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Offline ds_36

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Received oral from a man
« on: October 21, 2008, 09:45:04 AM »
I recently received an unprotected blowjob from a male who's sexual history I don't know. Going in I knew that I didn't have any sort of STDs or any cuts/blood on my penis and as far as I could tell his mouth was not in bad shape. I'm still completely paranoid about having picked up HIV. I've tried to research it online and there is so much info going both ways about how likely it is to acquire HIV from oral sex. So I'm wondering realistically how nervous should I be? Also is there any reliable info on how dangerous this is?

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Re: Received oral from a man
« Reply #1 on: October 21, 2008, 10:24:14 AM »
ds,

Getting a blowjob is absolultey NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not one person has ever been infected in this way and you won't be the first. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

The conflicting information you see about oral concerns the person GIVING the blowjob. As far as AIDSmeds is concerned, giving blowjobs is a purely theoretical risk - which means it rarely, if ever, happens in the real world.

I repeat, getting a blowjob is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Never has been, never will be.

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Re: Received oral from a man
« Reply #2 on: October 21, 2008, 04:57:08 PM »
Thanks for the quick reply, Ann!

Me being a worry wart I hope you don't mind if I ask the same question in a slightly different way. So you're saying it is impossible to me to have gotten HIV through this action? One of the things that gets me nervous is the CDC's website does list receiving oral sex as risky behavior (although now reading that page with a calmer head I realize it doesn't seem to make a whole lot of sense). Could you point me towards any recent scientific/research papers or studies that confirm that this isn't a risk. I realize that it's probably very hard (or impossible?) to scientifically prove something can't happen so what I'm hoping to see probably doesn't exist. While the other part is I have practically no sexual experience. All together I have 3 things: 2 handjobs (one with a bit of oral) from girls, and this so I haven't even had the chance to "normalize" sex.

I know you thing I shouldn't bother with getting tested but I researched it and found a few free clinics near where I live getting tested and seeing the negative results will really calm me down. How long do I have to wait before getting tested and what is the testing process?

Thanks so much for your time
« Last Edit: October 21, 2008, 05:01:02 PM by ds_36 »

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Re: Received oral from a man
« Reply #3 on: October 22, 2008, 05:10:57 AM »
ds,

Once again, when you see other sites saying that oral is a risk, they're talking about the person GIVING a blowjob. It irks me that they never seem to point that out - they just make blanket statements of "oral sex". It sucks. No pun intended, but hey... I take my jokes where I find them, even if it is unintentional.

There have been three long-term studies of couples where one is positive and one is negative. In the couples who used condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, but no barrier for oral activities, not one of the negative partners became infected with hiv. Not one. This shows us that condoms are very effective for the prevention of hiv transmission. It also shows us that oral sex is not something to worry about where hiv is concerned. As I already told you, not one single person has EVER been infected through getting a blowjob (or handjob) and you certainly aren't going to be the first.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER A BLOWJOB, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

As you had no risk, you are not in a window period and can test now for a conclusive result. Where there has been a risk (ie unprotected anal or vaginal intercourse) a conclusive result can be had at three months. But YOU had no risk, unless you've engaged in unprotected intercourse you've not told us about.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: Received oral from a man
« Reply #4 on: October 22, 2008, 08:26:51 AM »
Thanks again :)

Sadly it's my nature to be overly worried about tiny things. I've already calmed down a lot in the last few days and although at this point I do still want to get tested I will probably decide it's not worthwhile by the time 3 months comes around. No there was no unprotected intercourse involved at all. Also I spoke with the state health department who agrees it's not worth testing over an oral experience.

Thanks very much for your reassuring words I really appreciate it.

 


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