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Author Topic: Is it irresponsible?  (Read 2016 times)

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Offline BigSucker

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Is it irresponsible?
« on: August 03, 2006, 11:02:28 AM »
I had a  negative test well outside the window period since any unprotected intercourse.  Great!  So...here's the question.  The only activity since then was ONE unprotected receptive oral with a partner of unknown status (though assures me neg...and I know he wouldn't knowningly lie..but WHAT IF..ya know?).  I've read all the information....the welcome thread, etc...I know that it is a low risk activity.  And, I'm almost at the point that I can accept and move past my irrational fear.  I guess I am just wondering if it would be totally irresponsible of me NOT to test?  I know for a fact that up to this one incident I was neg...Why did I end up wondering again?  I'm just a "big sucker"  Pun TOTALLY intended. 

I know you guys are sick of the oral questions....I jut thought I'd get an opinion on this. 

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #1 on: August 03, 2006, 12:10:53 PM »
You are not going to get HIV from receiving a blowjob.

Offline BigSucker

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #2 on: August 03, 2006, 12:35:49 PM »
No...I'm a female....I didn't receive....I gave.

Offline Andy Velez

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #3 on: August 03, 2006, 12:58:33 PM »
If you haven't already read the lesson on this site about transmission I recommend doing so now.

Giving oral is at the low end of the risk scale, and even lower if ejaculation does not take place orally. There have been very, very few documented cases of transmission in this manner and much more data which supports the risk being more theoretical than actual.

Hopefully you have learned from your previous experience and are now always having protected intercourse. That means the guy has to be wearing a condom everytime, no matter how great he looks or what you think you know about his history. A latex condom is a must. Period.

So testing in relation to this incident  is strictly up to you.

In general anyone who's sexually active is wise to get a full STD panel done at least annually and more often if there is genuinely risky business like unprotected intercourse.
Andy Velez

Offline BigSucker

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #4 on: August 03, 2006, 01:28:08 PM »
Oh believe me....lesson  learned...many many lessons actually.  I have read the transmission section of this site and thebody, etc...I know it's on the low end of the risk scale...I guess I'm really not a risk taker at heart. Absent a few "mistakes" along the way.  No more unprotected intercourse. Oral...I'm just so torn.  I mean..don't think I'll do unprotected again...which makes me so sad.  But, I don't think the anxiety it puts me through is worth it.  Let me rephrase...I don't think the anxiety that I put me through is worth it.

Sorry to bring up another question that never dies.  I just want to find some peace mentally...testing would probably do that (hopefully) but I ....well, I'm tend to be a bit of a hypocondraic and I think my doctor is totally sick of me! (though he does get a good chuckle every now and again)  When i went to him for a test last time (having unprotected vaginal) he assured me that the chances were slim....even when I insisted for a test out six months...if I go again...well, I guess I'm just embarassed. (Don't yell...the embarassment doesn't come from the HIV test...comes from the actions that lead me to have to test.!)

Oh well....thanks for your input guys.  I guess I'll have to learn to deal with this anxiety :(....xanax anyone? Jk  ;)Jk

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #5 on: August 03, 2006, 02:30:45 PM »
BigSucker,

It looks as though you have your situation sized up pretty well, and know the routine. 

Your risk is very, very low.  Testing (which would be mostly for peace of mind) would be conclusive 3 months post exposure.

I normally wouldn't recommend testing over this level of exposure, but that said, sexually active people should test for all STD's once or twice a year, depending on how active you are, just as a matter of good health care.

Morgan
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Offline ScienceGuy25

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #6 on: August 03, 2006, 09:54:46 PM »
Oh believe me....lesson  learned...many many lessons actually.  I have read the transmission section of this site and thebody, etc...I know it's on the low end of the risk scale...I guess I'm really not a risk taker at heart. Absent a few "mistakes" along the way.  No more unprotected intercourse. Oral...I'm just so torn.  I mean..don't think I'll do unprotected again...which makes me so sad.  But, I don't think the anxiety it puts me through is worth it.  Let me rephrase...I don't think the anxiety that I put me through is worth it.

Sorry to bring up another question that never dies.  I just want to find some peace mentally...testing would probably do that (hopefully) but I ....well, I'm tend to be a bit of a hypocondraic and I think my doctor is totally sick of me! (though he does get a good chuckle every now and again)  When i went to him for a test last time (having unprotected vaginal) he assured me that the chances were slim....even when I insisted for a test out six months...if I go again...well, I guess I'm just embarassed. (Don't yell...the embarassment doesn't come from the HIV test...comes from the actions that lead me to have to test.!)

Oh well....thanks for your input guys.  I guess I'll have to learn to deal with this anxiety :(....xanax anyone? Jk  ;)Jk

If you really feel you need the test and you don't want to go in you could always consider the home testing.  More expensive but you can do it in the privacy of your home and is just as accurate.  Make sure of course you get the FDA approved test - HomeAccess in the U.S.

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #7 on: August 04, 2006, 04:34:25 AM »
Big,

You don't have to go through your doctor and you don't have to use Home Access to avoid your doc either. Go to the HIV testing center database and enter your zip code to find a testing center near you.

However, I am NOT giving you this information because I think you need to test over this incident - because I don't. I'm telling you so you have options the next time it's time for a routine sexual health care check-up.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL STIs together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with a sexually transmitted infection.

Have a look through the condom and lube links in my signature line so you can make sure your fella is using them properly. While you're on either of those pages, have a look through the bottom three links in the left-hand column. They discuss ways that you, as a woman, can protect yourself. I recommend the female condom as they are also excellent barriers against hiv infection, and importantly, they give YOU the control over condom use. They can even be put in place in advance so you're not fumbling around at the crucial moment. They're fiddly to use at first, but if you can put a tampon in, you can use these. It gets easier with practice. Give them a try.

Ann
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Offline BigSucker

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Re: Is it irresponsible?
« Reply #8 on: August 04, 2006, 04:58:59 PM »
Thanks everyone.  I appreciate your time and information.  God Bless. :)

 


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