Quantcast
Welcome, Guest. Please login or register.
December 05, 2016, 09:47:52 AM

Login with username, password and session length


Members
  • Total Members: 29665
  • Latest: Eri
Stats
  • Total Posts: 704448
  • Total Topics: 56074
  • Online Today: 247
  • Online Ever: 1421
  • (August 13, 2016, 05:18:44 AM)
Users Online

Welcome


Welcome to the POZ Community Forums, a round-the-clock discussion area for people with HIV/AIDS, their friends/family/caregivers, and others concerned about HIV/AIDS.  Click on the links below to browse our various forums; scroll down for a glance at the most recent posts; or join in the conversation yourself by registering on the left side of this page.

Privacy Warning:  Please realize that these forums are open to all, and are fully searchable via Google and other search engines. If you are HIV positive and disclose this in our forums, then it is almost the same thing as telling the whole world (or at least the World Wide Web). If this concerns you, then do not use a username or avatar that are self-identifying in any way. We do not allow the deletion of anything you post in these forums, so think before you post.

  • The information shared in these forums, by moderators and members, is designed to complement, not replace, the relationship between an individual and his/her own physician.

  • All members of these forums are, by default, not considered to be licensed medical providers. If otherwise, users must clearly define themselves as such.

  • Forums members must behave at all times with respect and honesty. Posting guidelines, including time-out and banning policies, have been established by the moderators of these forums. Click here for “Am I Infected?” posting guidelines. Click here for posting guidelines pertaining to all other POZ community forums.

  • We ask all forums members to provide references for health/medical/scientific information they provide, when it is not a personal experience being discussed. Please provide hyperlinks with full URLs or full citations of published works not available via the Internet. Additionally, all forums members must post information which are true and correct to their knowledge.

  • Product advertisement—including links; banners; editorial content; and clinical trial, study or survey participation—is strictly prohibited by forums members unless permission has been secured from POZ.

To change forums navigation language settings, click here (members only), Register now

Para cambiar sus preferencias de los foros en español, haz clic aquí (sólo miembros), Regístrate ahora

Finished Reading This? You can collapse this or any other box on this page by clicking the symbol in each box.

Author Topic: This is my story  (Read 640 times)

bocker3 and 2 Guests are viewing this topic.

Offline FarmBoy

  • Member
  • Posts: 3
This is my story
« on: December 01, 2016, 07:42:14 PM »
Being WAD, I guess today is as good of day as any to introduce myself.  I've been lurking around and reading on the forums for a little while and appreciate the support given.

3 months ago today, I tested positive.  I am a 49 year old man, married for over 27 years with 4 daughters.  Due to infidelity with men outside of my marriage, I know what day I was infected - July 25th.  10 days later while traveling with family in Europe, I became very sick with extremely high fever and flu-like symptoms.  I couldn't get out of bed for almost 36 hours.  I was not well the rest of the trip and generally fatigued, sore throat and fever.  When I got back to the US, I was almost too sick to get off the plane, so got a wheelchair escort.  Went to my PCP the next day and got antibiotics for strep throat.  Took that for a week, but still was fatigued, sore throat and low grade fever.  Went to work, but would come home and sleep for over 12 hours each night.  That went on for 2 more weeks. Due to poor appetite, I lost about 15 pounds that month. Then I had night sweats over the weekend. By Monday, Aug 29th, I woke with chest pain and high heart rate.  My wife took me to ER.  They did all the tests for heart attack, lungs, blood clots (due to air travel), etc.  Couldn't find anything except I was extremely dehydrated so they admitted me to ICU for overnight to pump fluids.  Dr said couldn't find anything but looked like a virus infection due to liver enzymes, etc.   Later after my wife left, I asked for the Dr. to come back room and asked him to check for HIV.  He said couldn't be since my blood labs were too good, but agreed to test.  After more tests, I was discharged the next day.  Was doing better due to getting re-hydrated, but still had low grade fever and developed a cough. On that Thursday afternoon, I got a call from my PCP stating my HIV test was equivocal (which I assume meant positive) so they were re-running my test on a Western Blot.  The next day he called me at work at 4:30 just before going home for the Labor Day weekend and stated the WB confirmed positive for HIV and set an appointment for office visit that next Tuesday. 

