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Offline blackmamba

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need reassurance
« on: January 12, 2010, 08:27:58 PM »
last april of 09 i contracted gonnoreah with my girlfriend thats 1st week of aprl 09...so i went for medication....1st week of may i have unprotected oral sex and protected vaginal sex with the same person...i got re-infected....MY QUESTION ARE

1.My risk is from april not from may bcoz ther is no risk in oral sex for hiv but not for std is this correct?

2.I tested more than 3 months and it came out negative..Its that conclusive?

3.Can i be sure that im hiv negative?

i broke up with my girl after my unprotected oral protected vaginal last may...

ANYONE....ANDY OR ANN PLEASE HELP

Offline RapidRod

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #1 on: January 12, 2010, 08:30:28 PM »
You were never at risk of contracting HIV but yes you were at risk of contracting other STDs. Your 3 month negative test was conclusive.

Offline blackmamba

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #2 on: January 12, 2010, 08:40:02 PM »
Thanks Rapid Rod.....Coz My friend told me that if i have std i have hiv also is this correct?

and can i be sure that im hiv negative? thanks...

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #3 on: January 12, 2010, 08:55:58 PM »
Your friend was wrong. You have reliably tested negative for HIV at 3 months.

Now what you need to do is to stop having unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse so that you don't put yourself at risk again for sexual transmission of HIV. You need to use a condom everytime. No exceptions no matter what you thnk you know about the other person.

Anyone who is sexually active ought to regularly be having a full STD panel. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV as you have learned. Having an active case of other STDs does put you at greater risk for getting HIV if you are having unprotected intercourse.

You made it through this time as far as HIV is concerned. Stop putting yourself at risk. Use condoms.
Andy Velez

Offline blackmamba

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #4 on: January 13, 2010, 10:35:29 AM »
andy can i put this behind and move forward???that i dont need to worry about hiv bcoz i tested more than 3 months and im conclusively negative???/coz sometimes im still thinking that what if my std delayed my antibody and the medication i took...pls need you reassurance here thanks andy and ann thanks

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #5 on: January 13, 2010, 10:40:57 AM »
Neither the other STD nor the medication you took for it would have delayed reliable HIV testing results.

You're HIV negative. Period. You can move on with your life.
Andy Velez

Offline blackmamba

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #6 on: January 14, 2010, 11:44:48 AM »
ann or andy

few question to move on!!!my test is valid for my status only?

can i be sure that im hiv negative after testing more than 3 months?

is there a risk on oral sex?

oraquick swab test is reliable for testing after 3 months?
 also have the blood test by the way


thanks for your time

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #7 on: January 14, 2010, 11:46:45 AM »
one more thing can u get hiv without getting any std?? thanks

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #8 on: January 14, 2010, 12:19:56 PM »
BM,

Yes, the hiv test you took will only tell you YOUR hiv status. You are conclusively hiv negative.

Getting a blowjob is absolutely NO RISK for hiv infection.

Once again, you have tested conclusively hiv negative. YOU DO NOT HAVE HIV and it's time you moved on with your life.

Yes, you can get hiv without getting other STIs and you can also get other STIs without getting hiv. Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple! Read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them with confidence.

And remember, while you will NOT become infected with hiv through getting a blowjob, it is possible to become infected with some of the other, more easily transmitted STIs in this way, as you found out. This does NOT change the fact that getting a blowjob is NO RISK where hiv is concerned.

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Offline blackmamba

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #9 on: January 14, 2010, 11:55:31 PM »
to be honest my fear still taking over bcoz everytime i saw or read something about hiv and i saw on the net about hiv i phobia or i dont know....everytime i saw that matter on media ads i thinks its a sign to get tested again even i tested more than 3 months...any idea guyz will help me thanks

Offline RapidRod

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #10 on: January 15, 2010, 12:03:31 AM »
Seek professional mental help for your phobias.

Offline blackmamba

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #11 on: January 15, 2010, 02:41:05 AM »
i just want to know where's my risk so i know!!!!!

1st week of april unprotected vaginal and oral contracted sti

1st week of may protected vaginal unprotected oral gor re-infected

so where's my possible risk for hiv? so i can move on promise last question...

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« Reply #12 on: January 15, 2010, 03:26:45 AM »
BM,

You had a small risk for hiv in April. You had NO RISK for hiv in May. But whatever your risk, you have tested conclusively negative for hiv; YOU DO NOT HAVE HIV.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.


Please consider yourself warned!

Ann
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Offline blackmamba

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guyz just a follow up
« Reply #13 on: January 24, 2010, 12:01:00 PM »
can i really trust my test after contracting sti if thers a risk for getting a bj its only 4months and 15 days but if thers is no risk for getting a bj its 5 months and 15 days........do i need to test again

coz everytime i saw the word hiv or read something about hiv i feel that i need to get tested again and my fear taking over me what do you think can i leave this behind and move forward ....need help guyz ann or andy one last time thanks...

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Re: need reassurance
« Reply #14 on: January 24, 2010, 12:07:19 PM »
I've merged your threads. Please follow our rule and keep all of your entries in this same thread.

Fortunately, feelings are not facts. And the fact is that you weren't at risk for HIV as you were told repeatedly. And yes, you can trust your test result. You are HIV negative. Period. End of story.

Ann has already warned you about a potential Time Out. You're done with this issue and if you start coming back again with further worries you are definitely going to get 28 days off of the site.

Be glad you don't have an HIV problem and get on with life.
Andy Velez

 


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