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Author Topic: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!  (Read 3352 times)

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First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« on: August 26, 2009, 12:06:44 AM »
First time to these kind of places after drinking with a friend and have ruined friendship with him for taking me there. I know it was my poor decision for going, but not making excuses. I have a gf and do not want to give her anything. I'm worried about giving anything to her.  PLEASE tell me what should I do/

The girl gave me a happy ending no condom (bad #1), to start she climbed over my head put her vagina over my open mouth, I moved her, but not before it made contact with my mouth.I think her vagina was wet. (bad #2). I forced her to get away from my face and she moved, but asked me to finger her. Bad #3. I fingered her for less than 1 minute.  This all happened in what felt like 3 minutes.

I read in other threads that handjobs are low risk, ok, but my guilt is too overcoming. I do not want to give anything to my gf.  What did I expose myself too, (i.e., gonorrhea, chlamydia).

If I get any of this std's when do they show up?  What shoudl I get tested for and how long should I wait to take the test?

I can do away with that friend, but not with my gf.

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #1 on: August 26, 2009, 07:57:39 AM »
con,

Handjobs are NOT "low risk", they're NO RISK.

Fingering is NO RISK.

Going down on a woman (putting your mouth on her genitals) is NO RISK.

Nothing you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv or anything else other than guilt. Stop feeling guilty about your massage - it's a waste of time.

You had NO risk. NO RISK.

Ann
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Offline concern

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #2 on: August 26, 2009, 10:46:11 PM »
Thnk you Ann. I want to get tested for peace of mind.  Is it safe to have sex and kiss my gf?

HOw many days after the event should I get tested?

I been tired and queezy. Sleeping more than normal. Mite be the guilt, what do you think?

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #3 on: August 26, 2009, 10:57:46 PM »
You didn't have a risk, you don't need to test and yes it is safe to have sex with your g/f.

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #4 on: August 27, 2009, 05:47:32 AM »
Con,

Unless you and your girlfriend are securely monogamous and have tested together, you need to be using condoms with her as well. But yes, it is safe to kiss her and it is safe to have protected intercourse with her.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex without a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST SPECIFICALLY OVER ANYTHING THAT HAPPENED DURING YOUR MASSAGE, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple!

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #5 on: August 27, 2009, 11:26:07 PM »
Ann,

Thank you for the advice and helping everyone on here.

My gf and I are in a monogmouse relationship, but I f'd up this time. This is the only time that this has happened. We did test together and were clean some years ago. We do use condoms sometimes and sometimes not. 

To be clear, you believe I have nothing from this encounter even though that ladies vaginal fluid came into contact with my mouth? Can I have unprotected sex with her?

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #6 on: August 28, 2009, 07:03:13 AM »
Con,

Nothing you did or had done to you was a risk for hiv infection, so yes, you're good to go with your girlfriend.

And by the way, it's not polite to use the word "clean" to describe the results of your sexual health tests. You're either negative or positive. To use the word clean to mean negative implies that those of us who are hiv positive are dirty. I just had a shower and I'm NOT dirty.

Ann
 
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #7 on: August 29, 2009, 01:20:19 AM »
Ann,

I'm terribly sorry for mis-using the term clean.  I realized this on a drive after I posted it and was not sure if I used that or not.

My stomach has been feelin that good and my #2 has been solid.  Is this any sign of a STD or is it something unrelated?


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Re: First and Last Asian Massage Visit, help!
« Reply #8 on: August 29, 2009, 06:33:16 AM »
con,

If you're worried about how you're feeling, go see a doctor. It has nothing to do with hiv. You did NOT have a risk for hiv. As for other STIs, talk to a doctor but I think you're worrying over nothing.

Ann
Condoms are a girl's best friend

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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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