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Offline doppelganger

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Possible increased risk?
« on: February 26, 2009, 12:37:05 AM »
Hi, new here, I'm going to tell you this incident that has freaked me out.

9 days ago, I had sex with an escort, I used a condom, but in the end, the condom slipped off when I withdrew and some sperm leaked inside her. She noticed it, she was very scared and I was too.

A few days after the incident, I was so worried I called her and asked if she was clean. She told me she was tested 5 months ago because she was going to have an aesthetic surgery and all tests came negative, she said she can probe that she is clean and challenged me to probe the same. Also told me the risk was greater for her, and went on explaining how VIH is transmited, how she protects herself... sounded very knowledgeable, which gives me some relief, she told me that who should be worried is her, not me, because my penis didn't made contact with her fluids (she said that),but I ejaculated inside her. The unprotected contact was very quick, less than a second.

Now what makes me be more worried is that I'm uncircumsiced, when I have sex the tip of my foreskin gets irritated, it happens everytime, when my penis is erect my foreskin doesn't retract, it gets irritated by friction during sex, and this time it was specially hard, so it became more irritated than usual, it lasts for about three days but this time it's still there, together with some pain on right groin. My doctor gave me a clotrimazole cream, which I'm going to use today.

My question is if this somehow increases my risk of getting VIH, maybe due to microfissures on the foreskin.

Offline HIVworker

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #1 on: February 26, 2009, 02:24:42 AM »
That's a very very low risk situation.

Also, I know English is your second language, but don't use the word 'clean' to mean HIV negative. There are a lot of HIV positive people who contribute to this forum and it's insulting to indicate that if you have HIV, somehow you aren't clean. So don't use that term to indicate you don't have a STD please.
NB. Any advice about HIV is given in addition to your own medical advice and not intended to replace it. You should never make clinical decisions based on what anyone says on the internet but rather check with your ID doctor first. Discussions from the internet are just that - Discussions. They may give you food for thought, but they should not direct you to do anything but fuel discussion.

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #2 on: February 26, 2009, 07:52:54 AM »
Dop,

For you, this isn't a low risk situation, it's a NO risk situation. As the condom slipped off as you withdrew, at no time were you inside her unprotected.

You weren't at risk and you don't need to test over this specific incident.

Along with reading the Transmission Lesson linked to in our Welcome Thread, here's what you need to know in order to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann
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Offline doppelganger

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #3 on: March 05, 2009, 08:09:19 PM »
I'm sorry for my word choice, maybe you should add a "Terms to avoid" entry to the welcome thread.

Back on topic, maybe I didn't explain it clear, when I withdrew there was no condom put on, it remained inside her, because my erection was not enough to hold it on, it was on when I ejaculated, then I came out and it wasn't on. Although it was very quick, there was unprotected contact right? and there was risk.

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #4 on: March 05, 2009, 08:55:34 PM »
Lets make it clear. You lost the condom on withdraw because YOU didn't hold onto the condom on withdraw. Correct? You had no risk by losing your condom on withdraw. Next time hold on to the base of the condom when withdrawing.

Offline doppelganger

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #5 on: March 05, 2009, 09:18:36 PM »
That's correct, but I think it didn't protect me in the end because condom was half slipped before withdrawing, then I withdrew and it got stuck inside her, so I think there was unprotected contact.

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #6 on: March 05, 2009, 10:23:28 PM »
If you want to insist that you had a risk you can do that. We're not here to argue the matter with you. I will say that from what you have described the condom having slipped down your penis while you were inside your partner is not a risk. The head of  your penis would still have been covered until you withdrew, and that's the important matter.

But hey, go ahead and get tested at 13 weeks if you must for your peace of mind and collect the inevitable negative result. Like I said, we're not here to argue the issue with you. We've told you what we think of the situation. Now you decide what you need to do.
Andy Velez

Offline doppelganger

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #7 on: May 20, 2009, 11:37:32 PM »
Well I got tested after 12 weeks and the result was negative. Doctor said that to be really really sure I should get tested again in 1 month. He said that it's almost sure it will come out negative again. What do you think? It's safe to move on?

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Re: Possible increased risk?
« Reply #8 on: May 21, 2009, 05:21:21 AM »
dopp,

You never had a risk in the first place and anyway, even if you did, your twelve week negative result is conclusive. You do NOT have hiv and you do NOT need further testing over this NO RISK incident.

Make sure you're holding on to the base of the condom when you withdraw in future so you don't scare yourself silly again.

You do NOT have hiv and it's time you moved on with your life.

Ann
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