It was Labor Day weekend, and I felt like my world had just collapsed around me.  I got home for supper, ate it and then within an hour threw it up - I assume nerves.  My stomach was in knots all weekend.  We had a family trip to my daughters house for the holiday weekend.  I went but my stomach was in knots.  I could only look at my beautiful family and think that this was going to be the last time we'd all be together happy.  I expected for sure that when I told my wife that our relationship would be over.  I was also worried that I could have infected her.  15 years earlier, I had confessed to hooking up with some men at adult book stores, but she had assumed I had stopped after we got counseling.  I had for several years, but with the internet, work travel, etc, I had returned to that.  It was a long weekend.  I went to the Dr office that Tuesday.  They sent me to the lab to get 24 tubes of blood drawn.  He had set up an appt with the University HIV Clinic for that Friday. 

That Friday, I met with the clinic. They had a nurse to provide medical info and set up an appt for 4 weeks after my blood labs to give time for genotyping the virus and me to determine the best medicine.  Also they had social workers from the state health dept to ask about partners for notification.  We talked about how to notify my wife.  I felt that I had to be the one.  The social worker said she would be available to come to the house and counsel if needed and could provide a private HIV test to my wife at our home.  Due to family and friends around that weekend, I decided it would be the next Tuesday when I would talk and confess to my wife.  I had to write down what I was going to tell her since it would be the most difficult conversation I've ever had.

That Tuesday morning came, 12 days after I had gotten my diagnosis.  It was the hardest day of my life.  After I took the kids to school, I went back home instead of work to talk to my wife.  We sat.  I read her what I had written.  We both cried - I knew she was in pain.  However, she said we would get through this together.  I couldn't believe it.  We called the social worker to come over for counseling her and get her tested.  An hour later, she arrived.  The test on my wife took 10 long minutes - but it came back negative.  I cried even more that she wasn't infected.  Since I was so sick, we hadn't been intimate since before the Europe trip, so the window for testing was good for the test the SW had given.

My wife and I decided not to tell anyone (including family and daughters) except our pastor so that we could get counseling. I've agreed to remain monogamous with her since she is the rock in my life.  I went to an intensive weekend for sexual addictions to receive help.  We've been working on our relationship.  Being open and honest with her, we have had the best conversations about our relationship and sexuality than ever in our 28 years together.  I'm amazed by how strong she has been to support and love me - no matter what.

We went to the clinic together on October 5th. I kept losing weight throughout Sept and was down about 20 pounds now and still had the lingering cough.  The fever finally broke about mid-September. The blood labs showed I had a wild-type virus and I didn't have an allele to prevent any meds.  They prescribed Triumeq which I was able to pick up at the University hospital's pharmacy that day.  The provider had a drug card program that paid all the co-pays not covered by insurance so didn't cost anything out of pocket.  We left and went to lunch together.  I took my first pill at lunch that day with my wife to take control of this virus.  I've had no side effects and within a couple days, my weight stabilized and my cough stopped and my energy came back.

It's been almost 2 months since then.  As you can see from my signature, my VL was <20 at the 1 month checkup.  I'm so thankful for the modern drugs. They also talked to my wife about a new program that they were getting funding for to provide PrEP to the partners through the clinic through Skype visits.  Otherwise, they could only treat HIV patients.  That program got funded and my wife became their first patient.  She was given a prescription of Truvada to start without having to go through her PCP.

I'm learning that I can't change the past, so shouldn't dwell on it.  Through the support of my wife and reestablishing my faith (I'm in a very conservative denomination, but my pastor has been super supportive and meeting with me weekly for counselling.  I assumed others would "kick" me out of the church for my sins - infidelity to my wife, MSM, pornography etc., but he is teaching me that no one's sins are worse than anyone else's. It's helping me to deal with my guilt and shame and to better love my wife.

I read this quote which has helped me:  “Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” – Carl Bard. 

It's not that everything is perfect and I don't get angry with myself for what's happened, but my focus needs to be on being healthy, living a better life, and nurturing my relationship with my wife.  Also, I hope to hear from you guys for additional support and encouragement.

Thank you for reading this long post.
7/25/16 - Infected
8/4/16 - Sero-conversion started (flu, then fever, fatigue most of August)
8/29/16 - hospitalized O.N. for dehydration; tested
9/1/16 - Dx'd (confirmed WB 9/2)
9/6/16 - CD4 1395 (15%); VL 275,904; genotyped
10/5/16 - CD4 800 (27%) Started on Triumeq
11/2/16 - CD4 699 (26%); VL <20

Offline Ptrk3

  • Global Moderator
  • Member
  • Posts: 924
Re: This is my story
« Reply #1 on: December 01, 2016, 09:59:19 PM »
Thank you for sharing your touching and moving story, a testament to honesty and forgiveness.  Thank goodness you are in the medical system and that you have the support to move forward with grace and dignity.  I wish you and your family long, healthy lives.

