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Offline sangvu86

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Kick it out my head please
« on: May 20, 2009, 09:36:32 AM »
Hi everyone, i'm now living in Vietnam. Lastweek, i made a big mistake in my life. I let a girl perform only oral sex on me(about 15 second), she use her hand first(she made me hurt but i'm drunk), then oral sex on me. When i come home, i check my pennis but no bleed (i'm not sure whether it bleding cause i drunk) :-[. Am i infected with HIV when Vietnam is a high rate HIV country. :-[ Please help me, i can't sleep for a week. Too stress.

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #1 on: May 20, 2009, 10:06:24 AM »
The only mistake I can see from what you reported is that you were having casual sex while drunk. That IS dangerous because that's how people often end up having unprotected intercourse.

But as far as your getting a blowjob, there was no risk for transmission to you. No man has ever been confirmed to have become infected in that manner. It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first.

There was no risk for HIV in that incident and there's no need for testing nor for further concern on your part.

But it would be a good idea for you to stop drinking so much that you can't make good decisions about sex and anything else in your life.
Andy Velez

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #2 on: May 20, 2009, 10:45:07 AM »
Thank you very much, may i ask you another small question ?

I remember that my pennis was swollen on the bottom, At that time i just think my blood steam is stuck and it not swollen next day( i think that girl use her hand too hard on my pennis ad that why it swollen>> this is my first time to have oral sex). I have checked my pennis every day from the day i had oral sex with that girl and I don't see any scratch on it. Am i ok? , i still worry about the swollen part in that day :-[ even it done now.

And i more worry when i heard info from my friend that in VN, there is person who infected with HIV through oral sex (oops)  :o.

Do i need a test for 3 months ? :-[

Sorry for my bad English.

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #3 on: May 20, 2009, 12:44:16 PM »
No you don't need testing for HIV and no, no one contracted HIV from oral sex.

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2009, 01:24:07 PM »
No, you don't need to test. I've already told you that. And we're not interested in what someone "has heard" about someone getting infected. That kind of hearsay is irresponsible and only stirs up unnecessary fears.

You did not have a risk through getting a blowjob. Period. End of story.

If you have symptoms you're worried about that is something to discuss with your doctor. They have nothing to do with HIV. Period.
Andy Velez

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #5 on: May 20, 2009, 07:55:38 PM »
Thanks so much, Andy & Rapid

I really appreciate your replies about my case. It made me feel relieve. I wish no one have infected with this bastard virus forever. And wish all good thing come to you too :)

God bless us.  :)

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #6 on: May 21, 2009, 08:59:18 AM »
Sorry, it me again, every time when i think of my parent, The fear of infected HIV come to me. I'm not sure about my case (OS) :'(. Because whenever i see the info on CDC's website, they still said it is a risk and if in EUROPE (it less than 1%). But i don't know if it in Vietnam,could it be more larger than 1% ?

"It's safe to say you won't make history by becoming the first. "  is it a confirmation for my case ?

If i don't take PEP or ARV and only test for 6 week, is it 100% HIV negative for me ? do i need any test for 3 months.

I really scared,sorry to bother you again.  :'(

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #7 on: May 21, 2009, 10:23:25 AM »
san,

The CDC is talking about GIVING blowjobs, not GETTING them. GETTING your penis sucked is NOT a risk for hiv infection and it does not matter where you live or what country you got your dick sucked in. Saliva is NOT infectious. It also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

You do NOT need PEP. You do NOT need to test over getting a blowjob. NO way NO how. NO. You did NOT have a risk for hiv infection.

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #8 on: May 21, 2009, 10:33:11 AM »
Thank Ann so much

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #9 on: May 23, 2009, 07:50:41 AM »
Do i need to wash my penis after receive blowjib immediately ? I did not wash it 20 minutes until the girl finish her job. Am i have risk in transmiss HIV with this dirty action ? I only wash after she finished me in 20 minutes.  :-[. Does 20 minute  enough to infect HIV ? So scared..... :'(

Please give me an advice the last once. :'(

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #10 on: May 23, 2009, 08:16:18 AM »
San,

As far as hiv is concerned, you don't need to wash your penis at all after a blowjob. Getting your dick sucked is absolutely NOT a risk for hiv infection, no matter what sort of details you can think of. NO RISK.

If you read our Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned!

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #11 on: May 23, 2009, 08:35:23 AM »
I'm terribly sorry Ann, Cause i scared whenever i think about it. I really appreciate your kindly answer and i won't disturb you for any unreal reason so far.

