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condom inside out
« on: August 14, 2006, 07:29:54 PM »
Hello.

I was wondering if one of you experts could help me.  About four weeks ago I had sex with a street prostitute. She placed the condom on my penis but it didn't roll down easily.  It did eventually roll down and we had intercourse. Now I'm worried that the condom may have been inside out. Should this be of concern? I'm starting to freak out here.

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2006, 07:45:32 PM »
You are kidding? It didn't make a difference even if it was inside out. Gee, what people will do to prolong sex. You were at no risk for HIV.

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #2 on: August 14, 2006, 07:46:00 PM »
No concern. No risk.

The fact that it rolled down AT ALL means it was right-side out. You ought to try and roll down a condom inside out. It's easier to simply swap it out. But even if you DID use a condom inside out, it protects the same.

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2006, 07:54:30 PM »
Thanks alot guys. I feel sooooo much better. I guess protected means protected even if the condom is inside out. Thanks for the quick response and have a nice day.

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #4 on: July 25, 2014, 08:22:44 AM »
First off,

I want to say thanks to those who take the time to answer questions to
worried guys like me.

I never use condoms for receiving oral sex. I always use one for vaginal sex. I never do anal. I live in an area with a high std/aids rate in baltimore. I have had multiple sex partners in the past but I always put on a latex condom (usually Magnum) before each encounter of vaginal sex and took it off when I was done or about to ejaculate into the females mouth. Here is my problem. On a few encounters, I didn't thouroughly examine the condom after I finished intercourse. I know a condom break is not subtle and I wouldnt have been worried if I didnt start burning when I started to pee.

I also had a rash appear below my belly around the waist around 11 days after one encounter. It started off white and turned red. It was a little itchy but not much. Now Im thinking this is the ars rash. Few weeks later I started to get a discharge and went to a patient first.
So my test results came back positive for gonnahrea. So that means I either caught it from unprotected oral or the condom broke without me noticing. I informed the doctor that I always wear a latex condom before each time i have vaginal sex and take it off after i finsh so that I can avoid HIV. He looked at me and told me, "Condoms do break". I told him yeah i know Doc. So now im really worried. After the rash and the clap all i can think is that the sucker that was suppose to be protecting me wasn't intact and exposed me to this horrible virus. I know im done with girls for good and I can't even stand looking at them now. After years of reading this forum, The body and Medhelp due to irrational fears, this is the first time I'm posting because of a real risk. I always thought protected meant protected and as long as I wore latex condoms consistently (all the time) and correctly (put condom on before insertion, dont reuse) I'm starting to rethink this type of thinking. If only I had held each condom to the light when i was finished instead of rushing to take them off I wouldnt even be worried. I'm going to eventually get tested because it will be the only way to calm my fears but should I be worried? Please help me

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #5 on: July 25, 2014, 09:31:24 AM »
You did not have a risk for HIV because the vaginal sex you had was protected and the oral was not a risk .

Condoms are designed in such a way as to leave no doubt when they fail so you can rest assured you would have noticed . Many stds like gonorrhea are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv and the oral sex you had is a risk for stds ... but NOT HIV .

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you did not have a risk and do not need to test for this specific incident , anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #6 on: July 25, 2014, 10:22:43 AM »
Please only post in this one thread no matter how long between visits and the subject matter. You can find your thread by going to your profile and selecting show own post and it will take you here .   

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #7 on: July 28, 2014, 11:41:41 AM »
"Condoms are designed in such a way as to leave no doubt when they fail so you can rest assured you would have noticed".

Thanks Jeff G. I'm still worried because these last weeks, I've had pain in my neck (swollen lymph nodes?) and in my groin as well dizzy spells and pain in my muscle (calf and stomach). I just read this guy's post who posted in this forum with the same symptoms and I had a rash also. A few weeks ago. His post just got moved to Just tested positive forum.  Now I'm trying to go back and think in what encounter could my condom may have broke and I didn't notice. As I stated I didnt thouroghly check the condom when I rapidly took it off after vaginal intercourse. Symptoms don't lie especially when I didnt have these symptoms before. This is going to be a long 3 months to wait. Why is it so hard for us to just check the damn condom before removing it? It would save me so much stress and anxiety. I hate this guessing game.