Welcome to the forums.  Please continue to visit here for support and guidance.  We look forward to hearing about your ongoing progress.
HIV 101 - Basics
HIV 101
You can read more about Transmission and Risks here:
HIV Transmission and Risks
You can read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
You can read more about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read more about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
You can read more about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

Offline Tonny2

  • Member
  • Posts: 1,472
Re: This is my story
« Reply #2 on: December 01, 2016, 10:14:31 PM »


        OJO        HELLO AND WELCOME...I GUESS YOU HAVE A GOOD START, GOOD ATTTITUDE AND PERFECT WIFE...KEEP US POSTED AND PLEASE, GIVE YOUR WIFE A BIG HUG, SHE DESERVES IT AND YOU HAVE TO BE THERE FOR HER, DEFENETLY, YOU OWE HER A LOT...HUGS, BEST OF LUCK                                                        OJO

Offline JosephP

  • Member
  • Posts: 126
  • Keep looking FORWARD...
Re: This is my story
« Reply #3 on: December 01, 2016, 10:37:03 PM »
Being WAD, I guess today is as good of day as any to introduce myself.  I've been lurking around and reading on the forums for a little while and appreciate the support given.

3 months ago today, I tested positive.  I am a 49 year old man, married for over 27 years with 4 daughters.  Due to infidelity with men outside of my marriage, I know what day I was infected - July 25th.  10 days later while traveling with family in Europe, I became very sick with extremely high fever and flu-like symptoms.  I couldn't get out of bed for almost 36 hours.  I was not well the rest of the trip and generally fatigued, sore throat and fever.  When I got back to the US, I was almost too sick to get off the plane, so got a wheelchair escort.  Went to my PCP the next day and got antibiotics for strep throat.  Took that for a week, but still was fatigued, sore throat and low grade fever.  Went to work, but would come home and sleep for over 12 hours each night.  That went on for 2 more weeks. Due to poor appetite, I lost about 15 pounds that month. Then I had night sweats over the weekend. By Monday, Aug 29th, I woke with chest pain and high heart rate.  My wife took me to ER.  They did all the tests for heart attack, lungs, blood clots (due to air travel), etc.  Couldn't find anything except I was extremely dehydrated so they admitted me to ICU for overnight to pump fluids.  Dr said couldn't find anything but looked like a virus infection due to liver enzymes, etc.   Later after my wife left, I asked for the Dr. to come back room and asked him to check for HIV.  He said couldn't be since my blood labs were too good, but agreed to test.  After more tests, I was discharged the next day.  Was doing better due to getting re-hydrated, but still had low grade fever and developed a cough. On that Thursday afternoon, I got a call from my PCP stating my HIV test was equivocal (which I assume meant positive) so they were re-running my test on a Western Blot.  The next day he called me at work at 4:30 just before going home for the Labor Day weekend and stated the WB confirmed positive for HIV and set an appointment for office visit that next Tuesday. 

It was Labor Day weekend, and I felt like my world had just collapsed around me.  I got home for supper, ate it and then within an hour threw it up - I assume nerves.  My stomach was in knots all weekend.  We had a family trip to my daughters house for the holiday weekend.  I went but my stomach was in knots.  I could only look at my beautiful family and think that this was going to be the last time we'd all be together happy.  I expected for sure that when I told my wife that our relationship would be over.  I was also worried that I could have infected her.  15 years earlier, I had confessed to hooking up with some men at adult book stores, but she had assumed I had stopped after we got counseling.  I had for several years, but with the internet, work travel, etc, I had returned to that.  It was a long weekend.  I went to the Dr office that Tuesday.  They sent me to the lab to get 24 tubes of blood drawn.  He had set up an appt with the University HIV Clinic for that Friday. 

That Friday, I met with the clinic. They had a nurse to provide medical info and set up an appt for 4 weeks after my blood labs to give time for genotyping the virus and me to determine the best medicine.  Also they had social workers from the state health dept to ask about partners for notification.  We talked about how to notify my wife.  I felt that I had to be the one.  The social worker said she would be available to come to the house and counsel if needed and could provide a private HIV test to my wife at our home.  Due to family and friends around that weekend, I decided it would be the next Tuesday when I would talk and confess to my wife.  I had to write down what I was going to tell her since it would be the most difficult conversation I've ever had.

