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Should it be a crime to engage in unprotected sex if you have tested positive for the HIV virus?

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Offline JR Gabbard

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Should it be a crime?
« on: August 02, 2006, 04:46:39 PM »

   Hello everyone--

   I agree with those who believe that the forum should be a place where we can come for information and support.  In Lisa's thread on what we want in the forum, Ann ended a post with a quote from Gandhi:  Be the change you want to see.  So, in that spirit, I want to throw this up for discussion.

   The question is:  Should it be a crime to engage in unprotected sex after you test positive for the virus?

   Before we start, I have to point out that in some states it is already a crime.  You should know the law of your particular state.  The states are all over the jurisprudential map here, some with no regulations, some misdemeanors, some felonies, some sentence enhancements, many allowing for jail or prison time.  If you are sexually active, you owe it to yourself to know your local law, which you can check out at the following link:


      http://www.lambdalegal.org/cgi-bin/iowa/news/resources.html?record=361

   My answer to the question is No!  I think it is unfair to penalize one party when each party bears responsibility.  The danger involved in unprotected sex is widely known.  Anyone who can watch MTV, use a computer, or read a newspaper knows that unprotected sex is dangerous.  It is not rational, I would say it is in fact reckless, to simply assume that your sex partner is HIV negative, even if he or she tells you s/he is negative.  People lie about sex sometimes.  Just ask Bill!

   So, if you are negative and consent to unprotected sex, you should bear the consequences, if any.  It is not fair that your sex partner should have to incur criminal responsibility for your naivety.

   Another issue I have with these laws is:  what good does it do to put someone in jail for this?  Is it to stop him/her from infecting others?  Do you really think that is going to happen in jail?  All that would do is limit the available pool of non-infected persons.  Is it retribution?  Doesn't the virus exact its own revenge?  Does society need more?

   I would like to read your thoughts on this.  If you agree, please tell us why.  If you disagree with me, try to change my mind!  I'm always up for a good debate.

   And remember, you can change your vote if you wish!

   Enjoy!

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Offline ACinKC

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #1 on: August 02, 2006, 04:50:32 PM »
That is a TOUGH question..... To actually just engage in sex with someone who KNOWS my status, my vote is NO it should NOT be a crime.  But I feel that it SHOULD be a crime if you willingly expose someone to a deadly agent.  Like (oh and I MAY get blasted for this) anthrax or whatever.  There is my take.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #2 on: August 02, 2006, 05:17:49 PM »
I agree with Andrew a 100%
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #3 on: August 02, 2006, 05:59:30 PM »
people who make simple, strong answers to this question are gonna get argued with by me.  Please post your views, but if you think the poll covers the bases, think again.  Life ain't that simple.

For a start, what do you mean by unprotected sex........

The wish for more peace n love on the forum is not gonna be helped by this kind of loaded poll.  But hey, that's life in this bus station (just saying, like, bus station not family).

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Offline manchesteruk

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #4 on: August 02, 2006, 06:04:55 PM »
Big fat no from me it's just not that simple.  I don't think there is enough support for the newly diagnosed for a start.  Obviously there is no defending someone who is purposely going around trying to infect other people but there's been a couple of cases in the news recently that weren't as cut and dry as that.
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #5 on: August 02, 2006, 06:17:38 PM »
I don't believe the laws to be reasonable, rather they are a knee-jerk reaction by right-wing- terrorists who just have to demonize HIV and show the world how perverse gay sex really is.  If they were so worried about spreading disease, then they would screen people for said diseases and provide prevention information that was based on science and not religious dogma.

Too many people want to paint pos people as some type of monsters and many of these laws have penalties that exceed those of murder and some that don't even require that the person became poz, just that they could have.  I like Jonathan's comment: I call bullshit.

The laws are supported by our spineless legislators, who refused to adequately fund HIV and prevention services and need somewhere to deflect the blame.  Their thinking is more along the lines of their being too insensitive or just downright stupid to mount a real campaign against HIV, because we all know that everyone who has it, did something to deserve it.  And since they consider that fact, we then become default pariah and would be killers as we spread our demon seed.

There are already very adequate laws on the books to deal with the spreading of any known disease and anti-HIV laws are just meant to pander to the right-wing-terrorists.
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #6 on: August 02, 2006, 06:19:26 PM »
We already have a law in our state. If you knowingly infect someone and didn't advise them of your status your ass is grass in Ohio. Now if you infect someone and you have not tested and do not know, then they will take it easier on ya. (yeah right)  Now I believe if one knows their status and doesn't acknowledge it and proceeds to have unprotected sex, then yes they should lock them up and throw away the key.
« Last Edit: August 02, 2006, 06:23:04 PM by RapidRod »

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #7 on: August 02, 2006, 06:29:16 PM »
Well then them women in UK ante-natal clinics who were negative at the start of pregnancy and positive at the end of their first trimester is gonna give birth in prison.  They's only sleeping with their husbands, if we believe them, and it does happen, frequently even, that they are hit or kicked out of the home on disclosure, not to mention the "whore" branding etc.  And the blokes don't get tested even, just move on. 

This perhaps, according to the leading doc dealing with ante-natal care for HIV-positive African women at my clinic, means 1 in 6 African women attending.....

Is this at all right? Or the key-throwing right? Disclosure can contain some personal risk to life and limb, and perhaps children in the household.  How do you disclose in these situations?

Not to mention the huge rose-tinted spectacles many untested (psychologically negative?) people wear.... Or indeed, a principle of equity between HIV and other infectious conditions.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #8 on: August 02, 2006, 06:32:48 PM »
Gosh, this is as dumb a poll as I ever saw.
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #9 on: August 02, 2006, 06:57:54 PM »
I hate this fucking subject. Really, I do. It's about as fascinating as the 20 year old goth you fucked the night before is in the morning.

Endless stupid bloody threads about:

"HIV and legality";
"HIV and disclosure";
"IT'S SOMEBODY ELSE'S FAULT BECAUSE I WAS TOO DOGSHIT DUMB TO WEAR A FRIGGING CONDOM";
"WHO INFECTED YOU, YOUR BASTARD OF AN EX?"
"Have YOU ever infected somebody?"

and so on seem to abound of late. They're all just variations on the same dreary theme by members of the "Death Is Too Scary Too Ponder" and "I Can't Take Responsibility For Myself" tribes.

Not that I'm naming any names.

And don't tell me I don't have to read/participate in these threads because that's just a brainless truism. I understand that people are entitled to raise this banal topic and I'm entitled to bitch about it.

It's called dialogue.

The nasty reality is that I couldn't give a corn studded shit about what redneck citizen initated law against people with queer plague might be on the books in Kansas, Texas, South Carolina or any other dirt water red state. Citizens of the blue states shouldn't feel too smug either. I suspect the laws are similar there. Guess what? We have stupid laws like these in Australia too. I believe similar provisions abound in the UK and Europe and everywhere else.

It's because AIDS is a stigmatised disease -- and that's not going to change.

Seems to me that easy way around these sorts of things is to either serosort (ie only fuck other pozzies) or if you simply have to give that drunken neggie you met at the pub a tusk up the runter wear a condom. Disclosure? Well, either disclose and be done with it or lie about your name and don't take him/her/it back to your place.

Do it in the carpark. It works for me.

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Offline Alain

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #10 on: August 02, 2006, 07:09:36 PM »
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Offline Lis

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #11 on: August 02, 2006, 07:34:17 PM »
good lord... whats with all the self loathing posts as of late.....??? what i do in my bedroom, livingroom, kitchen, shower, jacuzzi is my and my partners business.. (oops... that was TMI)  really... the whole finger pointing attitude3 needs to stop.. i believe in full discloser, i also believe that we all need to take responsibility in our sexual health.... a bit of a sticky wicket.. yes... but the only one i control is me... yes... i have been with the same man for 20 years... yes there have been times when the condoms are just not gonna do.... that is HIS choice... and i gotta say.... i like it!!! shame on me but.... HE IS NEGITIVE!!!!

