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Offline koolgy2020

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incident with hiv positive girl
« on: February 25, 2009, 12:55:33 AM »
I am very much worried about a risky incident that took place recently.
I am a male ,30 years old.I have a friend who is HIV positive and she is 28 years old.

Last week I met her,we talked a lot.We then spent the whole night together.No penetration at all.
Thw following are the notbale acts that I was invloved.
1)Lot of kissing on cheeks, neck ,tummy.Sucking the breasts
2)protected oral sex for few minutes.
3)Sex with clothes on----I had my underwear and pants(very thin night pants)on .She had no underwear but pants(very thing night pants)on.During this process, we had some strokes but no penetration.She ejaculated in her pants and I could see that her pants became wet.
My biggest worry. She is a confirmed HIV positive girl.HIV virus from ger vaginal fluids might enter her wet pants and be passed onto to my wet pants and then on to my penis.We has som 8-10 stokes in this process.
Could you please let me know if this is a risky incident

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Re: incident with hiv positive girl
« Reply #1 on: February 25, 2009, 03:42:25 AM »
At no time were you ever at risk of contracting HIV in the situation you've provided.

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Re: incident with hiv positive girl
« Reply #2 on: February 25, 2009, 08:29:06 AM »

As Rodney says, nothing you did or had done to you put you at risk for hiv infection. All you need to do to protect yourself against hiv is to wear condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse. You should be wearing them with ANYONE, not just a person you know to be hiv positive.

Along with reading the Transmission Lesson linked to in our Welcome Thread, here's what you need to know to protect yourself against hiv:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: incident with hiv positive girl
« Reply #3 on: February 25, 2009, 11:02:38 AM »
Thanks a lot for your reply.
Could you please let me know why its not possible for the virus to move from her vaginal fluids to my fluids, especially when we both were grinding against each other's genitals and the clothes became wet.
I just want to know why its not possible because there is an exchange of fluids.

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Re: incident with hiv positive girl
« Reply #4 on: February 25, 2009, 11:26:12 AM »
HIV is a fragile virus. It requires the kind of very receptive setting which is provided sexually by unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse.

The vaginal secretions which your penis would come into contact with while rubbing without penetration do not provide that kind of setting. And it is the cervical area fluids which can contain HIV, further up in the vagina. So rubbing, masturbation mutually and other, fingering, cunnilingus, etc., do not create that opportunity for exposure. Also, it's not a matter of her fluids moving to yours, it's through the urethra itself and the inner part of the foreskin if you aren't circumcised that transmission can take place DURING INTERCOURSE, not during other sexual play.

And transmission through clothing, no matter how fluidly soaked is simply not possible. Period.
« Last Edit: February 25, 2009, 11:28:29 AM by Andy Velez »
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