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chopperr1978:
im sure that questions like this are recieved every day, but i really need to talk to someone, and am in need of some good advice. 

 basically i am an Elite middle distance 1500m runner who rarely goes out and parties/ drinks heavily, as my time is usually taken up by training. however i had been injured with a calf problem, and had some time on my hands. a few mates of mine i had not see for some time came to visit, from London, to cut it short we ended up going out to a club in Cambridge England i got drunk and ended up going back to a girls house.
i was obviously not in the best shape to have intercourse, but i gave it a go, which i do remember using a condom, but due to my state of alcohol consumption i gave up, and we agreed to have a go in the morning.
the morning came and we again attempted to engage in intercourse, i again used protection but my sensations were still numb to the effects of alcohol, the girl then said that she was on the pill and if i wanted she had no problem with me not wearing protection, i frowned upon this but decided to go ahead. i entered her, and was inside for a few minutes, but my thoughts were elsewhere and was uneasy about having sex without protection, i did not ejaculate and pulled out. i have since seen the girl, again and had intercourse with her, she again said that i did not have to use protection as she was on the pill but once again i wanted to be safe and i again used protection this time.

my dilemma or worry is that just under 2 weeks i developed a sore almost clear lump on my penis just inside the foreskin, after washing. although it disappeared after an hour, ( possibly caused by to vigorous washing?) how ever i was a bit worried. also around now that is  3 weeks since the encounter  ( i entered her unprotected) i have developed very swollen glands in my neck, under my chin and general feelings of unwellness( not feeling like myself) i have no sore throat or cold no muscle aches, no other strange symptoms or any fever like symptoms, but just feel my body is doing something. i am normally super fit being an elitle runner, but just dont feel to well within myself.

the girl seems to be OK, holds down a respectable job, but i do not know much about her  history, only that she has just broken up with her boy friend. but i was suspicious when she was prepaired to sleep with me, unprotected, after just meeting me.
this is why i am worried deeply about hiv,
can anybody give me some help or am i being paranoid and a little stupid, plese help
cheers for reading
I G 

Matty the Damned:
Ok,

You had an unprotected encounter and you need to test 12/13 weeks from the date of that encounter. As for the lumps on your doodle, well the doctor at the clinic will need to look at those.

I do have an issue with this:


--- Quote ---the girl seems to be OK, holds down a respectable job, but i do not know much about her  history, only that she has just broken up with her boy friend. but i was suspicious when she was prepaired [sic] to sleep with me, unprotected, after just meeting me.
--- End quote ---

however.

Just because someone appears "OK" and having a "respectable job" (what the bloody hell does that mean anyway?) means bugger all when it comes to HIV. Of course you don't know anything about her history, anymore than she knows about yours. Your comment about her preparedness to sleep with you unprotected just after meeting you is astonishingly sexist. Perhaps you wouldn't have problems like these if you reconsidered your attitude to women.

MtD
/edited for the eschewal of a pronoun/

chopperr1978:
im sorry if that comment came out sexist, i really didnt mean it to sound like that,the girl seems to be OK, holds down a respectable job, but i do not know much about her  history, only that she has just broken up with her boy friend. but i was suspicious when she was prepaired [sic] to sleep with me, unprotected, after just meeting me.
what i memeant was it was not deemed as a high risk encounter ( for example i have read some threads rereferring to people sleeping with prostitutes and classing that as a high risk) that is what i memeant as seems ok 'I'm sorry i should have taken some more consideration over the wording of my message. i am in no way a sexist person and i appologise as to the reference i made about the susspiciousness of sleeping unprotected, i just feel it is wrong until you know that person before u trust oral/pill contraception's for myself i would expect any partner to refuse to sleep with me unprotected if i suggested or was prepared to sleep with a girl unprotected on a first encounter as she to would not know anything about my history. and thus should get to know me better, i would expect her to be a little warry or think of me as irresponsible

Matty the Damned:
Well Chopper,

You see this stuff about her having to "refuse" your advances indicates that you don't appreciate your responsibilities when it comes to safer sex. Protecting your health is up to you, not the people you sleep with. The difficulties you now find yourself in are of your own making -- not the woman who consented to have sex with you.

You need to understand that it is behaviours, not people, that are "high risks". Sex workers are not "high risk" but unprotected sex is. Unprotected sex with ANYBODY.

But enough of the lecture. The reality is that HIV transmission during vaginal sex is more likely for the woman than the man involved. You have had a risky encounter, you do need to test, but the likelihood of you being infected is not terribly high.

MtD

Ann:
chop,

You need to know that it's not WHO you have sex with, it's WHAT and HOW you have sex. People aren't high risk, but some activities are. Intercourse with a sex worker is not a risk when you use a condom, and unprotected intercourse with someone you think is "respectable" IS.

The bottom line here is that you had unprotected intercourse and therefore you put yourself at risk not only for hiv, but also for other sexually transmitted infections such as chlamydia. The rates of untreated chlamydia infection in the UK are sky-high.

You need to test for hiv and all the other sexually transmitted infections as well. Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs. If you aren't already having routine sexual health check-ups, now is the time to start. Some of the STIs like chlamyida can be present without symptoms - that's how it's getting spread so widely.

As it has been more than ten days since your incident, you can test now for most of the STIs, but syphilis shares a three month window period with hiv.

Your chance of getting a negative hiv result after a one time unprotected encounter is excellent, but you must test.

Ann

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