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Offline angelofdreams

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #12 on: August 02, 2006, 07:35:13 PM »
i love to react to the comment saying there is not enough support for newly diagnosed.
I have spend since i have been diagnosed over 24 hours in hosptial listening to all kind of people , doctors, nurses, spycologists, dietists, special socialworkers ( why?) and a load more i forgot,
with moments they make it way to much, sitting there listening to them going on and on and on.
reacting on the original topic wether it should be a crime, yes and no, most of us are adults and can make a decision ourself, in my case that was having sex with guys unprotected on occasion, sort of stupid  but my own responsability. i dont see this being a crime,
If for instance you have sex and do not get told by6 someone carrying the hiv virus and get infected by that person while he or she wel knows you will get infected, that IS a crime in most country's and should be punished for that.
now dont forget as we all know that a large number of people dont even know they are infected or dont want to get tested because of suspecting a bad outcome.
i probably have got some people enraged with this comment but still think it is in some cases our own faulth ( like in mine), in some cases a accident and in some cases a crime  

Big fat no from me it's just not that simple.  I don't think there is enough support for the newly diagnosed for a start.  Obviously there is no defending someone who is purposely going around trying to infect other people but there's been a couple of cases in the news recently that weren't as cut and dry as that.
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Offline whizzer

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #13 on: August 02, 2006, 08:46:20 PM »
Why discriminate against the Positives?

Simply make unprotected sex a crime.  Period.

That way, everyone who does it without a rubber is guilty, whether poz or neg.  End of story, not more bitchin'.  If you get infected with HIV, then it's because you broke the law, so there.


Offline ACinKC

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #14 on: August 02, 2006, 08:54:37 PM »
Uh Matty, ummmm, Im from Kansas and we are BLUE state.  AND IT SUCKS HIND TITTY BIG TIME!  I think you may be colorblind and have your reds and blues mixed up!  No problem, the convicts down your way usually tend to get things all upside down and bass ackwards!!!

Just Playin with ya HOMEY!  Much love from This shit ass, blue state dwelling, cootie infected, chuckle monkey!

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WOOPS... i take it back.... it is THIS guy who's got it upside down and backwards!  Many apologies from this DIP SHIT!

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #15 on: August 02, 2006, 09:05:03 PM »
To (mis)quote fearless:

Swims by, nibbles at bait, swims along :)

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #16 on: August 02, 2006, 09:08:27 PM »
I absolutely, completely, 100% agree with Lisbeth...and I say BRAV - FUCKING - O  to her for saying it

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #17 on: August 02, 2006, 10:13:09 PM »
They don't arrest people who infect others with gonnorrhea, syphillis , chlamydia, and all of those other sexually transmitted diseases. So I don't agree with locking someone up who is HIV+. This is the Good ole USa and they never have a balance.

Offline Eldon

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #18 on: August 02, 2006, 11:17:07 PM »
good lord... whats with all the self loathing posts as of late.....??? what i do in my bedroom, livingroom, kitchen, shower, jacuzzi is my and my partners business.. (oops... that was TMI)  really... the whole finger pointing attitude3 needs to stop.. i believe in full discloser, i also believe that we all need to take responsibility in our sexual health.... a bit of a sticky wicket.. yes... but the only one i control is me... yes... i have been with the same man for 20 years... yes there have been times when the condoms are just not gonna do.... that is HIS choice... and i gotta say.... i like it!!! shame on me but.... HE IS NEGITIVE!!!!

lisbeth

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #19 on: August 02, 2006, 11:55:52 PM »

   Wow!  That certainly got you talking!  Even those who complained about having to talk about it eventually got around to talking about it, or at least why they were mad 'cause they had to talk about it!

   And I didn't see much flaming.

   And as usual, people are sharing their experiences and thoughts about living with this virus, and showing a lot of maturity and profound collective wisdom.  As I knew they would.  I have a lot of respect for everyone here on these boards!

   Be the change you want to see.  Gandhi (via Ann)

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   Thought you might like to know....

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #20 on: August 03, 2006, 12:26:18 AM »
i think polls like this are in extremely poor taste. 

That's not because it's not a bonafide topic of discussion, it's that anybody who is a member here can vote... and most fears forum members read the living with forum... if you conduct a poll you will get skewed results.

There is no accountability for how people have voted so for subject like this, i would not have a poll and leave it for discussion.   


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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #21 on: August 03, 2006, 04:34:34 AM »
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Offline Matty the Damned

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #22 on: August 03, 2006, 05:13:32 AM »
I suspect that Whizzer was using one the devices of wit -- sarcasm.

Which is clearly dead at AIDSMEDS, given the above post.

Long live literalism! The anti-intellectuals have won!

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #23 on: August 03, 2006, 10:44:20 AM »

What about liberal rednecks?  Where do we fall?  Have a feeling I won't like the answer....

  I think not?  Reason...  After reading views like Jonathan's on this subject I have to agree.  It could never be prosecuted or pursued fairly if it was a crime.  There is no way to prove malicious intent.  Who's word do you take?  How do/could they prove something so privately held between two people?  Who's the witness?

  My stance has always been kind of an old school eye for an eye attitude.  It's not logical... I admit.  Because of my logic I have made a few enemies.  Was my logic clouded? Somewhat... My thinking was not sole influenced in any way by my own infection, as some have pointed out, but also on morality.  With that being said I must admit I have never been high on morals and unfortunately if there is a heaven I would probably be in hell with Matty.

  I am torn...  I sit the fence on this one... 

  Maybe you guys are right.  Maybe it is my own personal issue that influences my thinking...

  Fuck....  Lol I just cracked my nose wide open..literally.  I got to go I got blood all over my friends office
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #24 on: August 03, 2006, 11:17:06 AM »
 The very thought of making it a crime just to have "unprotected" sex with someone when you have HIV just with that simple wording would have a lot of people in jail. I am married and she is negative. We thought long and hard about our decision to have sex after my diagnosis. I should, however, tell you that we were married  for four years before my first diagnosis. The night before my diagnosis, in the hospital, we had unprotected sex. My diagnosis went from thinking I was negative to having AIDS, overnight. After getting out and recovering from PCP, we tried protection, but it just wasn't the same for us. It almost killed our sex life. So, we finally opted for what we had previously been doing. Over ten years later, my wife is still testing completely negative. THANK GOD! But under the simple wording of having unprotected sex with a neggie would have me in jail. Even though the decision was hers to do it. The issue is very complicated and therefore, would require very complicated wording to avoid putting the wrong people in jail. I would prefer having sex with someone that is poz, but even that simple wording would put many behind bars. Simply stating having unprotected sex with someone who is poz would put many other people in jail just because they, as poz people, would be having sex with other poz people. And we all know how good the medical staffs are in prisons. In jail, as a poz person, could end up being a death sentence for many. The only real crime is when a poz person KNOWING and WILLINGLY infects another person whom is negative without their knowledge. So, my response is a resounding NO!

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #25 on: August 03, 2006, 11:20:36 AM »
By the way, this is just another attempt by the christian right-wing conservatives to segregate poz people from the mainstream of society where we could be left to rot!

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #26 on: August 03, 2006, 11:32:59 AM »
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #27 on: August 03, 2006, 12:35:18 PM »
okay...okay...I'll take one for the team...
just point to the right carpark, please.
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #28 on: August 03, 2006, 05:49:15 PM »
I haven't voted because I don't want to - like Dingo says I think this is a topic that's more appropriate being discussed - it's not a clear cut enough subject to cast such a vote on.

But if you're interested in my thoughts on this issue then check out the following thread links and the archived thread links included in one of my posts there:

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=1177.0

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=1416.0

It's just easier than repeating myself. Plus you can read everything in context then.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #29 on: August 03, 2006, 06:55:53 PM »


   Yo, Melia--

   Why don't you repeat yourself here?  You won't be boring anyone!!  You have an opinion, and it deserves to be expressed.  You have worked out some of the toughest problems faced by anyone with HIV.  Others haven't, and they need your thoughts to help them work things out individually.

   I'm thinking about a post by frankie that I read in Lisa's (sdgirl) thread about what we want from the forum, (see how complicated it gets when we go meta?)    Frankie has been on-line for several months without registering.  He reads the threads, looks for the information he needs, and feels a little less isolated.  I'll call him a casual user.  There are plenty like him, for any number of reasons.  They look here for answers.  You have those answers inside you.  Why not give it up?

   Of course this is all academic.  I have answered every HIV-related question I could ever conceive of, for myself.  Most of us have, because you have to in order to survive.  But some haven't yet.  Personally, I would have loved access to an intelligent, thoughtful discussion of these baseline issues when I was coming up, but back then there was no internet as we now know it.  Options were far more limited.

