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Offline worried123456

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oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« on: January 16, 2009, 07:20:14 PM »
Hello,

A week ago tonight, I met a very irresistable 19 year old and had a one night stand.  He spent the night, and we kissed, cuddled naked, and jerked each other off the following morning..he stayed about 14 hours.  Now, also in the morning there was some similated sex..me pressing my dick in between his ass cheeks, ..but no contact with his anus..there was one point where it's possible his penis may have come in contact briefly with my anus..I'm not sure though..and I'm sure there was probably pre-cum at that point...I tested negative just hours before this incident as coincidence would have it..now here I am concerned again..I know nothing really risky was done..but  I have what I think might possibly be a swollen lymph node behind my right ear....  my main question is, if I were infected would I only get one small swollen node behind my right ear... I don't have any other swollen nodes like anywhere else on my body that I know of.  Please don't be dismissive and please answer as best you can about my chances..why would I have what I think is a swollen node behind my right ear if there is no infection?

Thank you in advance

Andy Velez, can you please answer? Thank you sir.

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Re: what are the chances do you think? (Andy)
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2009, 07:25:40 PM »
You were answered over at MedHelp and you were advise that if you didn't have penetrative anal sex which you would have known that you were not at risk of contracting HIV. Had you had insertive anal sex you would have known.

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Re: what are the chances do you think? (Andy)
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2009, 07:28:53 PM »
Excuse me, but  what is medhelp?

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Re: what are the chances do you think? (Andy)
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2009, 09:14:56 PM »
The bottom line in all of this is that you did not from what I have read have any  unprotected penetrative anal sex. So nothing you did put you at risk for HIV transmission. Period.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern. It does seem like you were on the verge so in the future just make sure you have condoms handy and that you use them if you're going to be having intercourse. It's as simple as that to protect yourself sexually regarding HIV.

As for anything you are reporting as symptoms, if they continue to bother you that is something to discuss with your doctor. They have nothing to do with HIV.

Cheers.
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oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #4 on: July 20, 2009, 07:43:35 PM »
Hello Andy and other moderators:

So last night, I met a very nice young man on a first date.  We hit it  off well, and drove and parked after drinks and we made out for a few hours, also included in this was some oral sex, him performing on me, and I performed a little on him, at one point I tasted a little pre-cum..so please consider that.  This session included a lot of deep kissing.

After that, we went to my place nearby and cuddled on the couch, with even more making out and he performed some more oral sex on me.  Neither of us ejaculated at any point.  My concerns are these:

1. The pre-cum I tasted when we were in the car

2.  The extended period (hours) of deep making out

3.  How quickly does seroconversion usually occur? I think I've seen you say it's around 21-23 days or something like that (assuming no chemo drugs, IV drug use history, etc)

He told me this morning he has a sore throat and stuffed up, and I feel like I have a bit of something in my throat.

Andy, can you please address these concerns?  Thank you.

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #5 on: July 20, 2009, 07:46:26 PM »
Worried,

I've merged your new thread into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.


You weren't at risk. Making out isn't a risk and neither is oral.

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Question about making out (post tonsilectomy)
« Reply #6 on: August 12, 2009, 12:11:20 PM »
Hello all,

So I am worried again..big shock.

I visited my boyfriend last Thursday..we made out cuddled, I gave him some oral but he didn't orgasm in my mouth.

A few areas of concern I want to mention and ask about:

1.  He had his tonsils/adenoids removed the previous Friday (6 days prior).  I never tasted any blood, but I have read some stuff about sometimes people that have had this surgery having bleeding in their throat post surgery.  What if there had been blood in his throat/mouth when we kissed/made out?  This is something I'm VERY concerned about.

2. Also, I had a cuticle that I had torn off earlier that day (on my thumb) and I had  small open cut on my thumb.  This is significant because I manually masturbated him and I think some of his semen ended up on my thumb. 

I'm sorry if these questions are stupid, but some reassurance would be nice.  It seems like I have a bit of a sore throat coming on and I know symptoms don't tell anything but still  I am worried.

Thanks in advance for your answer.

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #7 on: August 12, 2009, 01:00:45 PM »
At no time were you at risk of contracting HIV.

Offline worried123456

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #8 on: August 12, 2009, 01:41:18 PM »
Can Ann or Andy please weigh in?  Thanks

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #9 on: August 12, 2009, 02:05:52 PM »
In terms of sexual transmission of HIV, the only confirmed risks are unprotected vaginal and anal intercourse. Everything else is strictly theoretical as far as risk. In the real world of HIV we know it's about unprotected intercourse.

Once again you are worrying needlessly. Use condoms if you're having anal intercourse and you will be well protected.
Andy Velez

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #10 on: August 12, 2009, 02:33:36 PM »
But what if there had been blood in his throat from the surgery?

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #11 on: August 12, 2009, 02:43:51 PM »
Still doesn't matter. That is not how HIV is transmitted. Your frightened mind maybe telling you otherwise, but I can tell you transmission just doesn't happen that way. Neither kissing nor getting a blowjob are risks for transmission.
Andy Velez

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #12 on: August 12, 2009, 02:52:45 PM »
I'm sorry..but can you offer so clarification as to why?  People have gotten HIV from blood transfer before haven't they?

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #13 on: August 12, 2009, 02:57:10 PM »
Worried,

What you're describing is NOT a blood transfer.

If you read the Welcome Thread before posting like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

PLEASE CONSIDER YOURSELF WARNED!

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #14 on: August 12, 2009, 03:13:14 PM »
I'm sorry, but I feel like you are being dismissive Ann.  Can I just get a little bit of reasoning as to why a scenario like that would be no risk?

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #15 on: August 12, 2009, 03:58:05 PM »
Move on..

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #16 on: August 12, 2009, 04:22:08 PM »
Stop and think for a minute instead of letting your compulsive fears and doubts do the walking. An intravenous transfer of blood is one thing. And blood in the mouth is quite another.

Go ahead and waste resources getting tested if you want to.

We're not here to argue the matter with you or to hold your hand just because you have unwarranted doubts. You did not have a risk. Period.  And you are quickly heading towards a 28 day Time Out. 
Andy Velez

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Re: oral sex/makeout risk (Andy)
« Reply #17 on: August 12, 2009, 04:37:38 PM »
I'm sorry if I've upset anyone :(

 


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