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Author Topic: Hello All, the last on my dad,,  (Read 2135 times)

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Offline lovingdaughter

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Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« on: October 24, 2008, 11:28:05 PM »
I haven't been on here in such a long time, I hope all of you are doing well. And I hope all who know me are still here.

On a good note, I became a grandma, for the first time on May 14, 2008 to the most precious lil' boy ever (other than my own of course).Thanks to my daughter Stephanie. His name is Kaden, God sent him to me for a reason.....

I just wanted to let everyone know, my last post was about my dad being diagnosed with Leukemia (on top of HIV). That was over a year ago. He choose NO treatment ! On May 20 this year, he was told he was in the final stages, No chance for treatment now. On May 22, He watched my son graduate from High School (dad was sick as a dog, but couldn't make him stay home). We got the best pics of them, I am so glad he was there. May 25 we had a big BBQ & family get to gather, it was so nice, both of his brothers were there from out of state and sooo many other relatives. He was looking & feeling good.

He quickly took the down hill slide,,,,On June 9 he was moved from home to a Hospice facility, only waking briefly from time to time, then on June 12, I went to see him, I had left work early my Brother thought I should be there,(I had missed alot of work so I was trying to get a few hours)  for a brief moment, he opened his eyes, & when I said "hey Daddy I love You"  he smiled the biggest smile I will ever remember from him. That was the last time we saw his eyes open.  On June 13 (my moms birthday) He passed away.

It has taken me until now to be able to write this  & to be honest, it's REALLY hard now !!

I just can't get over the urges to call him. I have so many moments since then that I have picked up the phone only to realize he's not there. My son was accepted into the Law enforcement academy, which my Dad would always call to check on the status, but when we found out, he was gone, I really wanted to talk to him ! And at least he got to meet my Grandson before he passed, so that was cool.

OK now that I have started, I could go on ALL night I hope this is not out of the realm of this forum, I hope it's not too sad (I didn't mean it that way)

I just wanted to let my friends on here know " My Angle has gone to heaven" !!!

I wish the best for ALL of you ! I will keep you all in my prayers.

                                                                        Lisa, (lovingdaughter of Leon Gulledge, forever) !!!


Offline anniebc

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #1 on: October 24, 2008, 11:40:29 PM »
I'm so sorry to hear this sad news, he was a good father and you were a very loving daughter, you did everything to make his life better, no-one could have tried harder.

You have lost one angel but he has been replaced by other.

hugs to you grandma and your family.


 :'(..for the Angel to left
 :-*.for the angel who has arrived.

Love
Jan
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Offline Robert

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #2 on: October 25, 2008, 12:54:33 AM »
lisa...

this is a really touching post. Generations of love and kindness
...father, daughter, son, grandson. What a wonderful family. 

my deepest sympathies.

robert
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Offline Ann

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #3 on: October 25, 2008, 07:37:44 AM »
Hi Lisa,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Losing a parent is never easy.

((((((Lisa))))))

On the other hand, congratulations Grandma! :)


I'd like to invite you to place a thread in your father's memory in our In Memoriam forum.

Wishing you peace,
Ann
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Offline emeraldize

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #4 on: October 25, 2008, 08:14:11 AM »
Hi Lisa,

You hope your story isn't out of the realm of this forum, and it isn't. We all need and often want to hear stories of loving parents, loving children and what is possible in the presence of love.

Letting us know of your care and love of your father and of his tough decisions, joyous last moments with family and final smile, helps you to heal. You also help each one of us to remember the loss of a loved one, to prepare for a loss or envision our own endings...

and you shine a light on the beginnings presented by grandchildren, children, new friends and reclaimed friends.

Thank you for letting us in.

Em




Offline Alain

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #5 on: October 25, 2008, 08:30:06 AM »
Dear Lisa,

I am sorry for the loss of your Dad.

I know how hard it is and life is challenging at best of times.

