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Offline timmytong

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« on: December 19, 2008, 10:58:32 AM »
If a condom breaks is it complete and very noticeable or could you just get a small tear /rip on the tip?

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Re: condom breakage
« Reply #1 on: December 19, 2008, 11:03:10 AM »
You will know a condom failed without a doubt.
« Last Edit: December 19, 2008, 11:15:06 AM by RapidRod »

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Re: condom breakage
« Reply #2 on: December 19, 2008, 11:06:13 AM »
so there could not be just a small tear or rip ?

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Re: condom breakage
« Reply #3 on: December 19, 2008, 11:14:29 AM »
There will be no small tears or holes.

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Re: condom breakage
« Reply #4 on: December 19, 2008, 11:19:17 AM »
Small tears or holes are myths. When a condom fails it's very, very apparent because the whole thing ends up looking like a fringed hoop on your penis. So you would have definitely known if that happened.

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« Reply #5 on: February 08, 2009, 12:51:16 PM »
Hello had protected sex with condommbut noticed afterwars I had a herpes (HSV2) outbreak on shaft not covered by condom which may have rolled up a bit .I this an HIV concen if some of her fluids got on it,or even when the bottom part of my shaft entered the beginning of her vagina .Im thinking maybe my thrusting could draw dow the fluids from deeper inside and maybe get on my outbreak or even when it entered the entrance.Like I say this part where the outbreak is was not covered
« Last Edit: February 08, 2009, 12:54:19 PM by timmytong »

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« Reply #6 on: February 08, 2009, 01:16:29 PM »
The shaft is not the part of the penis which is vulnerable to HIV transmission. It's the urethra and the foreskin if you're not circumcised. You were not at greater risk for transmission and the condom will have protected you effectively.

Unfortunately the same can't be said for your partner with regard to herpes. When you are having an active outbreak of herpes it means that your partner would definitely be vulnerable to catching it. Even skin to skin contact would be enough and certainly during intercourse the risk would be high. You ought to keep that in mind when you're having sex.

I don't see any cause for concern about HIV in relation to this incident you're concerned about.
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Re: herpes and hiv
« Reply #7 on: February 08, 2009, 01:19:20 PM »
Thnaks I just thought that if some of the fluid got on an open sore it was a risk...Like I said the condom covered the head of my penis effectively

I would never have sex if I knew I had an outbreak..I only noticed after

So I do not need to worry about testing then

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Re: herpes and hiv
« Reply #8 on: February 08, 2009, 01:30:52 PM »
No need for testing, although we do recommend that anyone who's sexually active ought to have a full STI panel done regularly -- at least annually.
Andy Velez

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Re: herpes and hiv
« Reply #9 on: February 08, 2009, 01:34:14 PM »
Ok thanks ...but no need for hiv testing just because of this..there was oral sex too

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Re: herpes and hiv
« Reply #10 on: February 08, 2009, 01:59:36 PM »
There is no need to test for HIV.

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Re: herpes and hiv
« Reply #11 on: February 08, 2009, 02:23:14 PM »
sorry that reply didnt come out on my comp for some reason ..can you say again

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Re: herpes and hiv
« Reply #12 on: February 08, 2009, 05:03:48 PM »
No need for testing, although we do recommend that anyone who's sexually active ought to have a full STI panel done regularly -- at least annually.

We've clearly told you there is no need for HIV testing. Yes, and including there having been some oral sex.
Andy Velez

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« Reply #13 on: March 14, 2009, 05:57:32 PM »
Got a blowjob from a girl just before she had been drinking and had thrown up and been sick,would this have increased the risk for hiv if there could have been blood in her mouth where she was sick or made her mouth more sensitive thopugh didnt see any blood also she rubbed mt penis on her vagina didnt think it went it but was near her vagina,I have had hepes on my penis in the past but there wasnt any sore I could see though I had a slare up about a month before

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #14 on: March 14, 2009, 06:03:28 PM »
No guy has ever gotten infected with HIV from a blowjob and you aren't going to be the first. It doesn't matter what she had in her mouth -- blood, sperm from another guy or whatever. A blowjob is not a risk for HIV. Period.

As for your penis rubbing against her vagina, that's another non-risk as long as there was no penetration. There is a very real difference between rubbing and penetration.

She's the one who was risk for herpes from you. Even without an outbreak you can pass it along so you should always be using condoms for your partner's sake. And of course always using a condom for both vaginal and anal intercoourse. No exceptions.

Cheers.
Andy Velez

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #15 on: March 14, 2009, 06:09:26 PM »
Like I said I had a flare up of herpes maybe a month before but no sores at time of rubbing and dont belive there was penetration only rubbing but my tip was close and she was very wet so may have very slighlty dipped in but only the tip and just by the entrance I though the infectious fluids were deep in the vagina

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #16 on: March 14, 2009, 06:13:49 PM »
If a woman is HIV+ the fluids which would contain HIV are in the cervical area, way further up from the vaginal lips you were rubbing against.

But remember that rubbing is different than dipping. So don't play around without a condom on if you're going to be in doubt about what you're doing. It doesn't sound like you did anything risky but HIV is not something to guess about.
Andy Velez

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #17 on: March 14, 2009, 06:16:11 PM »
Ok Im a little confused lke I said it was just the tip at the opening ,was just a little rubbing but certianly didnt go in just maybe entered a litle around the lips and some fluid got on my shaft where previously I had an outbreak but no sore present at time like I said

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« Reply #18 on: March 14, 2009, 06:50:25 PM »
If you were just at the lips then there was no risk. Only you can know if there was actual penetration.
It doesn't sound to me from what you have said that there was penetration. Rubbing at the lips is NOT penetration.