That Tuesday morning came, 12 days after I had gotten my diagnosis.  It was the hardest day of my life.  After I took the kids to school, I went back home instead of work to talk to my wife.  We sat.  I read her what I had written.  We both cried - I knew she was in pain.  However, she said we would get through this together.  I couldn't believe it.  We called the social worker to come over for counseling her and get her tested.  An hour later, she arrived.  The test on my wife took 10 long minutes - but it came back negative.  I cried even more that she wasn't infected.  Since I was so sick, we hadn't been intimate since before the Europe trip, so the window for testing was good for the test the SW had given.

My wife and I decided not to tell anyone (including family and daughters) except our pastor so that we could get counseling. I've agreed to remain monogamous with her since she is the rock in my life.  I went to an intensive weekend for sexual addictions to receive help.  We've been working on our relationship.  Being open and honest with her, we have had the best conversations about our relationship and sexuality than ever in our 28 years together.  I'm amazed by how strong she has been to support and love me - no matter what.

We went to the clinic together on October 5th. I kept losing weight throughout Sept and was down about 20 pounds now and still had the lingering cough.  The fever finally broke about mid-September. The blood labs showed I had a wild-type virus and I didn't have an allele to prevent any meds.  They prescribed Triumeq which I was able to pick up at the University hospital's pharmacy that day.  The provider had a drug card program that paid all the co-pays not covered by insurance so didn't cost anything out of pocket.  We left and went to lunch together.  I took my first pill at lunch that day with my wife to take control of this virus.  I've had no side effects and within a couple days, my weight stabilized and my cough stopped and my energy came back.

It's been almost 2 months since then.  As you can see from my signature, my VL was <20 at the 1 month checkup.  I'm so thankful for the modern drugs. They also talked to my wife about a new program that they were getting funding for to provide PrEP to the partners through the clinic through Skype visits.  Otherwise, they could only treat HIV patients.  That program got funded and my wife became their first patient.  She was given a prescription of Truvada to start without having to go through her PCP.

I'm learning that I can't change the past, so shouldn't dwell on it.  Through the support of my wife and reestablishing my faith (I'm in a very conservative denomination, but my pastor has been super supportive and meeting with me weekly for counselling.  I assumed others would "kick" me out of the church for my sins - infidelity to my wife, MSM, pornography etc., but he is teaching me that no one's sins are worse than anyone else's. It's helping me to deal with my guilt and shame and to better love my wife.

I read this quote which has helped me:  “Though no one can go back and make a brand new start, anyone can start from now and make a brand new ending.” – Carl Bard. 

It's not that everything is perfect and I don't get angry with myself for what's happened, but my focus needs to be on being healthy, living a better life, and nurturing my relationship with my wife.  Also, I hope to hear from you guys for additional support and encouragement.

Thank you for reading this long post.

Although I find the "Welcome Aboard" line so nasty... so vane... so unrealistic... Welcome to what? The Hiv? Gee thanks... I could have lived without it! But reality is what it is and here we are.. Sharing our experiences in dealing with hiv.. Yours is a story of dedication and forgiveness and your wife deserves a lot of credit. That is true love. I was diagnosed a bit over three years now and have been extremely lucky. My CDs were at 198 and VL at 78,000. I have never felt sick, just tired. I decided to increase my life insurance and that's how I got the diagnosis... (Although I did go thru a fast, very rapid loss of weight which the doctors couldn't explain.. My PCP thought it was leukemia. Never suspected hiv.. I am bisexual male so he didn't suspect...) I got a call from the county department of health and I suspected!!! They wouldn't be calling for a leukemia diagnosis! Hearing from the county health counselor the diagnosis was brutally difficult! My world spun, I felt I was going down to what it seemed like an elevator shaft but it didn't stop. I felt that I was yelling 'NO!' but apparently no words came out of my mouth.. She was a very kind woman which put me in contact with a fantastic ID doctor. Fast forward to today, I haven't disclosed. I am expecting my third grandchild. I am still friends with the lady at county health.. My doctors have been nothing short of fantastic, caring and involved! Hang on in there.... We are here for the long run! And... Listen to the long term survivors.. They are plain great!
We are all dealing with this. And we will live long and productive lives!! AND, yes the Lord is my shepherd

Offline CaveyUK

  • Member
  • Posts: 784
Re: This is my story
« Reply #4 on: December 02, 2016, 07:01:17 AM »
Hi FarmBoy - glad you found us

I'm so pleased you have such great support in your wife. It certainly makes this ride much easier when that is the case!

