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Offline reuben

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Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« on: February 20, 2009, 06:03:31 AM »
Hi all
 
You guys and gals do terrific work. Many thanks
 
Had a real scare there recently as drink and giddiness ended up with me engaging in deep kissing and unprotected insertive oral sex
with a hooker in Bangkok. Dear oh dear. Panic stations the next morning as the hangover set in.
Anyway surfed the interweb and arrived at your site. Happily all the details and reassurance i needed were easy to find and perfectly documented
by the resident experts.
 
No risk for my experiences, no ifs or buts, sexually HIV can only be transmitted through anal or vaginal intercourse when no protection is used.
Hurrah i shouted. The only problem left then is the guilt and OCD type behaviour that many of us great unwashed and insecure people harbor. For your patience
in dealing with these obsessive types ( self included)  who come on here asking question after question I salute you all for your remarkable forebearance.
 
I am dealing as best I can with my insecurity but many thanks for sharing your knowlege of HIV science to make my paranoia bearable!
 

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2009, 06:21:51 AM »
Dear Great Unwashed,

LOL, just kidding. Couldn't resist.

Reuben, I'm glad you've realised that nothing you did put you at risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

If you continue to fret about these no risk activities, you might benefit from some counseling, but we cannot help you with that here.

Here's what you need to know to avoid hiv infection:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER YOUR BANGKOK EXPERIENCE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann
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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2009, 07:27:48 AM »
Thanks again Ann for your consideration and kindness in helping me out.

Take care
Reuben

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2009, 11:37:45 PM »
You're welcome, Reuben.

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #4 on: February 01, 2010, 02:07:04 PM »
Hi again Ann
Hope you're well.

Recently involved again in more unprotected insertive oral shenanigans this time with a sex worker in germany. Anyway the lady in question was a vigorous exponent of our old friend fellatio and nearly sucked my appendage to oblivion.Oh lordy. Also involved in a spot of deep kissing.

Anyway i know that these two activites have a negligible risk for hiv as saliva is non infectious, however the girl works in a brothel that is constantly jam packed with punters which keeps the girl super busy turning tricks. My fear is residual spunk from other punters was still in her mouth when she was servicing me, so to speak. She went down on me within seconds of our hook up, without even being asked which leads me to believe that at this is stage in her career she must have blown gazillions of frisky fools like myself. After our little frisson, she was off immediatley with some other lothario for more high jinks. All this got me thinking that there must be  a lot of fluids being mixed about in her mouth and passed onto all her customers. Just looking for reassurance that hiv cannot survive in such an environment etc

Many thanks again for your time and patience

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #5 on: February 01, 2010, 02:46:22 PM »
Residual sperm in someone's mouth who is giving you oral is absolutely not a risk for HIV transmission. As Ann has already told you, no matter what details you throw into the oral mix, no guy has ever been confirmed to have been infected in that manner. It's safe to say that you won't make history by becoming the first to be infected through what is one of the most common sexual acts.

You are worrying needlessly. Really.
Andy Velez

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #6 on: February 02, 2010, 05:30:52 AM »
Thank you Andy for your forbearance in this matter. When the fear and  insecurity gets a grip of you, it can be difficult to shake it off irrespective of the reality and stats of hiv transmission which you guys cite time and time again. You do fabulous work. It is greatly appreciated.

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #7 on: February 02, 2010, 06:43:39 AM »
Reuben,

The "stats of hiv transmission" reflect the number of people who are still having unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse with people of unknown or hiv positive status despite the fact that this is the way hiv is transmitted.

Hiv is NOT transmitted through getting a blowjob nor is it transmitted through protected intercourse. Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #8 on: February 02, 2010, 08:39:31 AM »
Nice one Ann. I hope that you are doing well. Take care
R

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #9 on: February 02, 2010, 08:51:02 AM »
Reuben,

You're welcome - and I'm fine, thanks. Just make sure you're using condoms for intercourse and you'll be ok where hiv is concerned. Don't forget to read through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them with confidence.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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prostate massage with fluids
« Reply #10 on: January 25, 2011, 06:51:41 AM »
Hi Ann

hope all is good with you.

Just a quick one please, had a prostate massage from an accomplished sex worker which involved alot of digital play up my jacksie. There was a heavy amount of oil involved along with the lady's vaginal secretions which were on her fingers as we were masturbating each other etc. I am figuring no risk but just fearful of her juices being absorbed into my rectal membranes. so to speak.

Many thanks in advance for your thoughts
Reuben

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #11 on: January 25, 2011, 07:42:35 AM »
Reuben,

I'm fine, thanks for asking.

You are correct when you surmise that you did not have a risk.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus that is primarily transmitted INSIDE the human body, as in unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse when the virus never leaves the confines of the two bodies.

Once outside the body, small changes in temperature, and pH and moisture levels all quickly damage the virus and render it unable to infect.

It doesn't matter if she had vaginal fluids on her fingers before she put them up your jacksie as the virus was not only outside the body, but also exposed to oil. Any hiv that may have been on her fingers would have been unable to infect you.

Keep using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #12 on: January 27, 2011, 08:38:35 AM »
ann, you are a diamond, many thanks
reuben

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Re: Insertive oral and rampant paranoia
« Reply #13 on: January 27, 2011, 12:02:51 PM »
Reuben,

You're welcome.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

Condom and Lube Info  



"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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