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Offline Ellie

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I'm still worried
« on: June 04, 2012, 09:03:21 AM »
Hello,

I've been reading the information for a while now and you guys really do an awesome job. 

Here is my situation, I'm an AA female, 38 in years in the state of GA.  I point out those facts because of the high HIV rate among AA's and its been increasing in GA. I just got a divorce the earlier part of 2010 year and had not been intimate with anyone since my husband.   However, I had an incident that has been bothering me since last year.

I had been dating 49 year old guy for about 8 months and finally decided to have sex with him on August 5, 2011.  I wouldn't have had it any other way but to practice safe sex, but why of all things, after we're done I looked at the condum and it had a whole on the side.  It wasn't ripped, split, torn it was just a whole and it wasn't there before we started because I brought my owns condums and watched as he opened it and apllied it.

Immediately, I panicked because why would this happen to me after trying to be so careful about everything.  Shortly after that I had a bacteria infection, which is not uncommon for me, but it added fuel to the fire.

On September 27, 2011 I had an Elisa HIV 1/2 AB EIA with reflexes (if that makes any difference) done and the test was negative.  I had the same test done on December 6, 2011 and it too was negative.  I guess this was six and sixteen weeks, both tests performed with Quest Diagnostics. 

From what I've been reading this is conclusive, but for some reason I'm still afraid.  Maybe because I had a yeast infection in December and then in February, in which I haven't had for years.  Maybe because of all the things that could have happened, the condum broke!!  Maybe because this is the 2nd person I've ever had sex with, in my life, outside of my husband and its all so new. I don't know, but all I can think about is the test are not correct, maybe there was a mix up in the lab etc.

I realize that my thoughts are not rational, but as of 10 months later I'm still thinking about it here and there.  What are your thoughts, am I really negative?

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

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Re: I'm still worried
« Reply #1 on: June 04, 2012, 09:28:53 AM »
Ellie,

You are conclusively hiv negative. You do not have hiv.

Yeast infections are common and are in no way specific to hiv.

A correctly used condom rarely breaks. Make sure you read the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can avoid breakage in the future.

Here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together.

To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results.

Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv. Some of the other STIs can be present with no obvious symptoms, so the only way to know for sure is to test.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Ellie

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Re: I'm still worried
« Reply #2 on: June 04, 2012, 10:51:11 AM »
Hi Ann,

Thank you for responding.  I feel better as each day goes by and your response is a relief.  I have one more question, I noticed that you all have posted that you have yet to see the insertive partner become positive from a broken condom incident .  What about the other way around?

Thanks

Offline Ann

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Re: I'm still worried
« Reply #3 on: June 04, 2012, 11:04:21 AM »
Ellie,

I've seen that only once in over ten years that I can remember, and it was receptive anal intercourse (with ejaculation), not vaginal. Receptive anal is higher risk than receptive vaginal.

Regardless of the severity of risk, you are still conclusively hiv negative. You do not have hiv!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline Ellie

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Re: I'm still worried
« Reply #4 on: June 04, 2012, 11:24:44 AM »
Thanks Ann......you're the best!

 


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