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Offline sammysung1

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Can someone help calm my nerves?
« on: October 19, 2008, 12:14:31 AM »
Hello everyone. Ever since i've been reading these forums, my nerves have calmed a HUGE load.....


Well back to my question.

I have oral sex with a man (receiving not giving), and (it only lasted for 7-9seconds) and found a cut on my penis (approx .2-3cm's) long. Blood was present, but a very small amount.

So I decided to put a condom on and proceeded to have anal sex with the guy (i was top, he was bottom) and it lasted approx 2-4minutes.

From what i can remember their were no tears in the condom at all.

I've talked to this individual several times after this incident and this person keeps saying they are HIV NEG

Should i continue to be worried? I mean im stressing out BIG TIME. Im only 22 and i've never been this stress out in my life. Also, ever since this happened, i've had the Urge to pee alot but i believe that is due to me being stressed out about this.


Please any info would be greatly appreciated.  ;)

Offline Rayray

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #1 on: October 19, 2008, 12:29:52 AM »
If your were upfront with this guy and he knows of your status then stop worrying.You did the best you could by putting on the condom.Maybe you should always use the condom and there would be even less to worry about.But its up to you.I'm not judgeing.And if you aren't sure about his status maybe you can go with him to get tested again if he would be willing to do thatfor you it should help to ease your fears.
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Offline sammysung1

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #2 on: October 19, 2008, 01:57:43 AM »
Maybe you should always use the condom and there would be even less to worry about


Understood. Just im extremely nervous and stress out about the whole situation. I should have thought things through and I am already beating myself up about this whole issue.  I am planning to be tested to ease my fears but I am scared of the outcome. My uncle just died approx 10months ago from AIDS, and the thought of dying is taking a toll on my "mental health".

Just I can not tell anyone this because they are very religious and I would have no one to go to.

Again thanks for any info. :'(

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #3 on: October 19, 2008, 02:47:10 AM »
Rayray, until such time you are approved by the moderators, this forum is restricted as who can answer questions in this forum. 

sammysung1, you were never at risk of contracting HIV in the situation you've provided. 

Offline sammysung1

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #4 on: October 19, 2008, 03:04:29 AM »
Rayray, until such time you are approved by the moderators, this forum is restricted as who can answer questions in this forum. 

sammysung1, you were never at risk of contracting HIV in the situation you've provided. 



 :'( wish that was a happy face with a tear lol.....Its always good to hear when people have positive things to say about this. I mean, Google......holy christ..nearly had me in tears/worried/scared/panic etc. Im so happy to have found this forum.

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #5 on: October 19, 2008, 07:16:04 AM »
Sam,

Getting a blowjob, with or without a condom, is NOT a risk for hiv infection. Not only is saliva not infectious, but it also contains over a dozen different proteins and enzymes that damage hiv and render it unable to infect.

Condoms have been proven to prevent hiv infection, so no worries where the anal is concerned either. You're good to go.

And for future reference:

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED TO TEST OVER THIS SPECIFIC INCIDENT, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

Ann
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Offline sammysung1

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #6 on: October 20, 2008, 03:02:43 AM »
My uncle whom passed, he was very careful at his HIV status (health wise) but near the end. He just gave up..... He stopped his meds, started drinking/smoking, doing drugs etc. The last convo i had with him was

"Hey sam, Just to let you know, im going to die soon. But hell, i wanna go out with a bang"


I know since this encounter its been approx 5-6weeks since it happened. When would be a good time to get tested? at 9weeks?

Offline RapidRod

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Re: Can someone help calm my nerves?
« Reply #7 on: October 20, 2008, 05:07:00 AM »
You did not have a risk and don't need testing.

 


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