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Offline deemonkey1

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can u help me
« on: February 16, 2009, 09:27:22 AM »
Hello everyone!
Well here goes, I married my husband in July 2006, three weeks after the wedding he revealed to me
He has been hiv positive for 3 years prior and never told me. Needless to say I left him right after, not because he is positive but because he deceived  me. I tested right after but i'm at this point of the test negative. I haven't been tested in over a year i wanted to know how long does it take to show signs because I don't feel sick
or has there ever been any cases where a person has been exposed and not contracted the virus?
please help! :'(
« Last Edit: February 16, 2009, 09:43:07 AM by deemonkey1 »

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Re: can u help me
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2009, 09:48:52 AM »
Dee,

If the test you took was three months or more after your last incident of unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse, then you are conclusively hiv negative. If it was less than three months after, then you need to test again for a conclusive result.

We don't discuss symptoms here because they will never reliably inform you of your hiv status. The ONLY way to know your status accurately is to test three months (or more) after your last incident of unprotected intercourse.

There have been plenty of cases where people have been exposed but not infected.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

Anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann
« Last Edit: February 16, 2009, 09:50:55 AM by Ann »
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Re: can u help me
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2009, 09:50:02 AM »
Dee, if you tested negative as recently as a year ago, then you are HIV negative. Unless you have had any unprotected intercourse since, then you are long past any risk from your ex-husband.

Andy Velez

Offline deemonkey1

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Re: can u help me
« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2009, 09:57:25 AM »
thanks so much Ann! that helps but I do have one question left. I have been suffering with something on my skin that points that I may have scabies and I also have been feeling short breathed when walking.
I thought the scabies signs were due to medications I'm taking (metformin) and the shortness of breath due to be over weight. Does any of these symptoms suggest that I may be positive? I'm not scared if I am infected I have a new husband now and I want to be safe for him. He has tested negative  about a year ago
But i have not tested in about that same amount of time.

Offline deemonkey1

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Re: can u help me
« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2009, 10:00:04 AM »
thanks so much andy that really eased my concerns

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« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2009, 10:17:24 AM »
Dee,

It's still unclear when you tested negative in relation to having unprotected intercourse with your first husband. If you tested three months or more after the last unprotected incident, then you ARE hiv negative.

As for your symptoms, you need to see a doctor. We cannot diagnose you over the internet and we will not speculate as to possible causes of your symptoms. See a doctor.

Ann
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