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Ok, so where do I go from here? I've been reading the posts and trying to learn what this forum is about.
Hopefully I can get loads of info that will help me realize I am not alone and facing this all by myself.

Recently divorced, recently suicidal, (if this is the first 50 yrs I dont know if I want to see the next 50). Doc said at last visit I am virtually undetectable. I just need some uplifting posts to help me see its not all hopeless and lonely.

I hope to talk to people  and find out its not a death sentence like I believed before I got here to this forum.
Thanx for allowing me to vent.

Hi Veronica,

I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis, but you have come to an excellent place. The aidsmeds family is wonderful! I have learned a lot for sure. It's not the end of the world or your life. Things will change of course but you can still have a life. There are people here that have been HIV positive for over 20 years (20 YEARS) and still going strong.  I think that is pretty impressive if you ask me. Also the lessons on this site are great. Very informative and pretty easy to understand. You will be OK. It takes time to absorb everything but it will happen.

I'm also an HIV+ woman. I was diagnosed in 2003. I have an excellent HIV specialist that takes good care of me. My labs are pretty good. And when the time comes there are many HIV medications that work wonders. I know I'm in good hands and that is a comfort for me.

I know that you must have a lot going through your head right now. That is to be expected. It will be OK, you will be OK. If you have an ASO (AIDS Service Organization) in your area, they can help you find a good doc among other services for people like us. Also, the people here are very knowledgeable and will be better at answering questions than myself. Please feel free to come here and vent and ask questions anytime.

Welcome to the family! I look forward to seeing you around. Take care.


Hi Ronnie

Welcome to the family.

Coping with divorce and depression as well as everything else can't be an easy thing to deal with...but you have come to the right place and you are certainly not alone, you will find friends, as well as  love and support here on the forum, and all the information you  need to know about HIV...I found this place in 2003, and I have never looked back, and I have made some amazing friends here who have all helped me through a few hard times.

I hope we will hear more from you.

Jan :)


Bonjour Veronica!

So sorry to hear about your status, your reason for being with us here. But happy to wish you a warm welcome to this community I also recently joined.

I can relate to the separation + hiv news situation you are facing, I went through the same, and I know it is tough. So all I can recommend is: baby steps.
And when feeling panicky or overwhelmed or both   ;) what my diving instructor once taught me works: STOP (whatever you are doing) BREATHE (deeply until you start to calm down) THINK (what are your options?) ACT (move on...)

And if you really get into the breathing thing, you can even try meditation :D

Take it one step at a time and come here often; I wish I had found this site 4 years ago as it definitely would have helped me; instead I went around like a headless chicken for way too long. Waste of precious energy...

I hope I will be able to help you the way others here are helping me.




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