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Offline weaksauce

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Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« on: February 10, 2009, 07:20:07 PM »
Guys and gals,

I was having vaginal intercourse with a woman I had just met.  After unprotected oral, she applied a condom onto my penis and we began the intercourse.  I felt the condom break while in the act.  It took probably three thrusts before I realized it.  I withdrew after realizing it (like I said probably three thrusts after breakage).  The condom was completely broken, entire penis exposed.  The condom was replaced seconds later.  Not only that...  I had a raw spot/bad chafing on the shaft of my penis from vigorously masturbating earlier that day.  The spot was missing skin but I do not believe it bled.  The ned day it was scabbed over and completely healed/gone a couple days later.  I am so scared.  It has been 3 weeks and I feel like I'm experiencing ARS symptoms, although n fever. 
I am so frightened that I acquired HIV from this incident.  Can anyone please tell me what they think?   Especially considering the raw spot on my penis shaft...  I'm so scare and I feel so alone as I don't have anyone to talk to.
 

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #1 on: February 10, 2009, 07:27:04 PM »
Also, I know ARS symptoms are non-specific and not an indicator of infection, but I'll list them, maybe someone had an opinion:
Mild sore throat, typically only when swallowing
Lymph nodes in neck mildly swollen
Small spot on outer corner of eye on skin, somewhat painful.
Headaches

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #2 on: February 10, 2009, 08:58:56 PM »
You should test not only for HIV but other STDs that are easier to contract. 13 weeks post exposure will give you a conclusive test resultl. None of your symptoms are indictative of ARS.

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #3 on: February 10, 2009, 09:35:40 PM »
Thanks for the response Rod.  I had already planned on getting tested when the time is right, but I was hoping someone could give me some insight on how risky the whole ordeal was with the condom breaking and me having the raw spot/wound on my shaft.

I had read in a previous post that it isn't the shaft that is most suseptible to infection but the "head" of the penis is, even in regards to having a wound.  I don't think my raw spot was bleeding but it was significantly bad enough for it to scab over the following day.  The brief time I was penetrating the vagina while unprotected (3 thrusts), immediate pull-out (exposure to air)..

The raw spot is exactly that, a circular shaped spot from bad chafing on the side of the shaft of my penis.  Missing some skin, but like I said, I don't think it was deep enough to actually bleed.

Like, info I'd also like to know is, would the wound on my penis need to be actually bleeding, since it wasn't on the "head"... I'm not clear on that.  Since I pulled out rather quickly does that help (short exposure time)?  Please, anyone.. 

I'd like to know kind of a risk assessment.  I realize there is risk- but how high of a risk.  I'm not one of the people coming here asking about the risk from oral sex or from fluids passing through underwear.  I had what I know to be an actual risk, I was just hoping for some more insight on the risk.  Having the raw spot and the condom breaking, it's eating me up inside and some feedback (perhaps compassionate feedback) would be greatly appreciated.

« Last Edit: February 10, 2009, 09:37:42 PM by weaksauce »

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #4 on: February 10, 2009, 09:40:22 PM »
You were protected until the condom failed. It's not as high as it would have been had you not wore a condom.

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #5 on: February 10, 2009, 10:33:58 PM »
Is the raw spot/chafed/broken skin part.. is that a considerable risk?

I read on this same forum someone asking since they had a cut or a lesion on their penis below the condom line during anal intercourse if it was a risk and if I remember right, someone said it wasn't a risk, perhaps only theoretical - even though the poster said the fluids did touch the sore/lesion.

On my above post I had asked if the cut/sore/raw spot/whatever had to be bleeding or if it mattered whether or not it was on the head of the penis or the shaft.  Any ideas?

Thanks again Rod, and anyone else that would like to clear things up for me.  I know how these things may seem trivial or irrelevant - but education and knowledge are important and if you guys can help me out in this aspect, then that would be fantastic.

I would also like to thank the members of this forum, as I have read through many pages and posts.

Rod like I said, thanks - if anyone else has input also - please, lend me a hand.  So far just Rod has answered.  =)

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #6 on: February 11, 2009, 07:17:23 AM »
weak,

The chaffing does not add any significant risk to your situation. I've yet to see the insertive partner end up positive after a condom break and I don't expect you to be the first.

The earliest you should test is at six weeks. The vast majority of people who have actually been infected will seroconvert and test positive by six weeks, with the average time to seroconversion being only 22 days. A six week negative must be confirmed at the three month point but is highly unlikely to change.

And forget the symptoms. They're meaningless when it comes to hiv infection.

Read through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use them correctly and with confidence. A correctly used condom rarely breaks.

