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Consumed with worry. Please help.
« on: October 19, 2009, 10:56:42 PM »
I recently gave another man a hand job. I did not know him and his status. My question is; He ejaculated on the outside of my hand. After, I noticed I had 2 small dry cuts, which look like paper cuts/scrape from approximately 1 to 3  days before. The 2 cut/scrape are small. One looks like a paper cut and the other looks like a small nik that i did by scraping my finger on concrete. Only the top layer of skin was cut. They are not deep at all and were dried when I gave a hand-job.

Is their any way I could have gotten infected with HIV if his sperm touched my cut ?

 He ejaculated a lot and Im scared that some sperm could have touched my cut. I can scratch the cut with my nail and their is no bleeding. Im thinking this is a dry cut and the semen would not be able to get in.

He ejaculated a lot on my hand. I then wiped it off approximately 3 seconds after he was done. I have read other forums and they say that the cut would have to be visibly bleeding and the sperm (of an HIV +) man would have to be massaged into the wound.

Would the 2 small cuts like mine, which are not deep at all pose a threat? Or would the cut have to be visibly deep and bleeding and fresh and new?

Please advise if this is a high risk? I am worried. Thank you in advance!  :-[






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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #1 on: October 20, 2009, 03:44:01 AM »
Terrier,

Giving someone a handjob isn't a risk for hiv infection. Not one person has ever been infected this way and you aren't going to be the first. It doesn't matter about the cuts etc, hiv transmission just doesn't happen this way.

Along with reading the Transmission lesson linked to in our Welcome Thread, here's what you need to know in order to remain hiv negative:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER GIVING A HANDJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #2 on: October 20, 2009, 09:57:21 AM »
Thank you Ann, I appreciate you replying. I am more at ease now. Thanks  :)

So even if semen got into the cut, a person still wont have a risk of getting HIV (if the person receiving the hand job is pos)?

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #3 on: October 20, 2009, 11:21:43 AM »
Terrier,

No, even if positive semen got into your cut you still had no risk. Hiv transmission just doesn't happen that way.

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #4 on: October 20, 2009, 04:24:52 PM »
Ann, I read somewhere that if the cut was deep and the semen was massaged into the cut, their would be a risk. Now my cut was a day old and dry, but it was small and round and not healed. Their was no blood at all but what looked like a brown coat, which looked like it was starting to heal. I guess I am still stressed about this even though you are telling me that their is no possible way. Should I just let this go?

Also, when is the earliest I can get tested if this continues to bother me? Is one month sufficient time?

I really appreciate your comments back to me. Thank you.


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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #5 on: October 21, 2009, 01:07:43 PM »
Ann or Andy please help! I am extremely worried and you told me that I do not need testing for my incident.

Please answer me when you have a moment: I read this from another thread that you answered: Once hiv finds itself outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect.

Now if the other mans sperm had landed on my cuts  (he ejaculated a lot) would the virus die as soon as the sperm hit the air (outside of the body)?

I really am worried that the sperm got on to my cut and am afraid he was POS.

Is their any chance even if my cut was deep?

Can I test in 2 weeks? Is that sufficient time?

Please answer me as I am freaking out, and I know it is my own mind doing getting me worried. I appreciate your knowledge and want to understand better from my actions.

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #6 on: October 21, 2009, 01:11:35 PM »
You can go ahead and get tested if you can't let go of this unwarranted fear. There was absolutely no risk in the incident you are concerned about. Of course if you continue to surf the net you will definitely find comments to fuel your fears.

The sexual act you are concerned about is one of the most common. I've never known of anyone to have become infected in that manner including with wounds, cuts, bruises and others far more impressive than yours. I don't expect you to make history by becoming the first.

You're not going to be told anything different here than you have already gotten in the previous responses.

No testing is necessary. If you test it is only for your peace of mind and a negative result is a slam dunk.
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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #7 on: October 21, 2009, 01:22:19 PM »
Thank you for responding Andy. Is it sufficient time to go in approx 2 weeks? Will the result stand?