Fluid on your shaft is not a risk for transmission. HIV is a fragile virus and is not transmitted in that manner. 

Nothing you've said suggests to me that testing is necessary. Give it up and get on with your life.
Andy Velez

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #19 on: March 14, 2009, 09:34:20 PM »
Tim,

I've just reaslised that you've been starting a new thread every time you come here. Please stop doing that as it is against our posting guidelines, which you should have read in the Welcome thread. I've merged all of your threads into your original thread - where you should post all your additional thoughts or questions. It helps us to help you when you keep all your additional thoughts or questions in one thread.

If you need help finding your thread when you come here, click on the "Show own posts" link under your name in the left-hand column of any forum page.

Please also read through the Welcome Thread so you can familiarize yourself with our Forum Posting Guidelines. Thank you for your cooperation.

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #20 on: March 15, 2009, 06:38:25 AM »
ok

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #21 on: March 26, 2009, 03:17:37 PM »
why do they say test in 6 months for needlestick injury is it because it takes longer for antibodoes to show up or would they show at normal time...within  months

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #22 on: March 26, 2009, 03:50:02 PM »
What does needle sticks have to do with your situation?

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #23 on: March 26, 2009, 04:01:51 PM »
was cleaning an apartment and thought I may have got pricked by something in the garbage

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #24 on: March 26, 2009, 04:13:49 PM »
You are worrying needlessly. This is one of those what if situations that is only about fears and not anything based in HIV-science and a real risk such as in a healthcare setting.

There's no need for testing nor for further concern on your part.
Andy Velez

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #25 on: March 26, 2009, 04:18:41 PM »
so it is only a risk in a health care setting.....?would I need to test for HIV if it was a discarded needle
« Last Edit: March 26, 2009, 04:22:14 PM by timmytong »

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #26 on: March 26, 2009, 04:22:13 PM »
Are you actually reading our responses? I already told you there's no need for testing.

Take a breath and get on with your life. 
Andy Velez

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #27 on: March 26, 2009, 04:22:47 PM »
But what if it was a discarded needle should I still not worry ?

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #28 on: March 26, 2009, 05:01:15 PM »
You can worry all you wish, but you didn't have a risk of contracting HIV by getting "stuck,poked or scratched with a needle."

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #29 on: March 26, 2009, 05:04:19 PM »
and as regards the HIV testing question ?
« Last Edit: March 26, 2009, 05:21:36 PM by timmytong »

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Re: blowjob and brief exposure
« Reply #30 on: March 26, 2009, 05:31:59 PM »
Why on earth would you test when you didn't have a risk?

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« Reply #31 on: March 26, 2009, 05:36:06 PM »
so what are you saying please ?

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« Reply #32 on: March 26, 2009, 05:49:29 PM »
Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

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« Reply #33 on: March 26, 2009, 05:52:25 PM »
sorry Im only asking if I need to test..its a straight question deserving a straight answer ,,sorry

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« Reply #34 on: March 26, 2009, 06:30:24 PM »
Tim,

Andy told you in no uncertain terms that NO, you do NOT need to test over your latest worry.

I'm giving you that time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #35 on: May 02, 2009, 08:26:07 PM »
went with a girl who said she self harms ,like cuts her arms etc she gave me a blowbog and masturbated me with her hands ,would she be of increased risk for HIV  and could the fact she self harmed put me at risk ,didnt notice any blood when she gave me oral sex and masturbated my penis,would I need to test for HIV in this incident

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« Reply #36 on: May 03, 2009, 01:48:37 AM »
Timmy

I have merged your threads so please use this thread for all your questions from now on..thank you for your cooperation.

Answers to your questions.

1..You did not have a risk for HIV

2..You do not need to test.

What you need to do is to educate yourself on how HIV is and is not transmitted, you will find all the lessons and information you need here on this site..start reading.

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« Reply #37 on: May 03, 2009, 07:08:52 AM »
she was also anorexic would this be a risk as they throw up a lot and maybe this wold irritate the lining of her mouth and make it bleed as I had a blowjob

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« Reply #38 on: May 03, 2009, 07:10:41 AM »
Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

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« Reply #39 on: May 03, 2009, 07:16:44 AM »
sorry what do you mean ?

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« Reply #40 on: May 03, 2009, 05:39:44 PM »
What Rod means is if you insist on asking question about a NON-RISK situation you will be banned, and that is exactly where you are heading if you don't listen to the advise we are giving you.

People who suffer from Anorexic do not throw up because they do not eat...it's those who suffer from Bulimia who induce vomiting....but even so there is still no risk, so stop coming up with stories that mean nothing and make no sense.

This is your last warning...seriously.

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« Reply #41 on: May 03, 2009, 05:55:44 PM »
ok so if she was bullimic ?

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« Reply #42 on: May 03, 2009, 07:06:21 PM »
ok so if she was bullimic ?
MOVE ON...

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« Reply #43 on: May 12, 2009, 02:36:37 PM »
do I need to have an HIV test if I got a blowjob ,the irl performed oral sex on me without a condom,so not protected,and the girl swallowed,I heard somewhere swallowing was a risk but is this just for the person sucking

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« Reply #44 on: May 12, 2009, 04:47:37 PM »
Timmy,

You've already been repeatedly told that getting your dick sucked is NOT a risk for hiv infection. It doesn't matter if she swallowed, spit, or saved it for a milkshake later. NO RISK.

I'm giving you that second time out you've been warned about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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