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Offline klinkenborg

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Very concerned and worried teenager- please help
« on: August 02, 2014, 04:56:08 PM »
Hello everyone, I am a 17 year old who made a stupid, uncalculated risk last night. I hooked up with a guy from Grindr, and am worried about my risk for HIV.

I bottomed for him, and for the most part he was wearing a condom. However, there were about twenty seconds when he inserted his penis into me without a condom (I think this is "dipping") and then he thrusted a few times. Then I told him to stop and he put on a condom, which he did. I continued bottoming for him with his condom on, but it wasn't working out and he couldn't stay erect. He then pulled out and I gave him oral for a bit to get him erect, but then I tried bottoming for him again and it still didn't work out. He did not end up cumming, and neither did I. At that point I packed up my things and went home.

When I got home my anus hurt, and when I patted it with a tissue, there were a few spots of blood. I think it wasn't inside the anus, but rather some skin on the outside (that's where it hurt the most so I assumed that's where it was bleeding from).

Now I'm very worried about my risk for HIV. He said he was neg but still I can't get my mind off this. He did not cum in the end, but there was some precum on his penis, as I felt it when I gave him oral. I'm most concerned about the fact that I was bleeding, even if it was just a bit.

If anyone could provide some help or guidance, that would be amazing. Do you think I need to get PEP? This was on Friday 8/1 at 9 pm. I am going to get tested in two, four, then six weeks. I come from a conservative household and am still in the closet.

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Re: Very concerned and worried teenager- please help
« Reply #1 on: August 02, 2014, 05:20:46 PM »
What you describe is "dipping", however it still represents a risk and you will need to test 6 weeks past this incident and then at 3 months to confirm the result.  PEP is generally not suggested for dipping incidents, but this is a decision that you must make.  Oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection.

You cannot trust what people tell you regarding their status and you should assume that all your partners are positive.  It's not the person that matters, it's what you DO with them that matters.  Personally, I think you will come out of this fine, but you must be using condoms for ALL insertive sex, NO EXCEPTIONS.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start.  As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV.  Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!

Joe

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Re: Very concerned and worried teenager- please help
« Reply #2 on: August 02, 2014, 05:29:38 PM »
What you describe is "dipping", however it still represents a risk and you will need to test 6 weeks past this incident and then at 3 months to confirm the result.  PEP is generally not suggested for dipping incidents, but this is a decision that you must make.  Oral sex is not a risk for HIV infection.

You cannot trust what people tell you regarding their status and you should assume that all your partners are positive.  It's not the person that matters, it's what you DO with them that matters.  Personally, I think you will come out of this fine, but you must be using condoms for ALL insertive sex, NO EXCEPTIONS.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to HIV testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start.  As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine HIV tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than HIV.  Some of the other STDs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid HIV infection. It really is that simple!

Joe


Thanks for the speedy reply, Joe. Do you have anything to say about the blood? That part really worried me.

Yes, I plan on getting tested at six weeks, probably even earlier. If everything comes out fine from this experience (which I hope it does), this has definitely freaked me out and made me much wiser...
« Last Edit: August 02, 2014, 05:37:41 PM by klinkenborg »

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Re: Very concerned and worried teenager- please help
« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2014, 06:01:34 PM »


Thanks for the speedy reply, Joe. Do you have anything to say about the blood? That part really worried me.

Yes, I plan on getting tested at six weeks, probably even earlier. If everything comes out fine from this experience (which I hope it does), this has definitely freaked me out and made me much wiser...

I can't estimate what you chances are of being infected, blood or not.  You had a low risk, but low risk is not NO risk so you still need to test.  Most people take an average of 22 days to convert, so testing before the 6 weeks are over will not be an accurate test.  Find something to do to take your mind off of HIV and wait to test at the appropriate time.

Joe

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Re: Very concerned and worried teenager- please help
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2014, 08:40:15 PM »
I can't estimate what you chances are of being infected, blood or not.  You had a low risk, but low risk is not NO risk so you still need to test.  Most people take an average of 22 days to convert, so testing before the 6 weeks are over will not be an accurate test.  Find something to do to take your mind off of HIV and wait to test at the appropriate time.

Joe

Thank you. Do you think I should get PEP? I'm trying to do everything without my parents finding out, so if it comes to it, how much is it out of pocket?

 


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