   So, no, Mel, this is not an attack, it is all love.  Why not repeat yourself?

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #30 on: August 03, 2006, 07:12:16 PM »
In a Support Group, here in Calif a few years ago.  Our topic of discussion that day was "how we became infected."  I told the story of when I was sleeping when sex started and having been with this man on many occasions, there was no real reason to believe we were not having safer sex.

The facilitator of that group that that was a felony and my "friend" could be charged with felony endangerment.  My "friend" was an attorney and that was 1994, whether or not I was sleeping or actively participating was purely an opinion which would not hold up in court.  That "friend" did die and I left roses on his grave.  I have moved on with my life and I take care of myself.  Doctor says I have no reason not to expect to live to see old age, if I do not get hit by a bus.  I am very careful around public transportation.

I hope someday, there will be someone who will leave roses on my grave.  Have the best day
Michael
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #31 on: August 03, 2006, 07:35:31 PM »
Hello, gabbardjr...

I read an interesting paper the other day, which echoes my opinion on this topic, exactly. I'd like to share it with you, if I may, today.

The paragraph I want to record here was at the end of the long article, actually, an interview with Dr. Matthew Weait, lecturer in law at Keele University, who facilitated a series of seminars in the UK (Keele, Dec. '05, Birkbeck College, Mar. '06, and Keele, Jun. '06) and lectured at the British HIV Association (BHIVA) in Breighton, Mar. '06:

QUESTION: (Edwin J. Bernard, journalist) "I became acutely aware of some of criminalisation's ethical and moral difficulties during the weekend. Many of the HIV-positive individuals attending the seminar-myself included-do not want to be seen to condone the actions of some of the people who have been prosecuted so far, but at the same time, we are afraid of the consequences of criminalisation for ourselves and others."

ANSWER: (Dr. Matthew Weait) "I think it's really important to recognise the long term impact of these prosecutions, whatever one's ethical or moral stance. What harm does criminalisation do to the broader question of public health? Does it mean that people are so afraid of disclosing their status to sexual partners, because of the kind of coverage that people with HIV get in the press as a result of the prosecution, that they're not going to disclose despite the consequences? Does it mean not telling the truth about a sexual history to an HIV or GU Clinician, which is critical to contact tracing. Will it make people think twice about voluntary HIV testing, or being honest about the results of that test? If that's the case, then we've lost a significant battle in the war against onward transmission."

'What we should really be concerned about is ridding the world of this virus, and it seems to me that we need to think of HIV and AIDS socially, and not individually. We need to think of it as something that affects communities and which needs to be responded to at a social and community level, and not in the one-on-one adversarial process that a criminal trial produces, and which only ever sends out the message that one person was responsible and the other wasn't; that one person's a victim, and one person's a perpetrator. Criminal trials, whatever their other effects, affirm in the public and popular imagination that HIV-positive people can only be understood as vectors of onwards transmission."

For me, this says it all.

I was linked to this article by aidsmap (www.aidsmap.com/en/news and the date was July 19th. ("Safer Law: Moving from Theory to Practice")

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Zephyr



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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #32 on: August 03, 2006, 08:05:31 PM »
These laws are flawed from a logic based perspective to begin with.  They don't cover HIV infected people who have NOT gotten tested.  Why should someone who got tested be more responsible than someone who hasn't?  That's one problem.  Aside from that most thinking people would argue that these very laws discourage people from getting tested as well, which is why many states with large HIV populations do not have such laws.

That said, we all probably agree that the responsible thing for those infected is to tell someone and let them make the decision.  At least that's my opinion.  I didn't always practice this though but made damn sure I engaged in safer sex.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #33 on: August 03, 2006, 10:58:00 PM »
Well, I'm not voting because I feel it's pretty pointless. However here in the UK we have a law which forbids knowingly passing the virus if you have tested positive. May be it's not a perfect law but, all the same HIV is an incurable fatal disease & the outlook even with HAART is uncertain. Therefore I support the law if it prevents just one person getting this damn virus....

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« Reply #34 on: August 04, 2006, 01:40:06 AM »
Unprotected sex with someone who is also positive and knows my status seems to be more in the area of mutual consent than in the legal arena. However, there is also the risk that the other party may have a different strain of the virus, thus enters the risk of complicating each others' health. It's a tough cross to bear at times, this (moral?) responsibility but that's what proves our mettle, no?

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« Reply #35 on: August 04, 2006, 02:11:06 AM »
As a poz cop this is my nightmare. Having to arrest someone accused of having unprotected sex. You have no idea but l have had 3 calls in the last three months alone about this issue.

What scares me is this maybe going down the road the same as ie false child abuse cases.

I for one will NOT sleep with anyone unless they know l am poz long before hand.

I also think more people that are not poz need to ask questions.

Is it a crime? Not sure. For me it is more a moral issue.

And knowing l can sleep at night.


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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #36 on: August 04, 2006, 09:11:22 AM »
Hello...... Hello......  Hellllllllllllllooooo!!!!!!!!!!        Am I the only one that remembers President Raygun, and his proposed policy to export all HIV+ people offshore to Guantanamo Bay, Cuba???????????????????????????     Am I the only one that remembers the Pink Triangles of the Third Reich????????????????????????   What you people need is a severe reminder of the history of legislating personal private actions.  My views here are no secret, and most of you know how I feel about these issues in a Capitalist Democracy, but to simply state; if you become infected with HIV in this time in space, IT IS YOUR OWN FAULT, OR ELSE YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND LANGUAGE OF ANY SORT!!!!!!   I do wish the world were a different place, but if any of us advocate for legislating personal private behavior, you should immediately get in line to bring "Soylent Green" into reality??

If any of you got the impression that this poll, many of your responses, and this whole subject; slightly pissed me off, then you would be right.  Anything beyond personal responsibility, and knowledge of this plague, just rots my socks, and to go through the world expecting someone else to be responsible for my stupidity is "Dumber than Stupid", and to find this discussion here, appalls me to no end.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #37 on: August 04, 2006, 09:17:57 AM »
Daddy Tim,

You are not the only one.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #38 on: August 04, 2006, 09:44:45 AM »
No one else has said it, so i guess i will give it a shot....if anyone gets offended, then so be it.

should it be a crime? YES....do i think that law is right (or just) No.

my reasoning: Zeph, touched on it,actually but i will put it in laymans terms. The Constitution of united states starts out "We The People of The United States of America"

in todays reality, we the people have failed each other, everyone of us. Many sit back and bitch about things, and thats the ONLY thing they do, as if that will eventually change it. We have sat back and turned this country over to politicians & foreigners. People gotta do more than just raise hell about issues, they have to vote, the have to get EVERYONES support, and have them too vote these issues down.

a good example is in the past ACT UP was formed, and through a unified effort, they made some huge progress in the world of HIV. Sure they raised hell in thier own fashion, but most importantly, they all dropped thier individual differences of opinion,etc. and focused on the matter at hand at that time. MOST importantly, they won the support of those who werent gay, who werent hiv positive,etc. And issues were changed appropriately. and well, to be quite frank....thats what its gonna take to change this kinda issue as well. In our own country, the majority of the population wont even vote, and the others, well they simply wont even put forth effort to get them to. So, yes....as long as we the people choose to sit back, and bitch about how unfair this or that is, and thats the only thing we do...then it should be law. Stop and look at the things people bitch about, and how fucked up they are simply because we as individuals are so caught up in self centeredness, that we refuse to look at the whole picture. We are only worried about "us"

think about it, we live in a place, that we have allowed our government to first abolish alcohol, then bring it back under THIER control. they control the potentcy, they make a killing off the tax. Its totally legal to drive TO the bar and drink....but we have allowed them to make laws,that state its illegal to drive home from that bar, that serves who's product? Our government.Do you see people on the court house lawn, bitching that we need to abolish alcohol, because its one sided, it only works one way,etc? NOOOOOO Do you see them doing the same things with tobacco? they certainly are, they have read OUR message, loud and clear...our message being, that do as you wish, we wont do anything but bitch about it.

we live in a place that sure its legal to own a gun, our constitutional rights say so. But since that constitution, we the people have allowed politicians, to have thier way with that issue as well. Now, we can own the gun, and it was designed as a mechanism to kill, but we cant kill with it, even certain animals,at certain times etc. Who makes the gun laws...the politicians, who bitches about it, and gets the brundt end of it....we the people. But who ALLOWED this to happen to this way? We the people

Hiv isnt much different, we the people have allowed our own government, to drop the ball, and why not, we the people have dropped the ball as well. Sure a handful of us do vote, but how many take time out of thier lives to get thier communities behind them, thier states? sadly, not many. So i guess HIV stays the same as the gun, we are allowed to own it, but if we knowingly point it at someone and shoot it, we pay the consequence. We allowed our government to refuse to manufacture medicines for HIV, now the big pharma has that responsibilty, what do we do....we bitch about the costs, we bitch about the healthcare,the consequences etc. NOTHING CHANGES ,IF NOTHING CHANGES. if we keep doing what we are doing, we will keep getting what we have been getting. We've let everyone else have control, and then bitch about it when our expectattions arent met.

