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Offline needadvice

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oral and protected sex
« on: August 07, 2006, 09:09:49 AM »
I had sex with a sex worker used a condom which did not break . However at one point, when I did not have a condom on, and this may sound strange, but I did not know if she lowered herself onto me . It was only for a matter of seconds but could I just get your advice on this...

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Re: some help
« Reply #1 on: August 07, 2006, 09:13:30 AM »
You had protected sex. Now how could you not know if she lowered herself onto you? You aren't that absent minded are you? No risk in protected sex period.

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« Reply #2 on: August 07, 2006, 09:15:44 AM »
I know exactly what you are saying, and thankyou for your reply. I was a bit drunk at the time and she sent on top and I thought she may have put me inside her for a few seconds. It doesn't make sense , I know, especially as she was very careful to use 2 condoms (not together) but during our time

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Re: some help
« Reply #3 on: August 07, 2006, 09:19:37 AM »
You're right, it doesn't make sense.

Offline HIVsexpert

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« Reply #4 on: August 07, 2006, 10:18:20 AM »
Trust me, you would have known if she had "lowered herself" on you.  If you wore an intact condom through the escapade, you did not contract HIV from this encounter.  Simple as that.

Offline needadvice

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oral and protected sex
« Reply #5 on: February 26, 2007, 08:20:19 AM »
I went with a prostitute and performed oral sex on her. I also had protected sex with her. Should I get tested?

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« Reply #6 on: February 26, 2007, 08:51:18 AM »
need,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

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Going down on a woman is NOT a risk for hiv infection, and protected intercourse is just that, protected. Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection when used correctly and consistently.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Although you do NOT need to test over this specific incident, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #7 on: March 26, 2007, 10:48:38 AM »
I am worrying alot , the reason is that I have got about 4  mouth ulcers which I do not normally get. They just appeared and I am worrying about why...  should I be concerned.

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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #8 on: March 26, 2007, 11:53:12 AM »
Lowering, raising, shmaisering. You had protected intercourse. Condoms provide very effective protection. That means you weren't at risk for HIV transmission during this incident.

Neither the presence nor the absence of symptoms is ever the way to know your HIV status. If you ever have a risky, unprotected incident then testing would be necessary. In this case you don't need to test because condoms were used.

As for mouth ulcers, discuss them with your doctor. They are not in any way an HIV specific symptom.

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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #9 on: April 19, 2007, 12:08:09 PM »
would an 8 week test be advisable?

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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #10 on: April 19, 2007, 12:21:21 PM »
Why would an 8 week test be advisable when you've already been told you weren't at risk since you used a condom?

Hello???!!!!
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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #11 on: April 19, 2007, 12:27:11 PM »
I know it's mad..but I still am worried....

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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #12 on: April 19, 2007, 01:37:02 PM »
Fortunately feelings aren't facts and you have no basis in HIV science for concern.

So you may keep on worrying. No matter how long those feelings go on they don't change the facts.
Andy Velez

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Re: oral and protected sex
« Reply #13 on: May 25, 2007, 06:44:31 AM »
Despite all your good advice I tested at just over 12 weeks and was negative.

I am now stressing over if getting fellatio is a risk as some GUM clinics in the UK seem to think it is a low risk...but some like the THT helpline say no risk as does this forum.  Why is there a differing opinion

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« Reply #14 on: May 25, 2007, 08:26:36 AM »
need,

Some clinics operate a CYA policy - Cover Your Ass. Some clinics are run by people who have a moralistic attitude that no-one should be having sexual relations of any kind outside a traditional heterosexual marriage and their advice will reflect their attitude with scare tactics.

The fact of the matter is that saliva is not infectious and therefore getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection.

Your negative result is conclusive and it's time you put this behind you, remembering to alway use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse until you're in a securely monogamous relationship where you've both tested negative together.

Use condoms and avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann
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