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Offline chemistry001

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Anyone been in this situation
« on: August 21, 2006, 07:21:39 AM »
Hi everyone

Slowly (thanks to advice from many on here) I'm getting my head around everything, but i think Ive got to much time on my hands right now as i sit here thinking about things.

I was wondering if anyone has been in the same situation I'm in at the moment. Ive been with my partner for 2 years and we had a HIV test when we got together and we both tested negative, 2 years on I'm now positive and having never played around i can only think that the test i had was false. My partner has never played around either and i believe him 100% when he says that.
Next week he is hoping to get tested and i don't know what will happen if he tests positive, because that will be down to me. I don't care about me right now, how can i face him if his test comes back positive?, What can i say? It will destroy him and i don't know if i could deal with it. He is having a really hard time dealing with me being HIV, a harder time than me so to find out he is positive, well i hate to think.

Has anyone else been in a situation like/similar to this and how did you manage?

Ever since i found out my status (3/4 weeks ago) I've been feeling numb to to it all, but with this i feel like crap and am starting to get very tearful and down, you guys are the only people I've spoken to and i really value any advice you may have. My partner is away on holiday at the moment and gets back tomorrow, i want to be strong for him and not appear weak, the information I've received from many of you has armed me with knowledge which i will share with him and try to try to alleviate his worries.

I look forward to posting happy things on here, but right now I'm not feeling in that mood, sorry

Paul
Diagnosed 01/08/06
CD4-9, VL->500,000, CD4% 1
Started on Sustiva/combivir 22/08/06 changed to kivexa 18/09/06
02/10/06
CD4-50, VL-1496, CD4% 5
04/12/06
CD4-112, VL-125, CD4% 7.5
22/02/07
CD4-121, VL-<50, CD4% 9
29/05/07
CD4-125, VL-71,(re-done 149), CD4% 11
25/09/07
CD4 -231, VL-74, CD4% 15
Cant remember the next few dates
17/01/08  Kaletra and Truvada
CD4 - 281, VL-115
06/03/08
CD4 - 287, VL-178

Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Anyone been in this situation
« Reply #1 on: August 21, 2006, 08:12:41 AM »
Paul,

Are you able to tell us more about the test you had? Was your original test just a positive ELISA test or a positive ELISA confirmed by a positive Western Blot?

I agree with you this all sounds very odd. The obvious answer is for you to test again.

Fondly,

MtD

Offline chemistry001

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Re: Anyone been in this situation
« Reply #2 on: August 21, 2006, 08:51:03 AM »
The test i had 2 years ago was the test that gives you a result within the hour, cant say anymore than that, but 3/4 weeks ago i was in hospital with what turned out to be PCP and the blood tests done at the hospital confirmed my status with CD4 at 9 and VL over 5 million.

The only thing i can think of is maybe it was a false negative (doc says that is very unlikely) or that i was infected 3 months before having the test, i maybe wrong but i recall hearing that if you think you have been put at risk then there is a 3 month window you should wait, i maybe talking rubbish there but that is the only other explanation i can think of.

Regards
Paul
Diagnosed 01/08/06
CD4-9, VL->500,000, CD4% 1
Started on Sustiva/combivir 22/08/06 changed to kivexa 18/09/06
02/10/06
CD4-50, VL-1496, CD4% 5
04/12/06
CD4-112, VL-125, CD4% 7.5
22/02/07
CD4-121, VL-<50, CD4% 9
29/05/07
CD4-125, VL-71,(re-done 149), CD4% 11
25/09/07
CD4 -231, VL-74, CD4% 15
Cant remember the next few dates
17/01/08  Kaletra and Truvada
CD4 - 281, VL-115
06/03/08
CD4 - 287, VL-178

Offline Ann

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Re: Anyone been in this situation
« Reply #3 on: August 21, 2006, 09:05:14 AM »
Hi Paul, (and welcome to the forum!)

My first thought when I read your post was that one or even both of you were in the window period and the negative result was not a false negative per se, but that it was simply too early for antibodies to be detected.

And yes, the window period is 12-13 weeks. The vast majority of people who have been infected will seroconvert and test positive within six weeks of being infected, although there occasionally are people who take slightly longer to seroconvert and that is why the window period remains at three months, to be certain.

And as much as I hate to raise this point, when you say you got tested together, did you receive your results together too? People have been known to lie.

But I'm thinking it is probably down to one of you testing too early for a conclusive result.

Hang in there...

Ann
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Re: Anyone been in this situation
« Reply #4 on: August 21, 2006, 09:27:50 AM »
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« Last Edit: February 15, 2007, 11:14:01 AM by carousel »

Offline chemistry001

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Re: Anyone been in this situation
« Reply #5 on: August 21, 2006, 09:44:58 AM »
Thanks for clearing things up about the test and the 'window' period.

Carousel, i was on a self destruct course before i met my partner, hating myself hating the world around me and there were occasions when i recall having unprotected sex, stupid i know, but somethings can not be undone.

Ann, we didn't get tested together, and i don't think he would lie, i trust him 110% and believe he would have said if he was positive. Because we both tested negative we have had unprotected sex as we both wanted a monogamous relationship. Our relationship has not been the most sexual relationship going as the bf has a very very low libido, so i've prayed every night that there is a chance he would test negative.

Paul
Diagnosed 01/08/06
CD4-9, VL->500,000, CD4% 1
Started on Sustiva/combivir 22/08/06 changed to kivexa 18/09/06
02/10/06
CD4-50, VL-1496, CD4% 5
04/12/06
CD4-112, VL-125, CD4% 7.5
22/02/07
CD4-121, VL-<50, CD4% 9
29/05/07
CD4-125, VL-71,(re-done 149), CD4% 11
25/09/07
CD4 -231, VL-74, CD4% 15
Cant remember the next few dates
17/01/08  Kaletra and Truvada
CD4 - 281, VL-115
06/03/08
CD4 - 287, VL-178

Offline ACinKC

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Re: Anyone been in this situation
« Reply #6 on: August 21, 2006, 04:07:09 PM »
I am interested to see how this turns out.

He may have infected you.  As hard as that is to hear, it may be true.  The tests and the virus LIE to us much less than the people who carry the virus, and for that matter the ones that DONT! 

Good luck,
Andrew
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in a pretty and well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in broadside,
thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming--WOW! WHAT A
RIDE!!!

 


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