your marriage, it's a good idea to at least once a year have a full STD panel done.
Andy Velez

Offline worried614

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Re: Concerned about WBC
« Reply #3 on: January 13, 2010, 01:36:48 PM »
I fingered one of the ladies to. Don't know if that makes a difference or not but Oral Sex is the only thing I've done outside of my relationship.

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Re: Concerned about WBC
« Reply #4 on: January 13, 2010, 02:16:20 PM »
I fingered one of the ladies to. Don't know if that makes a difference or not but Oral Sex is the only thing I've done outside of my relationship.

Fingering makes no difference. HIV is not transmitted by fingering. Check out our Welcome Thread. It contains useful information regarding HIV transmission.

MtD

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Re: Concerned about WBC
« Reply #5 on: January 19, 2010, 02:36:27 PM »
worried,

I deleted the post you left in someone else's thread.
If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Only those Moderators and members who are authorized to answer questions in the Am I Infected? forum are permitted do so. Unauthorized responses may be deleted without permission of the poster. Repeatedly posting replies of this nature may result in a Time Out or permanent ban, at the discretion of the Moderator Team.


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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline worried614

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Wife pregnant......I'm concerned.
« Reply #6 on: March 10, 2011, 05:27:09 PM »
My wife is 6 months pregnant and she is going in for a check up and blood work tomorrow. Over the past few months I have not behaved myself. I have engaged in multiple sessions of unprotected oral sex, me receiving, with one person. I have also engaged in mutual masturbation with this person where I manually stimulated her vagina and within seconds of doing so used that same hand to masturbate myself. Even touching the head of my penis. Did i put myself and wife at risk?

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Re: Wife pregnant......I'm concerned.
« Reply #7 on: March 10, 2011, 05:36:09 PM »
Worried,

I take it you still haven't bothered to read our Welcome thread, otherwise you would know not to start new threads.

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

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We've already told you that getting a blowjob is not a risk for hiv infection and neither is fingering, not even if you touched your penis afterwards.

If you cannot bring yourself to believe us, go test and collect your negative result.

This is all about guilty feelings and this is not the proper place to work through those feelings. Get counselling if you need it - we cannot provide that level of support here.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline worried614

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Re: Wife pregnant......I'm concerned.
« Reply #8 on: March 10, 2011, 05:41:37 PM »
Sorry didnt know I couldnt start a new thread. So vaginal fluids from hand to penis is no risk what so ever?

Thanks again

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Re: Wife pregnant......I'm concerned.
« Reply #9 on: March 10, 2011, 06:12:07 PM »
As Ann has told you, nothing you are reporting put you at risk for HIV.

What this is really about is the common syndrome of leftover guilt after having strayed. You can't undo your history. You did what you did. Let it go and get on with your life.

HIV is not your problem and never will be from getting blowjobs.
Andy Velez

Offline worried614

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Was I at Risk????
« Reply #10 on: February 23, 2012, 11:51:02 AM »
I've engaged in receiving unprotected blowjobs from 2 different women. One blew my once and the other has probably blown me a dozen times or more. I've also engaged in mutual masturbation where I touched her vagina and then touched the head of my penis with her wetness on my fingers or she's touched herslef and then touched my penis. Any risk?

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Was I at Risk????
« Reply #11 on: February 23, 2012, 12:26:59 PM »
Nothing you are reporting put you at risk for HIV. Receiving a blowjob is one of the most common of sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic no guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected in that manner. Not one.

The ONLY CONFIRMED risks for the sexual transmission of HIV are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. Use condoms everytime and you will be well protected.

As a sexually active person you should be aware that other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV. You should at least once a year have a full STD panel done to make sure you haven't picked up one of the other STDs.

Andy Velez

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Re: Was I at Risk????
« Reply #12 on: February 23, 2012, 03:49:17 PM »
Worried,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.



You have not been at risk for hiv infection, once again. Re-read your entire thread - you were worried about the same things last time you were here. Our answers are not going to change.

I suggest you try to learn and remember the ins and outs of hiv transmission this time around, so you can stop worrying in future.

As long as you use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse outside your marriage, you will avoid hiv infection. Blowjobs and masturbation you don't need to worry about - you're only putting yourself at risk for further feelings of guilt.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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