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Author Topic: Hello All Have a condom question  (Read 2534 times)

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Offline franco

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Hello All Have a condom question
« on: July 18, 2009, 10:16:04 AM »
Hi all,

Thank for this forum. Yesterday I visited my massage palour and proceeded to have sex with my massuese SP?  It was protected vaginal. Here is what happend and maybe you guys will get this out of my mind. we had intercourse and I came, after I came I pumped a few more times, then she said she felt something warm and I pulled out immediatly and low an behold the condom was left behind. Within an instant she reached down and pulled it out, it wasnt like she had to go in and retrieve it, but I could not see if it was hanging out becuase of the lighting. When it came out it was intact and there was cum in the condom. The only thing that has got me here is the warm feeing she felt after I came and pumped a few more times, could have the cum come out of the base of the condom? or do you think I was slidding in and out of the condom when it was still in her? If the condom was pushed up in her it would have taken her a while to get it out you would think?  I always hold onto the condom on pull, but not this time due to missionary position. What do you think? should I worry?

Thanks in advance  all

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Re: Hello All Have a condom question
« Reply #1 on: July 18, 2009, 10:18:17 AM »
You lost it on withdraw because you did not hold onto the condom when withdrawing. NO RISK to you.

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Re: Hello All Have a condom question
« Reply #2 on: July 18, 2009, 10:51:33 AM »

It does not sound as though you were inside her without the condom. Please read through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you know how to use them properly. You are supposed to withdraw immediately after you cum because you will start to get soft, and when this happens, the condom is more likely to slip off when you withdraw. You are also supposed to hold on to the base of the condom when you withdraw. Having the condom slip off during withdrawl is more of a risk to the receptive partner than it is to you. You don't need to worry about hiv in this instance.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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Offline franco

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Re: Hello All Have a condom question
« Reply #3 on: July 18, 2009, 03:11:25 PM »
Thanks for the replies. I really appreciate it, but as for my question about the semen that leaked out of the condom, is that possible from the base? (condom did not break) I never lost my erection, but the condom did not have a resevior tip and I have not had sex in 3 1/2 months so there could have been a alot of semen, plus like I said I was kinda pumping during my ejaculation so is it possible? Maybe I was slidding in and out of the condom while it was in her? I never fell out of her or changed positions and we were done in like less then 2 minutes, so me pushing it in her would have been impossible. When she said she felt something warm I pulled out rapidly, this is where I think it came off completely.  I have never had this happen before...   If my wife would only have sex with me this wouldn't even be an issue.  But that is irrelevant to this board...   Thanks again I promise these will be my last questions. and I will put it behind me

And I wanna thank Andy, about 4 or 5 years ago he helpped me through something that wasn't even a risk and I again appreciate the help. Crazy what a mind can do..


Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Hello All Have a condom question
« Reply #4 on: July 19, 2009, 10:30:44 AM »
What happened with the condom remaining in her vagina as you pulled out is a not uncommon event.

I've read your comments carefully. I don't see any risk in what you are reporting nor any need for testing.

Get on with your life.

Andy Velez

Offline franco

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Re: Hello All Have a condom question
« Reply #5 on: July 19, 2009, 07:28:35 PM »
thanks rod, ann and andy


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