We the people have gotten complacent, and let the people who work for us, have control. And the only way to change any of this is to drop our differences for the unified cause, and be heard on ALL levels local,state,national. Look at what the immigrants did, the joined in unison, and got heard. what does that say to "we the people" when a bunch of illegals will put forth the effort, and we the citizens wont?

in closing . I've alot from being diagnosed with Aids, but one thing in particular, i have learned well is personal accountability. and well the reality of it, we the people, as citizens, each and everyone of us, are accountable for all the issues we've allowed to happen in this great country. Most of the world dont even get this oppurtunity where the people have a say in what goes on, and here we are, taking our oppurtunity for granted.No different than HIV, if one is just gonna sit back and let it happen, then one better be willing to accept all that comes with it. We have allowed Money & Politics to rule us, so we better be willing to accept all that will come with that, and this issue in this thread, is one of those things.

i'll get off my soapbox, and let everyone tear me apart now, LOL
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #39 on: August 04, 2006, 03:29:50 PM »
I hate this fucking subject. Really, I do. It's about as fascinating as the 20 year old goth you fucked the night before is in the morning.

oh, those goths ... all style and no substance!

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« Reply #40 on: August 04, 2006, 04:01:25 PM »
   AIDS2HIV --

   No way am I going to tear you up.  You hit it right on the head.   These laws are a reality that we have to accept, unless we are willing to DO something about them.  I have some ideas (which occurred to me while reading your post) but I need to work them out before I start blathering about them.  Any ideas of your own?

   Zeph, you so totally rock!!!!!!!  Thank you so much for posting that quote.  That is the clearest expression of the absurdity of these laws, based on sound legal reasoning and made by a respected legal scholar no less, that I have ever read.  Where did you find that?  Tell me your secrets!  :o

   I have decided to start a blog, partly because I have only just figured out how to do it, but mostly because I have a lot to say, the bulk of which is better presented as a blog than in a discussion group. But I will most definitely continue hanging out here starting discussions (or trouble, as you will).  Discussions generate ideas in a way a blog cannot.  Just look at this one.  It got a lot of quality responses, and spurred a lot of interest.  Drawing out Zeph's article alone made it all worthwhile.  

   Thank you to everyone who expressed an opinion here.  Especially to those who were appalled, because you did express your opinion.  Appalled is an equally valid opinion, and should be expressed in its fullest depth and breadth just like every other.  

   As for endless repetition of the arguments, restating your position can only make it stronger, make your understanding of the issues stronger, refine it against new facts, and ultimately strengthen your conviction in it.  

   There are no right or wrong answers.  Only solutions that work for each of us individually.  And we have to arrive at those solutions individually.  Discussions like this one help, because it will be seen by a large number of non-participants.  Somebody will be helped.

   Mel, I apologize for singling you out yesterday.  I shouldn't have put you on the spot like that.  I was wrong to do it.  Felt bad about that all last night.  Still would love to read your story, but only if you wish it.

Later all,

J.R.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #41 on: August 04, 2006, 04:50:53 PM »
Note to self: drink more beer, think less deeply and buy a Fun Loving Criminals t-shirt
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #42 on: August 04, 2006, 10:30:17 PM »
I am truly dismayed at many of the things I have read on this topic, here and on the question of that woman in the U.K. who was jailed for infecting her lover. That was too good for her!
The selfishness that pervades the minds of some of the people who are “tired of being responsible for neggies’ health” is appalling.
What kind of talk is this?
Neggies?
Pozzies?
What team are you on?
Us and them.
Is this a competitive marathon?
And we wonder why Society isn’t sympathetic to people with HIV/AIDS?
That anyone can justify knowingly putting someone at risk of acquiring this disease is to reveal that they have sunk beneath the consciousness of a criminal animal.
There was a time, long ago, when we just didn’t know what AIDS is.
But today, when I look through the writing of these threads, I do not see very much intelligence or integrity.
Just stop, take a deep breath and read through the pages and pages on this website of the pain that people are suffering.
There is an ever-appearing question: “When will AIDS be over?”
With the attitudes I read here, it will never end.
The behaviour defended here is no different than what we read about in Sub-Saharan Africa where this disease is spreading like warm butter on toast.
The effects of it…the side effects of the drug combinations, the mental anguish, the slow death…
—“Sure, this woman was responsible for infecting her lover, but he was equally responsible for letting it happen.”—
To justify giving this to anyone is insane.
Frankly, “POZ People” as a label for a community, is some kind of unconscionable club I’m deeply ashamed of, and not because I’m positive, but because of the willingness I behold: the willingness of people to give this disease to other people.
The fact is that the new infection rate is rising—here, today—25 years after this began!
It has been rising here, in North America, since the Durban Conference six years ago!
After all the deaths—I’m revolted by this stupidity.
And I say, “Yes, jail them. Lock them up. Throw away the key!”

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« Reply #43 on: August 04, 2006, 10:55:56 PM »
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the willingness of people to give this disease to other people.

Bullshit. No one here condones passing the virus to others. Do not foist your shame upon us. I am neither a victim nor a perpetrator.

It's attitudes like this that make ME afraid that we learned nothing from the early years of the pandemic.

Seriously, I can't even type a rational response to you.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #44 on: August 04, 2006, 11:40:04 PM »
last time i checked.. it took 2 ... im so tired of all of this crap... i  feel as though a bomb has gone off in my gut... those of you that wrote your thesis in this thread, i hope you feel better... for the rest of us, we are who we are, and we have as many rights as anyone else... god i hate this..
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #45 on: August 05, 2006, 04:16:55 AM »
J.R.
No need to apologize, I took no offense.

My story and my views on the matter of criminilizing hiv transmission are pretty long-winded and complex.
I have a lot on my plate at the moment and I just haven't got the time or energy to spell them out again. Plus I don't see the point in repeating myself when it really is all here:

http://www.aidsmeds.com/Fusetalk/messageview.cfm?catid=17&threadid=26299&FTVAR_MSGDBTABLE=arc

http://www.aidsmeds.com/Fusetalk/messageview.cfm?catid=5&threadid=27504&FTVAR_MSGDBTABLE=arc

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=1177.0

http://forums.poz.com/index.php?topic=1416.0

The reason I gave you the links in my original post was so that you could get a clearer picture of my situation and to give you a couple of interesting threads to read too on this matter. Afterwards I realised you had already posted on Rob-Dublin's thread. Anyway, I guess if you're interested you will check out the links. My screen name is the same in the archived links, so if you scroll down you'll find me there.

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« Reply #46 on: August 05, 2006, 07:59:36 AM »
If a person supports legislation that adds to/perpetuates the stigma of having HIV, then aforementioned person is really being disengenuous when s/he complains about being a victim of HIV stigma in his/her community.

I'm just saying.

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« Reply #47 on: August 05, 2006, 02:02:34 PM »
I am not disingenuous.
I'm probably one of the most honest and sincere people you will ever encounter in your life...

My case was a very extreme and ongoing catalogue of deceit and subsequent infection over years. I'm guessing they won't mind me saying, as they have already openly declared this in other threads, but even the likes of Ann and Matty (and Moffie to a certain degree), who are normally dead-set against prosecution, support my actions against my ex.

There are always exceptions to rules/scenarios.

I'm curious to know exactly what people who are 100% against such legislation think about such exceptions? Or do they dig their heels in so hard that they refuse to acknowledge there are exceptions?