Once again, thank you so much. :)

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #12 on: May 23, 2009, 08:51:18 AM »
Fears and being scared are not the same as facts. And the facts of your situation clearly indicate you were not at risk for transmission of HIV. Period. End of story.

Even if you continue to have scary thoughts that will not change the facts of the situation. No risk. No need for testing.
Andy Velez

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #13 on: June 14, 2009, 12:29:33 PM »
Sorry to post another thread but i am so scared.

A friend of mine, just test positive last Sunday(12 June 2009), he is the guy went to massage house with me in that day (12 May 2009). :o

Now i am in nut, my friend told me he only performed and received oral sex from the girl, i do believe him but i didn't know if he has any risk before this incident. His newly test made me so scared. I don't know what to do, how to eat and calm my mind down. I only want to be alone, i don't want to spread out the virus for my family.

Now i am having all symptom that made me think of HIV.  :'(



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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #14 on: June 14, 2009, 12:57:35 PM »
I can't evaluate your friend's situation. I do know that from what you reported of your own experience that you did not have a risk.

I've said this to you before: fears are not facts. You are not going to be allowed to come back everytime you have another jolt of fear over a non-risk situation. You're going to end up very soon with a 28 day time out. Consider yourself warned. 

Get yourself some professional help to deal with your unwarranted fears. We can't help you with that problem in this setting. There's still no cause for you to be concerned about your HIV status. Period.
Andy Velez

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #15 on: June 18, 2009, 08:11:16 AM »
Sorry, i just got test at 5 week and it came back negative (determine method). Do i reliable on my result. Or i need test at 3 months, please give me an advises.

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« Reply #16 on: June 18, 2009, 08:25:22 AM »
San,

Of course it came back negative - getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection as you've been repeatedly told.

You do not need further testing. You do NOT have hiv!

Keep posting about this NO RISK blowjob and you'll be given that time out I warned you about.

This is your LAST warning!

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Please help me, i'm too scared
« Reply #17 on: June 18, 2009, 02:16:39 PM »
Thank Ann,

But at 4th week, i had sore throat and it last until now. And i also had unknow colic everyday. Is it the ARV symptom. I confused cause my sore throat last more one week, i hope your last warning will put me at calm, i only confused about this symptom (sore throat) and it still come to me.

Ann, you can ban me forever after this question  :(, but i need your answer one more time. These symptom made me confused a lot. :'( cause it last two long.

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« Reply #18 on: June 18, 2009, 03:26:45 PM »
San,

See your doctor  if you feel unwell. It has nothing to do with hiv. YOU DO NOT HAVE HIV.

I'm giving you that time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Kick it out my head please
« Reply #19 on: October 26, 2011, 11:19:14 AM »
Hi all,

    I have been here for a year and learned a lot of thing from exp people. But i still wondering about my new case. I have protected sex with street walker.
    During the encounter, my condom slipped nearly out of my penis but lucky for me, the condom still cover my penis head and i alway pull it back on the whole penis. And i remember did not erect all the time i had sex with her.
    After finish the thing, i checked my condom and it did not break but i have so many fluid on my penis when i pull out the condom. I did not know what it come from, her vagina fluid or mine ?
    Do i get risk during the time that my condom nearly slipped out of my penis (it only cover my penis head)?  ???

Thank you for your answer.

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« Reply #20 on: October 26, 2011, 11:52:16 AM »
Sang,


I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep everything in one thread. It doesn't matter how long it has been since you last posted in your thread or if the subject matter is different.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines - like the one about not creating new accounts. I rejected the one you tried to create earlier today. Do NOT do it again!






You have not had a risk for hiv infection. What is important is that the head of your penis was covered. That's all that matters.

You did NOT have a risk.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Kick it out my head please
« Reply #21 on: October 26, 2011, 12:01:05 PM »
Thank you again, Ann. You and Velez alway the 1st who answer our concern about HIV. God bless you two.

Offline sangvu86

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Re: Kick it out my head please
« Reply #22 on: October 27, 2011, 12:36:25 PM »
Sorry for asking again.

- Does my penis have to erect all the time when i have sex ? Because sometime i feel that my condom a little loose. Can vaginal fluid run through the condom when my penis did not erect on the time i put inside her ?

i swear this is my last question and i wont bother guys again with stupid question.

Thank you so much

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Re: Kick it out my head please
« Reply #23 on: October 27, 2011, 01:08:18 PM »
Whether you are erect or not doesn't matter. All that matters is that during intercourse the head of your penis is covered by the condom.

You are on the verge of getting another time out. This time it will be for 56 days or permanently. HIV is not your problem. Period.
Andy Velez

 


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