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Offline Biscuit

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Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« on: November 17, 2009, 10:44:38 PM »
My husband took a trip to south america on 09/28/2008, he went to a strip bar and kissed one of the dancers in the mouth (french kiss). Prior to going to the bar that same day he had gone to the dentist, so his worry is that he is somewhat infected with the virus.  So far he has performed 48 HIV tests including: Oral Quick, Elisa, Hepatitis B,C, Gonorrea, Chlamydia, Syphilis.  He has been profoundly depressed for the last 14 months, just being convinced that he has the virus.  He has been visiting this website daily, reading into each person's story so that he can make his own deductions.  He has been seeing a therapist because he's been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder.  To make things worst, the doctors took his gallbladder out because it was not functioning properly.  He has been experiencing many symptoms similar to a person infected with HIV, but he will not consider that it is because of another condition but HIV.

He is basically obesessed with a possible infection.  He has seen several doctors, and each time he sees one he asks for an HIV test.  He read a couple of stories of people being diagnosed with HIV after 9 months or so, which i consider rare, but to him is a fact.  He has felt ocasional headaches, which are due to his anxiety or sinuses problems, but to him is HIV related. He had fever only once in the past 14 months of 101, but again to him that was part of HIV. Needless to say, he is been driving me crazy with this issue.

My question is after 48 HIV tests (blood, oral quick and all), and with the only risk he took of kissing some girl at a bar, is there a slight chance he could have HIV???? I am 120% that he doesn't but he needs to hear it from the experts.  My husband showed me the story of Paul and Liverpool from this website and he said why they haven't showed up again with comments.  Are they banned from the website? My husband has performed a PCR test yesterday and he is waiting for the results. Hopefully the results will finally convince him of this fear.  Please help. thanks.

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #1 on: November 18, 2009, 12:19:34 AM »
First of all your husband is HIV negative but it sounds liketo me that no matter what we tell him he is not going to listen, he needs to keep seeing his therapist, this forum only deals with HIV and this is not your husbands problem.


Secondly...PCR testing is not approved for diagnostic purposes, PCR testing in your husbands case would be a waste of time and money.

If he insist's on having a PCR done, make sure it is an RNA-PCR test, the DNA test is very prone to false positives but the RNA is a little better.

Again, ANY PCR result MUST be confirmed, one way or another, with antibody testing at the appropriate time.

He is HIV negative, he now needs to deal with the truth and get on with his life and stop making your life a misery into the bargain.

Jan
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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #2 on: November 18, 2009, 06:47:21 AM »
Biscuit,

Paul from Liverpool isn't banned. He never came back because he doesn't have hiv. It's that simple.

DNA PCR testing is not approved for diagnostic purposes as it has a high rate of false positive results. Let's hope your husband doesn't get one of those - he'll be a basket case. ONLY antibody testing, followed by a Western Blot if positive, is approved for the diagnosis of hiv infection. Even if he gets a false positive on the PCR, it will be followed up with antibody testing and of course, that will prove the PCR to be false. I doubt that your husband will believe it though.

It's a shame that you're both going through this over a NO RISK kiss. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen  different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect. There's no way he would be infected from a kiss.

I'd like to suggest that it may be a good idea for you to also get into counselling. It can't be easy for you to live with your husband's obsession. Good luck.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

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Offline Biscuit

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #3 on: November 25, 2009, 09:59:59 PM »
I am the husband and my results for my pcr was HIV-1 RNA by PCR    <48
the reportable range for this assay is 48 to 10,000,000
HIV 1/o/2 Abs-ICMA
HIV1/0/2 Abs-Index Value      <1.00
              index value:specimen reactivity relative to the negative cut off
HIV 1/o/2 Abs, Qual           not reactive

Offline Biscuit

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #4 on: November 25, 2009, 10:03:34 PM »
this is after 14 months the I think was a risk

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #5 on: November 25, 2009, 10:33:32 PM »
You don't have HIV.

Offline Biscuit

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #6 on: November 25, 2009, 10:41:55 PM »
Something to thanks  tomorrow with my wife and kids,to be honest i still worry,but i will try to work it out i have to .

Offline Biscuit

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #7 on: November 25, 2009, 10:49:43 PM »
Happy Thanksgiving day to averyone :)

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Re: Husband is obsessed with possible HIV infection
« Reply #8 on: November 26, 2009, 07:16:26 AM »
Biscuit,

If you still can't put this behind you despite numerous negative test results, then perhaps it's time to see a therapist. We cannot help you further with this here.

You do NOT have hiv.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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