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« Reply #48 on: August 07, 2006, 10:36:42 AM »
I say if one is mature enough in this day and age to have sex, one must be wise enough to take responsibility for ones' self! Morally, I think a positive person should disclose his or her status before having sex, should this be a law? NO.... NO.....NO. The minute a government can make laws about something so intimate as sex is the minute a free  society is no longer truly free.     




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« Reply #49 on: August 07, 2006, 01:10:40 PM »
Well I's  gonna say it, sometimes I am in favour of proseution for transmission of disease agents, including HIV.  I am not in favour of stupid and specific HIV laws like many US states seems to have.  The UK is, I belive, well served by the old, old Offences Against the Person Act in this respect, even though HIV wasn't around when it drafted.

I am definitely in favour of procecution for intentional and malicious transmission.  I am sometimes in favour for reckless transmission.  It depends on the circumstances.  It seems to me a world of difference between people having a one-night-stand and getting caught out, cos I think they should know better, and people who have been deceived in a relationship (for what is a relationship if not based on honesty?). 

However, this is a sticking point for me, which I haven't worked out in my head. People here will appreciate that disclosure can be difficult, in the same breath that they acknowledge it is right.  To disclose that you have HIV you first have to admit it to yourself, and this can take time.  But sooner or later you have to disclose, and truthfully some people are lying, cheating bastards who are not in denial about their HIV status and who don;t care for the welfare of others, they just don;t want the grief of dealing with disclosure, prob. not of HIV but of infidelity. On the other hand, people who's not sorted about HIV in their head need guidance, and in my experience get little or no support around disclosure.  And sometimes, disclosure (or for that matter a sudden move to use condoms) can put their saftey, or the roof over their head or their children's head, at risk. Plus the assumption is often that the person diagnosed last was infected last, which isn;t always so.....

Which brings me to what I think are the more serious points (for the UK). 

1. The media: no run-of-the mill case of grevious bodily harm would make the front page, unless it involved a celebrity.  HIV is a celebrity in the Myra Hindley mode, and we are all tarred with this brush every time a "Pure Evil" headline appears.  Obviously HIV touches a deep (moral) fear among the general population or else these cases would not be news. I belive the gay guy senteced yesterday prob. deserved to go to prison for a catalogue of domestic violence against his partner.  The real story here is the police's willingness to take domestic violence in same sex relationships seriously, not the HIV angle.  That they got him for transmitting HIV is really incidental. But the press dont sell papers or get a vicarious moral kick out of the broader version of events.

2. The police: I reckon the reason so many gay men are dead against any kind of HIV-related prosecution is because the very fact they exit is a license to harrass gay men (and lesbians for that matter), and scrutinise their sex lives, out them to work and family etc.  We don't want the law sniffing around, for good, historical reasons.  No police force has guidance on investigating these cases, and, frankly, some of our CID boys in blue are deeply homophobic, over-zealous and speculative in their approach to these situations. It's an easy call by a narked off lover to claim possible HIV infection (note the possible) to trigger an upset of the other bloke's life and general flying of shit. Or indeed some "well-meaning" third party.  Two of my friends got a door call from the constabulary cos a mutual "friend" disapproved of them having sex without condoms (one's positive, on ain't).  They were not impressed, since they know the score about each other and it's a choice they have made, after much deliberation, that it;s what they wanna do. (They were advised to see a lawyer and swear an affadavit to record this decision, but the police dropped it anyway).

I believe the law in the UK can be implemented as it stands with the proviso that investigations go ahead when a complaint is made by one party in a long-term relationship & subject to cautions about self-acknowledgement etc, but pick-ups, community/neighbours' moral angst, no go.

Plus if people were a bit more sussed about "no HIV in my backyard" and grown-up about mutual testing before dropping the condoms, a lot of the grief would be avoided. (of course, this don;t work through for people in relationships where you;s not supposed to be playing away, and therefore you don't use condoms).

I also wonder, if people had access to a civil remedy rather than criminal one, if they would prefer that route.

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« Reply #50 on: August 08, 2006, 03:38:08 AM »
I feel like if anyone knowingly is HIV positive and practicing unprotected sex should be hung by the neck till death.Because they are knowingly infecting people that is healthy that if it wasn't for that crimminal he or she would have live a healthy life and maybe had childrens to carry on a healthy life.
This subject is very personal to me because no one has the right to cause this type of hardship on a innocent human being.Just because they are DAMED on their stupitity.

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« Reply #51 on: August 08, 2006, 04:06:39 AM »
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I feel like if anyone knowingly is HIV positive and practicing unprotected sex should be hung by the neck till death

there ya have it. Doesn't matter if the other party consented, or knew about the HIv status. Doesn't even matter if the other party WAS HIV positive. People with HIV are perpetrators,  and those who are unlucky enough to encounter us are victims.

Forget personal repsonsibility. Forget intent. Forget even the idea of taking each case one at a time. Whether it's a fifteen year old in denial about his status or a fifty year old serial offender. Whether or not HIV is even sucessfully transmitted. Whether or not the "lifetsyle" of the "perpetrator" is such that one could reasonably expect an HIV diagnosis (which was sucessfully argued in the USA this year).

Like I said, the stigma regarding HIV infected people is enormous. And Melia, I was NOT calling YOU disingenuous. I was calling the actions of ANYONE who supports a legislative attempt to stigmatize HIV infected people, yet who complained about the ongoing stigma against the infected, a disingenuous act.

I am an honest person. I have done, and sometimes supported, dishonest things. Does that make me a bad person? Or perhaps a person with flaws? Or perhaps a person whose moral code is contingent on more factors than simple societal norms? Whose to say. Thing is, I deeply believe what I believe. And when evidence calls me to challenge and change those belienfs, I do so, from the core of my being outward.


And I find absolutely NO evidence to suggest that the lives "saved" or the justice "metered" by HIV infection "laws" outside the realm of rape do ANYTHING to stem the spread of HIV, except by further stigmatizing those who are infected. Frankly, what little justice can be done by these laws is, in my opinion, overwhelmed by the capacity for great injustice, the burglary of our dignity and privacy, the assasination of character, and the dearth of HIV prevention education that these laws enable.

Who is to decide, in a consensual relationship, when something was revealed or not? More to the point, who repairs the damage when disclosure becomes at the whim of a disaffected lover or an outraged friend? Even those who are not found guilty, are destroyed in their communities.

It continues to astound me that people think that this is collatoral damage worth reaping, in order to sow the seeds of vengeance.

There are other ways to bring people to justice who have assaulted or betrayed you sexually. And to quote ANN, to consent to having unprotected sex with another human being is to consent to the possibility of acquiring a sexually transmitted disease, including HIV. It's not right nor is it fair that men or women lie, or cheat. But thay can, and do. It's part of the deal we make when we enter into a relationship, the idea that we might well be fooled by a cunning sociopath. In the end, where is the true justice for our victimization? Do we reclaim our HIV negative status by supporting legislation that further stigmatizes our community?

I regret that you have taken this discussion so very personally. But I urge you to think beyond your situation and consider the impact, the very real and negative impact that this legislation has for the community that, like it or not, you are now a part of. That discrimination you fear? That you face? If you support this type of legislation, you are contributing to it.

That is my opinion. And considering that I was infected in a manner exceedingly close to yours, I would like to think it means something. I know what it's like to be thoroughly betrayed. To trust someone, to do all the "right" things and end up with this label thrust upon my forehead.

What made me survive 13 years and counting was to take responsibility for my personal choice. To realize and accept, even embrace the fact that my choices, my naivetee, my actions facilitated my infection. Only by owning those facts was I able to rise above the powerlessness of victimization and regain control over my life. Only by recognizing my role in my infection was I able to grow from the experience, and shed the anger and heartbreak over the event.

Someday, I hope you see that. Someday, I hope you see the obligation to the larger community and the HIV positive world as a whole. Someday, I hope you understand that your quest for justice means a great injustice for many other people. And someday, I hope that influences your opinion regarding these archaic and unjust laws.

Until then, of course, we can agree to disagree. I do not think you are disengenuous. I do, however, find the dichotomy hard to ignore.