There is so much hope however in your post regarding your family situation.

Wishing you peace and strength in carry on, especially for caring for him like you did.

The Loving Daughter; with fondest thoughts, Alain :-* 

Offline BT65

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #6 on: October 25, 2008, 11:39:56 AM »
Lisa,

Please accept my condolences on the loss of your father.  I lost both my parents within the last year and it's not easy.  Congratulations on the birth of your grandson!  Grandchildren are the best. 
  Luv,
Betty
I've never killed anyone, but I frequently get satisfaction reading the obituary notices.-Clarence Darrow

Offline skeebo1969

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #7 on: October 25, 2008, 05:32:49 PM »



    Sorry for the loss of your very loving father.  The love you two shared was very evident in your post.  Where one life ends another begins, congrats on being a new grandma....
I despise the song Love is in the Air, you should too.

Offline Texan38

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #8 on: October 25, 2008, 05:49:46 PM »
Dear Lisa,

We don't know each other but I just thought your post was beautiful. I want to send out my condolences to you and your family and also congratulate you on being a grandma.  Just goes to show, the heartache of a loss, brings life to a new beginning!  :-*

Love,

Mark
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~ Lauren Bacall

Offline lovingdaughter

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #9 on: October 25, 2008, 08:52:36 PM »
I want to Thank everyone for the love you sent to me & my family,

It is still so hard for me to talk about this, but for some reason, typing even through the tears, makes me feel brief relief. You guys have been here for me over the last several years, through the diagnoses, ALL of the questions that seemed "stupid" as a newby to this disease but only trying to get educated, you ALL were very supportive & understanding. You also taught me so much through the process, which I thank you for and I have thought to tell you about Dad alot, but could not bring myself to sit down and do it until now.

Just one more thing, my Mom continues to get tested and is still Negative. She was by his side @ 1:10 am when he took his last breath.

Both of my Parents have shown this entire family what it means to be strong, supportive and Loving.

I only hope I can be half the person my Dad was,,,, he was the Best. 

Thanks again,,,, and Ann, I will be posting to the Memorial link you suggested, I wasn't aware of it , so thanks!

Offline J.R.E.

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #10 on: October 26, 2008, 02:44:32 AM »
Dear Lisa,

My deepest condolences go out to you and your family, on the loss of your father.


Ray

Current Meds ; Viramune, Epzicom, 40mg of simvastatin, 25 mg of Hydrochlorothiazide.
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Offline StrongGuy

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #11 on: October 26, 2008, 03:33:43 AM »
My deepest sympathy for your loss. Stay Strong...

Mike
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"Beware of the fortune teller doom and gloomers who seek to bring you down and are only looking for company, purpose and validation - not your best physical/mental interests."

"You know you all are saying that this is incurable. When the real thing you should be saying is it's not curable at the present time' because as we know, the great strides we've made in medicine." - Elizabeth Edwards

Offline Ann

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #12 on: October 26, 2008, 07:19:53 AM »
You're welcome, Lisa. I've added your father's name to the In Memoriam directory.

One thing - you say your mom "continues to get tested". She doesn't need to anymore, she'll be well outside the window period. It's got to be hard enough on her that he passed on her birthday, there's no point in re-opening the wound through continued testing.

Still wishing you - and your family - peace.
Ann
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"...health will finally be seen not as a blessing to be wished for, but as a human right to be fought for." Kofi Annan

Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

Offline heartforyou

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Re: Hello All, the last on my dad,,
« Reply #13 on: October 26, 2008, 03:47:54 PM »
Dear Lisa,

Thanks for letting us know about your dad's passing.

It is always so sad to loose someone close, specially a parent.

From what i read you have been an angel to him... so, he will be waiting for you, when your time has come.

Feel free to write about him as much as you like. Grief hurts and writing about your dad may help you to cope with it a tiny bit better.

Warm hug

Hermie
Diagnosed in 1987 and still kicking
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