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Offline that guy 2009

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oral from a pro...
« on: October 14, 2009, 01:49:43 PM »
 Hi there. i've read alot about oral sex and hiv transmission. i went to see an escort. I thought she had a condom in her mouth and would put it on as she gave me head. She was going down on me for 30-40 seconds (all the way) when I realized there was no condom. I asked her to stop at which time she did and proceeded with protected oral until the end. I'm I at greater risk of hiv because she's a pro and apparently doesn't use condoms for oral? I saw no blood in her mouth. I had no cuts on my penus. Thank you.

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Re: oral from a pro...
« Reply #1 on: October 14, 2009, 02:07:27 PM »
Guy,

Getting a blowjob is absolutely NOT a risk for infection, whether or not a condom is used. Not one person has ever been infected through being blown and you will NOT be the first.

The fact that she's "a pro" makes no difference. People are not risky, but certain activities are, and those activities, sexually speaking, are unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse. And that's it. It's not who you do, it's HOW you do it.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER A BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann



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Offline that guy 2009

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Oral with escort...
« Reply #2 on: November 07, 2009, 04:25:29 PM »
Good day. Here is my question. I recieved oral sex (bj) from a 19 year old escort from the Carribbean. I had a condom on the whole time. I also did suck her breasts and nipples for 5-10 minutes. I don't believe she was pregnant or lactating. There was no discharge from her nipples. I became ill the next day with flu-like symptons. Four days later I was still sick and went to the doctor and was given antibiotics for upper respiratory infection. Did any of my actions put me at risk for Hiv? That was all we did. Never any penetrative vaginal sex. Thank you.

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Re: Oral with escort...
« Reply #3 on: November 07, 2009, 06:44:44 PM »
You've got some wrong ideas so let me clear them up.

As far as HIV is concerned you don't need to have a condom on when receiving oral. In the entire history of the epidemic no guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected through receiving oral. It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first.

even if she was pregnant and lactating you wouldn't have been at risk for sucking her nipples. The only person at risk would be an infant less than 6 months old. Their immune systems haven't kicked in at that age so that puts them at risk for transmission. An adult is not at risk for sucking a lactating breast.

Whatever was going on with you symptomatically had nothing to do with HIV. Nothing you have reported put you at risk nor is there any need for testing.

We do recommend that anyone who is sexually active ought to regularly have a full STD panel done. That means at least annually. Other STDs are much easier to acquire than HIV.

This time you are worrying needlessly. And just make sure you always use condoms for vaginal and anal intercourse. Those are the only confirmed means of transmission -- intercourse that is unprotected.

Cheers. 
Andy Velez

Offline that guy 2009

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Re: Oral with escort...
« Reply #4 on: November 07, 2009, 10:10:52 PM »
Thank you Andy for your prompt response. I say cheers to you mate!!! :)

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Re: Oral with escort...
« Reply #5 on: November 08, 2009, 08:42:09 AM »
You're welcome. Glad you found the exchange to be helpful.

Onward now and keep those condoms handy to use everytime when you have intercourse.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #6 on: October 07, 2010, 08:10:56 PM »
 :'(  Im very depressed with myself. I recieved oral sex from a paid pro. I used a condom (latex but I'm not 100% sure.) I had it on the whole time. I finished. I didn't see any cuts or tears in the condom. I'm dissapointed in myself. Do I need to test for HIV? Thank you.

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« Reply #7 on: October 07, 2010, 08:39:56 PM »
You are worrying needlessly.

Receiving oral is one of the most common sexual activities. In the entire history of the epidemic there has never been a single confirmed case of transmission to a guy through his having received oral. You are not going to make history by becoming the first. It is a no risk for HIV even without a condom being used.

The condom is useful as protection against other STDs which can be passed orally, but unnecessary for HIV.  There is no need for HIV testing nor for further concern on your part about this incident.
Andy Velez

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Re: oral from a pro...
« Reply #8 on: October 07, 2010, 09:20:53 PM »
Guy,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.





How many times do you need to be told that getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is NOT a risk for hiv infection? Re-read your entire thread until it sinks in.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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