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« Reply #52 on: August 08, 2006, 04:09:01 AM »
PS: those who are HIV positive, and who are in relationships with an HIv negative person, ought to pay careful attention to this thread. Might be a great idea to get in writing his/her acknowledgment of your disclosure. Because when all is said and done, it's your word against his/hers if things get ugly.

And the law, the media, the court of public opinion is ALWAYS going to be on the side of the "victim."

And apparently, even on aidsmeds.com, that victim is going to be the HIV negative person.

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« Reply #53 on: August 09, 2006, 03:02:45 AM »
I read and understand your point of view,I was infected while using IV drugs by a drug user like me that were shooting drugs in my arm,I knew he had the deadly virus and he knew it also but he didn't care because I asked him were the water clean and he asured me it was.I went to him because I couldn't find a vain in my arm.
I am being a realist,If anyone knowingly having sex with someone and shooting their cum inside a non infected person is guilty of infecting a innocent person with a deadly virus if that person donot get the virus it is attempted murder.
I have had sex with alot of women since I have been dianose, but I have used condoms everytime.and I have had women to beg me not to use a condom not knowing that I am positive.I wouldn't know how to deal with myself knowing that I cause someone to have this hellish desease.

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« Reply #54 on: August 09, 2006, 03:16:37 AM »
PS: those who are HIV positive, and who are in relationships with an HIv negative person, ought to pay careful attention to this thread. Might be a great idea to get in writing his/her acknowledgment of your disclosure. Because when all is said and done, it's your word against his/hers if things get ugly.

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« Reply #55 on: August 09, 2006, 11:42:50 AM »
This subject is like the objections of having cameras in stores. You all know that if you don't do the crime then there is nothing to worry about. I do agree with JK that get your disclosure down on paper. Not only do HIV+ people have to protect the status of the negative, but they also have to protect their well being also. It's as simple as that.

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« Reply #56 on: August 09, 2006, 02:09:11 PM »
I can't imagine forcing people to sign documents recognizing that I've disclosed that I'm positive.  Then again I've pretty much made up my mind in the last 6 years just not to mess with dating anyone negative, though my last long relationship was with someone negative.  I just can't be bothered.

I'm not a lawyer but I think a verbal conversation with a witness or two would suffice in a court if the issue ever came up.  This obviously could be accomplished without out the unseemliness of a document.  Worked in the Schiavo case, no?
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« Reply #57 on: August 09, 2006, 02:35:26 PM »
Philly, you are dead wrong in thinking that. Have you ever been in a court case? I just finished a two year court case and the lady got found guilty and she wasn't. When it comes down to you or the victim, believe me you will be found guilty.

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« Reply #58 on: August 09, 2006, 02:43:58 PM »
Well personally I think disclosure is the right thing to do. I don't need any law to tell me that.

That said, it's obvious to me that the "safer sex" message is being largely ignored. All I have to do is step out on the streets and see the many teenage girls pushing their strollers around and it becomes clear enough.

Putting bareback sexual pleasure ahead of logical prevention is, well, just asking for trouble.

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« Reply #59 on: August 09, 2006, 03:31:42 PM »
Philly, you are dead wrong in thinking that. Have you ever been in a court case? I just finished a two year court case and the lady got found guilty and she wasn't. When it comes down to you or the victim, believe me you will be found guilty.
Have I been in a court case?  Yes, actually I have... though nothing to do with the subject at hand.  Was your court case specifically having to do with this subject?  I don't see where you mentioned this court case of yours previously in the thread if I am missing it.  I'm not sure what you are trying to say. 

Like I stated up front, I'm not a lawyer, nor do I put myself in the situation where anything that is being discussed will be an issue with me, nor do I live in a state where the law is so restrictive.  All I did was suggest an alternative.  If you could provide some links to show where what I said is completely baseless I'll read them.  My point was that they pulled Terri Schiavo's feeding tubes with no document evidence but only on testimony of her husband and 1 or 2 other witnesses to a conversation that Terri supposedly had at one time.  My point being is that a positive person told a negative person about their health status and 2 people were witnesses to this it might (emphasis "might") be admitted in a court.  It's not a strictly he-said-she-said with two witnesses, that's my point.

Even going the written document route I would assume you would need to have witnesses and/or notarized or something to make it binding.  I don't see that advice given.
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« Reply #60 on: August 09, 2006, 04:10:21 PM »
I was referring to the statement you made about verbally. Verbally don't mean shit in court, you have to have it down in writing.

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« Reply #61 on: August 09, 2006, 04:27:27 PM »
Could really put a strain on relationships running out to the notary public every time you are about to have sex with someone.
I hope it doesn't become a crime for a pos person to have sex with a neg person without telling them, for some of the reasons JK and others have stated, but to me it is a crime. Don't get me wrong, the negative person is responsible for who he has sex with, but the positive person should also be responsible for his participating in unprotected sex. Why do we judge everything on whether its legal or illegal? We should be operating on the basis of what is right and wrong and for a positive person to have unprotected sex with a negative person is just plain wrong. We shouldn't need a law to tell us that.

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« Reply #62 on: August 09, 2006, 04:45:36 PM »
I was referring to the statement you made about verbally. Verbally don't mean shit in court, you have to have it down in writing.
Yet I provided a situation with witnesses where it did hold up in court, albeit on a different subject but still involving life or death.
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« Reply #63 on: August 09, 2006, 04:53:12 PM »
All this conversation about getting a 'Statement of HIV Status' signed, witnesses, etc just shows how ridiculous all this is.  Something as tris crazy can only lead to one logical conclusion - people assuming responsibility for their own actions.  All the court cases in the world and prisons full of HIV+ folks 'guilty' of infecting others won't reverse anybody's poz status.  Being responsible for our OWN sexual activities (or IV drug use) can keep negative folks negative; that's the only thing that can keep 'em negative.

Sometimes, to prove a point, one must try to see the other side's opinions.  When I try to see logic or practicality in the idea that criminally charging somebody for ACCIDENTALLY infecting a person (to reduce HIV infections), my belief that taking responsibility of our own bodies and actions is reinforced.

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« Reply #64 on: August 09, 2006, 05:27:05 PM »
Could really put a strain on relationships running out to the notary public every time you are about to have sex with someone.

Generally speaking I must disagree with the above statement. If two people are mature, then they should understand that uncertainty is part of life. however it will likely put a strain on reckless abandon a.k.a. going buckwild a.k.a. fucking like bunnies

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« Reply #65 on: August 09, 2006, 06:01:33 PM »
You are kidding right? You ever try finding a notary at midnight? Ever ask someone to sign a prenup? Good luck.
We have people who are to preoccupied to put a rubber on but they are gonna go out looking for a notary before sex?

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« Reply #66 on: August 09, 2006, 06:15:12 PM »
That's all the more reason for a person that is positive to disclose and always have protected sex. If we don't do are part in helping to control the spread of HIV. Who do you suggest does it?

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« Reply #67 on: August 09, 2006, 08:40:47 PM »
I just want to be clear on my part.  I believe there's a moral stipulation that one at the very least have protected sex, if not full disclosure.  I'd be rather aghast at those that do not.  There's a difference between morality though and legal issues, though they are often intertwined.  This thread is about something being a crime.

I will say that where the two people are partners and one is infected and habitually deceiving the other that I can see some sort of grounds for prosecution.  However, the problem with this is that something like 30% of those infected do not know, as they have not been tested.  Indeed, if we are talking morality, there's a moral imperative that both people in a partnership get tested together so that both know.  Should this be required by law?  I don't know.  I do know if you care about your own well being and are negative you should insist on it.

Like I said I just avoid this topic by not having sex with anyone negative.  Sure, that limits partners but I had tons of sex when I was young .
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« Reply #68 on: August 11, 2006, 07:24:30 AM »
i think its tantamount to murder as the person u have unprotected sex has gotten something inside of them that will kill them. its like putting poison in someone's drink

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« Reply #69 on: August 11, 2006, 08:03:36 AM »
Strange people dont get so worked up about other diseases, like, er, HPV, hepatitis, er, flue even (ever got bad flue with a low CD4 count and ended up with pneumonia on a drip?)
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« Reply #70 on: August 11, 2006, 02:43:58 PM »
Strange people dont get so worked up about other diseases, like, er, HPV, hepatitis, er, flue even (ever got bad flue with a low CD4 count and ended up with pneumonia on a drip?)
Yeah, I'd thought of that too.  Folks with immune compromised systems could theoretically take all the neggies to court for blowing infectious phlegm in our faces.
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« Reply #71 on: August 11, 2006, 03:11:32 PM »
partner and i have an ongoing joke at the moment, every time she coughs/sneezes/exhibits any form of ill health, i threaten legal action  :P

but 's a valid point, joking aside, something not a problem to everyone else could be (potentially) life threatening to me. Or anyone else immuno suppressed, so why/how that different to the current prosecutions? whole new kettle of fish, but i guess "reckless transmission of influenza", or chest infection, or gastroenteritis, just doesn't have same media appeal.

let the witch hunt begin, eh?