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« Reply #8 on: October 21, 2009, 03:25:38 PM »
If you had a genuine risk then you would need to test at 13 weeks for a conclusive negative result.

In your case the time is irrelevant because you didn't have a risk. So testing is just about easing your anxiety and not because it is really warranted. I suggest testing at 6 weeks. At that point all but the smallest number of those who seroconvert will have done so.

But again I say, you have no basis for needing to test other than relieving your fears.
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Oral sex and possibility - please help
« Reply #9 on: October 30, 2009, 09:02:04 PM »
Andy, I performed oral sex on someone yesterday. It lasted less than 5 min, but it was a lot of "deep throating". He did not ejaculate but I am scared of the possibility of precum. I asked him before hand and after his status. He said he tested 2 months ago and is negative. But I asked him about his past sex encounters after his test and he said he had sex (being the top) with 2 other males and he always wears a condom.

I checked my mouth for cuts after the act and I had no visible cuts, etc, in my mouth. I read on some other forums that this is a low risk. Is their a risk in this situation and if so what is it?

Thank you in advance!

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #10 on: October 31, 2009, 12:13:31 AM »
Terrier

I have merged your threads so please use this one from now on when asking questions..thank you for your cooperation

You really need to read the lesson here on how HIV is and is not transmitted and to be aware that the  "theoretical risk" spoken of in the lesson regarding oral sex is talking about GIVING blowjobs, not receiving a blowjob..so it does apply to you.

Not one person has ever been infected this way and you really aren't going to be the first...trust us on that one.

Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #11 on: October 31, 2009, 05:18:27 AM »
Thanks for your reply Jan, does this mean I do not need to get an hiv  antibody  test?

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #12 on: October 31, 2009, 09:14:45 AM »
Are you actually reading and taking in what is being said to you? Doesn't seem so.

Yes, that means you do not need to take an HIV test. You didn't have any risk.

Get on with your life.
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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #13 on: October 31, 2009, 11:54:43 AM »
Andy, reason why i am worried is because i have a sore throat and the back of my neck is a bit sore. the sore throat has lasted for about 4 days. its not terrible but it hurts sometimes when i swallow.

Also, some doctors in forums say blowjobs are a risk and you are telling me no risk.... is it because their was no semen? how about the possibility of precum?

thank you.

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« Reply #14 on: October 31, 2009, 12:24:37 PM »
Sorry 1 more question and i am done.... about approx. 3 to 4 weeks after i gave this person a "blow job" i went to get an hiv antibody test done by blood. It was negative. Is that sufficient enough time?

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« Reply #15 on: October 31, 2009, 12:30:05 PM »
Terrier,

While giving a blowjob is nothing more than a theoretical risk for hiv infection, it can be a very real risk for getting something like gonorrhea in your throat. If you're worried about your sore throat, see a doctor and get it swabbed for other STIs and things like strep. Whatever is going on has NOTHING to do with hiv.

As long as you're using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, you WILL avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

When I tried to post this, I discovered you have asked another question.

Have you bothered to read what has already been written to you? Andy answered your latest question in reply #8. The window period is the same no matter what the risk. You haven't HAD a risk, and so your negative test result means you do NOT have hiv.

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Re: Consumed with worry. Please help.
« Reply #16 on: November 10, 2009, 03:27:37 PM »
Jan, Ann, and Andy

I had the guy I gave a "BJ" too get tested about 2 weeks ago. He told me he went and he was negative. I did this for reassurance. This this solidify that I am negative? Isn't their a period when a person who has the virus will test negative? What are the chances that he really is negative. he had 2 partners before me and he wore a condom. My worrying has gone down quite a bit and my anxiety is feeling better but I would like to know the possibility that the test could not tell yet on him. Please advise. Thanks  :)

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« Reply #17 on: November 10, 2009, 04:01:06 PM »
terrier,

It doesn't matter what his test result was. You didn't have a risk.

It's time you got on with your life. Remember to use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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