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Author Topic: Going out of my mind with worry....sercocoversion symptoms after encounter...  (Read 2255 times)

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Offline DL

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Please help me, I am so scared.

Last Wed I went out with an old (Gay) friend. We had so much to drink, I really do not remember much after 11pm. However, I have a faint memory that I performed oral sex on him and he came in my mouth. I am a hetrosexual married man and can't for the life of me work out how this happened.

By Fri, I was so concerned that I might have caught something, I went for tests at the GU clinic. They took blood and urine samples as well as a mouth swab for the usual suspects.

By Sat night, I had severe muscle aches, but these only lasted a few hours and I felt well by morning, however woke with a sore throat and swollen neck glands. I still have this symptom now (Tue) although it is mild. Other than sever anxiety, I feel physically well.

I am terrified that I am experiencing a seroconversion. Reading the internet, I am not reassured as there is so much conflicting information. The GU clinic told me that even if I had performed oral sex on a guy and he had cum in my mouth, the chances of contracting HIV from an infected person would be slim (Abouit 1:1000) Is this true?

Would seroconversion symptoms begin so quickly (Within 3-4 days) ?

I am worried out of my mind. I have spoken to my wife who is being very supportive, but I feel that I am not holding things together mentally at the moment. I have spent the last 3 days crying. Please help me, I don't know what else to do or where to turn.

Offline Andy Velez

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OK. First thing you need to do right now and I mean this, is to take a couple of deep and slow breaths in and then out. Do it! It helps and whenever you find yourself tensing up you should do it again.

Although from time to time we hear reports of an infection through giving oral they never seem to hold up under careful scientific examination. There is much more reliable evidence that giving oral is NOT a risk. Longterm from ongoing studies of both straight and gay sero-discordant couples. They have had lots of mutual unprotected oral and only protected vaginal and anal intercourse. The results have been that not a single sero-negative partner became infected.

Additionally, your saliva has over a dozen elements which very effectively prevent the transmission of viable HIV.

So in relation to your incident if you choose to get tested it's strictly for your peace of mind if you choose to get tested and not because of the incident itself, which I do not consider to have been a risk.

As for your symptoms, I daresay some of that is about your tension and stress over the sexual incident itself. In any case, discuss them with your doctor. They are not about HIV.

Andy Velez

Offline DL

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Thanks for your prompt response Andy.

So just to confirm, there is little chance of contracting HIV from swollowing semen from an infected person?

The throat is feeling better this afternoon, the swelling has gone down. Perhaps stress and worry are the culprits? Do seroconversion symptoms last much longer than 3 days?

Just one final question, do I really have to wait 3 months for re-testing to be 100%? Can I have another test in say a few weeks and be fairly sure I am clear. Obviously, I don't want to have any sexual contact with my wife until I am certain.

Again, many thanks.

Offline RapidRod

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You didn't have a risk and had you had a REAL risk a three month test would be conclusives, not six or eight weeks but 13 weeks. There are no short cuts.

Offline Andy Velez

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We don't consider it necessary to test over this incident.

However, if you choose to test at 6 weeks strictly for your own peace of mind, that means you are virtually guaranteed that you will continue to test negative at 13 weeks. 13 weeks is the testing point for when there has been a genuine risk.

I appreciate your concern about your own health as well as your wife's, but I don't consider your incident to have been a risky one.

Andy Velez

Offline DL

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Again many thanks.

I will post my (Negative) result in 13 weeks to put others minds at rest in similar situations.

Offline Andy Velez

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You're welcome. We'll look forward to seeing that happy test result.
Andy Velez


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