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Offline EmpireRecords2016

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Newly Infected
« on: Yesterday at 10:56:08 PM »
Hi Everyone, I was newly diagnosed today with HIV.  Am shocked, confused, in disbelief.   Dont know where I should start.  Any advice on how to proceed?   

Offline lazyriver

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Re: Newly Infected
« Reply #1 on: Yesterday at 11:16:24 PM »
Hi Everyone, I was newly diagnosed today with HIV.  Am shocked, confused, in disbelief.   Dont know where I should start.  Any advice on how to proceed?

Hi Empire,

Welcome. Like you, I was recently diagnosed and is having a difficult situation right now as my BF suddenly despised and left me.

I would say, no sugar coating, prepare yourself on this new chapter. Cry if you want but understand that this is only a stage, we will rise back and will live our normal lives. First step, see a doctor. Educate yourself and eat healthy and exercise. Very simple advise but would surely make a difference.

Go see a doctor and talk to him about the health aspect of ur life..

All the best!

Offline tednlou2

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Re: Newly Infected
« Reply #2 on: Today at 12:00:17 AM »

I am sorry about your diagnosis today.  It is such a huge shock, even if we suspected we likely were infected.  First thing is to allow yourself to feel whatever you need to feel.  Did you test at a doctor or somewhere where they are already connecting you to care? 

I wish you all the best, as you begin to process this and find your way into care.  The Lessons section on this site is very good.  Do you have anyone, who you can count on for support?  Keep in touch and let us know how you're doing.


Offline AlreadyTired

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Re: Newly Infected
« Reply #3 on: Today at 12:22:21 AM »
I'm sorry to hear about your diagnosis. Beginning medical care is most important. Where are you in that process? The emotions will be crazy: depression, anxiety, anger, some acceptance and then back on the roller coaster. The best advice I was given was to tell only a few or none. I told only one friend outside of my medical/case worker team. One dear friend who I believed in and who stands by me with unending support. I still haven't told my family and it has been four months since my diagnosis. I might not tell them. Wait until the emotions stabilize a bit and you have more information about your progress. Stay close to us in this forum. There are long timers on here that are a wealth of knowledge and support. Know your limits, though about reading information. It can be overwhelming and you can always pick up where you left off after a break.

Offline Weber

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Re: Newly Infected
« Reply #4 on: Today at 12:55:37 AM »
Hi Empire,

Take a deep breath and try to think ahead instead of beating yourself up about how, when, with whom it happened, etc. those are dark territory and only cause deeper depression at this point. The feeling of shock has the potential to push you to quickly tell someone to relieve burden. My only advice (from my own experience) is not to rush with disclosure. give yourself sometime to process the news. Then you will have a much better judgement about who to share your dx with. In the meantime, starting your treatment should be the priority and come talk to us and get your emotions off your chest as much as you want here. We're all here to support.

Welcome. You're not alone...

Offline Tonny2

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Re: Newly Infected
« Reply #5 on: Today at 03:02:15 AM »

        ojo       hello empire...welcome, now you are not alone, here you will find support and information about HIV...it's normal you feel this way, it will take time to adjust to your new life, but, I promise, it will get better...try to make a list of all the questions you may want to ask the doctor, and you have to feel comfortable with him, because you two are going to deal with your health, even your live...welcome again...big hug on you way           ojo


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