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Offline Dream

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Concerned And Worried
« on: September 25, 2008, 02:44:56 AM »
First Things first I would like to say is that this site is so great Members and Mods.It has helped me allot The past weeks reading storys on this forum,And with that being said I would Like to tell my story and get your Opinions.

About Three Months Ago I had Sex with a woman..That has many partners and Lives in the area of where all the Prostitutes Live and Yes she Is also A Prostitute..Believe Me This was By far the biggest Mistake of my life And I regret it.Even after sex I was ashamed.Im young 21Yr Old MaLe From California,And "Very Immature".Well We Had Sex for about 30mins.It started with Oral Her giving Me Head,Then Me On top and Her Bending over and Then back to Oral.Yes I used a Condom and From what I remember it didnt Break.Very positive it didn't.After sex I took the Condom off with A Towel. Then washed My Penis and Pubic Area with My Collar Tee shirt.I know you say Oral Isn't a risk and considering the fact I had A condom on.Well weeks we By about 9 weeks almost 10..I didn't think much of it until I noticed redish pinkish dots on my thighs I was like did I catch anything?I then looked up the internet saw dots for HIV and stuff and got worried.Weeks passed and I was like Imma get a test.The weekend Came along Around the and I got drunk.Next morning I had A Hangover thought about HIV more and More Checked all these sympthoms then Monday came went to work Tuesday came thought more about HIV and yes I did go on the internet and seach more sympthoms then I started to worry more,I wasnt eating or anything..Then Tuesday came along and I said Imma get tested.After I got tested I went home searched forums chat's sympthoms and yes I was in a panic Night time came and I woke up in the middle of the night panicing..and was having constipation..And Diahrreah.ALso Felt sick and my head and everything was hurting felt like throwing up.I went to the hospital got blood taken and they said I looked fine..days went by I was hardly eating anything and when I did eat I had thrown it all up.I felt like crap spent the last couple of days searching stuff about HIV on forums.couldn't go outside really because I was nervous I couldnt work took two weeks off.I had panic attacks I guess you would say and I went to the hospital again,and they did take more blood and did an ekg and x-rays.I lost about 10 Pounds in 4 days? Mayb alil less.My HIV test came back and I came out negative.I know I should Of stopped worrying.I felt lil better but my neck was stiff and my throat was hurting mayb because I read about sore throat and stuff and also after that I still kep check my tongiue.Now everytime I feel something I think it has to do with HIV my head still hurts and my forearms hurts sometimes where the vein is and my chest and my back beind the left side of where my heart is hurts still I still worry and I been trying to go out lately to the  club and just relax.But I get scared If I have HIV if Im gonna catch a cold and something is gonna happen to me.

I just enrolled into school,Me and My Girlfriend got back together I use to be with Months back,But she has just moved to Florida so were doing the longdistance thing again.Trust me by reading all this and the way I've felt I will never ever In my life do something as dumb as that again..Only person Im doing anything with is going to be my wife Yes I did go sulebant.Im sorry for this but I just am pretty scared because I have so much in my life thats suppose and is going on and Im just worried still not as much but evertime I feel something I think it has to do with HIV,And Im still checking my tongue =/..I eat so much junk food also -_- Imma stop thoung because Im also worried about that.I'am trying to take my mind off it but It's hard not to. :'(

"I'am very greatful to have found this forum"You all are very strong people,And I just want to know what you think Im sorry if you guys think Im overreacting But Im just still worried.
I would get professional help face to face but I'am beyound broke With no Insurance.So I thought this is the best help I can get so far And thank you again for reading.

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #1 on: September 25, 2008, 03:48:15 AM »
You were not at risk from having protected sex. Take the time to read the transmission lessons. The link can be found in the "Welcome" thread.

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #2 on: September 25, 2008, 05:57:48 AM »
Dream,

You do not need further testing. You ARE hiv negative. If you feel unwell, see a doctor. It's nothing to do with hiv.

You didn't do anything stupid, you did the smart thing and used a condom. Nothing you did with the sex worker put you at risk for hiv.

It doesn't matter who you have sex with or what positions you do it in, as long as you're using a condom for anal or vaginal intercourse, you don't need to worry about hiv. It's not just sex workers you need to use condoms with, it's ANYONE.

You need to be using condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, every time, no exceptions until such time as you are in a securely monogamous relationship where you have both tested for ALL sexually transmitted infections together. To agree to have unprotected intercourse is to consent to the possibility of being infected with an STI. Sex with a condom lasts only a matter of minutes, but hiv is forever.

Have a look through all three condom and lube links in my signature line so you can use condoms with confidence.

ALTHOUGH YOU DO NOT NEED FURTHER TESTING AT THIS TIME, anyone who is sexually active should be having a full sexual health care check-up, including but not limited to hiv testing, at least once a year and more often if unprotected intercourse occurs.

