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Author Topic: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?  (Read 5306 times)

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Offline dizzy42

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Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« on: October 02, 2009, 10:47:26 PM »
I just don't feel the same when I'm having sex.  Is this normal.  The drive isn't there.  At times it's there and at times it's not.  I'm on Atripla.  I feel that I really have to work hard to cum.  Any one having the same issues I'm having?  I'm losing it.

Offline BT65

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #1 on: October 03, 2009, 08:44:54 AM »
Dizzy, how long have you been diagnosed?  And what's your age?  I'm asking, because if you've been diagnosed recently, psychological issues can be the culprit.  You may still not have a lot of acceptance about being HIV+, and maybe have some guilt.

I'm asking about the age, because I know as I've gotten older, it's harder to, well, have sex like I used to.  I mean, I haven't had any in over a year, but  what I'm saying is, I know as a woman ages, she gets less "moist," and that can sometimes be painful.  In that case, you may want to use a little lube. 

If it's psychological issues, I'd urge you to see a good therapist.  If you're not familiar with the ones in your town, your nearest Aids Service Organization should be of help.  They may suggest one who's used to counseling people who have HIV.  Good luck!

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #2 on: October 03, 2009, 09:41:13 AM »
I just don't feel the same when I'm having sex.  Is this normal.  The drive isn't there.  At times it's there and at times it's not.  I'm on Atripla.  I feel that I really have to work hard to cum.  Any one having the same issues I'm having?  I'm losing it.

i am a 49 year old women living with hiv for 12 years, i also have had no sex drive for over 2 years, told it was not a medical issue, so i guess it is another issue of hiv or meds i would talk to your dr good luck
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Offline dizzy42

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #3 on: October 06, 2009, 03:20:18 PM »
I'm 43 and Poz since March 2008.  Can my doc give me something to boost up my drive?  Hormornal pills maybe? Psychologically, I've accepted the fact that i'm HIV+ and try not to let that get in the way, but It just doesnt' feel the same like it use too?   :'(

Offline Veritee

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #4 on: October 24, 2009, 05:10:16 AM »
I don't know but it may be something else and not HIV or Atripla or even your age - but of course every one reacts differently to age and menopause and the meds etc.

I am 56, married, only diagnosed in 2007 on Atripla reached menopause some years ago and do not have any difficulty at all in either dryness or ability to cum.

In fact I was surprised I don't as when I was diagnosed to be HIV+ in my 50s after over 25 years of being totally faithful to my husband - he was unfaithful and did not tell me - I thought  sex would be either psychologically affected or by theARV meds or just due to being HIV.
But for me it is not.

All I can suggest is the doctor.
If you have not yet reached menopause it could be related to this as I reached menopause early at 45 ish - apparently  many with HIV do  - and for a while before and after for a year or two my sex drive and orgasm was affected, but it is all fine now

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Offline equaltime

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #5 on: September 10, 2010, 01:25:04 PM »
I couldn't take Atripila.....to many nightmares......Hiv affects so many different body functions along with the meds it's really important to understand, monitor and utilize whatever tools are available whether they be drugs diet exercise or whatever to bring the balance available to your mind and body. Check those hormone levels since there's always a direct correlation to both the mental and physical well being and functions of your body......If your not exercising regularly and following a healthy diet you are cheating yourself out of the benefits it brings, especially if you have other vices........just sayin

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #6 on: September 10, 2010, 01:26:35 PM »
Equaltime,

If I'm correct in thinking you're a man, you should not be posting in the women's forum. It's for women ONLY. Thank you for your cooperation.

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Offline mannymartinez

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #7 on: November 02, 2010, 04:01:40 PM »
cause  u probally need  to get with  a real man  liike  me  and  u see  how  your sex drive will fly to the roof  lol  dend  me  pictures  2  latinopapi68@yahoo.com 

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #8 on: November 02, 2010, 07:16:49 PM »
cause  u probally need  to get with  a real man  liike  me  and  u see  how  your sex drive will fly to the roof  lol  dend  me  pictures  2  latinopapi68@yahoo.com 

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Offline Snowangel

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Re: Sex is not the same, Is this normal?
« Reply #9 on: November 02, 2010, 07:52:34 PM »
cause  u probally need  to get with  a real man  liike  me  and  u see  how  your sex drive will fly to the roof  lol  dend  me  pictures  2  latinopapi68@yahoo.com 
I'm sorry, Jan but......I'm ROFLMAO.

I don't have much of one either but I use those hot massage oils and it loosens things up  ;D


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