As for the PrEP, well now you are UD she is not really at risk and in many places she wouldn't qualify for PrEP as a result. Once you have been UD for a while longer, and depending on your wife's view on taking the drugs, it could be worth a conversation with your doctor to see if it is actually still necessary.
Diagnosed 29th Dec, after Home test 27th Dec 2015
29th Dec 2015 - CD4 160, VL 70,363, CD4% 16
Started Septrin 31st Dec & Tivicay/Truvada 12th Jan 2016
9th February 2016 - CD4 245, VL 96, CD4% 19
8th March 2016 - VL 61 (no CD4 taken)
5th April 2016 - CD4 354, VL  - UD (<40), CD4% 22
5th July 2016 - VL - UD (<40) (no CD4 taken)
13th September 2016 - CD4 432, VL - UD (<40), CD4% 28

Offline mecch

  • Member
  • Posts: 13,211
  • red pill? or blue pill?
Re: This is my story
« Reply #5 on: December 02, 2016, 11:44:56 AM »
Welcome here.

We are a diverse group of people.  You're welcome to your faith.  I personally do not think MSM and pornography are sins.

There are a lot of gay people on this forum and MSM and homosexuality is not a sin and not immoral and HIV is transmitted through sexual contact that includes people having every kind of sexuality. 

Just thought I would say that.

I'm glad your church didn't kick you out and your pastor sounds like a good type.

Is your guilt and shame about MSM? Infidelity? Both?  HIV comes with some shame to process for many people.  If faith is a way to deal with guilt and shame, fine. But if a conservative church is always going to say MSM is immoral, than the church is not going to be helpful.  I mean, if you are bisexual, you could find a way to not feel shame about that.  Others have done so.
“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

Offline abrokenman

  • Member
  • Posts: 31
Re: This is my story
« Reply #6 on: Yesterday at 10:27:39 AM »
Thank you Farm Boy for sharing your personal story with all of Us. It took both courage and strength for you to do so. I know this is all new to you as it is for myself and many others but you will get through the rough patches as you go along. You have a great support channel with your Wife by your side and that is because you have true love for one another and no doubt are soul mates. With the Love, understanding and acceptance from your Wife, Pastor, Social worker & now this forum it will be easier for you to make sense of it all and to remain emotionally positive. I am sorry that you have to go through this moment but am sure you will do so with looking and moving forward and not dwell on the past.

Although with time, healing, love, support and your Faith in God you and your Family will navigate these uncharted waters and weather through any storm and remain fine. Sometimes it's not why we did it, how or when we did it but just the fact we did it, that does not make you any less of a Person as to who you are - A Husband, Father, a Man of your Community. This one situation does not define you as HIV will not define you. I'm sure you have received forgiveness and you need to also allow yourself forgiveness. Main thing to do is stay emotionally strong so that the strong loved ones in your Circle can build you up for higher grounds, the healthiness will come along with your treatments. The Three important key elements to have is good Mental, Emotional & Healthy attitude and outlook from here on out. While you receive support from Your Wife & Pastor will help during times that you need to talk through things the Support you will receive here in the forum will be from others who share the same common thread as you and both sides of this kind of support will do well for you.

Remember one thing, your story that you shared is not an "excuse" it is your reason for being here. I wish you well and hope to hear more from you on your progress and how things are going. Have a good day, take care.     
You put One foot in front of the other

Offline FarmBoy

  • Member
  • Posts: 3
Re: This is my story
« Reply #7 on: Yesterday at 06:42:25 PM »
JosephP - thanks for the welcome to the "club".  I know what you mean - the club has quite the initiation process to get in.  Maybe that can change someday soon and this virus be eradicated from the world.

Thank you everyone for the support and encouragement.  I don't know where I would be without my wife at my side.  Even though I was silent on this forum for the first 3 months since my dx, I gained a lot of info and insights reading here.  My emotions over this period have been a roller coaster, but it feels like the ride is beginning to calm down.  It's interesting how this tries to define who we are.

Cavey - (I like the name) - I'm grateful for all the medical research on those that have gone before us to determine that UD = un-transmissible. When I was Dx'd, I assumed that I could never be intimate with my wife again. My ID doc said that I should expect 3-6 months to get to UD with my VL being >275,000, and then being UD for 6 months before unprotected sex so plan on my wife being on PrEP for 1 year.  I was ecstatic when my test after just 4 weeks showed <20!!! Triumeq is incredible.  I haven't talked to my dr since I got the results since they stretched my next appt out to 2 mo now so won't be back until January.  But hopefully she only needs to be on PrEP for the 6 months.  She's been incredible - I want to make sure she never gets this.