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #7 on: February 11, 2009, 07:35:58 PM »
Thanks Ann.

You're words of wisdom provide me with a great deal of relief.

Can you or anyone further explain why it is that the raw spot/wound on my shaft doesn't put me at a higher risk?  Does the wound have to be bleeding and a direct line to my actual blood steam?  The wound on my shaft did end up scabbing over the next day, so I'm afraid that perhaps it was pretty deep.  What do you think?

I'm really hoping I don't end up being the first person to come up positive while being insertive that you know of.

I want to get tested for everything, but that window period is terrible.  I can't find anywhere that does the DUO test or whatever it is called that has a shorter window period. 

Per symptoms, I know they are meaningless but jeeez, it's like I can sense every abnormality now that I'm paying attention.  Mild sore throat..  I feel like I get feverish but I take my temp and it's normal, no more than 99..  I had a rash sort of thing on my stomach but I think it's a heat rash/sweat bumps from working working and sweating.  My back is hurting but I think it's because I've been sleeping so much.  This is a terrible experience.  You all are hero's for putting the time you do in helping poor saps like me feel better.

I've read on medhelp and Dr. HHH has told people in similar situations that the chances are low but I don't know about that broken skin on my penis, that is freaking me out!   :o

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #8 on: February 12, 2009, 06:04:27 AM »
Weak,

There is no such thing as a "shorter window period". You can only get a conclusive negative at three months, regardless of the type of test used. Please re-read my first post to you where I explained to you about testing.

Hiv is a fragile, difficult to transmit virus and more so from a woman to a man. This is the main reason I fully expect you to come out of this ok and your chaffed penis doesn't change my mind on this. Fingering with cuts is not a risk and the skin on the shaft of your penis is no different to the skin on your fingers.

As for your symptoms, take them to a doctor. We don't discuss symptoms here. Nothing you report sounds remotely like it has anything to do with hiv.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #9 on: February 13, 2009, 12:54:01 AM »
Ann,

You are awesome.

I will test at 6 weeks, but thanks to you - I feel I have nothing to fear.

I realize I had a possible exposure.  With the condom breaking and all... and I realize you aren't aware of anyone testing positive after such an incident.  The thing that puts the most fear into me is the sore that was on my penis from vigorous masturbation.  It was a sore deep/bad enough to scab over but I withdrew after just a few thrusts since I realized it felt way too good to be protected.   ;D

I can't deny I'm still freaked out.  I understand the risk is low but since I had that sore I expected it to be much higher.  The fact that I don't even know if she was HIV+ is scary enough.  I know that his girl has "been around" as the people I spoke with regarding her acknowledged this - but she did have condoms and stated she always uses them.  Regardless, it's still very frightening.

If indeed I do test negative, it is AMAZING how the mind can play this game with your body...  every little thing you notice.  Headaches when I woke up that continued throughout the day...  minor rash...  sore throat... swollen lymph nodes... sore neck....

If I test positive, then I would be regretful to be the first person Ann is aware of that tested positve after condom breakage (as insertive partner).  It would be unbelievable.

I cannot lie and say that I am not worried, but with the reassurance that Ann has given me, I can continue to function normally. 

ANDY.  If you have anything to tell me that might make me feel better I would greatly appreciate it.  I haven't had a reponse from you but I have read so many to others.

I'm still not sure about how having a wound on my penis doesn't dramatically increase my risk as it was not simply a superficial wound, it indeed caused a scab - either way, bless you all.


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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #10 on: April 01, 2009, 10:28:36 PM »
Hey everyone.

I tested negative at 6 weeks.

I talked to the girl that I was with last week and she said she ended up getting sick w/ Autoimmune Vasculitis...  That kind of freaked me out, but I don't know anything about it.

She said she was tested at the Dr's office for everything (STD's/HIV) and it all came back negative.

It is good news that her results were negative but what is this Autoimmune vasculitis?  Some sort of manifestation of HIV?  Would it make the HIV test come up false negative?

6 weeks Oraquick advance oral swab pretty accurate??  I know not 100% conclusive but I've read everywhere that no one has seen a 6 week neg turn positive in a long time w/ the current testing.

Advice?  Anyone?

Thanks!!!

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Re: Condom broke and I had a raw spot/chafed penis... So scared
« Reply #11 on: April 02, 2009, 05:22:43 AM »
weak,

Your six week negative is highly unlikely to change. Confirm your negative result at the three month point

Any autoimmune problem has NOTHING to do with hiv. Autoimmune means your immune system is attacking your own body. Again, nothing to do with hiv.

I fully expect you to continue to test hiv negative in regards to this incident.

Ann
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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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