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Author Topic: My friend is HIV+, I think.  (Read 2778 times)

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Offline Friends4Life

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My friend is HIV+, I think.
« on: September 02, 2009, 06:49:42 PM »
I know that isn't really something that one should assume about anyone, much less a friend, but it's different this time. I found Atripla, and no I wasn't snooping.   I think it was left out for me to ask what it was, but I don't pry.   Even before this, I've had my reasons to believe they could be positive. They have been dropping hints here and there. Now that I look back, there's been A LOT of hints.  It's not a big deal to me.  I mean, of course I care about my friend, but what I'm trying to say is I would never let an illness come between our friendship, I won't be afraid to be around them, I love this person like family. I won't judge.  The truth is, it could have just as easily happened to me.
   I've been reading this site and a lot of other sites, too.  I want to educate myself, so that when they are ready to talk to me, I can be armed with knowledge and able to have a conversation without making them feel uneasy.  
« Last Edit: September 02, 2009, 07:00:11 PM by Friends4Life »

Offline mecch

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Re: My friend is HIV+, I think.
« Reply #1 on: September 02, 2009, 07:08:53 PM »
Well good for you.
And if your friend is dropping so many hints and leaves his/her atripla out for the world to see, you might as well just ask and get on with it. I'm sure you'll be supportive if you get a yes.  And if you get NOYB (none of your business) then something is fishy...
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Re: My friend is HIV+, I think.
« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2009, 07:15:17 PM »
Friend,

If this person has been dropping hints and leaving Atripla lying out in the open, then he/she is probably ready to talk and feeling you out to try and get a sense of how you'll react. Why don't you set up a meeting in a quiet, neutral place and tell this person that you have noticed they seem to have something on their mind and would they like to talk about it.

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Offline Friends4Life

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Re: My friend is HIV+, I think.
« Reply #3 on: September 02, 2009, 07:29:38 PM »
Well, I honestly don't want to feel like I've dragged it out of them.  I want them to know that they can trust me and talk to me, so I'm letting them take their time.  I'm sure it can't be easy, but I promise to make it as easy as anyone can.  


Offline mecch

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Re: My friend is HIV+, I think.
« Reply #4 on: September 03, 2009, 03:08:57 PM »
If the person trusts you he/she will talk now.  Or not.  The friend will let you know.  You can ask indirectly as Ann suggested.  I don't see the point of waiting.
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Offline sdguyloveslife

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Re: My friend is HIV+, I think.
« Reply #5 on: September 05, 2009, 04:27:43 AM »
Well, I honestly don't want to feel like I've dragged it out of them.  I want them to know that they can trust me and talk to me, so I'm letting them take their time.  I'm sure it can't be easy, but I promise to make it as easy as anyone can.   


I have hardly told any of my friends since I was diagnosed and it can be difficult and lonely sometimes.  I think it would be great to have a friend bring it up to me...in my experience, it's really hard to bring it up from my side for a number of reasons, so having that "off my shoulders" and having support come without asking/telling would be a very comforting and welcome change.  Go for it!  ;)
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