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #8 on: July 28, 2014, 11:58:28 AM »
Symptoms do lie and can be caused by many other things than HIV including looking for them and stress . The only way to know your status is to test and not from symptoms that are in no specific to HIV .

If you cant accept your no risk assessment than go test at 6 weeks past any possible exposure and again at 3 months to confirm the results and when it comes out negative you will feel better . In the mean time if you are sick go see your doctor and find out why instead of guessing whats wrong . If this is only concern then HIV is not whats making you sick . 

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #9 on: July 28, 2014, 12:21:56 PM »
Thanks Jeff.

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #10 on: July 28, 2014, 12:23:52 PM »
You are welcome .

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #11 on: July 29, 2014, 07:49:20 AM »
Hello Guys,

I have one last question and then Im going to drop it and accept my no risk situation. I noticed on the post when it regards condom breaks, even when the poster states that they didnt really get a good look at the condom because of lighting, removing it quickly etc. I am wondering why you guys see this as no risk? The reason we are worried in the first place is because we don't know for certain if the condom was intact or not. Since I definitely didn't see any of my condoms broke after intercourse Im going to assume that it didn't. However, because of the quick removal, not checking thouroughly only a test at 3 months will assure me of that. Once again thanks a lot guys. All of you that take the time to answer questions and deal with worriers like me have a lot of patience. I will be donating to an AIDS charity annually from now on whether im negative or not.

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #12 on: July 29, 2014, 08:39:44 AM »
Hello Guys,

I have one last question and then Im going to drop it and accept my no risk situation. I noticed on the post when it regards condom breaks, even when the poster states that they didnt really get a good look at the condom because of lighting, removing it quickly etc. I am wondering why you guys see this as no risk? The reason we are worried in the first place is because we don't know for certain if the condom was intact or not. Since I definitely didn't see any of my condoms broke after intercourse Im going to assume that it didn't. However, because of the quick removal, not checking thouroughly only a test at 3 months will assure me of that. Once again thanks a lot guys. All of you that take the time to answer questions and deal with worriers like me have a lot of patience. I will be donating to an AIDS charity annually from now on whether im negative or not.

We never tell a person not to test for HIV ... I include this at least once in every assessment I do . On a different subject, we are qualified, experienced volunteers who are giving our time to do these risk assessments and are not here to have conversations in this particular forum and most times all you need to know about testing and protecting yourself from HIV can be addressed in 3 questions . All sexually active people should test for HIV and that is what really matters .... If you test at the appropriate time you will know your HIV status . 

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI.Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence .

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!


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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #13 on: July 30, 2014, 11:04:29 AM »
Thanks Jeff. I definitely trust your expert opinion. It was just the testing positive for gonnarhea, possible ARS symptoms and the Dr. telling me condoms do break after I told him that I always wear condoms for sex but not for oral. It was like he didnt even acknowledge the fact that i could have gotten the clap from receiving an unprotective blowjob. So thats what had me worried that the condom may have broken and i didnt notice. Heck, I wouldn't even have been worried at all if I hadn't gotten the clap to begin with. That's when all the what if scenarios came into my head. I put a condom at the end of a brush the other day to masturbate it and see what it looks like when it breaks and it was very obvious. So im feeling better that if it had happened in my case then i would have noticed. I went through the condom and lube facts you gave me and will get some lube to use alongside my Magnums from now on for extra precaution. I just find it ironic that the reason I spend all this money on condoms is to not have to worry about HIV and here I am on the Am I infected forum. Anxiety will make you get "symptoms", diagnose yourself, question protected encounters and no risk situations.  Im going to test in October just for anxiety sake and collect what I expect to be a negative. Once again thanks for helping those guys like me.

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« Reply #14 on: July 30, 2014, 11:07:55 AM »
You're welcome .

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Re: condom inside out
« Reply #15 on: August 02, 2014, 07:40:59 PM »
No matter how hard I try I still can't ignore the rash that was below my stomach around my waist line. It's just weird that it showed up about a little after a week after my "supposed" protected incident when I didn't thoroughly check the condom. I'm hoping not ARS rash.

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« Reply #16 on: August 02, 2014, 08:55:49 PM »
If you are uneasy then go test for peace of mind only . If this is your only concern it will be negative .

 


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