If you aren't already having regular, routine check-ups, now is the time to start. As long as you make sure condoms are being used for intercourse, you can fully expect your routine hiv tests to return with negative results. Don't forget to always get checked for all the other sexually transmitted infections as well, because they are MUCH easier to transmit than hiv.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #3 on: September 27, 2008, 02:26:09 AM »
I'am curious if water get's in contact of HIV does it damage the Virus allot or can it Live Longer from water sorry if this is a stupid question but I'am Curious seeing how I can't sleep and My lower back is killing me it feels like someone just slammed a chair into my lower back..Another Question has Anxiety really make you feel this way.I use to feel so strong yet now I feel down and out even with a Neg Test I still This about HIV.I thought to myself I would get over it.But right When I feel an ache Or pain Im like is that from HIV.Im sorry it's just I've never ever felt this way In My life befor.Now Im scared allot.I also looks at my body way more and notice so much stuff now.Im not freaking out to the point where Im Panicing wanting to go to the Hospital.I would seek Threapy Face to face But considering the fact that I'am a broke student who has no insurance what so ever and hardly works any hours,and my Hospital bills froma the past weeks were 2,000+ dollars =/.

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #4 on: September 27, 2008, 02:28:50 AM »
BTW sorry for my miss-spelling.Ann,Rapid.Thank you for your replies. <3 Much Love.

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #5 on: September 27, 2008, 07:47:56 AM »
You were not at risk of HIV transmission from the situation you described, as Ann and Rod have told you.  On this forum we provide HIV transmission and testing information. If you are feeling unwell for other reasons, you need to see a doctor.
“Keep up the good work....   And God bless you.”
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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #6 on: September 27, 2008, 11:54:16 PM »
Can HIV Live In water For Awhile ?Im sorry for my answer I dont know what is wrong with me I dont think about it like I use to and when I feel any disscomfort I feel Like it's HIV Like right now I feel scared and I feel Like Empty.And My lower Back Is hurting Like No Other And Feels Like Pressure and Im Having constipation or I dont Know what.It feels like I gotta Poop but I don't I feel Nervous.Trust me I would see a doctor but I owe I gotta pay 2,000+$ For the last two times I went.And I have no regular Doctor I havent seen One In Awhile And I've never been scared in my life or had thoughts about if I can die.Now I do.And It scares me.Not as much wherew I was crying like crazy and Was In a panic.Every lil ache or pain I think it's something now =( ..And when I try to relax I feel something or head might hurt I think it's something  :'( :'( :'(

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #7 on: September 28, 2008, 03:25:25 AM »
If you have a concern see your doctor. What ever is going on with you has nothing to do with the situation you brought to the forum.

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« Reply #8 on: September 28, 2008, 06:26:38 AM »
Dream,

No, hiv cannot live in water. It can only live inside the human body. It's a very fragile virus. This is why hiv is primarily spread through UNprotected anal or vaginal intercourse - where transmission happens INSIDE the body.

Use condoms for anal or vaginal intercourse, correctly and consistently, and you will avoid hiv infection. It really is that simple.

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Nymphomaniac: a woman as obsessed with sex as an average man. Mignon McLaughlin

HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #9 on: September 28, 2008, 12:01:37 PM »
Thank you for your reply..I'am curious does HIV harm your back and make it feel like their is pressure down by your lower back as if you pulled something?Also does it give you high blood pressure?And also does it make your forearms have slight pain?..I don't know If this is stuff I've felt befor but never noticed it but now I just notice everything on my body that changes ..and I think any tiny slight thing of pain can be something  :-\ >:(

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #10 on: September 28, 2008, 12:58:16 PM »
You're letting your mind and your fears run you right now. You don't seem to be listening to anything that has been said to you. You didn't have any risk for HIV transmission during this incident you're concerned about.

If you have physical things that are bothering you then you should be talking about them with your doctor. We can't help you with that here.

I can tell you that whatever is going on has nothing to do with HIV.
 
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« Reply #11 on: September 28, 2008, 02:46:04 PM »
I'am more calm and relax then I was weeks ago but I'am curious to know if HIV within 3months can make you lose allot of body fat or muscle  ??? Lately When I look at myself I dont Know if I look small or if Im just noticing more but I see allot of veins that I never saw befor they look more clearer to see once I get out the shower Mainly"But also sometimes when Im not can this be anything?I've been eating fast food and other foods allot but it seems like Im not gaining much weight I really never had a high matabalism if thats how you spell it I dont know. =/

Thank you for your responses andy.

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Re: Concerned And Worried
« Reply #12 on: September 28, 2008, 03:54:47 PM »
What does that have to do with you? You didn't have a risk and you don't have HIV.

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« Reply #13 on: September 28, 2008, 04:25:58 PM »
Go have a checkup with your doctor if you have physical concerns.

There's no need to be discussing the longterm effects of living with HIV since it's not an issue for you, no matter what your nervous mind is saying otherwise. In fact, indulging in such a discussion is a really bad idea because all it will just feed your fears.