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« Reply #72 on: August 11, 2006, 04:44:29 PM »
I don't know about all states, but in NC we require drivers to wear seatbelts, and motorcycle riders must wear helmets.  Why not require everybody to practice safer sex?  That way, if somebody is infected, we can criminally charge both partners.  That sure would force people to share the responsibilities. 

I guess many people just want their cake and to eat it, too.  They want to have unprotected / unsafe sex and remain HIV negative.  There's nothing wrong with wanting that; I know I sure did.  You know what happened... the two just don't go hand-in-hand.  To me, it boils down to this:  If folks don't care enough to protect and take care of themselves, why should anybody else?  Why should we enact legislation and imprison people just because somebody didn't follow safer sex guidelines?  Having sex with somebody whose HIV status is unknown is not something that's required for living like eating and breathing.  It's recreational.  Like most recreational activities, there's a good bit of risk involved. 

Like I've said before, I believe mandatory disclosure and legislation will result in more infections instead of fewer.  Why?  Because 1) people lie and 2) people often don't know their status.  People need to take care of themselves or deal with the consequences.

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« Reply #73 on: August 11, 2006, 05:26:41 PM »
I don't think mandatory disclosure laws and prosecution will do a thing to stem the tide of this pandemic.  I submit that if they rounded us all up and shipped us to a penal colony it would make hardly any difference at all.

Why?  Well, I don't know about the nation as a whole, but here in NC, most HIV infections are transmitted by people who don't know that they are positive.  They were either in the window period when they were tested or had never been tested.  To help prevent this from happening, the state lab that does testing for the local health depts now does DNA PCR tests on all the negative ELISA tests.  They catch some folks who are in the window period this way.  Still, that only works on the people getting tested.

Mandatory disclosure laws and prosecutions will only serve to encourage people NOT to get tested.  That will only compound the problem, for both the individual and society.  For society, not getting tested will increase HIV transmissions, and for the individual, it will result in a diagnosis only when one is well-along with OIs.

Should we do mandatory testing then?  Well, it might help, but only if it's done with great frequency (like every three months) and only if it is done on everyone.  Do you think the general public will accept that? Or be willing to pay for it?

Though some may not like it, the sad fact remains that an individual is personally responsible for his or her own health in general, and sexual health in particular.   We don't need disclosure laws, we need people to ask each other's status before having sex - and STILL use condoms no matter what the answer is.  Some do this, many don't - they just assume the other person is negative and so things are ok.  They don't know about window periods, false negatives, false positives.  They probably hardly think of HIV at all, except to hope they don't get it.

I have to say, mandatory condom laws are appealing to me, but only in the regard that they would end one person blaming the other for this or that.  Both would be equal in guilt.  Of course, I'd have no idea how you would go about enforcing this.

Education is the way to stem this tide.  Behaviors have to change.  Condoms will prevent infection, but people have to be convinced to use them.  And reminded to use them.  Over and over and over again.  Access to post-exposure prophylaxis has to be improved, and folks have to be told that it is out there and available to them.

Don't forget guys, the goal is to stop the spread of the disease, not assign blame, not point fingers.  You can have all the scapegoats you want, but it isn't going to help anything.  You have to convince people to have safer sex, and convince those who are sexually active to be tested frequently.

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« Reply #74 on: August 11, 2006, 05:48:18 PM »
I have no idea how this thread got to this. The person that was prosecuted, INTENALLY was spreading HIV, and didn't disclose their status and was not using a condom. It didn't mention that neither didn't know their status. It's really simple don't be having unprotected sex when you KNOW you have HIV/AIDS and not disclosing your status of the disease. You KNOW you have the disease, don't pass it on to others. If you can't understand that, how the hell do you think others will? The least you can be is RESPONSIBLE. Don't blame the other person, it only takes one of you to be responsible. What is so funny, most of you are the same damn people that bitch on this forum because the government isn't doing enough for people with HIV/AIDS. The more people you infect, the less money you are going to get from the government, money that could be used for research and medicine. It doesn't take a scientist to figure that one out. I wouldn't want one person to go through what I have been through. You wonder why they have to make laws? Just read some of the posts on this thread.

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« Reply #75 on: August 12, 2006, 12:14:12 AM »
I don't think that just because someone disagrees with the criminalization of sex, means that they are willing to intentionally infect others.

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« Reply #76 on: August 12, 2006, 04:56:57 PM »
Thanks Cliff. Rapid, you're yoking two things which are in fact independent.
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« Reply #77 on: August 12, 2006, 05:34:01 PM »
lydgate, you mind explaining? Did you happen to read WHY she got sentenced? Don't give me the bullshit that it takes two. It only takes one with some responsibility to prevent spreading of the virus. No one was ever talking about not knowing ones status. We were talking, intentionally spreading the virus. If you don't have the responsibility to wear a condom or have the other person wear a condom when you KNOW you are positive or have AIDS then DON'T have sex. Do you believe that if a person shoots a person they should pay the price? (exclude accidental or self defense) There is no difference, with intentionally spreading HIV.

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« Reply #78 on: August 12, 2006, 06:17:36 PM »
Actually not, we're talking unintentionally spreading the virus if you're talking about Ms Porter, after a complaint by  3rd party who had (a far as we can tell) consensual unprotected sex with her but didn't get infected. Let's get this straight, no-one, ever, in the UK has been convicted of intentionally passing on HIV. However, at least one person has gone to jail for unintentionally passing on HIV without having had an HIV test to prove they are HIV-positive.

In the UK HIV-positive people use condoms 3/4 time compared to HIV-negative and untested people who use condoms 50% of the time, being kind to them n rounding up (you want the reference, I'll post it...)

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« Reply #79 on: August 12, 2006, 06:31:26 PM »
I don't think that shooting someone is exactly parallel to this issue, because in most cases it's pretty tough to defend yourself from being shot or even to prevent the shooting in the first place.  That isn't the case with sex.  You can prevent acquiring a sexually transmitted disease by simply wearing a condom or making sure your sexual partners do.

I believe there is a (moral) responsibility on the part of people who know their status not to recklessly put others at risk.  And I believe that each of us (positive or negative) have a responsibility to protect ourselves if we want to prevent STDs, (not everyone wants to stay STD free at all costs).  I also believe that most people in the forums would agree.  If someone came to the forums considering having unprotected sex with someone who was negative, (or of an unknown status), I don't think you will find very many members telling him/her to go for it.  We probably all agree that there is some shared (moral) responsibility.  Whether this must always be a criminal matter, is a completely different ball-game.

I say we all have a (moral) responsibility to call the cops when we see a crime in progress.  Whether we should be charged with a crime if we failed to do so, is a different matter.
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« Reply #80 on: August 12, 2006, 07:44:55 PM »
So newt, are you saying if you can prevent the spread of HIV, to hell with it, if it is okay with the other  person to have unprotected sex?

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« Reply #81 on: August 13, 2006, 05:23:57 AM »
Mr Rod, please read my post #49 in this thread for a longish reply. It begins:

"Well I's  gonna say it, sometimes I am in favour of proseution for transmission of disease agents, including HIV.  I am not in favour of stupid and specific HIV laws like many US states seems to have.  The UK is, I belive, well served by the old, old Offences Against the Person Act in this respect, even though HIV wasn't around when it drafted.

I am definitely in favour of procecution for intentional and malicious transmission.  I am sometimes in favour for reckless transmission.  It depends on the circumstances.  It seems to me a world of difference between people having a one-night-stand and getting caught out, cos I think they should know better, and people who have been deceived in a relationship (for what is a relationship if not based on honesty?)."

