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Author Topic: penis pulled out without the condom!  (Read 1437 times)

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Offline raskolnikov

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penis pulled out without the condom!
« on: September 17, 2009, 06:25:23 AM »
good morning! I'm a homosexual male who's worried about an incident that occurred while i was having intercourse with a partner of unknown status. I was at the receiving end, and while I made my partner wear a condom, after he ejaculated, his penis pulled out without it. I immediately pulled it out ( it was close to the surface) and didn't notice any holes or abnormalities in the condom. The condom was about a year old, and according to the package it expires in 2012. what should I be worried about? does this happen often? what are the chances that I may have gotten infected from this encounter with a person of unknown status? thanks in advance...

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Re: penis pulled out without the condom!
« Reply #1 on: September 17, 2009, 06:34:10 AM »
rask,

As you were able to pull the condom out without digging for it, this is a no risk situation. It would have simply come off while he withdrew. If it had slipped off earlier when he was thrusting, it would have been pushed deeper inside you. In future, make sure your top hangs on to the condom when he withdraws to avoid being scared silly.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC SITUATION, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: penis pulled out without the condom!
« Reply #2 on: September 17, 2009, 06:44:39 AM »
thanks for the rapid response, ann. I still have a couple of concerns though... how would I know that no semen slipped out while the penis was leaving the condom behind? also, what do you mean by digging? kind of a humorous question, but really, if the condom was within an inch or so in, would I not have to worry?  btw, I really appreciate the dedication you put into answering the questions people submit to the best of your ability.

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Re: penis pulled out without the condom!
« Reply #3 on: September 17, 2009, 07:17:49 AM »
rask,

By digging, I meant having to put your finger deep inside of your bottom in order to retrieve the condom. From what you wrote the first time, it didn't sound like this was necessary. Your rectum has two sets of sphincter muscles. If it was in between the two, I'd say don't worry about it, the condom came off when he withdrew. If it was deeper in and past the second sphincter, then testing would be prudent.

If you decide you need to test, a six week test would be a good indication of your status as the vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by this time, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point.

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