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Author Topic: Possible exposure...  (Read 1973 times)

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Offline jstwondering

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Possible exposure...
« on: January 08, 2010, 09:55:30 PM »
Hello, I'm a straight male in my late twenties and I am too scared to get tested as I think there may be a possibility that I have been exposed to the obvious...I definitely have been sleeping around a lot more than I have before, I've had way too many one night stands than I'd like to remember and for some damn reason which I cannot explain I didn't wear a condom sometimes.  Anyhow...about last September I came down with flu like symptoms - after I slept with 3 different women whom I didn't wear a condom with.  I don't even remember 2 of the women's names, and don't have means to contact 2 of the women.  So over this one weekend I remember feeling a scratchy throat, then a slight fever, I took some advil and it went away - I went about my business and didn't get enough rest like I should have.  The next day the fever came back, lower back pain and a real bad sore-throat.  The lower back pain lasted for about a day, but I wasn't really taken aback by that as I had kind of pulled my back from working out just days earlier.  I went to the doctor to get treated for the fever and sore-throat, was prescribed tami-flu for the fever and vicodin for the sore-throat.  Within a day or two the fever was gone, thanks to the vicodin and the sore-throat was gone as well.  All in all I was sick for about 4-5 days at the most, but I bounced back quick I would say.  I didn't have any swollen lymph nodes or anything...
Then about 2-3 weeks later, I developed a rash on my hands and groin.  The rash was painless, but was rather startling.  I had small, warty like bumps on my hands that could only be seen real close up and under certain light, and a reddish, flat rash on my groin - which resembled a heat rash.  This got me pretty nervous I have to admit...I later mentioned this to my doctor, and was told to pretty not much sweat about the rash as it was probably due to unwashed hand wraps (for sports) and sitting in sweaty clothes for too long.
But I still doubt that...
Anyhow, I know the only way to know whether or not you have HIV is to get tested, but quite frankly I'm just too damn scared.  I definitely want to settle down and have a family, now more than ever, but if I were to get a positive test the chance to be able to do that will be a lot slimmer than I would like.  I'd just like to know whether I should get tested or not, at this point I don't know what is the smarter choice - continuing to live life (and making sure I wear a rubber) and not get tested until I really have to, or get tested now and deal with it head on...but that old saying "ignorance is bliss" is sounding pretty damn true right about now.
Thanks for your help and advice ;)
« Last Edit: January 09, 2010, 12:18:29 AM by jstwondering »

Offline Ann

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Re: Possible exposure...
« Reply #1 on: January 09, 2010, 06:05:27 AM »

Of course you should get tested. However, as hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and more so from a woman to a man, the chance of you testing hiv negative is excellent.

If your last incident of unprotected intercourse was last September, a test now will be conclusive.

It doesn't matter how much sex you're having or how many partners you're having it with, the important thing is that you use condoms each and every time. You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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