7/25/16 - Infected
8/4/16 - Sero-conversion started (flu, then fever, fatigue most of August)
8/29/16 - hospitalized O.N. for dehydration; tested
9/1/16 - Dx'd (confirmed WB 9/2)
9/6/16 - CD4 1395 (15%); VL 275,904; genotyped
10/5/16 - CD4 800 (27%) Started on Triumeq
11/2/16 - CD4 699 (26%); VL <20

Offline mecch

  • Member
  • Posts: 13,211
  • red pill? or blue pill?
Re: This is my story
« Reply #8 on: Today at 05:36:55 AM »
You can have sex with a condom.  There is no need to wait for PrEP time limits. 

You seem to want to only have condomless sex but sex with condoms is safesex and we can do it right away.  I had 2 HIV+ boyfriends in the 80's when there was no treatment, and I didn't get HIV then because we used condoms.
“From each, according to his ability; to each, according to his need” 1875 K Marx

Online leatherman

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,115
  • Google and HIV meds are Your Friends
Re: This is my story
« Reply #9 on: Today at 08:10:21 AM »
But hopefully she only needs to be on PrEP for the 6 months.
actually she can (and should) remain on PrEP for as long as y'all continue to have sex.

TasP (treatment as prevention when a poz person is UD and doesn't transmit HIV), PrEP (pre exposure prophylaxis, and condoms are all "tools in the HIV prevention toolbox". While any one method is good, using two methods is the best practice to keep any HIV transmission from happening.
leatherman (aka mIkIE)

All the stars are flashing high above the sea
and the party is on fire around you and me
We're gonna burn this disco down before the morning comes
- Pet Shop Boys

chart from 1992-2015
Isentress/Prezcobix

Online leatherman

  • Member
  • Posts: 7,115
  • Google and HIV meds are Your Friends
Re: This is my story
« Reply #10 on: Today at 08:14:35 AM »
Although I find the "Welcome Aboard" line so nasty... so vane... so unrealistic...
that's why if you follow the posts here, you'll see that people almost always say/type "while we're sorry you had to look for this site, we are glad that you found this site which is filled with info and support". No one I've ever heard/read says "welcome aboard"  ;)
leatherman (aka mIkIE)

All the stars are flashing high above the sea
and the party is on fire around you and me
We're gonna burn this disco down before the morning comes
- Pet Shop Boys

chart from 1992-2015
Isentress/Prezcobix

Online JimDublin

  • Administrator
  • Member
  • Posts: 3,323
    • HIV Lessons
Re: This is my story
« Reply #11 on: Today at 08:44:33 AM »
You can have sex with a condom.  There is no need to wait for PrEP time limits. 

You seem to want to only have condomless sex but sex with condoms is safesex and we can do it right away.  I had 2 HIV+ boyfriends in the 80's when there was no treatment, and I didn't get HIV then because we used condoms.

actually she can (and should) remain on PrEP for as long as y'all continue to have sex.

TasP (treatment as prevention when a poz person is UD and doesn't transmit HIV), PrEP (pre exposure prophylaxis, and condoms are all "tools in the HIV prevention toolbox". While any one method is good, using two methods is the best practice to keep any HIV transmission from happening.

If we had a like button the above two posts, would get a big thumbs up. Condoms, TaSP and PrEP are great tools in HIV prevention, use them. Use a combination, now take my home situation in Ireland we have no PrEP so the choice is very easy for me its TaSP and Condoms.

TaSP on its own is a great fact to reassure us, however as stand alone prevention its not something i could recommend personally as it simply has too many variables/conditions and failure points. Combination of prevention tools would be what i recommend anyone.

@OP
Look each to his own but you know by now how HIV is transmitted and can take steps to reduce the risk to a point that both you and your wife are comfortable with.

Jim
HIV 101 - Index & everything you need to know
HIV 101
You can read more about Transmission and Risks here:
HIV Transmission and Risks
You can read more about Testing here:
HIV Testing
You can read more about Treatment-as-Prevention (TasP) here:
HIV TasP
You can read more about HIV prevention here:
HIV prevention
You can read more about PEP and PrEP here
PEP and PrEP

 


Terms of Membership for these forums
 

© 2016 Smart + Strong. All Rights Reserved.   terms of use and your privacy
Smart + Strong® is a registered trademark of CDM Publishing, LLC.