HIV is not an issue for you. Period. 
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« Reply #14 on: September 29, 2008, 02:04:41 AM »
I have a question can someone develope AIDS within A matter of 2months?Or Less I was told I would be laughed at by so much if I asked this But I'am Curious..Dam I don't know what's wrong with me I never had any worries Or anything.Now I worrie I dont think about HIV but then I do and Now Im just constantly looking at my body I read about something called wasting and what not where you lose body fat and muscle I just wish I could be the way I use to be.I have been eating allot and havent gained much back and now Im just I can't really even explain how I act now.I even have my gf getting upset =/.thank you for your replys but this is as close as I get to professional help..And I do like to hear from you all and what you think and It means a great deal to me when you reply I really appriciate it.

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« Reply #15 on: September 29, 2008, 04:43:11 AM »
Dream,

If you appreciate our replies so much, then why aren't you paying the slightest bit of attention to what we're telling you?

You didn't have a risk for hiv infection. You don't have hiv related wasting. You aren't developing aids.

If you feel unwell, see a doctor. If you cannot bring yourself to believe our risk assessment of your situation, go get tested and get your negative results.

However, you will not be permitted to use this forum to continue to wring your hands over your NO RISK situation. If you've read the Welcome Thread like you're supposed to, you will have read the following posting guideline:

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Anyone who continues to post excessively, questioning a conclusive negative result or no-risk situation, will be subject to a four week Time Out (a temporary ban from the Forums). If you continue to post excessively after one Time Out, you may be given a second Time Out which will last eight weeks. There is no third Time Out - it is a permanent ban. The purpose of a Time Out is to encourage you to seek the face-to-face help we cannot provide on this forum.

Please consider yourself warned.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

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« Reply #16 on: September 29, 2008, 06:34:49 PM »
Ann Please don't give me a time out..  :( I was wondering Say You had vaginal sex with condom on same condom also and then after it you got oral with a condom on for like 13mins would all vaginal fluids be sucked off the condom?Also doesnt saliva in your mouth hurt Hiv?Curious.Sorry again for questions

"Ann Im sorry About that" I will try to relax I apologize to you All" My chest hurts and I know my stress isnt at a high like it was.But I do need to relax myself..For the fact of the dangers stress/worry/anxiety even if it is not as bad and just alittle.. Thank you guys for your replys God Bless you All <3
« Last Edit: September 29, 2008, 07:33:25 PM by Dream »

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« Reply #17 on: September 29, 2008, 10:49:17 PM »
Another Question how accurate is an Oral test? Does it give false positives or false negatives? :-\

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« Reply #18 on: September 30, 2008, 11:31:39 PM »
Does Hiv Move  Like speard or does it just lay within the vaginal fluid and blood ?

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« Reply #19 on: October 02, 2008, 03:01:38 AM »
Can My Questions please be answer. this stuff is all I wanna know and I'am trying to relax my mind and tell myself I don't have it.Say if I washed Myself after sex about a min later after sex.By pulling the condom off with a towel and pulling the from arear of my shorts and boxers down and just washing my private area with my shirt.can I have washes anything into my private area or anything?also my shorts were alil wet after I did  this.

Dam this is so hard to get off my mind  :'( :'( :'( Please don't give me a time out I would just like to know this stuff.

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« Reply #20 on: October 02, 2008, 03:31:09 AM »
The answer is simple. NO. Take the time to read the Lesson section. You can find the link in the "Welcome" thread at the top of the page.

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« Reply #21 on: October 02, 2008, 03:54:13 AM »
Rapid Thank you for replying..Im trying to relax it's just that how I've felt is so hard to think that anxiety and stress can do so much to you since I've never really had it at this lvl and never thought about something that can harm my life.Im happy for this site.like really..honestly for years I thought HIV/AIDS Was Two different things that didnt relate.I also thought AIDs you only caught that from blood contact I know It's crazy That I didnt know this stuff but didnt really never got any lessons or anything about AIDS/HIV

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« Reply #22 on: October 06, 2008, 05:04:49 AM »
 :'(I wore a condom wore boxers had shorts on half way down wore my shirts.But can't let this go really Since I washed my penis and pubic area with water could I have washed anything into my pee hole from my hand or what if vaginal fluid got on my shorts could I have rubbed it in .and the fact that I put my shirt around my shoulds after washing my lower area for like a split min got somewhere on my face does HIV travel like move at all?Or does like vaginal fluids half to actually hit that direct spot.can it move and attach itself to a cell or does it half to land on the area and attach itself. This is hard for me I wish I had money for doctors to talk to but all today I didnt think of HIV really but this lil red bump on my hand gots me thinking what it is and my veins showing more scares me dam what is wrong with me sometimes I feel crazy in the head I constantly check my body parts not all the time like I was but ever so often -_i

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« Reply #23 on: October 06, 2008, 05:14:43 AM »
Dream,

You had no risk. CAREFULLY re-read your entire thread until it sinks in. Your latest questions have already been answered earlier in this thread.

I'm giving you that time out I warned you about. Do not attempt to create a new account to get around your time out because if you do, you will be permanently banned.

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HIV is certainly character-building. It's made me see all of the shallow things we cling to, like ego and vanity. Of course, I'd rather have a few more T-cells and a little less character. Randy Shilts

 


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