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Author Topic: needing to get something out  (Read 3763 times)

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needing to get something out
« on: December 20, 2009, 08:39:55 AM »
I am in a living hell.  I am in a relationship where the guy says things to me like I have a big vagina.  Then he tries to get me to say things to make him look good.  If I don't then he threatewns to kick me out.  It's like he's always trying to insult me and he just does not want to work.
I came out from California - again - to help him from his drug induced vomiting and hallucinations.  Yet he insults my cooking.  And tries to show that I am useless.
He has even slandered people behind their backs and says out loud where the neighbors can hear him, that I hate his neighbors. 
I am now in las vegas and have no where to go.  I have a high school diploma, but it does not help. 
He always tells me how bad the economy is, that my pills are expensive, and I can not get help if I work.  Yet again he insults me by saying to his friends, That he pays for everything. 
I don't even have a car. 
He tells me I blew it, and that I drove the last nail into my own coffin this time. 
I've been living with a man who has told me that my vagins is big.  That I am stupid and to shut up.  He has been trying to help me be with him.  Yes he says very negative things. 
My parents changed their phone number and won't talk to me.   

Offline Snowangel

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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #1 on: December 20, 2009, 08:52:35 AM »
HI Bleu-
Sorry to hear that you are going through a rough time.  If I was you, I would try to move heaven and earth to get away from that guy.  He is obviously using you and has no qualms about hurting your feelings.  Are there any shelters in Las Vegas or people you can talk too?  Be strong.
Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important

The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..

One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.


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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #2 on: December 20, 2009, 08:52:57 AM »
I have my eleven year-old daughter and all our stuff.  We won't be having Christmas, and our benefits will be torn apart.  I won't have an address.  He is laughing and says he knew it.  And all the women who told me I was better than this, he is only trying to control me..... won't pick up their phones to let me come figure things out!  My family with their huge mouths and too much pride.
These women wanted me to love them so much it has literally left me homeless.  Why do women encourage you to do your best, leave that man, and they get treated just as great?  
When I try they turn their backs, and act as if nothing is their fault.  
I guess it's because they wanted thousands for a house and I could not even ask my boyfriend.  He wants me to lick his ass, even dirty, and drink his urine.  My mother and her sister wanted money or to get him to buy some diamonds or something.
I told him the truth of my past, and I thought it would get me a free pass on having to do anything illegal.  I have a felony, bills, and HIV.  I am so screwed!  
The women in my family don't get it.  I have to work to get anything around this house.  And he wants someone to wait on him hand and foot, insults included.  

Offline Snowangel

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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #3 on: December 20, 2009, 09:15:29 AM »
Don't take this the wrong way, but that is even better. I believe, if you have a child with you, they will be more likely to get some services for you. You have nothing more to lose by walking away, but you will save you and your daughters pride, get away from the emotional abuse and be able to have a fresh start. At least, you can call around and ask what you and your daughter would be eligible for.

Here is what I got when I googled.
Shade Tree Shelter for Women 1 West Owens North Las Vegas, NV 89030 (702) 385-0072

Women's Development Center
953 E. Sahara, Suite 201
Las Vegas, NV
(702) 796-7770

Safe Nest for Women
2915 W. Charleston Avenue
Las Vegas, NV
(702) 646-4981

Reno-Sparks Gospel Mission
Women and Children Center
355 Record Street
Reno, NV 89512
(775) 329-0485

EOB Project HOME
330 W. Washington Avenue,
Suite 7
Las Vegas, NV

Transitional Housing for Homeless Families & Rental Assistance to Prevent Homelessness 
Interfaith Hospitality Network
500 W. Van Buren
Las Vegas, NV
(702) 638-8806
Shelter & Food For Homeless Families 
Of all the things you wear, your expression is the most important

The heaviest thing you can carry is a grudge..

One thing you can give and still keep...is your word.

One thing you can't recycle is wasted time.

Offline emeraldize

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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #4 on: December 20, 2009, 11:21:02 AM »
He wants me to lick his ass, even dirty, and drink his urine. 

Hi Bleu

Are you complying with his requests to do these sorts of things?

Second question, has he ever hit you?

Third, does he abuse you verbally in front of your daughter?

And final question, to your knowledge, has he ever said or done anything harmful to your daughter?


Offline whatever1

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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #5 on: December 20, 2009, 04:18:17 PM »
Gurl, cut the string and run to one of them programs that someone posted  call and tell them you need transportation to get their and above all remember you can't save your face and your azz at the same time .. he needs intensive mental help and you need to live; there is always a new beginning if you are willing to take that first step, that what you are going through is domestic violence. he carries his own destiny , be done , look at it as a lesson or  a blessing , but leave that sick SOB .You can learn new skills or go back to school , your parents are who they are maybe you all will bond maybe not  but until you take responsability for your life  it will not happen , cause it ain't about no body but you..(hugs)

Offline anniebc

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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #6 on: December 20, 2009, 04:38:14 PM »

Snow has given you a list of people you can get in touch with..do it, pick up the phone and call them NOW, this man will strip you tothe bones if you let him, for the sake of your sanity and your daughter DON'T LET HIM...please get help.

I know it's won't be easy for you and it will be a struggle, but it will workout in the end and for the better.

Jan :-*
Never knock on deaths door..ring the bell and run..he really hates that.

Offline netta

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Re: needing to get something out
« Reply #7 on: December 22, 2009, 07:44:47 PM »
please take these ladies advice, there is a god and he made you and wanted a better life than this for you, he loves you, you will pull through this.
"to thine own self be true"


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