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Author Topic: precum on anus and question about mucous membrane exposure  (Read 8122 times)

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precum on anus and question about mucous membrane exposure
« on: September 17, 2009, 02:07:27 AM »
I know the basics of HIV and have always been very careful (careful bordering on paranoia which is why I've only had 3 sexual partners and the only 1 with whom I had unprotected sex was my last long term bf). Anyway, I did something recently that has me terrified and I am worrying myself sick.
I met a friend of a friend and we later had unprotected oral (which worries me a little even though I know is hardly a risk for HIV). We did mutual masturbation and he fingered me which, again, is not a risk. The only thing that scares me is that after he fingered me, he rubbed his penis on my anus and was definitely putting some pressure. Then, we stopped. I later found out that he is HIV+ and have been terrified since.
Whatever the risk, I intend on being tested for HIV and other STI's in a few weeks. But I am just writing now to get an idea of what the risk was.
I have heard that frotting is not risky but what about penis to anus frotting, where there is a pretty good chance that precum on the head of the penis came in contact with the pink part of the anus. I know for a fact that there was no penetration and even the penis head did not penetrate. The penis just touched the pink part of the anus.
What has me confused is, is this considered mucous membrane area? If so, why would it not be extremely risky if the anal mucous membranes are known to be more sensitive (for lack of a better word) than mucous membranes in the mouth?
Also, I know it's said that it has to be internal contact (as the HIV is more fragile than most people think and can be weakened by external environmental factors), but the pink that you can see in your anus is kinda in-between the inernal/external - not as dangerous as an open wound but not as much a barrier as skin). 
I guess I'd be at least a little less worried if I wasn't 100% sure that this guy was HIV+.
Thank you in advance for your help.

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Re: precum on anus and question about mucous membrane exposure
« Reply #1 on: September 17, 2009, 06:27:40 AM »
really,

Frottage is frottage. It means sexual contact and rubbing between genitals or other initmate areas - without penetration. You say you weren't penetrated and therefore you were not at risk. I understand exactly what you mean by the "pink area" and I'm telling you this contact did not put you at risk. And yes, I understand the guy is hiv positive. No risk.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC FROTTAGE INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Re: precum on anus and question about mucous membrane exposure
« Reply #2 on: September 17, 2009, 11:36:28 PM »
Dear Ann,
Thank you so much for your quick reply. Although I am still pretty terrified by the whole incident, I feel a little better now and will feel a lot better getting tested (just to put my mind at ease) with negative results. Anyway, I should be tested for other STI's as there is still a chance I contracted something else. This has been the scare of my life which really has opened my eyes.
Thank you again

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Re: precum on anus and question about mucous membrane exposure
« Reply #3 on: September 18, 2009, 09:20:03 AM »
Really,

Re-read my first post to you - the entire thing. I already told you that anyone who is sexually active should be having regular sexual health check-ups. It's possible to get herpes or syphilis from frottage as all they take is skin to skin contact. It's up to you whether you test over this specific incident.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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