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Author Topic: Sex life.... tell or not?  (Read 1764 times)

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Offline Nick Herman

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Sex life.... tell or not?
« on: September 02, 2008, 12:34:43 AM »
Just wondering how life has changed with anyone after finding out that your poz.  Has anyone's sex life changed and how?  and Do you tell your sexual partners your status (one night stands or potential ltr's)?
5/1/08 Random HIV test, ...  HIV +
5/23/08 CD4 is 569 and 31.6%, vl? no meds
8/14/08 Cd4 629 (33%) vl 3280 no meds
12/1/08 (world aids day) cd4 620 vl no meds
12/24/08 620 (33%) vl 3280 no meds
3/31/09  544 (25%) vl 1790 no meds
8/17/09  519 ( ) vl 10000 no meds
10/27/09  hospitiliazed for meningitis
11/15/09  released from hospital
2/4/10  494 (27%) vl 2300 no meds
6/2/10  460 (25%) vl 18000 no meds
7/29/10  515 (30%) vl 4000  no meds
10/1/10  400(25%)    vl 9000 no meds
12/1/10  506(20%)    vl 9000 no meds
12/17/10 started 3 sustiva & 1 truveda a day
1/3/11 507 (32%) vl 76
1/14/11 started atripla
3/30/11 265 (?%) vl < 20
6/8/11 367 (29%) vl undetec
11/8/11 704 (30%) vl < 20
04/20/12 671 (33%) vl < 20
08/06/12 524 (34%) vl undetc

Offline PeteNYNJ

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Re: Sex life.... tell or not?
« Reply #1 on: September 02, 2008, 12:50:27 PM »
This has been debated a million times on here so if you do a search for disclosure I am sure you will see lots of peoples' opinion.

Personally, I tell everyone that I am ahead of time so it doesn't get awkward. 

My sex life is pretty much the same.  Maybe slowed down a little but that isn't necessarily a bad thing.

Offline MOONLIGHT1114

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Re: Sex life.... tell or not?
« Reply #2 on: September 02, 2008, 07:36:54 PM »
Personally, I tell everyone that I am ahead of time so it doesn't get awkward. 

HIV+ since '93, 1/12 - CD4 785 and undet.   WOO-HOO!!

Offline angelofdreams

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Re: Sex life.... tell or not?
« Reply #3 on: September 02, 2008, 09:13:59 PM »
same here.
easyer to tell in advance or straight away the n getting in trouble or having to tell later
To live would be a awefully big adventure

Offline komnaes

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Re: Sex life.... tell or not?
« Reply #4 on: September 02, 2008, 10:41:20 PM »
I just stick with other poz dudes.. easier.
Aug 07 Diagnosed
Oct 07 CD4=446(19%) Feb 08 CD4=421(19%)
Jun 08 CD4=325(22%) Jul 08 CD4=301(18%)
Sep 08 CD4=257/VL=75,000 Oct 08 CD4=347(16%)
Dec 08 CD4=270(16%)
Jan 09 CD4=246(13%)/VL=10,000
Feb 09 CD4=233(15%)/VL=13,000
Started meds Sustiva/Epzicom
May 09 CD4=333(24%)/VL=650
Aug 09 CD4=346(24%)/VL=UD
Nov 09 CD4=437(26%)/VL=UD
Feb 10 CD4=471(31%)/VL=UD
June 10 CD4=517 (28%)/VL=UD
Sept 10 CD4=687 (31%)/VL=UD
Jan 11 CD4=557 (30%)/VL=UD
April 11 CD4=569 (32%)/VL=UD
Switched to Epizcom, Reyataz and Norvir
(Interrupted for 2 months with only Epizcom & Reyataz)
July 11 CD=520 (28%)/VL=UD
Oct 11 CD=771 (31%)/VL=UD(<30)
April 12 CD=609 (28%)/VL=UD(<20)
Aug 12 CD=657 (29%)/VL=UD(<20)
Dec 12 CD=532 (31%)/VL=UD(<20)
May 13 CD=567 (31%)/VL=UD(<20)
Jan 14 CD=521 (21%)/VL=UD(<50)

Offline jkinatl2

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Re: Sex life.... tell or not?
« Reply #5 on: September 02, 2008, 11:04:56 PM »
There are also serious legal ramifications if you fail to disclose in many places throughout the world.

Plus, IMHO, it's a great way to sabotage a potential LTR. To quote Edith Keeler, "A lie is a very poor way to say hello."

"Many people, especially in the gay community, turn to oral sex as a safer alternative in the age of AIDS. And with HIV rates rising, people need to remember that oral sex is safer sex. It's a reasonable alternative."

-Kimberly Page-Shafer, PhD, MPH

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Offline Desertguy

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Re: Sex life.... tell or not?
« Reply #6 on: September 03, 2008, 06:01:05 AM »
What is a SEX LIFE??????   LoL


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