If you believe in tranmission of HIV being a crime then it follows you must believe in transmission of ther sexually transmitted infections that case harm being crime (many of which are still eventually fatal if untreated or treated unsuccessfully, bit like HIV).  But, as I said above in another post above (not #49), no-ones particularly worked up about other disease agents.  Why?

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #82 on: August 13, 2006, 07:16:10 AM »
It's because most others can be cured. HIV does not follow in that group, there is NO CURE. That is the reason they are not concerned.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #83 on: August 13, 2006, 07:34:22 AM »
If the basis for criminalization of sex, is because HIV can not be cured, then that only serves for further stigmatize the disease.  I went to a forum yesterday where they were discussing HIV transmission crimes.  Most people in that forum assumed that HIV was a 100% fatal disease.  And most showed no shyness in being in favor of the death penalty (Americans of course) in such cases, since, as they put it, (and similar to the gun example), spreading HIV is committing murder. 

Huh?  It is?  And we wonder why people in many communities keep their head buried in the sand.  I would too, if HIV was constantly presented as a 100% deadly gloom and doom outcome.

That being said, if the test is whether or not a disease can be cured, then even that test is not applied consistently and Newt's point still stands.  Why not criminalize the other diseases that can not be cured.  Genital herpes can not be cured.  It is a life-long disease and painful.  Genital warts is difficult to cure and causes thousands of women to get cervical cancer, (as well as anal cancer, for men and women)....often with deadly results.  What about the diseases that can be cured, but for which still causes bodily harm (Syphilis) if left untreated?  Why should someone suffer with 2nd & 3rd stage syphilis without the possibility of retribution, if someone with HIV doesn't have to?

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« Reply #84 on: August 13, 2006, 08:34:57 AM »
I'm not sure how to encapulate quotes/excerpts, but I'm trying to do that with one of Jonathon's assertions. It appears I've not got it yet, but the text follows:

PS: those who are HIV positive, and who are in relationships with an HIv negative person, ought to pay careful attention to this thread. Might be a great idea to get in writing his/her acknowledgment of your disclosure. Because when all is said and done, it's your word against his/hers if things get ugly.

Last year, I met, only on-line, an hiv+ attorney who asks for, and receives, signatures on a waiver he created expressly for this purpose. So, to affirm Jonathon's thinking, this man is an example of someone working in the legal system who realizes full-well how likely it is someone could pursuit a suit. He not only discloses in the most overt and formal of ways, but states he then takes all necessary precautions to prevent transmission and of course, protects himself, too.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #85 on: August 13, 2006, 09:58:55 AM »
Cliff, HIV doesn't kill you, it's the OI that can kill you. What do you say to all those that have posted in the Living With forum that have become resistant to all drugs? You going to tell them they have nothing to worry about? All it takes is some responsibility on either parties part to prevent the spread. We wouldn't even be having a discussion on this subject. If you have read any of the state laws that have been in-acted, it states "knowingly spreads the disease" and it is not just specific to HIV.

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #86 on: August 13, 2006, 11:42:49 AM »
In regards to responsibility, we agree.  As I stated above, there is a shared moral responsibility for both parties,  but that doesn't mean that there always is, or should be, a legal one.  If I disagree with the criminal prosecution of someone who is positive, that does not mean that I believe it is okay to intentionally infect another individual with HIV.  And I do not believe that transmitting a disease, that in some (many) cases is fatal, whether by sex, drug usage or other means and be it HIV, HPV or HSV, is the same as committing murder or shooting someone.

Finally, I have not seen any information that suggest that the HIV infection rate in the US (or the UK, Australia or Canada) has decreased significantly in the last few years.  If these laws were meant to help codify the responsibility each of us have in spreading (and preventing) the transmission of diseases, they seem to be failing miserably.  I do not believe that you can always legislate behaviour.  It certainly didn't work in preventing homosexuality.

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« Reply #87 on: August 13, 2006, 12:03:47 PM »
Honestly, this thread is like crabs. It won't go away no matter what you smear on it.

I'll vote yes on the basis that the rest of you

SHUT THE FUCK UP!

Please.

Yeah having AIDS should be a crime and the dickhead who started this thread should be in the dock.

MtD

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #88 on: August 14, 2006, 03:36:17 AM »
Simply make unprotected sex a crime.  Period.

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« Reply #89 on: August 26, 2006, 02:32:46 AM »
My experience is this.
I found myself in the arms of a man who nearly had me in tears for the happiness of being with him.
We became sexually involved.
I stopped everything.
I said,
“I have to tell you something. I’m living with HIV.’
He said.
 “That’s OK.”
We both understood the terms and what we were doing.
I was relaxed.
My conscience was clear.
I was happy.
If he‘d said he couldn’t handle it, I would have accepted and respected his decision.
It wouldn’t be right otherwise.
I’d feel like a thief if I’d risked his health.
Besides health, what else is there?
I wouldn’t want to give this disease to anybody.

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« Reply #90 on: August 26, 2006, 11:16:25 AM »
Hi Ya All,
I really had to post my opinion, this is the year 2006 everyone hivt or not has heard somewhere or other that you need to  avoid unprotected sex until you know your partners status, not just hiv but other stds as well.
As much as persons living with hiv have the responsibility to make sure they do not pass the disease on to someone else, persons engaging in sex need to be resposible for themselves.
Not protecting yourself and then blameing someone else is like smokeing and finding out you have cancer, and then  turn around and blame the cigarette companies.

Needless to say however in many cases the use of condoms in some religions is a no no.
How do you tell a couple that has been together for years, each thinking that the other has remained faithful lto use condoms?
I can use myself as an example, I was with my ex husband for six years before we got married, I was faithful to him , he swore he was faithful to me, we got married in 1993, in 1994 (I was living in Jamaica at the time, He was a US citizen), he filed for me to join him here in the USA, low and behold after doing the requred tests for a permanent visa, I was told thaat I had what MAGIC JOHNSON had, and i was going to die.

Surprisinlgy I found out from my ex husbands  mother that he was hivt, he just forgot to tell me about it.
Reality is in many cases the issue of protected sex may not apply to some persons( or so they think.
There needs to be more education and awareness on the issues of protected sex, so people will begin to understand the ramifications of  having unprotected sex.
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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #91 on: August 26, 2006, 11:32:54 AM »
Let me also add that many people still think of HIV/AIDS as a gay disease, or a disease that only strikes prostitutes, drug users, or persons that live a wild lifestyle.

I have found out that persons like myself who live with this disease and have the courage to go out and put a face and a voice to the disease helps to make it more human.

There are many housewives, girlfriends and boyfriends, husbands, families, who will never see themselves at risk until it hits them in the face.
Back in Jamaica I was the Vice President for the network of persons living with HIV/AIDS, and each week three or more persons were dying from aids, surprisingly it was not so much the disease itself, but the treatment and care that made persons give up, eg, if you were admitted to the hospital, you would be  placed in the back away from others, and literally left to suffer.
It took persons like myself and others to go into these hospitals and doucument these cases, and make them public. all in all there is still more work left to be done with regards to aids and other stds education

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Re: Should it be a crime?
« Reply #92 on: August 28, 2006, 12:26:30 AM »
I am a hetero female with AIDS, I feel it is my responsibility to inform anyone I am trying to have sex with that I have AIDS. if I do not then I am a criminal and should be prosecuted. I think it was criminal that I got it. I was in a 4 year relationship with a man and thought it was a 2 person party, well come to find out after it ended it was not the case, he was out boffin every bar room whore who would lay with him, he infected me the 3rd year of our relationship, so I had it a year before I left. then didn't know I had it for years later but am happy to tell you all I did not pass it on....... I contacted the people I had been with after the fact and no one was poz, what a relief I felt. I could not  have dealt with the guilt. now I make sure everyone who trys to get with me knows. some move on and  no longer bother with me which is ok I would rather have supportive people by my side then someone who refuses to gain knowledge. then you have some who want to be friends and want to learn and I love to enlighten them and hope they are actually listening and keep themselves safe from this.

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« Reply #93 on: August 28, 2006, 12:59:05 PM »
Pozhoneybear. Making unprotected sex a crime sure would reduce the number of births - unless we're about to go totally test tube. I hope the stigma of masturbation is reduced, if that's going to be the new reality.

I think babygirl's approach is much healthier. Ignorance is the real killer.

 


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